Beauty in the Breakup

This episode features my good friend and special guest, Nikolett from Budapest. We walk through many different stories of relationships, what we learned from them, and the energy behind what we were choosing at the time. Always opening to greater awareness with each choice, neither being right or wrong, we can see our path and why some things didn't work. The more awareness we open to, the easier it is to see the future, "will this work? will it be fun? or am I trying to fix or change someone?" Have a listen, and then maybe listen again. There are a lot of gems in this episode! Find more from Nikolett at https://www.thechange.me and https://www.instagram.com/thechange.me

What is the difference between true caring and taking care of? And why does this make a difference in your life? Listen to this episode with special guest, Rachel O'Brien, and perceive the subtle shifts that new awareness gifts!

This episode is a Q&A replay with people joining from all over the world, translated by amazing translators! What questions do you have for me? What other areas would you like me to talk about? How much ease are you willing to have in relationships of all kinds?! www.beautyinthebreakup.com

Quickie Episode: Instead of bringing forward the scars of past relationships, what if you took the time to clear the past, and get reacquainted with who you really are before entering a new relationship? Have a listen and use the 6 questions before going on a date to have more ease and more fun! Buy the new book, Fun with Online Dating?! 7 Essentials for Creating Magical Connections, at beautyinthebreakup.com/shop or on Amazon. Possibilities Sessions, click here. Consider coaching with the author!

When something in her second marriage had to change, she found herself saying out loud, "I don’t want to be married anymore." Listen to her story and how she was able to break free of normal constraints, to allow the relationship to grow into a creation-ship of greater joy and possibility.

What if you’re not broken? You survived! The mess shows you the strength you actually are. Is now the time to let go of the pain and upset? What if there’s nothing you need to get over, only everything to get around? 

When going through the fog of separation and a possible breakup, how do you choose what's next? What tools can you use to gain clarity of the true YOU, and start moving in that direction? My guest and client Anthony joins me in this episode to share some of his journey and what had the greatest impact on him re-discovering himself. Interested in working with me? Book a Possibilities Sessions and let's see if it's a good fit. www.beautyinthebreakup.com

Have you been repudiated? Have you experienced being totally dismissed, invalidated and rejected, while being held in "conversation"? What else is possible in these situations? How can you care for you and others? Check out the resources I mentioned on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjf5S0g5qcey0KjTpNSNu1sep0oo6ppid

This episode features special guest, Cassy Summers, from Canada! In this conversation we look at "Gaslighting" behavior: what it can show up as, why we become the target, and what else is possible to move beyond gaslighting.Find out more about Cassy: www.asifbymagic.space/Find Julie's events: www.julietutonenergy.com/event#relationship #breakupcoach #breakupedits #divorcecoaching #relationshipcoach #accessconsciousness

What if you could choose what works for you without having to justify your choices? This episode is with special guest, Pam Houghteling, who shares that nothing was "wrong" and yet she knew that separating would create more for everyone. Reach Pam at www.pamhoughteling.com Reach Julie at www.beautyinthebreakup.com #relationship #breakupcoach #breakupedits #divorcecoaching #relationshipcoach #accessconsciousness

After a breakup, sometimes years later, when you suddenly remember the good parts of your relationship, or maybe your ex has found a new partner, what does that bring up for you? Do you go to doubting your choice? Do you have second thoughts about trying to make it work again? What if you didn't need to make each other wrong in order to leave the relationship? Although we have been told that stying together at all costs is "right", and breaking up is "wrong", what if that's not true for you? What if acknowledging what you created together, the good and the bad, didn't mean it had to last forever? What else is possible when we have the tools to look at our underlying beliefs, and let go of what no longer serves you? You are here to explore and shine your unique light! Please don't let anyone stop you from doing so. More from Julie at www.julietutonenergy.com Find Barbara at www.bpconscious–body.com #accessconsciousness #breakupcoach #breakupedits #consciousliving #divorcecoaching

Why do we keep choosing to go into relationships with people with Narcissistic personality disorder, and how can you move beyond it? We need to look at our conclusions that keep us from fully seeing what we are choosing. What is actually going on? What is the need to constantly justify their behavior? We don't want to be judgmental, so we disregard our awareness. We start to doubt ourselves, which is actually gaslighting ourselves! What tools can you use to know what is true for you, and to free yourself from the entanglements of a narcissist? Have a listen and let us know if this was helpful. Contact Diva Diaz at www.divadiaz.com More from Julie at www.beautyinthebreakup.com #breakupedits #breakupcoach #narcissism #accessconsciousness #possibilitiescoach #createyourhappy #divorcecoaching

What is the space of Allowance? When you take a fixed point of view you can't see other possibilities. Then we gather evidence to justify the rightness of our point of view. The way to be free is to have the ability to see all points of view, not just the ones we defend. This is what is called being in allowance. Allowance is everything is an interesting point of view. Begin to use the tool Interesting Point of View to create space of allowance for you... and everyone else! Just like being a rock in the stream, where the rock is just there, and the stream washes around it... Listen to the episode for more! Find the book, The Gift of Allowance, by Gary Douglas. Private Coaching with Julie. #relationshipcoach #breakupcoach #breakupedits #divorcecoaching #divorceresources #createyourlife #choosehappy #accessconsciousness

When you begin to realize that you have outgrown the container that holds you a relationship, what choices do you have? Many think you have no choice, or that it must lead to a break up. But what else might be possible if you were to look at your choices, and really get clear on what you’d like your future to be? Step 3 of my book Beauty in the Breakup illuminates how to gain clarity for yourself. What choices can you make to move towards that future, whether it's together or apart? Have a listen to the conversation with my next guest, Sylvia Puentes, on this topic! more info at www.beautyinthebreakup.com www.youtube.com/@julietutonenergy #breakupedits #breakupcoach #relationshipcoach #accessconsciousness #beautyinthebreakup

When Plan A doesn't work out, for whatever reasons, it is possible to choose again, often from a place of more awareness. What might be possible with this, instead of making it wrong, making yourself a failure, etc.? This episode features my special guest Laleh Hancock, who speaks about being married twice and divorced twice, yet has a very different perspective and outlook. She sees both relationships as some of the greatest gifts of her life. What if we looked at, "what did I gain from this?" and have gratitude, rather than the fight and feelings of failure? For more info, coaching, and classes, go to www.beautyinthebreakup.com

Where are you in your relationship? Contemplating a breakup is not something we tend to talk about. It starts with a foreboding sense deep within, which bubbles up more and more the longer you avoid it. What if avoiding what you know, avoiding your inner voice, your knowing of what is true for you, makes the boat sink deeper, faster? Avoiding what you know is the beginning of what is called "divorcing You"! In actuality, acknowledging that something needs to change begins to calm the waters. This episode is a Quickie, with questions for you to ask yourself, and ponder the possibilities that you may not have considered. More info, coaching, and classes available at: beautyinthebreakup.com

This episode features a special guest, founder and creator of the worldwide personal development system, Gary Douglas! Gary encouraged/asked/told me to write my book, Beauty in the Breakup, and I'm grateful for it has been a useful tool for many many people around the world, (including me!) Relationships can run their course, so what if it's not wrong to part ways when it's over? "You don't stop loving..." when it's over, so why go into anger/blame/resentment, rather than acknowledging that it doesn't work for you any longer, and walk away? What other choices do we have? What would allow the process of separation and divorce without all that upset? "Living your life should be a growing creation, and if we created our relationships like that, they'd keep thriving." It's never too late to start creating your brighter future! Find more tools and private coaching at www.beautyinthebreakup.com #relationshipcoach #breakupcoach #breakupedits #divorcecoaching #divorceresources #createyourlife #choosehappy #accessconsciousness

What if you're not wrong? And what if you're also not right? How to untangle from your judgments and points of view that are limiting your ability to choose... Trying to choose what's right, and trying not to feel wrong, often leaves you in a place of no choice. What if, instead of using the lens of judgment of right/wrong, you chose what felt light or expansive? More about learning to navigate your life in Step 3 of my book, Beauty in the Breakup. Find it online : https://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Breakup-Julie-Tuton/dp/1634931300 More info and audios at www.BeautyintheBreakup.com

There’s an awful lot of anger around relationships and breakups, and I would like to see that change. Anger, rage, fury, and hate are some of the most toxic energies in the world. It’s toxic to our bodies. It’s toxic to our relationships and it’s toxic to our planet.  One of the difficulties in diffusing anger is assuming it’s just one thing. But it’s actually a number of different energies galumped together. Let’s shine some light on Anger and see if we can tease apart some of the facets that keep it from being so unshakable to so many people. Anger is multifaceted and when you learn and apply these five hot tips, you can melt or diffuse it in mere moments.  Awareness of a Lie - What is the lie, spoken or unspoken? Control - Lower barriers Who does this belong to?- Mine or someone else’s? Distractor implant - What’s underneath this? Potency - Is this the energy is required to change something?

Contemplating a breakup isn’t something most people can talk about. I’d like to shine the light of new possibilities in this area.  What if no choice were wrong and no choices were right?  Might you be able to look at what choices would be correct for you? What if you had more awareness of what you truly desired, without the fear of making the wrong choice looming over your head? The tools I’ll be introducing in this podcast are designed to empower you to come out of the wrongness of you, and into the strongness of your ability to choose what would bring you joy… and create the ripples of ease and joy in all of your relationships.  What if you never had to lose you to be in your relationships? Welcome to a totally different possibility!