A Hot Mess with Dr. Sandra Saville

Today on a call I realized at one point in time I was having suicidal thoughts.  I didn't realize it, or label it as such until today.  My reaction when I confronted how I felt - I was sad, angry, and happy.  I talk about each of these reactions and why. If you or someone you know is hurting, get help.  You are worth fighting for.  You can contact me at drsandy@hormonalpeace.com.  You cannot change what you cannot confront.

I talk about New Year Resolutions - did you make one?  have you started yet?  have you already given up?  Mindset work is important for you to keep your changes important.  Set yourself up each and every day for success, not failure.  Ways in which you can do this is through journaling - be it as written, video, audio, or speaking your desires to the universe.  It doesn't need to be fancy - it just needs to be done. If you procrastinate, find yourself a coach, accountability partner, or someone to work with you.  Do not do this by yourself.  We are our own worst friend and best enemy.  It's important for you to find a partner to help move your forward.

Happy New Year - I have interviewed a special 12 year old who has 2 alcoholic parents and been through the wringer...she is hoping 2017 is a better year and all she wants for the new year is to have her own place with her dad.

In this episode I discuss having integrity, specifically with yourself.  Understanding what it is that you need and want, then staying on point with making sure you receive what it is you need.  Look at your life and if there is an area you are unhappy with, work on it.  It will be difficult at first but in the end life will improve and be much better. Write in your journal to determine where in your life you need to work on to start turning things around and make yourself happy.  You're worth it!

For the past couple of months I have checked out; checked out of my business, my relationship, my health - basically from myself.  But, I have decided its time to get back in the saddle and help transform our worlds.  I plan on having three podcasts each week with tips and help to get you into a better place.   Tip for this podcast:  if you are fighting depression, forgetfulness, brain-fog, anxiety, INFLAMMATION, start taking 4-6 Grams of EPA/DHA daily with 1-2 Grams of EPO/GLA daily.  Omega-3's are important in fighting inflammation.   As always, go to my facebook page and like my page and STAY SEXY!

When it comes to making changes in your life, you must be aware of these two things:  environment, and results/rewards.  A key factor in you achieving your results is your environment, both internally and externally.  

I felt defeated, angry, alone...basically I've lost myself and went into a horrible depression and gave up.  This podcast is a little longer but I talk about what I was going through.  Thank you for staying with me and I hope my story helps you.

Are you keeping yourself stuck by your own self talk?  We learn best through one of three ways:  hearing, seeing, vocalizing.  So are you trying to change something in your life but are keeping yourself stuck by what you're saying to yourself, or seeing in yourself?  Break the cycle...change the message.

Life happens quick...as in New York second quick.  It can be a situation with your health, relationship, job, home...you name it.  The best thing you can do is take stock of where you currently are, then with a clear head, make a decision.  

Are you wasting your much needed energy by being negative, playing the victim, or trying to ignore someone or something in your life?  It takes more energy to be negative and ignore someone than it does when being positive or facing a situation straight on.  Stop flushing yourself down a toilet and start enjoying being you.

Do you know the relationship between Cholesterol and Stress?  Cholesterol is used by your body as a protective barrier...when we have a build up of plaque in our arteries/veins it may actually be our body's way of plugging up and stopping micro-tears.  Cholesterol is also the precursor in the body for making our steroid hormones:  estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, cortisol, DHEA...cortisol is the steroid hormone (adrenaline) that is needed to help react to stress.   If your cholesterol is high, are you under a lot of stress?  Something to think about...

I was afraid to do videos/podcasts/my business because of criticism from others...but, I criticize myself more than anyone...we all do.  Aristotle said to avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.  Few people I know will ever criticize you for trying.  Take the brakes off - go forward.

Mindset - so important for your health and your life.  Everytime you get knocked down or fall down, pick yourself up one more time.  Fight for you.  Be who you are and let your mindset give yourself permission to achieve, succeed, and soar.

Compassion.  A component I hear too often that is missing from doctors when telling someone bad news about their health or a loved ones health.  Do not let the carelessness of someone else make you suffer more than you should.

The newest commercial on the air is for the HPV Vaccine.  This is a vaccine that is being banned in other countries because of the damage it does to young women.  Yet, here in the states, major ad being aired to play on mom and dads emotions to push the vaccine on both girls and boys.  This is a vaccine to prevent cervical cancer...PLEASE DO NOT GET THIS VACCINE - EDUCATE YOURSELF ON ITS EFFECTIVENESS AND DAMAGE.

When you start making changes in an area of your life, chances are at times it maybe difficult.  One way to keep yourself moving forward and to push through the hard times is to remember your why.  Why do you want to make the change in your life?  Why is this important to you?  If you keep coming back to why it's important, you will succeed.

We talked before about being a strong finisher or strong starter...determine which is you.  When making a change you must figure out why you stall or don't start...what is the reason behind the actions (and yes, inaction is an action).  Understanding your truth about your motives will help you keep moving yourself forward.

In our last episode I talked about the fact that you do care.  You want a different life but too many of us just don't know how to help ourselves.  So here are your next steps...it doesn't have to be major steps...baby steps will also get you where you want to go.

Too many of us are unhappy with our lives, and in fact tend to numb the pain with behaviors that in fact feed our unhappiness.  We know before we commit an act that we're not going to like the outcome of how we'll feel, yet we do it anyway.  And then we tell ourselves we don't care.  But you do...otherwise you wouldn't feel depressed about it.  You can lie to everyone but yourself...

Why is sex so taboo in our society?  We need to talk about the benefits of having sex and why its not a bad thing.  I'm finding women want sex more so than men and are becoming more aggressive in the bedroom.  The incidences of ED in men are growing (no pun intended) and our sex lives are lacking.