Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychothe

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matt look back on some of their favorite moments with the amazing drag queens that have appeared on the show. Alaska Thunderfuck opens up about the backlash she received after Drag Race, Peppermint talks about sex addiction and self-loathing, Trixie Mattel shares how she overcame a horrific childhood, Sherry Vine gets vulnerable about aging, and so much more. This is an episode you definitely don’t want to miss! https://www.instagram.com/alecmapa/ https://www.youtube.com/user/wapa710 https://twitter.com/alecmapa https://www.facebook.com/people/Alec-Mapa/100057653426944/ https://www.instagram.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.facebook.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfgOmfPKTaarlwGmgIWzOaQ https://twitter.com/MJDempseyPsych   http://stage29.tv/  https://www.instagram.com/stage29podcasts  https://twitter.com/stage29podcasts  https://www.facebook.com/Stage29Podcasts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec selects some of the most impactful and helpful Hot Messages from the show. Listen to what Jodi Sweetin, Jackie Beat, Joely Fisher, Tina Burner, Naomi Ekperigin, Johnny Sibily, Denali, Nikki Blonksy and others have to say about what has helped and inspired them to triumph over adversity and live with purpose, joy and peace. https://www.instagram.com/alecmapa/ https://www.youtube.com/user/wapa710 https://twitter.com/alecmapa https://www.facebook.com/people/Alec-Mapa/100057653426944/ https://www.instagram.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.facebook.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfgOmfPKTaarlwGmgIWzOaQ https://twitter.com/MJDempseyPsych   http://stage29.tv/  https://www.instagram.com/stage29podcasts  https://twitter.com/stage29podcasts  https://www.facebook.com/Stage29Podcasts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew re-air a heartfelt and hilarious conversation with a famous tv personality and author of Name Drop, Ross Mathews. This episode was recorded just after Ross’ mom passed away and Matt, Alec, and Ross talk about dealing with the loss of a loved one during the pandemic. Ross opens up about his special relationship with his mother, his coming out journey, letting himself grieve, and finding meaning in pain. Stay tuned for Ross’ story about how Matt LeBlanc was rude to him in public and then apologized to him 10 years later. https://www.instagram.com/helloross/ https://www.facebook.com/HelloRoss https://twitter.com/helloross https://www.cameo.com/helloross https://www.instagram.com/alecmapa/ https://www.youtube.com/user/wapa710 https://twitter.com/alecmapa https://www.facebook.com/people/Alec-Mapa/100057653426944/ https://www.instagram.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.facebook.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfgOmfPKTaarlwGmgIWzOaQ https://twitter.com/MJDempseyPsych   http://stage29.tv/  https://www.instagram.com/stage29podcasts  https://twitter.com/stage29podcasts  https://www.facebook.com/Stage29Podcasts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew address people-pleasing with Raven, the Emmy award-winning make-up artist and host of the new competition show Painted with Raven on Wow Presents Plus. Raven opens up about growing up in Victorville, California, falling in love with makeup and beauty, being the runner-up in Season Two of Drag Race, ending people-pleasing, getting rid of crazymakers and finding people worth an emotional investment. Listen in and you’ll feel inspired to find all the beauty in yourself and others! Interested in advertising on the show? Visit: https://www.advertisecast.com/AlecMapaHotMesswithMatthewDempsey https://www.instagram.com/itsravenhunty_/ https://twitter.com/ravenhunty?lang=en https://www.instagram.com/alecmapa/ https://www.youtube.com/user/wapa710 https://twitter.com/alecmapa https://www.facebook.com/people/Alec-Mapa/100057653426944/ https://www.instagram.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.facebook.com/mjdempseypsych/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfgOmfPKTaarlwGmgIWzOaQ https://twitter.com/MJDempseyPsych   http://stage29.tv/  https://www.instagram.com/stage29podcasts  https://twitter.com/stage29podcasts  https://www.facebook.com/Stage29Podcasts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12, Rock M Sakura. Rock shares with Alec and Matt her challenging childhood being raised by a mother who struggled with addiction. Rock shares why she left home at 15 and her journey to becoming a sex worker. The three have a candid and often hilarious conversation about learning to survive, dealing with shame, transactional sex, kink, and how we define our self-worth. https://twitter.com/rockmsakura https://www.youtube.com/c/RockMSakura https://www.instagram.com/rockmsakura Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome childhood dancer from the Missy Elliott music videos, Disney Channel child actress and creator of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner. Alyson opens up about the pressure of being a child actress and the resentment she felt, struggling with an eating disorder, her diagnosis of Alexithymia, and why she felt she needed to go to rehab. Alyson shares what she learned about the mind-body connection through her experiences and the tools and strategies she has developed and used to help her heal herself and continue to grow as an artist and person. Alyson has generously offered a free 30-day trial on Movement Genius plus her new e-book Mind-Body Movement to all Hot Mess listeners. Just use the code below to access! https://www.movementgenius.com/offers/oQSgLodB?coupon_code=HOTMESS https://m.facebook.com/alysonstoner/ https://twitter.com/alysonstoner https://www.instagram.com/alysonstoner/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBza-oDKEaRps26VQOHJ35g?app=desktop Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew express their gratitude to all of their listeners for tuning in each week and making Hot Mess such a success! They then re-air their first ever episode of Hot Mess with Alec’s former college classmate and Emmy-Award winning actress Kristen Johnston.  The real-life friends share Hollywood stories including the celebrities they replaced on “Ugly Betty” and how Kristen saved him from Madonna’s brother!  Kristen reveals how addiction turned into one of her greatest gifts.  She gets candid about her definition of addiction and how everyone faces their own struggles. Alec shares his personal recovery with sex and love addiction and Kristen reveals intimate details of hitting rock bottom, coming close to death and how she was able to come out on the other side!  Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/thekjohnston Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are thrilled to welcome Oscar-nominated child actress from The Good-bye Girl and author of Notes from the Underwire and The Year of Learning Dangerously, humorist Quinn Cummings to the show. Quinn opens up about why she decided to try Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy and what she learned about herself from the experience. Alec, Matt and Quinn explore whether psychedelics can replace talk therapy, what happens when you make a decision to cut yourself off from feelings, and how to connect with real joy in your life. https://www.instagram.com/quinncummings/ https://www.facebook.com/10154762064190957 https://twitter.com/quinncy Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of 3 seasons of drag race and host of the podcast “Local Queen”, Ginger Minj. Ginger opens up about the chronic depression that has been with her for as long as she remembers. She reveals publicly for the first time, the trauma that was a part of her experience and how she has coped and moved forward in her life. Matt, Alec and Ginger talk about feeling out-of-control, being invalidated, the value of therapy, and lifelong healing. https://www.facebook.com/thegingerminj https://www.instagram.com/gingerminj/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thegingerminj https://www.youtube.com/c/gingermin Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Oscar-nominated actress from Bullets Over Broadway, world-class poker player, and star of the new Chucky television show, Jennifer Tilly. Jennifer opens up about growing up in a dysfunctional family, how she started to play the airhead, and how her use of self-deprecating humor has both worked for her and been a disservice to her in her life. Alec and Matt share their own experiences of using humor as a defense, struggling with imposter syndrome and learning to tell the difference between what we feel and what the truth actually is. Stay tuned for Jennifer’s wild stories from her long career in show business and why as a queer icon, she says she often finds herself running from lesbians! https://twitter.com/jennifertilly https://www.instagram.com/jennifertilly/ Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 2 and 3 and All Stars Season 3, and star of the HBO hit show We’re Here, the amazing D.J. “Shangela” Pierce. Shangela shares the story of his upbringing and how he learned his work ethic from his family, how he ended up on Drag Race after only doing drag 10 times, and how he kept moving forward even after being shocked to be voted off first during Season 2! Shangela opens up about the mental strain of doing reality tv, what he learned about himself after throwing a drink at someone during the show, and the journey of finding his drag identity. Alec, Matt and Shangela share stories and insights, and a ton of laughs, about what keeps us moving forward no matter what comes our way. https://www.facebook.com/ShangelaOnline/ https://www.instagram.com/itsshangela/?hl=en https://twitter.com/itsSHANGELA https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS8aCEJqDnR70WAIhaZgGwA Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome Beth Hall who starred for 4 seasons as Caroline on Mad Men and 7 seasons as Wendy on CBS’s hit show Mom. The three talk about the need to “reset” in your life and how we resist change and can let fear get in our way. Beth, having wrapped Mom, is back out there auditioning again and opens up about her fear of the unknown, her struggle to rebuild her confidence, and the power of saying YES. Stay tuned for Beth’s story about how she became a series regular on Mom and what she has to say about how Allison Janney reacted when her first scene was cut from the show! https://twitter.com/bethhall https://www.instagram.com/realbethhall/ Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec opens up about why he made the decision to stop drinking. Alec gets real about how and when he realized he was drinking too much during the pandemic and the impact his alcohol use was having on his relationships. Matt and Alec talk about the importance of identifying the intention of why you drink, when you know you have a problem, blacking out, numbing out, and having the courage to be vulnerable and to talk about hard things.  Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec’s husband of 20 years, Jamie Hebert, is back to continue the conversation about why they decided to open up their relationship and the impact it has had on both of them. The feedback after Part 1 of this conversation was overwhelming and the listeners wanted to hear Matt’s perspective on navigating the complexity of open relationships. In this highly vulnerable and personal episode, Matt uses his clinical skills to explore the intimate details of Alec and Jamie’s relationship including the challenging time when Jamie fell for another man and Alec felt hurt, resentful and unsafe. In this episode, the three talk openly about the benefits of opening up your relationship. What makes it challenging? What about the difference between being polyamorous versus polysexual? How do you establish rules and what happens if, despite your best intentions, you end up hurting the person you love the most? Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Seasons 9 and 10 and the popular “We’re Here” on HBO, the amazing Eureka. The three have a powerful and hilarious conversation about feeling “othered” and the healthy and unhealthy strategies they used to make people love and accept them. Eureka opens up about feeling how their femininity and size always made them feel different and how finding drag and having supportive people in their life, helped them heal from the past trauma and live with appreciation, acceptance and love. http://eurekatheelephantqueen.com/  https://www.facebook.com/eurekaohara/  https://twitter.com/eurekaohara/  http://www.instagram.com/eurekaohara/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVupnL4np61jUhqTUbndCpw  Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome the star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13 and the reigning National Ms. Comedy Queen, Tina Burner to the show for an inspiring conversation about how to turn adversity into strength. Tina opens up about her challenging childhood and the impact that has had on her life. Matt, Alec, and Tina talk about becoming “parentified,” freeing yourself from the victim mentality and the helpful belief that everything happens for us, not to us. Stay tuned for Tina’s hilarious story of the time her father barged into her bedroom and found her in bed with a man! https://www.instagram.com/thetinaburner/ https://www.youtube.com/c/TinaBurner https://twitter.com/TheTinaBurner Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome actor, writer, director, and beloved acting coach Jack Plotnick to the show for a fascinating conversation about managing anxiety. Alec and Matt open up about their own vulnerabilities and what makes them feel anxious. Jack shares the best of teachings including taming your vulture, the effectiveness of affirmations, the difference between want and need, the power of the release and destroy mentality and why giving yourself permission to “hate” people can release you from desperation and open you up to peace, love, and creative freedom. https://jackplotnick.com/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=631030606&fref=ts https://www.youtube.com/user/JackPlotnick https://twitter.com/JackPlotnick https://www.instagram.com/jackplotnick/ Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew talk with Denali, fan-favorite from RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13, about how to overcome negative self-talk. Denali opens up about feeling invisible on the show and the deep-held belief that she isn’t enough. The three talk openly and hilariously about insecurities, external validation, re-writing unhelpful narratives, and learning to develop an internal sense of worthiness. https://www.instagram.com/denalifoxx/?hl=en https://www.tiktok.com/@denalifoxx? https://twitter.com/denalifox https://www.facebook.com/denali.onice.3 Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew are excited to welcome drag entertainer for over 30 years, Jackie Beat to the show for an intimate and uncensored conversation about sex-positivity. Jackie Beat explains why she went over 20 years without sex and the three talks openly about shame, fear of rejection, self-worth, acceptance, and rediscovering your sexuality. Don’t miss the hilarious story of what happened on the gay cruise! https://twitter.com/JACKIEBEAT https://www.instagram.com/jackiebeat/ https://www.youtube.com/user/jackiebeat Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec has an uncensored conversation with his husband of 20 years, Jamie Herbert. Jamie tells Alec how his messiness and disorganization make him crazy and Alec shares with Jamie how he can be controlling and a cold fish. Alec and Jamie talk about how they handle conflict and Jamie opens up about the maddest he ever got at Alec during their relationship. The two then share why after 14 years of monogamy, they made the decision to open up their relationship. They explore both the freedom and the hurt it has caused and discuss how having clear rules and a couple’s therapist has been essential to making it work for them. Instagram: @AlecMapa   Twitter: @AlecMapa   Facebook: AlecMapa     Instagram: @MJDempseyPsych   Twitter: @MJDempseyPsych
   Facebook: MJDempseyPsych      Stage 29 Podcasts Instagram  Stage 29 Podcasts Twitter  Stage 29 Podcasts Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices