Date in Peace

Have you seen that reality show on netflix called Jewish Matchmaking? Today, I have one of the matchmakees on the show to give us the inside scoop on what reality dating shows are really like. Stuart Chaseman authentically shares how he stayed calm going on blind dates in front of the entire world. He also talks about the wide range of public feedback he’s received, including burns from ben shapiro, some tiktok love, and a growing list of romantic admirers in his inbox. I appreciate how he was quick to make me laugh, and spoke humbly yet directly about his experience. I hope you enjoyed this conversation as much as I did! About Our Guest  “Stuart Chaseman is an acclaimed singer-songwriter whose distinctive sound takes reference from such American roots rock artists such as Bob Dylan and Bruce Springsteen. His newest album Secrets, Lies, and Alibis released in the spring has been receiving stellar reviews. And yes, Stuart is also the unchallenged unproblematic king on the hit Netflix reality show "Jewish Matchmaking.” See Stuart LIVE on Jan. 26 at Hey Nonny in Arlington Heights, IL. Or, follow him below for sooner dates: https://www.stuartchaseman.com/ https://www.instagram.com/stuartchaseman https://www.facebook.com/stuartchaseman/   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host Lauren Smith is a speaker and author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

This episode is for anyone who's feeling a little bit out of control or confused about how to move forward in their dating approach. Maybe you're like me and you feel like every time you try to get back into a new relationship, it's like you keep hitting the same wall.  Believe me, I was at that point! Luckily, I found mindfulness and started to apply it to the dating process, and I found so much more peace. I built back my self-worth and I started to feel like I could trust myself to make better dating choices. If you've been following me for a while, you've probably heard me talk about mindful dating, but maybe you're still unclear on what it is specifically. Today I am gonna be reposting an interview that I did with guest host Ronnie Ryan on her Breathe Love & Magic podcast. I talk all about my journey to mindful dating, what it is and how you can get started.  By the end of the episode, you'll have some concrete tips and techniques where you can get back onto those apps with a renewed sense of confidence and self-trust. 🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Ronnie 🏳️‍🌈 Listen to Ronnie’s Podcast Breathe Love & Magic: https://open.spotify.com/show/2kSu4N05jGI3pHIke5WTEe?si=61cfce58f0a54d34 Connect with Ronnie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nevertoolate4love/ Ronnie is Certified Coach, a Reiki Master, and Intuitive Healer who is known for getting to the heart of the matter quickly to help clients move past blocks, love yourself, and attract love with a quality man. She is the author of six books, her Amazon Bestseller Is He the One? Find Mr. Right by Spotting Mr. Wrong, sold more than 17,000 copies. You can find all her books and audios on her Amazon Author Page.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host Lauren Smith is a speaker and author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Today's episode is for anyone who cares way too much about other people’s opinions and perceptions. I am really excited to introduce to you marketing expert Jazelle Foster. I invited her on the show to get her hot take on how identity plays into how we may subconsciously market ourselves to a prospective partner, whether that's on a dating app or just simply in our overall identity. And I even more deeply wanted to explore how the identity that we show to the world shifts when we start to step into a more authentic sexuality. Jazelle explains that attracting the person that we want truly hinges on our ability to allow our most authentic identity, our most authentic version of ourselves to shine through as brightly as possible. By the end of the episode, you'll learn not only why we stay in identities that aren't in alignment with our deepest desires, but how to say eff it to ALL of it! So that we can say, “Actually, I'm allowed and safe to step into who I am!” It’s recognizing that you don’t need to act out a role in order to be loved!   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Jazelle 🏳️‍🌈 Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jazellesartistry Follow on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jazellesartistry/ Get Jazelle’s Relationship Questions list here: https://optimistic-innovator-8297.ck.page/dde8a648bd Jazelle Foster is the powerhouse behind Creatives Meet Marketing and a shining light in the LGBTQ+ community. Known for their authentic TikTok dialogues on navigating 'baby gay' experiences, they're here to share their insights on love and relationships. Learn more at https://www.creativesmeetmarketing.com/   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host Lauren Smith is a speaker and author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Have you been thinking about ethical non-monogamy. Maybe you’re single and ready to update your online dating profile to say ‘polyamorous’. Or perhaps you’ve been dating someone for a while but have a deep craving to love on other partners as well. Today Somatics Coach JereAnn Wagner explains how she communicated her desires for ethical non-monogamy with her husband. She shares strategies she uses to navigate a long-distance relationship with a female partner, being a kickass mom to her two boys, and learning to let go of what other people think about her choices. She helps us embrace the fluidity of desire and to give ourselves permission to put our needs first. By the end of this talk, you will not only learn more about how an ethical non-monogomous relationship works, but you’ll feel inspired to let go of the fear of judgement and instead accept the love you have been craving    🎤🎬 Queer Love & Dating Summit Check out JereAnn's talk in the Queer Love & Dating Summit! Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this on-demand summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700! Get access here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit 🏳️‍🌈 Connect with JereAnn 🏳️‍🌈 Jere-Ann Elizabeth Wagner is a queer, poly, somatic therapist who has studied NLP, Sex And Kink, attachment styles, and Energy. She holds space for clients to embrace the perfection that they are and live an intentional, fulfilling life. View Website Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please SUBSCRIBE so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.   💃 About Your Host Lauren Smith (she/her) is a professional speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.  

Did you believe your bullies growing up? Maybe you internalized some of the mean things they said to you, so much so that you became your own inner bully?  With all that pain and constant judgement, it’s no wonder if you learned to cope by numbing yourself with drugs, alcohol, netflix, whatever! After a while, it’s easy to lose touch with who you even are anymore. You start to think that your “authentic self’ is bad or wrong and that it’s not safe to show that part of yourself to anyone. But what if the exact opposite were true? Turns out, being your authentic self is the only way to get the deep fulfilling love you seek. So how do you step into authenticity when it feels scary af? Today LGBTQ+ coach and guest speaker in the Queer Love & Dating Summit Michael C. Wearing shares his story of recovery from alcohol addiction and the many paths he took to rediscover authentic love in his life. He talks about the strategies we can all use to heal from the past and start loving yourself now, no matter what your inner bully says.  By the end of this episode, you will learn many different ways to own your authentic self and feel worthy of a healthy love.    🎤🎬 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Check out the unedited version of Michael's talk in the Queer Love & Dating Summit! Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Michael C. Wearing 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.instagram.com/michaelcwearing/ https://www.michaelcwearing.com/   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please SUBSCRIBE so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.   💃 About Your Host Lauren Smith (she/her) is a professional speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

TRIGGER WARNING: Molestation, rape, and domestic abuse mentioned. Today’s episode is for anyone who grew up in a strict religious home. Or maybe you just grew up as a woman in this effed-up society, because that’s traumatizing enough! Basically, this episode is for you if any of the following beliefs have stopped you from claiming your highest love: Women make men do bad things. We are naturally shameful for being sexual creatures. The most honorable role for a woman to be a wife and mother. It’s selfish to make your other desires or needs a priorty. Sex is for having children. Anything outside of that for pleasure is shameful.  Or the big one: I did something wrong, and it’s totally my fault. When we grow up learning a very black and white system of beliefs as children, it’s impossible not to carry them through into our adult relationships. And even if, on some level, even if we have chosen to create new beliefs, we are plagued by a shame that even weekly confession can’t treat. But what if the mindset work isn’t about the specific religious beliefs themselves? What if instead, the real flex is in changing the way you relate to your own shame? Today self-belief and anxiety coach Taryn Raine explains the subtle ways religious trauma can impact you as an adult and the connections you make, along with what to do with this awareness. It turns out that being raised in a strict traditional religion, like evangelical in Taryn’s case, causes developmental issues thanks to some hefty built-in trauma. Learn the steps that Taryn took to let self-love be stronger than her shame. 💪 By the end of this episode, you might begin to see that the entire idea of shame is utter bullsh*t. You are the only one who gets to determine your worthiness. We all belong in this universal dance of light, dark, chaos, and harmony. There is no such thing as judgement when you appreciate your beauty in all its expressions.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please SUBSCRIBE so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Taryn Raine (she/her) 🏳️‍🌈 Follow on Instagram View Website Taryn is a multi-passionate entrepreneur who runs a yoga wellness platform, coaching business, and business support agency. She specializes in helping women quiet the voice of self-doubt in order to embrace rebellious self-belief toward their dream business or lifestyle. More recently, she has started helping overwhelmed entrepreneurs to reduce perfectionism, build support in their businesses, and hire their first team members. Taryn travels the world full-time, loves to have deep conversations (enneagram 4), and brings tarot cards to house parties.   💃 About Your Host  Lauren Smith (she/her) is a professional speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.  

Today's episode features guest host Taylor Aelina of the Spiritual Thots podcast.  She and I are total woo-woo geeks, and we talk a lot about energy and how our energies come into play when we're dating. We talk about things that I normally don't talk about, so it'll be fresh and exciting for you. I share with Taylor my insights on the vibration of love, how we can be in a healthy relationship, be in the vibes that feel good, what is acceptance in all of this, and more. By the end of the episode, you'll have a new perspective on energies when it comes to dating.    🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Taylor 🏳️‍🌈 Check out Taylor's Spiritual Thots podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4IijfYcKnRb3aILpYMu0C1?si=86f0faccd4494930 Or on IG: https://www.instagram.com/tayloraelina/ ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.  🎁 A Gift for You Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop to break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/ 💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

It’s hard enough to put your sexual needs into words, let alone put them on the table for someone to reject or accept. But what if communicating your sexy desires has more to do with respect than anything else? Today Pleasure Coach Whitni Miller explains how it’s not so much about finding somebody that’s a perfect sexually compatible match, but rather it’s about learning how you can both show up for each other to find the place where you meet in the middle AND have both of your core needs met.  Whitni gives us answers to some of the biggest sex and dating questions like: Why is it so hard to talk about sex? Spoiler alert: it has to do with worthiness! What things should we be talking about to a prospective sexual partner? When is it the right time to bring up sex while dating? By the end of this episode, you will naturally start speaking up more about your sexual needs sooner than later because you’ll understand why these conversations are so important! Clear sex communication gives both people information so they can consent to the type of relationship they choose to build together.   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Whitni 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.instagram.com/bde.moves/ https://www.tiktok.com/@bdemoves?lang=en    🎤🎬 Queer Love & Dating On-Demand Summit Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this on-demand virtual event! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve!    💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Today's episode is for anyone who grew up in a home where there were strict expectations about who you should date or marry. Perhaps you felt like you were judged or criticized if you loved someone or something that was “unapproved.” And maybe you learned to be just as judgey, constantly nitpicking potential partners and holding them to extremely high standards.  This can make the entire dating process feel suffocating. Like you're not free to actually follow your heart's desire. There's too much pressure to find your perfect match to keep everybody else happy!   But what if the answer isn't in somehow surviving all of this pressure to one day, hopefully, find this person that is the only one that everyone will approve of? What if instead, the peace that you're seeking is found in giving yourself permission? To love whoever and whatever you want. Today, author, speaker, and coach Jaymin Patel explains several mindset shifts that have allowed him to embody what I'm calling Buddha dating. Jaymin doesn't just date his wife, Eri Kardos. He dates other men, women, his matcha lattes, and even the breeze! His love story is a lesson in stepping away from the fears that keep us disconnected, and instead bravely choosing to become Love, to become one with all the beauty that this life has to offer.    🎤🎬 Queer Love & Dating On-Demand Summit Check out Jaymin’s Summit talk! Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this on-demand virtual event! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   🏳️‍🌈 More About Jaymin Patel 🏳️‍🌈 In addition to being a (TEDx) speaker who has delivered 500+ paid talks and being an author of 8 books, Jaymin is a highly sought-after, heart-driven, no-fluff, intuitive coach who has been hired by powerful leaders in the spiritual & transformational communities, as well as top leaders of corporations around the world like Kraft, Unilever, JPMorgan Chase, and Citibank. Jaymin is a dad of two incredible kids and shares a beautiful conscious relationship with his wife Eri Kardos (who was last week’s Date in Peace guest.) Jaymin and his family are currently living on the tropical island of Bali where he hosts private retreats for his clients. https://www.jayminjpatel.com/ https://www.jayminjpatel.com/freegift https://www.instagram.com/iamjayminjpatel/ ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.  💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.  

Today we will talk about why we have an unhelpful tendency to dim our light in relationships.  Sometimes it can feel like we're just too much. So we try to tone ourselves down, thinking that if we are. Shining so brightly from our hearts, really living in our passion, and showing up fully joyful that it could discourage some people or push them away. But what if this behavior of making ourselves small was actually stopping us from finding the authentic, deep connections that we really crave? What if the safest way for us to find love is to show up Shining bright af. Today my guest, speaker, author, and coach Eri Kardos is going to share with us. Some insights on this very particular quote that I found on her website, “So much of the pain I see comes from people choosing to dim their light and withhold their love.” By the end of the episode, you’ll better understand the reasons why we tend to make ourselves small, and how to step into your full truth. 🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Eri 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.relearnlove.com/ https://www.instagram.com/coacherikardos/ Eri’s Gift to You: https://www.relearnlove.com/navigating-conflict/   Eri Kardos is the founder and lead coach of Relearn Love, LLC. Eri's specialty is helping people elevate their relationships for deeper, more intimate and fulfilling connections. Her science and somatic-based methods spark old and new passion, take you to new places of intimacy, and melt away the patterns of conflict. She helps you learn new ways to communicate and connect so that you can create the partnership you dreamed of when you started out together. She is one of the most highly-referred relationship coaches globally, working with clients across 6 continents ranging from top tech executives and Hollywood celebrities to ordinary people living extraordinary lives.  Eri is the author of the best-selling book, Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship. Eri is a former leadership development professional at Amazon.com. She received her MBA in Global Leadership from the #1 international business school in the world. Eri is the mama of two incredible children and shares a powerful conscious relationship with her husband, Jaymin Patel. They have a chapter of their own love story featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Miracle of Love. Eri and her family are currently living on the tropical island of Bali, where she hosts private retreats for her clients from around the world.    🎤🎬 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Check out Eri's Summit talk! Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Today’s episode is for anyone starting to lose hope in ‘the one.’ Maybe you feel like time is running out, and you’re tempted to just pick someone who is good enough and make it work. If all relationships take work, how do you know if you’re investing in the right person as opposed to settling with someone who isn’t meeting your deepest needs for a fulfilling love? And what even is ‘the One’ anyway? It feels so undefinable, like an unrealistic fantasy leftover from all those Disney movies we grew up on. But what if ‘the one’ wasn’t a singular human fated to ‘make you happy’? What if, instead, it’s about finding the one type of person who can meet your deepest needs for a fulfilling relationship?  Today mental & physical health coaches Katie and Jaime Filer help us understand how to get clear on our desires so we can resonate with ‘the one’ we’ve been waiting for. You’ll hear the heartwarming story about how Jaime went from being engaged in a hetero relationship to eventually meeting her current wife, Katie.  They explain what it looks and feels like when you’ve actually found your person. Plus, how to know if you’re settling. They each came with their own imperfections, including alcoholism, depression, and poor anger management. Yet, underneath it all, they were still a perfect match in terms of meeting each other's deeper needs. In other words, ‘the one’ might not look like the prince or princess you’re expecting. Turns out, to recognize them, you’ve got to get clear on what you’re looking for. Theirs is a story we need to hear again and again. It’s a welcome reminder that our happily ever afters are ours to create through intentional awareness. By the end of this episode, your faith in 'the One' will be restored, and not because of empty optimism. When you take responsibility for the people who have access to you and live a life in alignment with your values, you’ll open up space for the one type of person you’ve been waiting for.    🎤🎬 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Hear Jaime & Katie diver deeper into how to find “the One” in their free talk in the upcoming Queer Love & Dating Virtual Summit. Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!   Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit 🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Katie & Jaime Filer 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.instagram.com/jaim91/ https://www.instagram.com/_katiefiler/ Jaime Filer is a published fitness model, motivational speaker, and mental / physical health coach. She has a degree in Kinesiology, and has been an online personal trainer for over 17 years with thousands of transformations under her belt. She specializes in helping women overcome overwhelm, reduce anxiety, and increase their confidence through fitness and nutrition.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.  

Do you feel like you work way too hard to make things work with the wrong people? Maybe you self-sacrifice thinking if you just love your partner enough, you’ll get what you need. Or do you cling to how things could be because it feels better than believing the truth of your incompatibility? But what if you could find a way to shut that shit down before it starts? What if you could see your self-sabotaging behaviors asap? Today I’ll be reposting a recent podcast interview with guest host Jaime Messina from her podcast The Stories We Tell. I’ll be sharing the story of how getting dumped in Disneyworld turned me gay. No, just kidding, I was already gay. But it helped me find the motivation to finally come out of the closet. You’re going to hear all about my personal experience of learning the hard way that I played a huge role in my own dating struggles. I’ll be sharing some of my favorite mindful dating tips, including how to stay in the truth of the moment instead of spiraling into a toxic fantasy future, how to let all parts of you exist, and how to build worthiness by consistently choosing yourself for a change.  By the end of this episode, you will feel more confident that if you do end up with a match that isn’t 100% doing it for you, you’ll be able to notice it asap and escape the normal attachment and unworthiness drama that creates unnecessary suffering in your dating life.    🎤🎬🏳️‍🌈 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Catch my guest host Jaime Messina talk about the "3 Secrets to Attract Your Ideal Partner: Concrete Strategies to Help You Increase Dating Confidence and Magnetize Your Person Into Your Life." Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Are you the kind of person who low-key dreads certain social situations? Maybe you get so nervous before parties or a date that you find excuses to cancel. Yet, the confusing part is around your close friends and family, you have no problem being your crazy extroverted self. If the average unpredictable social encounter stresses you the eff out, you might have some social anxiety brewing beneath the surface. Chances are it’s keeping you safe, but it’s also keeping you stuck. You might even feel like, on some level, you’re missing out on things in life, as if you’re chance for happiness is constantly passing you by. But what if you knew a way to break free safely and at your own pace?  Today comedian, influencer, and author Haley Faulkner explains how to slowly take back your power over social anxiety by consistently making bold, courageous choices. Turns out that the way you may have grown up responding to social stress is neither your identity nor your personality. You don’t have to let fear and worries stop you from putting yourself out there so you can meet your person. By the end of this episode, you will learn several strategies you can use to steadily unravel the ropes currently tying your heart in knots and instead lasso yourself the forbidden fruit that your social anxiety has convinced you to avoid at all costs. You’ll feel empowered to pursue love, no matter what.    🎤🎬 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Haley 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.instagram.com/honey.heart__ Haley Faulkner is an author, influencer, and comedian who is driven by her passion for empowering the queer community to live their most authentic and fulfilling lives. With a unique blend of humor, creativity, and wisdom, Haley has made it her mission to inspire and uplift others.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.  🎁 A Gift for You  Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop to break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/ 💃 About Your Host Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.   **Disclaimer** Neither myself nor my guest today are therapists or practitioners of any kind. The advice, opinions, and techniques offered in this episode are not meant to be replacements for medical treatment. We are not attempting to nor are qualified to treat clinical anxiety. Rather, we hope to validate the emotions and experiences of social anxiety as it shows up while dating. Please seek the help of a trained professional is you feel anxiety is negatively impacting your life.

Do you wish you could manifest the love of your life? Maybe you’ve tried before, visualizing your little heart out or spewing out affirmations into the ethers, but still no sign of your twin flame? What if there is something you’ve been missing? Is there a shift in your manifestation ritual that can bring you more success? Today we're going to hear one of the sweetest love stories about being able to manifest the healthy relationship that I bet most of you listening have been deeply wanting for quite some time.  LGBTQ+ Mentors and fiances Amber & Kayte are going to share how the universe conspired to bring them together. Katye, who lives in Nova Scotia, met Amber through Instagram, who lived all the way in Washington. Hear how, together, they overcame many struggles, including Amber leaving a previous partner for Kayte, and eventually finding themselves together in Canada, happily engaged to be married. By the end of this episode, you will hear over a dozen strategies to find more success in manifesting your soul love and step into your highest timeline.   🎤🎬 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Kayte & Amber 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.instagram.com/_innovativemindz/ Or catch them in the upcoming Queer Love & Dating Virtual Summit Amber (they/them) and Kayte (she/her) are a powerful team committed to guiding  LGBTQ+ humans towards unlocking their full potential. Amber brings a wealth of experience as an LGBTQ+ mindset mentor. Kayte, a Registered Nurse and Certified Quantum Energy Healer. With this unique blend of skills and knowledge, they offer a transformative experience that empowers LGBTQ+ humans to reach their full potential and create the life they desire.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

🎤🎬 Free Queer Love & Dating Summit Go from single and stressing to happily partnered with this free 5-day summit! Attract your person faster with a little help from some expert coaches and speakers from the Queer Community! Sign up for access to over 8 hours of trainings and bonus downloadable valued over $700!  Register now: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/queer-love-summit   Do you become a different version of yourself in the honeymoon phase of a relationship? I mean, aside from generally being happier and hornier. I’m talking about how you might deprioritize friends or hobbies. You might be daydreaming about the potential of your new partner so much that you start missing red flags in the present moment.  But when the feel-good phase of the honeymoon phase ends out of nowhere, the truth of who you picked to date feels like a slap in the face. It’s almost like you can’t trust your choices when they keep leading you down this same painful path. Why is it so hard to choose people who are actually good for us? And why is it so easy to get wrapped up in the absolutely wrong people?!   Today I’m switching up the format a bit. I’m reposting a conversation I had with Coach Amanda Micallef on her "Empowered Women’s Podcast." We talk about how, instead of getting sucked into the dopamine high of the honeymoon phase, you can learn to stay grounded in what you actually deserve and need a compatible match. The truth is, when you develop the skills to be able to effectively vet a match while enjoying the honeymoon phase, there won’t be any rude awakenings later. If you’re with a compatible partner, the end of honeymoon phase will simply signal the start of a deeper, secure phase of your relationship. By the end of this episode, you will learn how to confidently navigate the honeymoon phase without wasting time, lowering your standards, or losing touch with who you are and what you deserve in a partner.   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Amanda Micallef 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.divinephysiques.com.au/socials-landing-page Or catch her in the upcoming Queer Love & Dating Virtual Summit Amanda Micallef is a qualified boxing and conditioning coach, host of The Empowered Women's Podcast: Debunking Relationships, aspiring actress and influencer. She launched The Empowered Women's Podcast in 2021 as a way to bring to the forefront the most complex relationship topics, that would help solve a lot of listeners relationship issues.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Are you a woman thinking about dating women? Maybe you’ve been swiping on both genders for a while, testing the waters, but haven’t been able to pull the trigger? Making the leap to openly and actively engage in the Queer Dating World can feel super intimidating. I mean, coming out itself is a HUGE decision, and sometimes it can help to go out on dates first to confirm those curiosities radiating from your panties. Girl, I’ve been there, and so have all three of my guests today. You’ll hear the raw, vulnerable stories of how they each navigated the transition out of straight dating and into living their most authentic love lives. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel less alone and inspired to honor your deepest desires.  First, you’ll learn how Gen Z Kate went from ‘meh’ with her long-term boyfriend to blissfully enjoying women. Then witness how a millennial human, Kit, navigated their gender journey alongside embracing their sexual needs. And finally, be emotionally invested as Gen X’er Eliza shares how she found the courage to divorce her husband and start a new queer life as a solo mom, all while serendipitously intertwining with her future wife over a slow ten-year build. While I love my journey and I have no real regrets, I often wonder how different my life would have looked if I came out earlier. My heart is truly and deeply honored to be able to bring these three beautiful souls together so that you don’t waste another moment stuck in a life that isn’t lighting you up on all levels.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Kate  Listen to the Happy to Be Here Podcast Kate (she/they) is the podcast host of Happy To Be Here. A podcast about your mid-20s in the 2020s: sexuality/gender identity, dating, dating apps, moving, and more. Kate is a lesbian, Libra, master's student, and she's always happy to be here.    🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Kit Sargent  https://www.instagram.com/sargent.says/ Kit Sargent, they/them. Mindset coach for LGBTQ+ adults. I help people learn how to live more authentically.   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Eliza Hill  Energetics and Intuitive Guide & Coach www.elizahillcoaching.com “I have learned how to grieve the past without judgment, release it, and rewrite a new story filled with alignment, honesty, and strength. By sharing my own journey, I share my own truth of my humanness in order to see and show how it is actually my power, and I guide others — through intuitive readings, coaching, and Human Design — on their own paths as they learn about and value who they are at any stage of life and how they are designed to live. In my work and my life, I show up to show others it is okay to learn how to be themselves, by living messily and openly, and I walk and support by example, as this is where love, curiosity, and inclusivity thrive.”   🎁 A Gift for You  Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop to break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/ 💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.  

Are you consistently dumbfounded by the insensitivity and immaturity of your exes? Maybe you tend to feel underappreciated, resentful, and taken advantage of. You feel like your needs are just too much. You could be a sensitive empath! And as such, you have unique dating struggles. A few other hallmarks of the empathic dater are a tendency to people-please, they have difficulty setting boundaries, and often making compassionate excuses for a partner’s repeated hurtful behavior. You likely find yourself attracting partners who are either emotionally unavailable, emotionally irresponsible, or just plain unpredictable.  I, too, am a sensitive empath, and trust me when I say there are effective tools and strategies for people like us. Imagine if you had the skills needed to protect your sensitive nature and feel safe with someone who deeply honors your emotional superpowers. Today writer and illustrator Rashad Malik Davis shares his insanely relatable story of growing up as the sensitive child of a volatile father and how it shaped his relationships. He gets real vulnerable about his trauma, and I absolutely love him for it! You’ll hear some great tips on avoiding emotionally unavailable partners, how to start putting your needs on the front burner, and when to know if your empathetic desire to help might actually be doing more harm than good. By the end of this episode, you will feel deeply proud to be a sensitive soul and you’ll feel empowered to unapologetically shine that beautiful emotional energy into the hearts of the ones who see its value.   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Rashad 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.ramalikillustrations.com/ Rashad Malik Davis is a writer and illustrator, his work focuses on diversity and inclusion, fantasy, empathy, and emotional literacy for young people and adults alike. In 2017, Chapter 1 of his Carefree Like Me series won the Best Indie Book Award in the Children’s category. Chapter 2 of the same series won the 2019 Best Indie Illustration Award as well.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    🎁 A Gift for You  Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop to break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/   💃 About Your Host Lauren Smith is a speaker and author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

I bet there’s at least a small part of you that carries some shame around sex. Maybe you, like me, believed the mean girls growing up who labeled sexually bold women as sluts or whores. You grew up hiding your most vibrant sexual self, pushing down any kinky or same-sex desires because you thought it would be 'bad' or 'wrong'. But how much happier would you be if you felt completely free to experience your unique pleasure without judgement, and uncover a red-hot sex life?  Whether you grew up masturbating at an early age or are only recently stepping into your sexual stride, this episode will help you to fully embrace your most authentic sexual self.  Today pleasure instigator and transformational leader Kayla Yoder shares how to let go of the shame or expectations keeping us from a truly orgasmic life. She explains how coming back into our bodies through sex is the first step to igniting a healing fire over our entire lives. Turns out we can use sex as a safe space to heal all areas of our lives. It’s not so much that you have to find the perfect partner to have great sex with, but rather it’s to focus on making sex great for you and, in turn, that will heal you and attract a great partner.    What you’ll hear: 💦 How to nourish your body & soul with sex. 🍑 How sex is uniquely suited to fulfill all five love languages. 👅 How solo pleasure can kick-start your sexual rebirth.  🍆 Using fuck yes energy to guide your body and soul for deeper love connections.   By the end of this episode, you will better understand how, when used with mindful intention, sex can heal your entire life!     🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Kayla 🏳️‍🌈 https://kaylayoder.com/free/ https://www.instagram.com/bykaylayoder/ Kayla is a pleasure instigator and transformational leader who helps men and women break out of their comfort zone in order to experience more freedom, joy and connection. Through speaking, writing and experiences, Kayla empowers people to live their lives one FUCK YES to the next.   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    🎁 A Gift for You  Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop to break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/   💃 About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.

Let’s face it, dating can be a huge time suck. Imagine how much time and energy you’ve spent on matches that never panned out. Or maybe you’ve just hit a wall with dating and are feeling overwhelmed with how to move forward or what to do differently.  But what if you could continue your dating search with better results and have hours of your life back each week?  Today Queer Dating Coach and matchmaker Kita Adams shares almost a dozen ways that we can find more dating success with more ease by welcoming in the support of a matchmaker. Learn all you ever wanted to know about how matchmaking works and how it can bring so much more peace into your dating life, like: Free up time for you to live your best life by passing the grunt work of dating, like swiping, vetting, and planning, off to your matchmaker,  Dating is safer when you have a middleman (or woman) shielding your contact info until after a successful first date. Escape the anxiety of having to say no to second dates. Your matchmaker will compassionately deliver your feedback instead. Your matchmaker will ensure you maintain high standards, stay true to your values, and will gently push you outside of your comfort zone. By the end of this episode you will see matchmaking through a completely new lens. It turns out matchmaking isn’t some quick fix where you are magically assigned your ‘perfect’ match. Rather, it’s about the skill and diligence of your matchmaker in unraveling who you are on a deep level in order to discover what you are really needing in a partner.   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Kita 🏳️‍🌈 https://www.queer-connections.com/ https://www.instagram.com/kitaadamscoaching/ Kita is a Queer Dating Coach and Matchmaker. I help queer women, nonbinary and trans people balance their head with their heart and learn effective tools and strategies to date intentionally so their next dating experience is their LAST!   ❤️ Did you enjoy this episode? ❤️ Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    About Your Host  Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.   🎁A Gift for You 🎁 Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop to break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/  

Do you feel like on some level your anxiety is holding you back from living your best love life? Maybe you feel like your anxiety is in the driver's seat, making you do or say some cringy things that haven’t resulted in a healthy love. It’s almost like on some level you’re willing to self-sabotage your life to keep your anxious feelings at bay. But what if you knew how to interrupt this process and take back conscious, calm control of your dating trajectory? Mindset and empowerment coach Jaime Messina explains how the solution isn’t in getting rid of anxiety. Rather, it’s about learning the tools to manage it. Jaime shares some of her best tips for how to intercept the default anxiety spiral, all while entertaining us with vulnerable stories from her own love life.  Listen in to hear the skills you need to expose dating anxiety before it sabotages your dreams for a healthy, long-lasting love.   🏳️‍🌈 Connect with Jaime 🏳️‍🌈 https://jaimecoaches.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jaimemessina/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1803540506644164 https://www.tiktok.com/@thejaimemessinamindset   Did you enjoy this episode? Please subscribe, rate, and review so we can get even bigger and better guests to help us all find the sexy, fulfilling love we deeply deserve.    ❤️ About Your Host ❤️ Lauren is a speaker, author of "The Mindful Dating Journal: Find a Healthy Love that Lasts," and creator of the free MettaDate Journal mobile app. She combines her personal success dating story with her professional mindfulness training to help singles ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they deeply deserve.   🎁A Gift for You 🎁 Want to stop attracting toxic partners? The solution is to identify your unique Toxic Dating Loop & break the cycle. Find out how in the free Escape Your Toxic Dating Loop Toolkit here: https://www.mettadatestudio.com/dating-loops For even more dating tips, check me out on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mettadate/