Dating Sucks

Liv Schreiber is back on the podcast, and we’re getting real about dating, love, and connection after the wedding glow fades. From meeting people IRL and surviving dating burnout to choosing the right partner when life gets hard, Liv shares the lessons that actually matter. We talk green flags, why opposites work, and why being yourself beats playing it cool—plus bold takes on weddings, money, friendships, and the pressure to do things “the right way.” ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Sunny, a Syracuse junior who’s doing it all — media, Greek life, friendships, and dating — and somehow staying deeply self-aware through it. We get real about college dating culture, situationships, exclusivity, and how proximity can blur the line between liking someone and just being attached. Sunny opens up about toxic dynamics, knowing when to walk away, and learning to choose herself before a relationship. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Cohosts for Life, Jake and I catch up on a very full week from our 20 week challenge updates to Barkley’s unexpected ER visit, my first real ski trip in years, and why I am now determined to get Jake on the mountain. We also talk content burnout, engagement slumps, and a listener dating follow-up.  I'm matching donations this week for Planned Parenthood of Greater NY! https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/ids ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Brandon, from the episode “How to Not Lose Hope That Your Person Is Still Out There,” is back today to share what’s shifted since we last spoke. We talk about dating in your late 30s after divorce, dating app burnout, asking someone out in real life, and the quiet pressure of timelines around marriage and kids. Brandon opens up about holding hope while preparing for different futures, redefining success, and learning how to build a meaningful life—even when it doesn’t look the way you imagined. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Chris Moore, psychology professor and author of The Power of Guilt, to unpack why guilt shows up so intensely in dating, friendships, and relationships, and why it’s not always a bad thing. We talk about the difference between guilt and shame, why women tend to feel guilt more deeply, how guilt can keep us stuck in dating situations longer than we should, and when it’s actually a signal for healthy relationship repair versus something to let go of. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 Jake and I talk through our 20-week challenges, from ambitious reading goals to posting trial reels and what consistency actually looks like in real life. I open up about my ongoing social media identity questions, the pressure to “pick a lane.” Plus, we answer listener questions, including mixed signals after a first date, getting ghosted, deciding if you’re ready for a dog while single, and navigating a potential relationship with someone mid-career pivot. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Blair West joins me to talk about timing, chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. We get into slow burns, dating someone who isn’t “ready,” and how to protect your heart without closing it off. Blair shares her real-life love story—from college crush to marriage—and what partnership looks like beyond the honeymoon phase. This one’s about choosing someone who shows up when life gets hard, not just when it’s fun. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Liz Woods to talk about love, long-term relationships, and what it’s really like to grow up with your partner instead of dating around. We get into meeting your person young, navigating years of long distance, and how friendships shift when you’re the only one not in the dating trenches. Liz shares what she’s learned watching her single friends date, why being “chosen” matters more than chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this conversation will make you rethink how we define relationship success. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this week's Cohosts For Life ep, we’re sharing a recent conversation about mental load, showing up differently in a relationship, and what it actually means to “step up.” Jake takes the lead on the mic as we talk about unlearning old patterns, sharing the doing, and why small, intentional actions matter more than big promises. We also introduce our new 20-week challenge: one hard thing each week, on purpose. From deleting social apps and waking up early to cooking all meals at home, journaling daily, and pushing ourselves out of autopilot. DM us or drop a Spotify comment of more challenge ideas you have. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s the first episode of 2026 and we’re starting with a real conversation about dating, happiness, and letting go of the timeline we thought we were on. Stella Stephanopoulos joins me to talk about being single without spiraling, why wanting a relationship isn’t the same as needing one, and what dating actually looks like when you stop chasing validation. We get into red flags, confidence, approaching people IRL, and why building a full life comes first. If you’re entering the new year single and questioning everything, this one’s for you. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In our annual end-of-year episode, Camila Vola turns the mic on me for an honest reflection on a year defined by slowing down. We talk about career pressure, burnout, marathon setbacks, marriage, and the tension between real impact and chasing numbers. I share what I learned about boundaries, growth, and choosing meaning over metrics, plus the dating advice I’d give my single self going into 2026. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this iconic Cohosts episode, we’re sharing your parents’ unreal meet-cute stories — from subway run-ins and blind dates to bars, churches, dorms, and everything in between. We also prep you for the biggest dating app day of 2026 with practical, low-pressure tips to help you show up intentionally without burning yourself out. Finally, we recap the first few days of our Florida visit with our parents and settling into vacation mode. Get $10 off your Brick with this link ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jen Lauren is back for an honest conversation about what really happens after the wedding hype fades. Jen opens up about the emotional side of wedding planning, navigating family dynamics, money, and boundaries, and why the process can feel more traumatic than anyone prepares you for. We also talk running, wellness trends that are overrated, and what actually matters when you’re searching for your person. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Lena Sisco, former military interrogator and author of The 13 Power Moves of Dark Psychology, to break down how to spot lies, manipulation, and red flags early—especially in dating. We talk about why confidence can be misleading, how manipulators control conversations, and the subtle signs someone is lying or withholding information. Lena shares practical tools for dating apps, first dates, and relationships, including when to trust your gut, what questions to ask, and when walking away is the safest choice. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This Cohosts for Life episode turns into Jake’s year in review, a Jets fandom therapy session, and a brainstorming spiral about the podcasts we’d start next year if motivation magically appeared. We cover the highs and lows of the year, the busiest week we’ve had in months, and just how bad we are at small talk. ALL links here (submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by my friend Emily Griminger to talk about dating in your 30s when your life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Emily shares how leaving the corporate world to start her own company changed the way she dates, what it’s been like navigating weddings and big milestones without a partner, and why being on a different timeline than her friends has forced her to get more honest about what she actually wants. We get into dating while building a business, why she stopped talking herself into second and third dates, the pressure to “be less picky,” and how loneliness can coexist with being proud of your life. Follow Emily on IG @getsemmi and TT @getsemmi and learn more about Semmi at getsemmi.com. Code SOP15 for 15% off! ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Dr. Courtney Alexander — OB-GYN and women’s health expert — to break down what women actually need to know about fertility, birth control, and reproductive health in their 20s and 30s. We talk about the biggest myths fueling anxiety around age, timelines, and “falling behind,” and why so much of the information online is doing more harm than good. Dr. Alexander explains what fertility really is (and isn’t), why being healthy doesn’t automatically mean getting pregnant will be easy, and how much age truly matters. We get into PCOS, irregular periods, unexplained infertility, and why birth control isn’t the enemy it’s been made out to be — including the benefits no one talks about. We also cover egg freezing, emergency contraception (including Plan B and IUDs), what actually helps when you’re thinking about having kids someday, and how to be proactive without spiraling. ALL links here (Shopping links, submit a question, sign up for dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake and I kick things off with life updates, including his big winnings at the casino, an influencer event I actually enjoyed, a running injury update, and a Taylor Swift debate. Then we get into listener questions about dating when conversations feel one-sided, wondering if you’re being too picky on early dates, and what to do when you end things with a genuinely nice guy and immediately regret it. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her finally feel safe again. Maddy opens up about the night a man broke into her bedroom, why healing wasn’t as simple as “moving on,” and how hypervigilance shaped her day-to-day life, dating, and friendships. We get into how how meeting someone who understood her triggers changed everything, including the moment she knew her now-boyfriend Jake was different. We talk trusting your intuition, dating after trauma, learning your needs, and why sometimes the person you’re meant to be with starts as your best friend.  ALL links here (Shopping links, submit a question, sign up for dating coaching & more)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Emily Durham, recruiter, creator, and host of Clock In, to talk about the surprising overlap between careers and dating in your 20s and 30s. Emily shares how leaving corporate shifted the way she dates, why confidence at work affects confidence in relationships, and the patterns she sees in both job searches and love lives. We get into the pressure of wanting to be chosen, the fear of asking for what you want, and why so many people settle in both careers and relationships. Emily also reacts to listener stories, including dating coworkers, holiday-party hookups, and the office crush that went very wrong. ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!)  Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today!  If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.