Bearded Fruit: An LGBT / Gay Podcast

Things are going down at Twitter, and folks are jumping ship. Neil and Cody are back at the microphones, talking about what's good about Twitter, what's lousy about it, and what might come next for queer community if Twitter disappears.

Tyger Songbird is one of the most vulnerable, approachable aroace voices on Twitter, so I was very excited to chat with him. Our conversation covers his experiences as a Black aroace man writing to create space for others like him. This is a thoughtful, uplifting conversation. Tyger Songbird is an aroace writer & asexual advocate who's been published in multiple online publications. He’s currently working on a book titled Ace of Spades, about his experiences being an aromantic asexual in the culture. He is also head moderator of an asexual subreddit as well. You can find Tyger on Medium and Twitter @TygerSongbird. You can find me on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and twitter @acedadadvice. And on the web at acedadadvice.com. If you want more of our conversation, as well as some other bonus asexuality content including live hangouts, access to our Discord, and other cool stuff, become a patron at patreon.com/acedadadvice.

To celebrate Ace Week 2022 and the return of Bearded Fruit, I had a wonderful, warm, and insightful conversation with the creator of Ace in Grace, Ashabi Owagboriaye. Ashabi talks about why she created her highly successful Instagram space for ace folks, what it means to live life "out loud," and why she loves anime. Plus a whole lot more. Ashabi Owagboriaye [She/They] is a Nigerian-American Multidisciplinary Artist, Advocate & Organizer in the city of Chicago. As an out-loud Black Androgynous Queer Asexual Person, she uses her platforms and voice to shed light on & normalize the experiences of Asexuality & the intersections within their identities. They are the creator and curator of Ace In Grace, a space used to educate on the topic of asexuality while also uplifting Black, Indigenous other people of colour within this community. Ashabi is currently studying at Roosevelt University and will be graduating in May 2023 with her master’s degree in Clinical & Mental Health Counseling. She is also a NBCC 2021 Minority Fellow and has committed to continuing their education, bringing with her an emphasis on providing the most culturally competent care to her clients possible. You can find Ashabi and her Ace in Grace project on Instagram at @_aceingrace_ and her other work at www.ashabio.com Find more Ace Dad Advice content on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube @acedadadvice. And learn more at www.acedadadvice.com. You can support Ace Dad Advice -- and get the unedited version of our conversation -- through Patreon at www.patreon.com/acedadadvice.

Because we're recording on Father's Day, we're talking about daddies! On this episode, we dig into the idea of "daddy," how it relates to our lives and what "daddy" means culturally. We also talk about some of the research on intergenerational relationships and see if they stack up to what we see in the community.

This episode from 2017 is one of my favorites, and it's an important episode to bring back. This week, Bearded Fruit turns over the reigns of the podcast to Cleveland-based hip hop artist Jesse Paradice. He discusses his powerful EP "Don't Call Me Ethnic." the turbulent forces that shaped his musical voice, and the urgent need for us to listen -- and listen closely -- to queer black artists and other people (and artists)of color. Find Jesse online at:https://spark.adobe.com/page/vKoZR7dKwHaDC/ Find Jesse on Twitter @BlvckCeltic

To kick off Pride Month 2020, we're talking about protest and queer identity. We give a little history lesson in queer disruptive protest, we talk about Jack Halberstam's theory of queer violence, and we talk about why queer people should support disruptive protest against police brutality... because it's part of our queer DNA.

On this episode, we're celebrating our birthdays with a discussion about time: how our queerness has evolved over time, and how cultural expectations distort our experiences of time. And we discuss the idea of "queer time," a way of walking through the world on our own time clock. If you've ever felt like you were out of step with everyone else - this episode is for you.

Joe Bob Briggs was the main character on Twitter for the horror community this week, for a homophobic article from last summer. In this episode, we talk about the Briggs discourse. some of the smart rebuttals to it. What's the usefulness of Twitter outrage? And if we can't expect more from our heroes... when is it okay to kill them? "Queer Mutants Deserve Better" from @GaylyDreadful https://www.gaylydreadful.com/blog/queer-mutants-deserve-better Books from this week's episode: How To Be an Antiracist by Dr. Ibram X. Kendi Trick Mirror by Jia Tolentino "Imagined Violence / Queer Violence" by Jack Halberstam

With Pride Month on the horizon and no end of the pandemic in sight, many Pride events are going digital. So we talk about what going digital means for Pride and the messiness of being queer today.

In this episode, we discuss Drag Race's superfan makeover challenge and some of the Internet discourse around it. We also dig into what makes a queer space, the value of assimilation, and how to balance the complexity of where we are in queer culture.

A bonus episode, with more stories about our queer first times. In this episode, we talk about hiding our queerness, accepting it, and the first time we found real queer joy.

On this episode of Bearded Fruit, we're talking about our first times. First queer friend, first gay bar, first time getting laid, and more.

The Queer Read returns during these Very Weird Times. Our May book is "All Boys Aren't Blue" by George M. Johnson.

Bearded Fruit... quarantine edition! This episode is all about finding love (and sex) in a hopeless place: online during a global pandemic.

Happy Pride Month! On this episode, The fight is everywhere. We talk about homophobia in unlikely places, why it's not ok to just be not-homophobic, and the challenges of making change.

This week, we're inspired by John Paul Brammer's "¡Hola Papi!" column for Out.com. We dig into why we all gotta love the LGBTQIA+ acronym, and why our individual liberation is all about the liberation of the queer folks (and others!) around us. This one's all about what we owe each other. Article Link: https://www.out.com/lifestyle/2019/5/07/apparently-there-are-too-many-letters-lgbtq-acronym John Paul Brammer: http://www.johnpaulbrammer.com Twitter: @jpbrammer

This one's pretty personal. We talk about what it means when one half of our dynamic duo comes out as gray-asexual.

This week, my (straight) best friend Alex Giannini guests on the podcast. We talk about friendship and leaving "the gay space." And we make each other laugh. Neil will think this episode is pretty gay.

This episode is all about the closet, and how we, as a community, can make some sense of it.

We're back! Pride Month is here, and we're talking about our experiences with Pride, who belongs at Pride (spoilers: every queer of every stripe!), and what Pride could and should be. Plus, Cody challenges the listeners to a fight. Let us know what you think of the show on Twitter: @abeardedfruit