The Vilna Gaon once said that the hardest mitzvah in the entire Torah to fulfill is being happy on the holiday. The reason it’s so difficult is because it requires us to be in a constant state of joy for all seven days – no worry, no sadness, no aggravation. This is hard even for a person who’s blessed with a family, with a house, with parnasa. But what about when it comes to people who don’t have those same blessings? How could they be in a constant state of joy? For some, the holidays are the saddest part of the year. People who don’t have families; people who don’t have a place to be. They listen as everybody else makes their holiday plans and they feel left out. An older single woman said she wished she could just go to sleep before the Seder begins and wake up the next morning to a new day. She dreads having to sit at the table with all of her married siblings and their children. She is always asked to help with this child or to babysit that child. Everyone figures since she doesn’t have her own family, she’s available to be at everyone else’s service. Everyone tells her, “Don’t worry, this is going to be the last holiday for you without a husband. By next year you’ll be married, b’ezrat Hashem.” She doesn’t want to hear it anymore. She wished she could just skip the whole thing. There are people who are ba’aleh teshuva and their families don’t have a real Seder. They don’t have anywhere to go; everyone else is busy with their own families. There are single mothers who try to play the role of the mother and father and give their children a real Seder, but it’s never ideal. There are single parents who are separated from their children, who have to be lonely guests at other people’s tables. “Holidays are supposed to be family time,” they say, “why can’t we be with our families as well?” Their pain is very great. How could they possibly fulfill this mitzvah of being happy on the holiday? It is an extremely difficult task, but if they could find it within themselves to try and accomplish, they will receive unimaginable rewards for it. Chazal tell us, doing a mitzvah with difficulty is worth a hundred times more than doing the same mitzvah without difficulty. Rabbi Dessler explains, to do any mitzvah with even the slightest amount of difficulty is worth a hundred times more than doing it without that difficulty. If there is more than a slight amount of difficulty, then the mitzvah becomes a hundred times greater than before, and so on. And if it’s an extremely difficult mitzvah, it could be worth thousands and thousands of times greater. We can’t fathom the reward even for an easy mitzvah, how much more so something very difficult. The Zohar HaKadosh writes, when a person sits by his table at the Seder and says over the story of Yitziat Mitzrayim, Hashem assembles the angels together and brags to them about how His People rejoice in His salvation. Imagine if someone who has every reason to want to skip the Seder but, nonetheless, strengthens himself and still says the praises of Hashem and still manages to be happy, what would Hashem tell the angels then? When a poor man brings a flour offering as a korban, the pasuk says, “???? ?? ????? – he’s bringing his soul.” The Gemara explains, because it’s so hard for him to bring even that flour offering, Hashem considers it as if he brought his own soul as a korban. Now, if for a person to give up his money to serve Hashem is considered like he gave his soul, what about if a person is able to sacrifice his emotions, to say, “Hashem, You know how hard it is for me to go through another holiday like this, but I’m going to lift myself up, I’m going to do the best that I can and serve You the way that You asked, with joy. I’ll sit at a table with strangers and forget about my problems and just focus on praising You. Or I’ll sit at a table without a spouse, or without children, and I’ll overcome my sadness to do this mitzvah the best way.” That avodah would be unbelievable. And it’s not all or nothing, every little effort counts. For some, just getting to the Seder and putting on a smile is already a heroic act. May Hashem give all of us the strength to rejoice this Pesach, and may we see the ultimate salvation of Mashiach Tzidkenu. Amen.
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