August 24th- #235 Thoughtful Thursday The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Take Care Of Myself
When I don’t love myself, it’s hard for me to love another. When I don’t love those around me, and when I am annoyed and easily bothered…I create more chaos in my life. Life really is simple, put in hard work, find the best in others so you can collaborate together, appreciate the small things in life, and give more than you receive. When we do these things we not only love ourselves and make our lives better, but we help others to love themselves and make not only theirs lives better but ours even more so.
I saw this post today on a teacher’s social media site. It was fashioned together all nicely on a wall for the kids to see when they came in… and it said, “In a world where you can be anything… BE kind.” And that hit me really hard. Not because I don’t work to spread kindness in letting everyone know that they matter, but it was just such a simple statement on living life.
I’ve come to find that anger doesn’t come from someone else, it comes from within ourselves. You see, no one can make you angry, you decide how to feel about someone’s actions. And I think a lot of unkindness stems from the anger we feel about ourselves. The personal anger from not being where we think we need to be (that proverbial milestone), the anger we experience when we feel someone took advantage of us… and we feel upset at ourselves for believing things would be different…or that we got our hopes up prematurely. And sometimes we feel the anger of self-pity that things don’t go our way and so we deflect our anger outward blaming the world for our places in life.
And thus we either overanalyze ourselves harshly or under analyze ourselves with avoidance, when we know we are at fault deep down, as we project our internal anger into the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We don’t have to be angry at ourselves for not being enough, and we don’t have to be angry at others for letting us down, and we don’t have to be angry at ourselves for hoping for more and not getting it…we can just be satisfied with knowing there’s more to come.
You see, the winners in this world see a bigger picture. And those who can see the long-term plan of their life see that small losses are only a hiccup in their lives. They see that the pathway towards victory is riddled with losses, and they don’t get angry, as they know the emotions they carry with them will slow down their travels to a better place.
Take for example when I was a waiter during college. I never counted my tip money after it was left to me, you see if I did that and I felt the table stiffed me, well… I would bring my unhappiness to the next table. And even though my current and future tables hadn’t tipped me yet, I had already set my emotions on a path of being blocked by anger. I took with me an upsetness and an attitude of life isn’t fair with me. As I made up stories about what type of A-holes those people were.
But when I didn’t count my money, and I worked to know that I would make my money in the long run, I found I was doing better because my focus wasn’t on the money, my focus was on making sure my customers had the best damn service and time at my tables. I focused on giving them what they needed, I focused on giving them more than they wanted as I went above and beyond with my kindness and service. It was my main goal to make their day or night better…PERIOD! And people rewarded me for it. Not because I focused on the service for the money, but I focused on the service for their fulfillment. You see I wasn’t serving them food, I was serving them a great experience. And when you do the right things before the event or game of your life…then the score will take care of itself…whatever that score is… that you’re seeking.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Instead of focusing on the reward to an end result of a project, a task, or an event what if you were to focus on the details. What if you were to create a better experience and see the longer goal, what if you were to be more creative and see a higher purpose to what you are giving, and what if you were to focus on being kinder in this world to yourself and to everyone around you? Like my waiter story, I transformed my work from the simple act of serving a product into serving them happiness, serving them a quality experience, into making their night or day better because I wanted to help change the trajectory of their life pathway. It sounds silly, but I figured if I could create happiness in their life with my goofy jokes, my promptness and attentiveness, and making their satisfaction my main priority…then maybe they might just take my energy with them to share it later on. So I challenge you to focus relentlessly on the details and transform your normal activity into a greater calling to help others spread your amazing energy today as well.
I Take Care Of Myself…and by doing this… I change the world.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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