Coaching Through Chaos

Everyone struggles at time with managing their finances.  In particularly now, as we get through this pandemic,  so many people are waiting with baited breath to find out what the near future holds for our economy.  Myself included.  My guest this episode is my  friend and financial whiz, Rainier Trinidad.  Rainier is a Certified Financial Analyst.  He'll tell you that that is and why it should matter when you are seeking someone to mange your money. But in addition to that, we cover: Rainier's personal story of being a young immigrant from the Philippines with hard working parents.   How he connected while still in school with his love of economics.  What he did to protect his client's from any significant losses in the market crash of 2008.  How to know where to invest your money Advice for what you can do today if you are trying to get re-balanced financially How to handle stock market panic What to expect from a financial analyst or financial planner.  Please check out Rainier at Parabolic Asset Management - he's got a current blog and lots of other information you can access, and share this episode with a friend you think might need some advice for financial stability in the future.  As I mentioned in the episode, my newly repackaged book, The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader can be downloaded for free at the bottom of my blog post at CoachingThroughChaos.com Of course, you can follow me over at  IG/Facebook/Twitter in @DrColleenMullen  

LuAnn Nigara is the co-owner of Window Works in New Jersey for over 30 years now, but she is probably most known now on a larger scale for her expertise on building, growing and sustaining a business. She hosts The Well-Designed Business Podcast, is a well-known speaker at trade shows and leads workshops.  Her expertise lies in helping others, including established business owners, develop the fine skils necessary to have their business prepped to withstand the ebbs and flows over decades!  Her expertise is also now captured in the book, A Well-Designed Business.  In this episode, LuAnn shares a decision made at 18 that put her on the trajectory to business success; why systems are so key to a successful business,  how she grew and shifted over the years, and why some businesses just can't succeed.    PLEASE CHECK OUT LuAnnNigara.com  to discover all the ways you can benefit from  LuAnn's expertise.      If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow us at Coaching Through Chaos on Facebook. If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on: Facebook Instagram Twitter Listen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month. If you are a woman, interested in building your personal leadership qualities, check out Dr. Colleen's book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader If you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Thanks for listening!   

A crisis doesn't happen everyday, but when it does, it brings on a lot of emotions. Fear, anxiety, desperation, thought paralysis.  Dealing with the unknown factors that a crisis delivers is a unique experience. Even though this episode is launching amidst the peak of the Coronavirus Pandemic, it contains information about a helpful tool to help you manage how you deal with any time of crisis in your life.  Dr Reef Karim is an expert in human behavior.  He is a board certified psychiatrist and an authority on personal development.  Dr. Karim's experience has led him to work with people going through all sorts of crisis, both on individual and global scales.  He has worked with survivors of 9-11,  on-site at Katrina, and with many people going through the individual crisis of an addiction. He has seen a lot of crisis in his career, and subsequently has seen the pathway to healing. To help you with our current global crisis and to give you the tools to withstand future crises, Dr. Karim has created The Crisis Manual. 

Anxiety, lonliness, anger, reactivity, sadness, loss, grief, confusion, fear - these are all emotions you may be feeling as you go through life under the pandemic restrictions.  This crisis has resulted in a collective trauma - we are all in this together and we are all affected by it in one way or another.   In my practice over the last month, I saw a defined uptick in a resurgence of my client's trauma symptoms from earlier in their lives.  I decided to do a special episode to help those in need understand this current situation through the lens of it as a trauma.  I called in colleague, Dr. Reef Karim. Dr. Karim is a well-known neuroscientist, mental health physician and personal development expert.  You may know Dr Reef from his many appearances on Cnn, Oprah and other media outlets.  He now has a special offering to help you emotional survive this crisis - you can find his guidebook at The Crisis Manual.  On the next CTC episode, we focus on all the details of why you will want to get a copy for yourself!  In this episode, Reef and I discuss: How trauma affects the brain and body How false or exaggerated symptoms may present  Key factors in building resilience We also cover these coping strategies (Im leaving as-is in the show notes, so that you have this as a reference if you should need it: 1. STAY CONNECTED Social distancing is NOT Emotional Distancing – reach out to others. Family/friends.  If you were not well-connected socially before, this may feel ultra isolated– find an online group for something you enjoy or an actual support group. This is also the time to actually call and talk or skype or facetime someone.  If you’re feeling lonely, you can bet people you know are too.  They will appreciate the connection 2. GET FRESH AIR EVERYDAY The best thing about this is that it happened in the spring, so most every part of the country has pleasant temperatures.  Fresh air and Sunlight help us feel refreshed, energized and can help our mood.  Moving our bodies is important more now than ever because it’s easy to get out of bed, get on the couch and never leave until you go to be again. Your body needs to move and you need to breath fresh air. 3. CHALLENGE YOUR THOUGHTS For every time a person says- “This is hopeless”, there will be a story demonstrating a person who has overcome the illness. “I have nothing to do” – When’s the last time you called someone/organized your bathroom closet/planted a new flower pot? There are things to do. The point is that your brain will want to tell you things that keep you feeling discouraged/helpless/hopeless – there is always evidence to the contrary.  4. Get CREATIVE Amazon and all the other major stores are still delivering- now’s the time to tap into that hobby you’ve been putting off.  Maybe youre not particularly artistic or musically inclined.  It’s a great time to build something, tackle a home project you’ve been putting off, get crafty…. Maybe learning something new is how you get creative. Take an online course, learn a new language. Write, blog, craft, …… 5. DISCONNECT FROM THE NEWS AND SOCIAL MEDIA  limit the time you watch…..turn the tv off….take 24 hours off the phone /news…..nothing is changing in 24 hours that you cant find out when you turn it back on 6. TALK ABOUT IT AND KNOW WHEN TO TAKE A BREAK FROM TALKING ABOUT IT – whichever you need! If you haven’t been talking about how you’re feeling in this and just keeping a fine face, but going stir-crazy inside – its ok to call a friend and let them know you just wat to talk it through.  On the contrary – if every communication you have with everyone is about the virus and you’ve been on overload with the news, plan a virtual social hour with a friend with a rule that there is no talking about the virus – You will inevitably talk about things that remind you of your normal life – what you’ve been watching on Netflix, the puzzle you’ve been working on, the funny thing your kid said the other day.  Most importantly, this reminds you that there are normal experiences that are still happening all around you.   HOW YOU CAN HELP OTHERS CALL SOMEONE YOU SUSPECT MIGHT BE ISOLATED AND FEELING LONELY OFFER TO PICK UP GROCERIES FOR ELDERLY OR AT RISK FRIENDS/NEIGHBORS SUPPORT LOCAL BUSINESSES THAT HAVE BEEN TEMPORARLY SHUTDOWN. GIFT CERTIFICATES OR PRODUCTS. GYMS, SALONS, MASSAGE PROVIDERS. RESTAURANTS. FIND OUT HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT LOCAL FOOD BANKS AND SHELTERS – DO THEY NEED CERTAIN SUPPLIES/TOILETRIES – WHAT’S IN YOUR BUDGET FOR HELPING THEM. (For those of us fortunate to be working or financially stable,we are ALL spending a lot less because we are not driving/going out to eat/getting hair done- there may be funds in your bank that can give you some room to support your community in ways you don’t normally have). *IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITH SUBSTANCE ABUSE * People may be struggling with substance abuse and/or being a risk of relapse in this social isolation AA/NA groups are still being helpd online Rehabs are still admitting new clients Therapists are still accepting new clients *There is help available to those in need. * IF YOU HAVE A PRE-EXISTING MENTAL HEALTH CONDITIONS If you know that you have pre-existing depression/anxiety/panic/bipolar or any other mental health struggle – NOW is the time to keep up sessions with your providers.  The medical professionals have been given the ability to telehealth – which means you can have a phone call/skype/zoon/facetime session- however you prefer with your therapist or psychiatrist. It is the time to keep up with your medication/treatment and things that you normally do to cope. It is also the time to reach out for added support through online support groups as you need them. *WHERE TO FIND HELP * The Crisis Manual .com  - This is a FREE guide to managing your emotions through a crisis.  This was developed by today's guest, Dr. Reef Karim. You can hear about The Crisis Manual in full detail in the next  pandemic-focused episode coming up in just a few days. PsychologyToday.comfor a mental health provider in your area  211.org –social services referral line if you are in need of inpatient or crisis house services – FOOD BANKS/housing/etc National Suicide Prevention Talk Line –1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)*If you’re feeling suicidal and want someone to talk to when it is after hours for your mental health support providers. * Please go follow my guest- Dr Reef Karim at Instagram.com/ReefKarim or Facebook.com/DrReef or WORK WITH HIM at ReefKarim.com *Let me know what's working for you - How are YOU staying sane through this traumatic event?   You can reach out to me on the socials  Facebook.com/CoachingThroughChaos Instagram.com/drColleenMullen Twitter.com/DrColleenMullen   For a little light-hearted psycho-babble, make sure to check out the Shrink2Shrink Podcast wherever you love to listen. Colleen and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins talk about love and live through one movie a month. Come and have some fun with us!  Ladies! If you want to empower yourself or get inspired by other stories of successful women, get Dr Colleen's book: Stop Bitching , Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader Until next time, I do hope you are safe and are finding the assistance you may need during this time. 

We all have some sort of fear, but through the evolution of technology and the ability to get endless likes and reposts of our woes, our fears have become something of a cultural phenomenon.  What used to be one person telling a friend something shocking, whether true or not, we now live in a culture where that one friend is actually our social medial platform and there are people reinforcing our projections, leading to a hijacking of our emotions.  Our 24-hour news cycles also play into this cultural hijacking..  Not everything is a crisis, just because the news channels tell us it is.   How our news media and social culture perpetuate fear through our society is the subject of Dr Patrick Lockwood's book, The Fear Problem: How Technology and Culture Have Hijacked Our Minds and Our Lives.  Listen in to hear: The evolution of how our news and social media channels has seemingly hijacked out emotional states. How fear is growing out of control in unnoticeable ways. The 2 types of fear and which one is easier to control. How the  brain regulates fear.  (I promise, you won't need a neuroscience degree to understand this). How fear can dictate an unhealthy attachment to our phones. Some of the consequences of letting our fear get out of control. What can we do to counteract this collective fear response to non-crisis events. You can find Dr Patrick Lockwood at PatrickLockwoodHealing.com . If you are enjoying the podcast and want to support it without it costing you a dime, there are 3 ways: Share an episode on your social media Leave a gret review wherever you love to listen to your podcasts Use my Amazon Storefront Amazon.com/shop/drColleenMullen When you enter Amazon through my storefront. For every purchase you make for 24 hours, I will get a small portion of that sale. You were paying for it anyway, this way a small % of the sale goes to support your favorite podcast. While you're there, you can check out some of my favorite wellness-supporting products and apps! Enjoy! If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on: Facebook Instagram Twitter Listen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month. Ladies, Look for the upcoming Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast  The Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast every month to get empowered and inspired by unique female stories of success! You can buy the book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader If you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Thanks for listening!

You want a Roy Lichtenstein-style paining on your wall? Talk to Jodie. You want a beautiful mid-century modern table for your living room? Talk to Jodie. You want the easiest and more sure-fire way to get your art pieces hung on your wall? For that , you also need to talk to Jodie. Jodie Royak of @RoyakStudio is an artistic craftsman who not only is living his dream as a full-time artist, but is also an inventor and successful entrepreneur. He is the inventor of BlinkHangers.com, where he "takes the anger out of hanger", Blink Hangers are a product that makes it so easy for everyone to fill their homes with art, without the hassle of figuring out how to hang it straight, because the Blink Hangers does it for you! Listen in as we discuss what Jodie loves about the creative process, what it was like for him to take his idea to creation and then distribution and selling out on the Home Shopping Network, advice for sticking with a dream, and he also tells the story of the piece of art he just can't part with (see my IG @DrColleenMullen for the pic). All listeners of The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast will receive a 25% discount on a 24 pack of Blink Hangers when you use the code: Chaos at checkout at blinkHangers.com Check out Jodie's art on Instagram @RoyakStudio If you are enjoying the podcast and want to support it without it costing you a dime, there are 3 ways: Share an episode on your social media Leave a gret review wherever you love to listen to your podcasts Use my Amazon Storefront Amazon.com/shop/drColleenMullen When you enter Amazon through my storefront. For every purchase you make for 24 hours, I will get a small portion of that sale. You were paying for it anyway, this way a small % of the sale goes to support your favorite podcast. While you're there, you can check out some of my favorite wellness-supporting products and apps! Enjoy! If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on: Facebook Instagram Twitter Listen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month. Ladies, Listen to The Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast every month to get empowered and inspired by unique female stories of success! You can buy the book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader If you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Thanks for listening!

Colleen talks with Quentin about: His own journey on becoming the father of two boys, The similarities between BJJ and marriage. What it means about you if you believe all your ex's are crazy. How we can heal wounds from our childhoods through our marriage. And.... many more great relationship tips! If YOU want to be a husband who earns Black Belt status, or you want to find one- this episode is for you ! To  follow Quentin, check out his IG: @Quentin_Hafner To Buy the book on Amazon: Black Belt Husband  To work with Quentin: QuentinHafner.com ********* If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow us at Coaching Through Chaos on Facebook. If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on: Facebook Instagram Twitter Listen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month. Ladies, Listen to The Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast every month to get empowered and inspired by unique female stories of success! You can buy the book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader If you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Thanks for listening!   

Part 3 of 3. This is a conversation with my sister Suzy, who came to live with me in in 2018 after our mother died suddenly. We take you into our very personal journey. We end up fighting the system for what is right when it comes to her care and medical benefits. Some fights are not over yet. You also get a look into the life of someone who lived many years very socially isolated with intellect limitations and what happens when they are given love and care and connection to others.This episode is a love letter to my sister. My life changed when I inherited her, but not nearly as much as her life changed. I admire her so much and wanted to have a permanent place where we would have this record of our lives. This is not the norm for my show, but we will return every month now with all the great guest, tips and tricks for conquering the chaos in yoru life you've come to expect from the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast. In the meantime, I hope our journey inspires those who are feeling let down or failed by our social services system, or those who are going through grief or just need a story of hope. No chaos can't be conquered! You can work with me at www. CoachingThroughChaos.com You can say "hi" and connect with me on the socials at facebook and Instagram and Twitter

May 2018, I got a call that changed my life.  In one phone call, I knew when I left my home in San Diego to go to New York, I would return and my mother will have died and I will ave inherited my disabled sister.  This is the first episode in over 18 months. This will be a series of 3 to tell this story of love, loss and how we are managing the chaos we are finding in this new life situation.  This is a very personal series - not the norm for this show.  After the New York Story, My Cross Country Journey and The Suzy Chronicles episodes, the show will return on a monthly basis to what you know from Coaching Through Chaos-  Lost of tips, trick and experts to help you conquer the chaos in your life.  But first, I thought I owed it to my listeners to explain my absence.   Thanks for sticking with me!  You can work with me at www. CoachingThroughChaos.com You can say "hi" and connect with me on the socials at  facebook and Instagram  and Twitter 

Part 2 of 3. This is a conversation about my almost month-long road trip across the country to help my disabled sister start her life over after my mother suddenly passed away.  It was also a cathartic journey for me as my life transformed along with my sister's.  I traveled from New York to DC to Greensboro to Nashville, to Nashville, to Memphis to New Orleans to Dallas and then Albuquerque and finally back to my home in San Diego.  But my hone will never be the same. This story of love, loss, family and conquering chaos. Listen in as I take you along my trip- It was a solo adventure filled with excitement, fear of failing and all that comes with knowing your life will never be the same when you return home.    This is a very personal series - not the norm for this show. After the New York Story, My Cross Country Journey and The Suzy Chronicles episodes, the show will return on a monthly basis to what you know from Coaching Through Chaos- Lost of tips, trick and experts to help you conquer the chaos in your life. But first, I thought I owed it to my listeners to explain my absence. Thanks for sticking with me! You can work with me at www. CoachingThroughChaos.com You can say "hi" and connect with me on the socials at facebook and Instagram and Twitter

Interview with horror movie director and special effects expert Mark Newton about his current film, Attack of the Southern Fried Zombies.  Dr. Colleen Mullen talks with Mark about his dreams of becoming a film maker, the best effects of the movie, how to produce an indie film, gets actors and stay on budget and how to manage the chaos that is movie-making!

Interview with horror movie director and special effects expert Mark Newton about his current film, Attack of the Southern Fried Zombies.  Dr. Colleen Mullen talks with Mark about his dreams of becoming a film maker, the best effects of the movie, how to produce an indie film, gets actors and stay on budget and how to manage the chaos that is movie-making!

Qwerky Coliving - A Housing Experience for Entrepreneurs This episode of The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast features my interview with David Lowe, founder, of Qwerky Coliving.  Qwerky is a home in San Diego where entrepreneurs, digital nomads, virtual assistants, and other motivated individuals can come and live for a week or for a year (or more!). Qwerky is in its initial phase of it's launch.  Their Bootcamp launch weekend was Jun17-18th, just at the start of Start Up Week.  The stay at the home is designed as a personalized experience designed to meet the individual's needs.  This means in addition to providing a home environment in which such inivudals can find a productivity-focused environment, they will also be made aware of community ammenities that are available as well as being made aware of certain business connections that could benefit their goals. Listen in as we discuss: - David's motivation to start Qwerky Coliving, - The ups and downs of the entrepreneur's journey - David's previous start-up success, Uber Pong - Plans for Qwerky Coliving houses in other cities. - How you can get involved with the Qwerky Coliving community   Resources: website: Qwerky Coliving email: hi@qwerkycoliving.com source: Coaching through Chaos.

This #Podcast episode features Dr Colleen Mullen's conversation with David Lowe, founder, of Qwerky Coliving in San Diego, CA. Qwerky is a housing experience for entrepreneurs and #DigitalNomads and #VirtualAssistants or #VA 's .

Dr. Jonathan Singer  ~ discussing the very personal topic of suicide and it's impact on those left behind Amazon has selected the following suggestions that may also interest you source: Coaching through Chaos.

Suicide Prevention and the Grief of those Left BehindI was personally devastated by suicide on July 1, 2007, when my youngest brother, Scott, took his own life at the age of 28.  Scott struggled for many years in and out of mental health treatment episodes.  He never quite let go of the perceived stigma of what it meant to have a mental illness, so he never fully accepted treatment.  Even if he had, we know some people still make the choice to end their life.  What they don't know, or can't know, is how the survivors they leave behind are profoundly affected.  I met today's guest, Dr. Jonathan Singer, LCSW at the Podcast Movement conference in Chicago last July.  Jonathan has been the host of The Social Work Podcast for over 9 years.  He started it as a way of bringing his university students extra information between lectures.  it has since taken on a long life of it's own.  There is not only a vast array of information  pertaining to all aspects of  the field of social work, but he also delivers inspirational interviews of people doing extraordinary things.  Jonathan's primary field of study is that of Suicide Prevention and Awareness.  He is the author of Dr. Singer is the author of 45 publications, including the 2015 book Suicide in Schools: A practitioner’s guide to multilevel prevention, assessment, intervention, and postvention .  He has given over 100 academic presentations around the country and is an expert in his field.  What's Happening in This EpisodeThe first half of the episode features our conversation about:    - - The ages of children most at risk for suicide - How to discuss suicidal language with your child - What to do when your child says things like, "I wish I were dead!" - How to utilize professional help and when it should be considered - The significance of the suicidal thoughts - The Zero Suicide Initiative - The Jason Flatt Act - What #Not6 is all about The second half of the episode, Jonathan dives in with me to explore how I and my family were affected by my brother's suicide.  I am exploring this publicly hoping that it will help shed light on how complicated the grieving process can be for such a loss and also help those who are survivors of a loved one's suicide feel less alone.  Grief is complicated even when we expect a death to take place (i.e. when an elderly parent passes away), but it becomes more complex when someone you love chooses to die by suicide.  My family's reaction is not unusual, but in general, we still do not speak abou losing loved one's to suicide openly.  I'm hoping that by speaking about it in this forum, others may start their own conversations with their loved ones struggling with the suicidal thoughts, or amongst themselves if they are already grieving. Thank you for listening to this very personal episode.  ResourcesThe Zero Suicide Initiative The Jason Flatt Act What #Not6 is all about Dr. Jonathna Singer, LCSW's bio at Loyola University Chicago The Social Work Podcast

Touching upon the nature of suicide, and the impact on those left behind.

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Alissa Daire Nelson  ~ discusses with Dr. Mullen the results of her Strengths Finder Profile Amazon has selected the following suggestions that may also interest you source: Coaching through Chaos.

Craig McEwen ~ former tight end in the National Football League (NFL) for the Washington Redskins and the San Diego Chargers, he shares with us his experiences with TBI and new initiatives by the NFL / NFL Alumni to better protect younger players. As this week leads in to Super Bowl LI, between the New England Patriots and the Atlanta Falcons, take a moment to hear from a veteran player, member of a Super Bowl winning lineup, as he shares his story with us.   Amazon has selected the following suggestions that may also interest you source: Coaching through Chaos.