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In this episode, Busayo and I discuss boundaries, relationships, self-respect, and personal growth. We talk about how setting boundaries affects both friendships and romantic relationships, and why communication and self-awareness matter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is a real conversation about motherhood, not just the “joy,” but everything. We talk about the emotional highs and lows, the challenges, the support (or lack of it), and how it all impacts your life, your career, and your sense of self. I’m joined by Toluwase, who shares her personal experience navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood . We get into everything. If you’ve ever wondered what motherhood really looks like, this one is for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I had a great conversation with Mrs. Florence Abolaji Lawal about balancing career, marriage, and personal growth. We talked about the idea of “having it all” and how it often comes in seasons, the importance of setting priorities, and some of the common myths around women, leadership, and success. She also shared her perspectives on women’s empowerment, financial independence, and rediscovering yourself at different stages of life. It was a really nice conversation. Enjoy the episode ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yes! We now have a community, and the first 20 people to join will get something special. Let’s get the conversation going, here’s the link to join: https://chat.whatsapp.com/K0FU2tNWdTu4Am9lYv50CU On this week’s episode, I sat down with CheckedEdgar, and let’s just say… I was shocked to learn that he went on 72 dates in 52 weeks. And somehow, he’s still single. We talked about everything, the good dates, the chaotic ones, and even the time a woman screamed that he stole her phone on their first date. We also got into what it really means to be single and searching in Lagos. CheckedEdgar was honest about what men think about love, commitment, and vulnerability. If you’ve ever dated in Lagos, argued about “what are we?”, or wondered whether it’s you or the city… this one is for you. Enjoy the episode! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Selina and I talk about love, work-life balance, and the cultural differences between Ghana and Nigeria. We share our Valentine’s Day experiences, discuss the challenges of integrating into new environments, and reflect on gender roles and the position of women in African society. We also touch on entrepreneurship, travel plans, and the importance of cultural understanding between our countries. It was a fun, honest, and free-flowing conversation.00:00 Valentine's Day Reflections09:02 Work-Life Balance and New Ventures15:46 Cultural Perspectives on Nigerians and Ghanaians22:11 Integration Challenges and Experiences23:14 Navigating Cultural Integration25:50 Communication Styles and Identity30:36 Cultural Shock and Observations33:01 Entrepreneurial Journey and Challenges35:49 Travel Plans and Excitement38:03 Dating Dynamics in Ghana vs Nigeria40:27 Gender Roles and Women's Rights44:25 Final Thoughts and Reflections48:27 for watching.mp4

In this episode, Comfort Omovre, a relationship coach, and I unpack the question, “Is love ever enough?” We talk about heartbreak, healing, and the role friendship plays in romantic relationships. We also share our experiences with toxic dynamics, self-discovery after heartbreak, and learning to let go of the desire for validation. We share it all from the heart. 00:00 The Crisis of Faith in Love 02:52 Understanding Love and Healing 05:29 The Balancing Act of Life and Work 08:46 The Nature of Love: Choices and Actions 11:44 Friendship as the Foundation of Love 22:41 Reviving Romance in Long-Term Relationships 23:45 Understanding Anger in Relationships 26:02 The Complexity of Love and Conflict 27:54 Navigating Breakups and Emotional Turmoil 30:02 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Branding 44:53 Resilience Through Pain and Growth 47:20 Struggles with Mental Health and Self-Perception 50:12 The Power of Letting Go of Others' Opinions 51:35 Navigating Heartbreak and Personal Growth 52:24 Understanding the Roots of Relationship Failures 57:30 Cultural Influences on Self-Worth and Relationships 01:03:07 The Journey of Reinvention and Letting Go 01:09:33 Navigating Difficult Relationships 01:12:48 Understanding Love and Attachment 01:13:44 The Triangle of Love 01:18:07 Unlearning and Self-Discovery 01:23:00 Embracing Vulnerability and Growth

I had a really chill conversation with Deborah about how she moved from food science into tech and is now working as an AI software developer. We talked about learning tech on your own, dealing with imposter syndrome, and why having the right community matters so much. She also shared some honest truths about tech, especially for women, and why it is never too late to start. If you have ever thought about getting into tech, you will definitely enjoy this episode. 01:28 Deborah's Journey in Tech 03:24 Understanding AI and Software Development 05:32 Navigating Career Transitions 07:43 The Importance of Networking 10:09 Work-Life Balance and Personal Reflections 23:30 The Journey to 1K Subscribers 23:32 Introversion and Social Dynamics 25:53 Transitioning from Food Science to Engineering 27:16 The Role of Mathematics in Tech 29:21 Curiosity and Self-Learning in Tech 43:20 Finding Free Resources for Learning Tech 45:11 Women Supporting Women in Tech 47:47 The Changing Landscape for Women in Tech 50:10 Overcoming Misconceptions About Tech

In this episode, Aduragbemi Oladunjoye and I talk about content creation and what it really means to be visible in the digital space. We talk about the pressure that comes with being called a “content creator,” personal branding, and the balance between planning and spontaneity when showing up online. We also talked about networking, self-promotion, and why advocating for yourself matters in competitive spaces.This episode is about visibility, growth, and learning how to show up fully, even when it feels uncomfortable. 00:00 The Journey to Content Creation 02:58 Understanding Content Creation and Digital Presence 06:03 The Importance of Personal Branding 08:58 Navigating Content Strategy: Planning vs. Spontaneity 11:54 The Numbers Game in Content Creation 14:58 The Pressure of Going Viral 17:55 Controversial Topics and Engagement 19:56 Culinary Preferences and Nostalgia 21:03 Reflections on Growth and Hard Work 22:01 2016: A Pivotal Year in Education 24:00 Transitioning from Education to Digital Marketing 26:56 Understanding Social Media Management 30:05 The Importance of Visibility in Career 31:58 The Role of Education in Professional Development 34:01 Navigating Digital Marketing Strategies 35:58 The Balance of Online Presence and Professionalism 39:04 Networking and Self-Promotion 43:39 The Challenges of Networking 44:30 Effective Networking Strategies 46:36 Building Connections at Events 48:43 The Importance of Horizontal Networking 51:01 Overcoming Timidity in Networking 52:05 Sharing Personal Journeys: Alopecia Awareness 01:05:08 Finding Courage to Share Your Story 01:09:09 Continuous Learning in Content Creation

In this episode, I sit down with Ehiz Oriaifo to have an honest conversation about the journey from unemployment to entrepreneurship in Nigeria. We discuss the realities of building a creative business, using social media for marketing, navigating client relationships, and why diversifying income is key. Ehiz shares his personal journey, the fears of leaving stability, lessons learned along the way, and what keeps him going. This conversation is for anyone trying to build something meaningful despite uncertainty. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey 02:31 The Role of Social Media in Business 04:02 Marketing Strategies for Reaching the Right Audience 08:03 The Challenges of Being a Photographer 15:00 Transitioning from 9-to-5 to Full-Time Entrepreneurship 20:58 Building a Portfolio and Collaborations 21:56 Technical Difficulties and Transitioning Focus 21:57 The Fear of Leaving Corporate Stability 23:23 Diversifying Income as a Creative 28:02 Navigating Family Conversations About Career Changes 30:36 Understanding Strengths in Entrepreneurship 34:32 The Joy of Capturing Moments in Photography 38:55 Balancing Worship and Photography in Church Settings 40:27 Introduction to Challenges in Nigerian Photography 43:48 Client Expectations and Wedding Day Woes4 5:37 The Emotional Toll of Entrepreneurship 51:26 Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs

In this episode of the Becoming You podcast, I sit down with Tofunmi, an HR professional, and we get into it. She shares how she found her way into human resources, what the job market actually looks like right now, and how AI is changing the hiring process. We talk about confidence in interviews, what HR people are really looking for, and some personal experiences that shaped how we both think about job hunting and hiring. From tailoring your CV to negotiating your salary and showing up well in interviews, Tofunmi gives the HR perspective most people never get to hear. 00:00 Introduction to Job Hunting Insights 07:36 Tofunmi's Journey into HR 15:30 Interview Experiences and Lessons Learned 19:20 The Power of Preparation in Interviews 22:17 Building Confidence and Communication Skills 26:06 Navigating Interview Dynamics 30:56 The Role of AI in Recruitment 38:46 Crafting the Perfect CV 47:06 Navigating Salary Negotiations 49:14 Understanding Your Worth 52:00 The Interview Process: Insights from an HR Perspective 54:42 The Emotional Toll of Recruitment 57:31 Learning from Recruitment Mistakes 01:00:24 Preparing for Future Opportunities 01:04:09 Final Tips for Job Seekers

On today’s episode, we’re talking money, spending, saving, investing, and basically everything money-related that our parents forgot to mention lol. And we have a guest! Today, I’m talking with Oladapo, who is a data analyst, and we chat about our money habits. We talk serious stuff in the most light-hearted way ever. Enjoy the episode! Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and join the conversation, I’d love to know your perspectives. 00:00 Introduction to Money Talks 01:45 New Year Reflections and Financial Planning 02:04 Building a Strong Financial Foundation 01:08:36 Essential Money Habits to Cultivate 01:09:55 Habits to Stop for Financial Health Youtube

Happy New Year, my friends, and welcome to 2026! In this episode, we talk about everything goals: the importance of setting them, the challenges that come with it, and why self-reflection is key to real growth. I share personal experiences, break down practical goal-setting strategies (including SMART goals), and talk honestly about why hard work still matters, manifestation aside. I also yap a little about my holiday recap, personal projects, and all things goally. I managed to write one article this time you’ll find the link below, along with our socials. Enjoy the episode https://linktr.ee/oluwabukola_adeyemi https://substack.com/@oluwabukolaadeyemi/note/p-182774464?r=1qua0z&utm_source=notes-share-action&utm_medium=web 00:00 The Importance of Setting Goals 04:30 Reflecting on Past Goals 08:34 Understanding Goal Realism 17:36 Finding Purpose Through Goals 25:30 Reflections on December Celebrations 32:57 Embracing Change and New Beginnings 42:21 Personal Projects and Self-Care 47:22 Goals for the New Year

In this episode, I reflect on my plans for December, sharing personal anecdotes and insights about the importance of creating memories, enjoying the festive season, while navigating the challenges of adulting. I talk about my podcast journey, the growth it has experienced, and my plans for the new year. I also share my Spotify Wrapped and a bit of social commentary on relationships. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates04:55 The Importance of December Fun13:17 Challenges of Adulting and Job Transitions19:17 Spotify Wrapped and Music Reflections26:47 Navigating Personal Challenges31:18 The Importance of Peace and Contentment37:05 Gratitude and Achievements48:09 Wishing Joy and Connection for the Holidays

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Tolulope Komolafe as we talk about the realities of life after graduation. We talk about adulting, career choices, and the chaos that comes once school is over. We reflect on our own university experiences and how unprepared we all feel when real life starts. Tolu's cake business brand page is - _la_tozzi 00:00 Reflecting on Life Phases02:01 The Chaos of Post-University Life03:13 Understanding Adulting and Responsibilities03:42 The Journey of Self-Discovery04:44 Sales Experience and Challenges08:45 Navigating Personal Safety and Career Decisions10:33 Finding Stability in Employment12:15 Balancing Multiple Roles and Side Hustles13:39 Upskilling and Adapting to Market Demands15:17 Overcoming Sales Challenges and Building Confidence17:53 Embracing Visibility and Personal Branding19:11 Celebrating Small Wins and Personal Growth22:30 Nostalgic School Memories23:50 Navigating Post-University Life25:07 Expectations vs. Reality After Graduation25:38 The Impact of COVID-19 on Career Paths28:04 Job Hunting Struggles30:10 The Reality of Adulting and Independence32:01 Financial Responsibilities and Surprises34:05 Job Offers and Unconventional Opportunities36:34 Navigating Job Opportunities and Expectations38:22 Social Media Pressure and Personal Growth40:11 The Importance of Continuous Learning41:40 Career Pivots and Finding Fulfillment42:36 Friendship Dynamics Post-University45:45 Work-Life Balance: 9 to 5 vs Freelancing48:39 Building a Business While Employed50:57 Final Thoughts and Advice for Graduates51:55 Navigating Post-School Challenges52:28 Embracing Personal Growth and Entrepreneurship

In this episode, Bukky and Ayomide engage in a conversation about blackness, resilience, and identity. They explore their personal experiences with racial consciousness, the challenges of navigating double consciousness in daily life, and the cultural differences they encounter living in different countries. 07:07 Resilience and Identity in the Black Experience 13:49 Racial Consciousness: Realizations and Experiences 20:56 Navigating Double Consciousness in Daily Life 30:04 Cultural Differences and Adaptation 36:06 The Role of Social Media in Promoting Black Culture 40:00 Current Events and Community Building 48:10 Celebrating Blackness and Conclusion Enjoy the episode!

In this episode, Dr. Bright Gyamfi joins me as we discuss Pan-Africanism, the tension between community and individualism, and what activism really looks like today. We talk about why political consciousness among young people matters more than ever, the complexities of Nigeria’s issues, and how music has always been one of our strongest tools for awakening. This episode is a reminder that our individual goals matter, but our community matters just as much. Enjoy the episode. 02:42 Community and Individualism in Africa 05:21 Understanding Intellectual History 07:59 Personal Reflections and Political Consciousness 10:16 The Complexity of Political Interventions 13:00 Music as a Tool for Political Awareness 17:55 Building Political Consciousness Through Art 19:44 The Role of Music in Resistance 21:49 The Shift in Afrobeat's Political Message 24:15 Integrity and Responsibility of Artists 26:21 Youth Movements and Political Awakening 29:08 Hope and Community in Activism 30:13 Community and Individualism in the Diaspora 32:12 Economic Pressures and Self-Centeredness 34:24 The Myth of the American Dream 35:28 Social Media and Authentic Connections 36:05 The Pressure of Social Media and Performance 38:35 The Impact of AI on Human Interaction 40:29 Social Media's Influence on Aspirations and Identity 43:43 Racism and Algorithmic Bias in Technology 46:41 Finding Balance Between Individualism and Community 50:12 Engaging with Communities for Collective Growth

In this episode, I have a conversation with Ife and Faith about what it really means to be spiritual but not religious. We share personal stories on faith, community, and finding meaning beyond traditional religion. We talk about how spirituality is a deeply personal connection with God, while religion often follows more structured paths. We also explore the beauty and challenges of maintaining faith without a community, and how personal practices help keep that connection alive. 00:00 Spirituality vs. Religion: An Introduction 03:12 Personal Journeys: Defining Spirituality 05:50 Understanding Religion: Definitions and Perspectives 08:47 The Role of Community in Spirituality 12:04 Navigating Personal Beliefs and Doubts 15:13 Spiritual Practices: Finding Your Path 18:01 The Importance of Personal Connection with God 21:05 Preaching and Sharing Faith: Different Approaches 24:00 Conclusion: Embracing Individual Spiritual Journeys

In this episode of Becoming You Pod, Joel, Olu, and I have an honest conversation about patriarchy and how it affects men. We talk about whether patriarchy can also be a burden, the financial expectations placed on men, and the emotional struggles they face when it comes to being vulnerable. We also reflect on what patriarchy really means, its historical roots, and how the roles of men and women are changing today. The episode ends with our personal thoughts on growth, understanding, and the importance of partnership in navigating these changes together. 00:00 Exploring the Burden of Patriarchy 08:46 The Financial Responsibilities of Men 17:11 Defining Patriarchy and Its Implications 28:59 Vulnerability and Emotional Expression in Men 51:07 Reflections on Patriarchy and Personal Growth

In this episode, Bukky talks about the struggle to find work-life balance. She shares personal experiences and cultural perspectives on ambition, money, and self-care. Through honest conversations with friends, she explores how capitalism shapes our idea of success and questions whether true balance is even possible today. 00:00 The Quest for Feedback and Self-Reflection 02:56 Navigating Financial Growth and Capitalism 06:02 Cultural Perspectives on Work and Ambition 08:52 Understanding Work-Life Balance 11:47 Personal Experiences and Social Life 19:11 Exploring Work-Life Balance Through Conversations 26:07 Insights from Friends on Work-Life Balance 31:31 Introduction and Work-Life Balance Discussion 35:17 Living vs. Surviving: Perspectives on Life 38:44 Recharging After Stressful Weeks 43:03 Work-Life Balance Ratings and Experiences 55:21 Navigating Work-Life Balance Challenges 01:01:09 The Pursuit of a Perfect Work-Life Balance 01:02:32 Conclusion: The Myth of Work-Life Balance

In this episode, Bukky shares her personal experiences with various fears that come with adulthood, including the fear of making it, losing loved ones, and the fear of silence and loneliness. She discusses the impact of these fears on her mental health and happiness, and emphasizes the importance of confronting them to lead a fulfilling life. Bukky also explores the complexities of social connections and the need for personal growth, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own fears and how they can overcome them. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Personal Reflections 02:55 The Impact of Remote Work on Health 05:47 Confronting the Fear of Making It 08:58 Navigating the Fear of Job Insecurity 11:49 Exploring Financial Independence 14:32 The Struggle with Social Life 17:53 Facing the Fear of Losing Loved Ones 20:46 The Weight of Public Opinion 23:37 The Complexity of Personal Growth 26:30 The Fear of Loneliness and Aging 29:48 The Challenge of Finding Community 32:25 The Fear of Silence and Self-Reflection 35:34 Concluding Thoughts on Fear and Happiness