Being Honest With My Ex

“I think i have such a high opinion of you i don’t know why anyone would break up with you”   This week: both SJ and Peter got dumped. How / why could either of them get dumped? Listen in to find out!     Things discussed this episode: Janet jackson just had kid at 50   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

This week we talk to the author of an email that started like this:   I have been trying to continue listening to your podcast for months now. I am so enamoured with SJ but Peter is honestly a giant douchebag.   And ended like this:   The day that SJ does something alone, I am on board, but as of today I am unsubscribing from the show, entirely because of Peter.   Shit gets real.     Things discussed this episode: Episode 47: Staying Friends With My Ex (the episode about getting the above email from Alice) Episode 31: Poly-sposions With My Ex (part 2 of the trilogy about the mess Peter and SJ made of polyamory Episode 20: Naked Photos Of My Ex (the episode that contains a reading of the one and only love letter Peter has sent) Episode 42: Finding My Mountain With My Ex (the episode about finding your path and aggressive self-sabotage) Episode 43: Having Kids With My Ex (the episode where Peter lays into Canada) Episode 28: Making Money With My Ex (Peter gives SJ a pep talk on quitting your job and living creatively) Episode 29: Getting Therapy With My Ex (on SJ’s troubles with the mental health system) Episode 10: Behind the Scenes With My Ex (look honestly I can’t even remember what this episode was about!) Peter’s other podcast, Let’s Write A Film   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“I think one of the biggest changes as a result of doing this podcast is that you and I are so much closer than we were a year ago. We are probably as close as when we were dating if you ignore sex.”   It’s episode 52 of this weekly podcast, so this week is a year in review.   Things discussed this episode: SJ’s #nofeelingisfinal campaign SJ’s What The Actual Fuck video Episode about getting hatemail about Peter (from someone who Peter interviewed on for the next episode)   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

This week: creative terror and the SJ’s private Patreon fears.     Things discussed this episode: Jon Ronson’s So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed Hello Internet Dakota Access Pipeline Protests Ira Glass - The Gap So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

This week: SJ sits down with Peter’s new partner to discuss love, exes and how shameless Peter really is.     Things discussed this episode: Days Until app to count down to an event Podcasting panel SJ did for Digital Writers Festival (warning: there were lots of technical issues with this one!) Episode 20, when SJ read out the first (and only) love letter Peter has sent Email Debt Forgiveness Day   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“The next twenty seconds were really interesting cause I was like “oh, I could die now. This could be it.””   This week: Peter’s car accident, and what SJ would’ve done if he’d died.     Things discussed this episode: Speed limits: to check out speed limits in different countries check out this handy Wikipedia page. Turns out that SJ and Peter were both right on Australian speed laws., Anything over the speed limit by 3 km/h or more will get you a fine in Victoria, whereas it’s 7 km/h over in Western Australia. In other states it’s 10% over the speed limit. Quora - the website that claims to have the answer to every question Peter’s injury from car accident Werner Herzhog’s film From One Second To The Next, on texting while driving. It’s 35 minutes long and you can watch it all on YouTube. To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

Peter was in a car accident! (He’s totally fine) But it meant we decided not to put out an episode this week. We’ll be in your earholes next week. :)

“I don’t see you as the SJ I dated. You are my ex SJ, my friend who I used to be engaged to who I do a podcast with. I don’t like the SJ I dated.”   Big talks, plus it’s Peter’s birthday so SJ gives him the best gift ever and asks him The Birthday Questions.   Things discussed this episode: Peter’s games that he’s Kickstarted: Dracula’s Feast and Scuttle! Episode about Peter getting turned away at the US border Episode about Peter’s Facebook wall The Ferrett (quoting Jay Lake) on Bathtub Theory Ira Glass: the gap Alasdair Tremblay-Birchall’s new dad instagram   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!

SJ tells Peter of the horrible things she’s learned about him, and the pair try to decide whether or not they should stay friends.     Things discussed this episode: Lena Dunham article No One Likes My Ex   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

This week: the time Peter tried to placate SJ with rabbits, convenient veganism, and Peter realising he’s a bit of an asshole.     Things discussed this episode: Gamergate video series Video about hating Phill Phish Video on what it is to be a good person   To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon.   If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):   “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

This week: the trials, tribulations and masturbatory habits of those who work from home. Things discussed this episode: Here’s the Millennial episode that made Peter cry A short film that will definitely make you cry: Denali The Ferrett on why there isn’t one technique that works for everyone Neville Medhora’s to do list Eat That Frog Workflowy - the best list makey thing ever! Focus keeper - SJ’s trusted pomodoro app Pomodoro app - Peter’s trusted pomodoro app Money shredding alarm clock Gym pact 7 minute workout app Neville Medhora’s problem solving checklist Dracula’s Feast - there’s still a week to go! Hello Internet - and here’s the episode about email management Cortex - CGP Grey and Myke Hurley talking the methods and tools they use to be productive and creative Mitchell and Webb sketch about working from home This Is Your Song - project SJ did back in the day. Click the link to see SJ performing a song to Peter about his broken penis after they’d just met To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com):

“I’m not saying that I’m easy to date, I’m saying dating me does not in any way prepare you for having a kid.” Peter insults SJ, and she makes the mistake of trying to get him to apologize. Things discussed this episode: Peter conflated two of Joe Peacocks posts: 1 2 (also, it’s worth noting that Joe has disavowed a lot of the opinions and phrasings of his old writings) To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“I have recurring baby-related nightmares. I lose them like a set of car keys.” After a week surrounded by tiny humans, SJ unpacks all of her ideas about whether or not to have kids. Things discussed this episode: Australian Houses are Glorified Tents in Winter Target figured out a teenage girl was pregnant…before her family did. The Horrors of Children To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“I am really really talented at not achieving my goals.” In this episode, Peter reveals that he has been aggressively sabotaging himself for the last, oh, 8 years now. Things discussed this episode: Neil Gaiman’s Make Good Art commencement speech Do women’s period’s sync? - “In light of the lack of empirical evidence for MS [menstrual synchrony] sensu stricto, it seems there should be more widespread doubt than acceptance of this hypothesis” Vlog brothers videos on failure - here’s Hank’s video, and John Green’s response on failing to follow up his book The Fault in Our Stars Wait But Why procrastination post (the best post on the internet). Here is a direct link to the Eisenhower Matrix. You can also check out the TED talk on procrastination by Tim Urban, the writer of that post. Episode 13 - Let’s Write A Film Teach For Australia Seth Godin - The Dip To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“Fuck! I bought a food truck before I realised I hate hospitality.” This episode: SJ’s embarrassing past as a boldly naive young person trying to save the world. Things discussed this episode: Little Bets, The Four Hour Work Week, The Art of Non-Conformity - all books about lifestyle design and design thinking (that I’m warning, can sometimes be distinctly missing an awareness of or to, social / political context) That Sexy Show - a sex-positive comedy game show that we did back in the day Who Gives A Crap - social enterprise toilet paper company Shebeen - Melbourne bar and social enterprise Conflict Kitchen, started by Jon Rubin (who’s work SJ really digs) Streat - social enterprise in Melbourne working with homeless people Be Bangles - I feel bad about coming down so hard on this project and looking like an asshole (and also a hypocrite) I guess we’re all just trying to find the best way to do the right thing really The Most Good You Can Do by Peter Singer Guy who has made a pledge to donate half his income GiveWell.org - an organisation that does in-depth charity research to suggest what would be best to donate to Dave Gorman - the man behind Are You Dave Gorman? And Googlewack Adventure Global Fund for Women - organisation advocating for women’s rights Sock company Odd Pears (turns out they do donate part of profits to charity!) To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

This week: the wild wild west of Peter’s Facebook wall. Things discussed this episode: Gamergate video series Really great video on Phil Fish about internet celebrity Previous episode: Shit’s Complicated With My Ex Peter’s new board game: Dracula’s Feast Video Sia made for SJ where she got her name wrong (SJ still cringes when she watches this) To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“You don’t have capacity for a sandwich let alone complex emotional situations” This week: burning out, being afraid of feelings, and how to cry well on a podcast. Things discussed this episode: Hip hop dance video that made SJ cry The episode about SJ collecting her tears To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

“I have a PhD in shame, but I don’t even have a Cert II in happiness” This week: shame, the creative driving force, and the dangers of true crime documentaries. Things discussed this episode: Review of Being Honest With My Ex from Always Listening Amanda Palmer’s book The Art of Asking Louis CK talking about feeling your feelings Here’s the facebook write-up for the group process / social dialogue event that I talked about Broadly doco about paid maternity leave in America (54 minutes) (also I find interviewer pretty annoying in this doco, but it’s important / interesting info) Broadly doco about egg freezing and the future of fertility (28 minutes) (same interviewer, but I found this one much more watchable) (this one made me pretty angry / sad) Ira Glass on The Gap between your taste and your skills Making A Murderer OJ doco series (very very good) Jane The Virgin - the first season is seriously gooooood and fun and light! To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

In 2012, SJ recorded an interview with Peter for her radio show “Your Life The Musical”. We couldn’t resist sharing the audio of these younger and much smarmier versions of ourselves. Songs used this episode: Rock n Roll Nerd - Tim Minchin This Year - The Mountain Goats Step Right Up - Tom Waits Everyday - Buddy Holly The Broken Penis Song - Sarah Jane Haywood End Of The Movie - Cake In My Mind - Amanda Palmer Don’t bother trying to visit any of the links Peter talks about. You can read more about Your Life The Musical here, and This Is Your Song here.  To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”

If Peter was dying, would SJ help put him out of his misery? Things discussed this episode: SJ’s favourite show at the moment, You Can’t Ask That Andrew Denton’s podcast about euthanasia, Better Off Dead Relevant CGP Grey videos: The Queen is also the head of England, and technically God is in charge of the Commonwealth.How to Become Pope The powers of the Queen One of the best videos ever made: The History of Japan -There’s much more to mortal sin than Peter covered. Further reading: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mortal_sin To talk about the show, head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. To support this show, pledge to Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): “Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you’ve enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!”