Title: Positively Speaking Intro Music WELCOME MESSAGE: HELLO EVERYONE AND WELCOME TO, “BE THE HERO”. I’M YOUR HOST, TONY HOOKER AND THIS IS A PODCAST DEDICATED TO HELPING YOU BECOME A PERSON OF ACTION SO YOU CAN FIND YOUR PASSION AND BECOME THE HERO OF YOUR OWN STORY. LET’S GET STARTED… Main Message: Hello my fellow heroes and welcome to episode Thirty-Five. As we get started today I wanted to thank you guys for continuing to tune in and download this podcast. I know that there are many other podcasts out there that you could be listening to and I am humbled that you continue to listen to “Be the Hero” every week. “Be the Hero” is now being downloaded in twenty countries and we have doubled our listenership since February of 2017! And that growth is because of you. It’s because you continue to listen each week and you’re sharing the podcast with others and they’re listening too. I want you to know that I appreciate you and I don’t take for granted the fact that allow me to come into your lives every week and spend time with you. Thank you, thank you, thank you for letting me be a part of your hero’s journey. Alright, let’s get started with today’s episode. Do you know you talk to yourself? No really it’s true! Whether you realize it or not you are talking to yourself all day long. Sometimes its verbal, sometimes its just in your mind, but you have an internal dialog going on inside you all the time. And that internal dialog has a massive impact on what you do each day and how you feel about yourself. It affects your mood, your happiness, your self-esteem, and your self-confidence. So the conversations you have within yourself, that internal dialog, the things you say and believe about yourself can both propel you toward your end goal and help you become the hero of your own story or it can sabotage your journey and prevent you from reaching goal all together. So what you say to yourself is vitally important to your journey. The unfortunate thing about the metal conversation we have within our own minds is that most of the time, the things we say to ourselves are negative! They’re self-defeating! And in the long term, they’re damaging! We are our own worst enemy. Now some of you might not think this is true, but really think about it. Take a moment and really reflect on it. Think about the thoughts that go through your mind when challenges come up, when obstacles get thrown in your way, or maybe a better scenario might be to think of the thoughts you have internally when you make a mistake. If you’re being honest, you can admit that many of the thoughts and therefore the conversations you have within yourself are negative. Have you every told yourself that you can’t do something? Have you ever called yourself and idiot for making a mistake? Have you ever held a grudge against your for not losing weight or missing out on a promotion? I think its safe to say, we have all had situations where these things have been true. But here is the good news. Now that you have reflected on it and realized that its true, you are self-aware when it comes to the way you talk to yourself. Having that self-awareness is the key to changing your internal dialog. Having self-awareness gives you an amazing opportunity. Seeing and realizing the negative things you say to yourself, being aware of these things, gives you the opportunity to change the conversation! You can change the message! When you feel like you can’t do something, realize the conversation and change the dialog, if you say you can’t do something, change it up and ask why can’t I? If you are fearful, change the dialog and ask yourself instead, “What am I afraid of?” Most of the time when you ask these questions you won’t have a good answer for them. We, you and I both, have just become accustomed to defaulting to a self-defeating thought process when we are faced with challenges. And if we default to those ideas enough, they will become self-fulfilling prophecies. So like I said earlier, self-awareness is the key. Along with self-awareness comes the power to change conversation! When you recognize the negative things you say to yourself, you can change the script. You can change the message to a message of positivity. Some of you might be wondering why I used the word script. The reason is, we have been negative within ourselves for so long, it’s become a habit. And to break the habit of negativity, we have to be intentional about replacing the negative conversations with positive ones. And for a little while, that might involve using a script. You might have to write down what you need to say to yourself to maintain positivity. It’s not always automatic. Just because you realize that you’re having a negative conversation within yourself doesn’t mean you will automatically know what to say to reverse it. So you might have to have a few scripted conversations with yourself until you become accustomed to it, and eventual replace the negative habit with a positive one. If you find yourself saying, “I can’t.” Recognize it and script you new conversation. Instead of “I can’t” say “Why can’t I” or say, “Yes I can.” And then list the reasons why you CAN do this! If you recognize that your afraid, change the conversation, tell yourself that you can overcome this fear. And then tell yourself how you will overcome it. These written conversations give you the ability to respond and change. It might feel a little mechanical and awkward at first, maybe even a little silly. But remember, many of us, we have spent years telling ourselves that we are limited, or we can’t, or we’re afraid. It’s time to be intentional about changing our mindset and changing the message within us. That intentionality begins by consciously delivering a new message to replace the negative one we have habitually, even unconsciously, subjected ourselves to for years. That script can be used in other ways as well. To be proactive in defending your mind, your beliefs, and in turn your actions against negative self talk, your primary weapon is to get ahead of the negativity as soon as you begin your day. And you can use written, scripted, affirmations to do it. Affirmations are optimistic or encouraging declarations that point to a specific desired outcome or goal. These brief focused statements, when repeated over and over, deliver a concentrated dose of positivity deep into your subconscious mind. That inoculation of positive words and thoughts works to set your mind on the right path from the very beginning of your day. Some affirmations you might use are: I possess the qualities needed to be tremendously successful and I will use these qualities to reach my goal. I will abandon my old negative habits and replace them with positive habits. The future I envision now will become a reality because of the positive things I do today. For an affirmation to have the greatest impact, it should be read about loud and with true feeling. Just reading of the words bears alone has no real value. You have to put your emotions, your heart, your feelings into that affirmation. Then it will become transformative. Like I said earlier, this might feel a little mechanical and awkward at first, maybe even a little silly but trust the process and you will change your mindset and therefore change the conversations you have within yourself. And when your mindset changes, your actions will change. As I referred to earlier we all experience fear. Fear often holds us back from becoming the hero we want to be. We’re afraid to take chances or put ourselves out there. And then to make us feel better we try to convince ourselves that you are happy where we are when we know good and well that we’re not happy at all. Our self talk might sound positive in this situation but it isn’t. We’re just lying to ourselves. And deep inside we know it. So in this situation, it’s time to get real with yourself and ask, what you are afraid of? What can be the worst that can happen? You have to take a hard look at the situation and break down those fears and look for the positive solution. The quickest way to do this is to just be completely honest, lay all the cards on the table and confront what you are afraid of. Confrontation is never fun but when you confront your fears, when you list them out, you’ll often realize that the worst-case scenario is not as bad as you thought it would be. And here is the real kicker, whether you are afraid or not, if you want to change your life. If you truly want to become the hero of your own story, you must, you have to be willing to take the risk. You have to be willing to move in spite of fear. And let me tell you, the benefits of a changed, a heroic life, are worth the risk. But for the change to be realized outwardly, you have to change the dialog you have inwardly. You have to change the conversation you have silently within yourself every day. You have to change I can’t to I can. You have to change I’m afraid to I am empowered. You have to change your mindset in order to change your actions. Closing Message: Thank you so much for listening today. I look forward to being with you again next week. In the meantime if you enjoyed this podcast, please take time to rate it and leave comments. I would also encourage you to hit the subscribe button so you will always receive the latest episode of be the hero when it comes out. You can provide your feedback by sending an email to feedback@betheheronow.com. Until next time my friends, Heroes are heroes because of their actions, and hero’s actions are dictated by their mindset, and their mindset is dictated by their internal conversations. When you change the conversation, when use affirmations that help you develop a positive mindset, and you act according to that positive mindset, you will… be the hero… Outro Music
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