Happiness Simplified

Episode 28 Going All In- Interview With Jeff Kee

Episode 27 A Timely Conversation About Life and Death

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In this episode, Dai and Kayvon talk about their sleeping and waking habits and how it affects their productivity. Whether you’re an early riser or have a set time of how many hours you need to sleep each night, whether you like it or not, these patterns do affect our productivity. Kayvon and Dai share tips and research regarding sleep cycles and how to get the most out of your sleep to boost your productivity.  Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:39 – Dai and Kayvon talk about what happened to them in January 01:44 – Kayvon launched his business and is currently working on a 30-day productivity challenge 03:12 – Today’s topic is about productivity and sleep 03:47 – Dai is a productive person and an early riser 04:09 – Dai has been an early riser for almost 22 years now 04:20 – When he turned 18, Dai moved away from home to Vancouver 05:00 – Dai realized while in college that he is a morning person 06:12 – Dai’s sleeps for 6 hours 06:50 – Dai has 2 uninterrupted hours every single morning 07:33 – Dai is working on a book that includes him sharing about his sleeping and waking habits and how to find more time in your life 08:07 – It is important take care of yourself 08:35 – Dai is programmed to wake up early 08:46 – Kayvon experimented with different amounts of sleep and found out that 6 hours works for him 09:30 – Kayvon started getting up at the moment he wakes up and it has worked like magic 11:00 – Dai has a routine after waking up that includes making coffee and checking his emails 12:12 – Dai writes content every morning, including what he sends to his email subscribers the next day on Whole Life Fitness Manifesto 12:50 – Dai then spends time with his family and continues to work in batches 13:40 – Kayvon talks about focus time and how to have a rhythm for the day 14:07 – For a lot of people, the morning is usually spent in content creation 14:40 – Kayvon influenced Dai in certain aspects 14:45 – Kayvon and Dai talk about the Sleepy Time 15:15 – Kayvon discusses the different sleep cycles 15:44 – On average, the normal human sleep cycle is 90 minutes 16:17 – People need completed sleep cycles to have a good rest 16:47 – An unfinished sleep cycle are the times when we suddenly wake up and leave us groggy 18:22 – Kayvon uses Sleepy Time to compute what time he needs to sleep and wake up to have completed sleep cycles 20:18 – Dai talks about the biological aspects of sleeping 21:10 – There is a direct correlation between performance, stress, happiness, and the heart rate variability 22:13 – Another feature of Sleepy Time is that it gives you the time you should wake up if you want to sleep at that moment 22:44 – Sleepy Time can be used together with heart rate variability 23:09 – Dai encourages everyone to rise early and get things done early in the day 23:26 – “Eat the frog” 25:11 – Connect with Dai Manuel 25:21 – Connect with Kayvon K 25:48 – Kayvon is born during the Year of the Rooster, and 2017 is his year! 3 Key Points: Having a sleep pattern can be beneficial for setting a rhythm for you and your work. Being an early riser has its perks, like having more uninterrupted hours. It is important to finish your much needed sleep cycles—which is around 90 minutes.

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In this episode, Kayvon and Dai talk about the continuous battle we have in sticking to our goals. We set goals—like taking care of our health, for instance—and all too soon, we cave and have a doughnut or postpone that next workout for another day. So how can we set the habits that lead us in the right direction? Kayvon and Dai discuss the do’s and the don’ts for how to follow your goals to success and use their own personal goals as an example. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:28 – Introduction to the podcast 00:50 – Kayvon and Dai talk about the hockey game they went to the night before 01:21 – Kayvon missed the goal because he went to the restroom 02:30 – Dai shares how he had ideas for future episodes when they were at the game 03:07 – Dai talks about his six cities, Canadian tour 03:48 – Dai shares the importance of prioritizing our health 04:38 – Dai welcomes listeners and explains what they can expect from the podcasts 05:30 – Kayvon shares how priorities can change when life happens 06:11 – Kayvon refers to the book The Achievement Habit by Bernard Roth, that discusses how to apply “design thinking” to your personal life; stop wishing and start doing 07:06 – “Most of the time we are coming up with reasons, because we think we should appear reasonable” 07:48 – Kayvon asks people to answer the question, “Who are the three people they really admire?” 08:22 – Dai answers Steve Jobs, Simon Sinek, and his wife, Christie 09:09 – Are what these people do, in order to be admired, considered reasonable? 10:25 – “Our priorities are our priorities, everything else comes secondary” 11:17 – It is OKAY to be unreasonable 11:58 – Kayvon shares about his goal to be healthy and how he is currently training in Crossfit 12:15 – It might seem unreasonable for others that he spends 3 hours in the gym, but it is his priority 12:50 – Dai shares that it’d be easier to not do things 14:30 – Maintaining health is more critical, especially when travelling 15:05 – It is important to pay attention to the emotional connection of feeling great after working out 15:43 – “Do not rely on your will power” 16:21 – Kayvon’s 1st piece of advice is to stick to a routine and commit yourself to that 16:39 – When you travel, you do not have access to the food you have at home 16:58 – If you made a commitment to yourself that you are not eating sugar, you should commit to that even when you are travelling 17:52 – Sometimes the commitment is about exercising and you can start by taking small steps 19:15 – Turn your commitments into doable, small steps and you may eventually do what you intended in the first place 20:01 – Those are the little victories and winning is contagious 20:24 – Making a daily to-do list and remind yourself about your goals 21:00 – Kayvon completely covers the item on his list with his pen, expressing his total dominance over the task 21:50 – Start small in your goals like adding whole, unprocessed food to your diet 22:45 – The Japanese have “kaizen” which means continuous improvement 23:35 – Constant improvement of 1% adds up at the end of the year 23:55 – Dai mentions how his friend, Jeff Keith, sets up realistic milestones for his team and engages in constant communication with them 24:37 – “How can I create an opportunity to win for myself” 25:15 – Kayvon’s 2nd piece of advice is have a structure and prepare yourself for the things that might happen in order to stick to your goal 26:10 – Kayvon’s 3rd tip is have a community or a support group 27:33 – Dai talks about the tribe he created 27:55 – A member of the tribe shared about her daughter having negative feelings about exercise, but the parents still did the workouts and she eventually joined them 29:21 – What we do for ourselves has an impact on the people around us 29:30 – Dai uses social media to inspire, motivate, and instill confidence 30:20 – “In helping ourselves, we can help others” 31:40 – “If you want to change the people around you, change the people around you” 32:00 – Kayvon and Dai would appreciate feedback and your reviews 3 Key Points: It is important to prioritize your health and stick to that goal. Create a routine and commit to it—this is better than relying on willpower to achieve your goals. Take small measurable steps in achieving your goals—each victory will fuel the next.

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. Part of being human is having negative thoughts creep in and cloud your mind – these are the “dragons” that hinder people from reaching their goals. But, should these thoughts have all the power? How do we counteract the negativity? Listen as Kayvon and Dai takes us into a deeper discussion of The Imposter Syndrome and provide you with tips on how you can control your dragons. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:28 – Introduction to the podcast 01:27 – Dai and Kayvon met at Crossfit 02:09 – Today’s episode is about the Imposter Syndrome 02:30 – Imposter Syndrome is the situation people get into when they set out to pursue a goal or dream 03:00 – Steven Pressfield’s books, Do the Work and The War of Art explain the Imposter Syndrome 03:25 – As human beings, the next thing that comes to our minds after positive thoughts is negative thoughts 04:15 – You can’t get away from negative thoughts, but you can learn to control them 04:30 – “Defeat the resistance” 05:11 – The Imposter Syndrome causes entrepreneurs to think they are not able enough to achieve their goals 06:03 – Kayvon shares about his experience with the Imposter Syndrome 07:14 – The Imposter Syndrome is just an illusion 07:47 – Dai alludes to the book, The Secret 08:48 – The first step in dealing with Imposter Syndrome is knowing that it isn’t the only voice you hear or have 09:39 – Acknowledge the voice, first, before dealing with it 10:09 – Kayvon explains that people get inspired from biographies because people see the “human” inside those success stories 10:32 – The Domino Effect is like a vortex 11:07 – Life is like a spiral that goes either up or down 11:49 – All you have to do is to change the first direction of your path 12:39 – “Remember, it’s not as big and scary as it feels” 13:14 – “Remember your previous successes in life” 14:04 – Dai wrote an article about his experience running his first half-marathon, this year 14:40 – How you deal with the Imposter Syndrome is totally up to you 15:46 – Dai shares about Kayvon’s mental fortitude 17:39 – Kayvon heard about his mental fortitude from a lot of different people over the past year 18:02 – What Kayvon thinks of himself is the exact opposite of what people think about him 19:36 – Kayvon shares a conversation he had with his daughter, in 2013 21:30 – Catch that positive thought in yourself BEFORE the negative thoughts creep in 22:53 – Turn your dream to a vision, and then, a plan 23:28 – Kayvon sets a criteria that defines success in order to bring clarity to his mind 25:27 – It’s just one day at a time 26:12 – If what you are doing is public, backing out is so much harder to do 28:59 – There are real moments of self-doubt, but that’s when you have to remind yourself that you CAN do it 29:30 – Dai believes it comes down to self-introspection 31:45 – Reach out to people when you need help 32:49 – Reach out and leave us a comment on iTunes! 3 Key Points: We’re only human—it’s normal to have negative thoughts and experience the Imposter Syndrome at different times in your life. You cannot eliminate the possibility of having negative thoughts, BUT you can learn to control them. Know yourself and believe that you CAN do whatever you set out to do.

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. As our stuff builds and accumulates in our homes, our lives, our SUVs, etc., the act of purging and paring down these items may not be as easy as it seems. Kayvon and Dai delve into the psychological barriers and attachments that tend to be tied to our stuff and dig into the benefits of purging. Tune in to discover the resources and methodologies that have helped Kayvon and Dai simplify their life and happiness by purging.  Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:28 – Introduction to the podcast 00:50 – Kayvon read an article titled, “Researchers Prove that Mars is Warmer than Toronto” 02:03 – The recording is happening on Dec. 21,2016 02:16 – Kayvon moved to another place, 16 days ago 02:53 – Kayvon shares how he felt while in the process of purging 03:20 – Kayvon hoards specific items 03:45 – Kayvon found some strange items 04:40 – Purging is getting rid of things that do not matter to you anymore 04:56 – Dai shares his experience with purging 05:25 – We leverage our time to get things 05:59 – You have the “what if” thoughts with the things you’ve kept 06:25 – Dai gets stressed by the process of purging 07:00 - Kayvon shares when he was away for 5 months 07:24 – Kayvon had someone help him get through the process of purging 07:50 – We invest time and money in the things that we store 08:18 – Having limitations can be very helpful in the process of purging 08:28 – Kayvon listened to Ari Meisel's one episode in his podcast about setting limitations 09:40 – Setting limitations for ourselves is going to be a big help in every aspect of life 09:56 – The more space we have, the more we want to fill it 10:35 – Go through that process of, “Does this [item] really matter?” 11:19 – We always try to figure out ways to fill more stuff into our SUVs 12:15 – Dai and his family benefited a lot from purging 13:10 – Dai's wife helps him with the process 14:07 – Dai will get people to review products for him 15:00 – Kayvon shares the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying-Up 15:34 – Ask yourself a question—does this spark joy to me or anyone? 16:30 – Remove things that spark negativity 16:59 - The second book, Spark Joy 17:55 – The process of asking the question, “Does this spark joy to me or anyone?” will bypass the “what ifs” 18:50 – Dai works with Telus and they give them techy things 19:47 – Dai keeps the things that bring him happiness like the activity tracker 20:15 – Dai got a Storm Trooper mug that he uses 21:21 – Dai picked up a habit where he does not buy the things they don't need 22:05 – "Stuff is just stuff" 22:49 – Kayvon shares the comedy book, The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fck 23:37 – Kayvon shares another technique to help us not hoard things 24:10 – If you're buying an item, you have to get rid of another 24:49 – Keep a predetermined number and stick to it 26:00 – Dai's wife's challenge for purging 27:30 – Donate things 28:13 – Kayvon and Dai love feedback so reach out to them on iTunes 28:54 – Happy 2017, and keep simplifying your happiness! 3 Key Points: Setting limitations for ourselves helps us in EVERY aspect of life. People tend to get emotionally attached with things they're not supposed to. You can eliminate stress by removing the things that do not spark joy and by keeping the things that do.  Credits: Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. Kayvon and Dai discuss the benefits of outsourcing and how making those changes to streamline your business processes is worth the effort. Tune in to find out ways you can outsource at a lesser cost or for no fee at all and how outsourcing increases your overall productivity.    Time Stamped Show Notes:  00:28 – Introduction to the podcast  01:30 – People are now starting to plan for 2017  02:07 – Kayvon does entrepreneurship, accountability, and productivity coaching  03:09 – The three steps Kayvon applies to his coaching: make it work, make it better, make it faster  04:15 – The technique “batching” explained   05:50 – “Try to only do what you are really good at”  06:00 – People have their own unique ability  06:13 – The four categories of everything that you do  06:15 – You’re either competent, incompetent, excellent or it’s your unique ability   07:49 – If you can hire someone who can do the 8-hour task in just 2 hours, do it  08:49 – Kayvon says that the reason we cannot afford to get other people is because we are not getting other people to help us—we’re trying to do all of it on our own   09:25 – Kayvon and Dai shift their recording platform  09:50 – You don’t always have to pay someone, there is free software available  10:27 – IFTTT has a great, free software  10:34 – Kayvon shares how he uses IFTTT  11:53 – There are many tools now that we can leverage based on technology advancements  13:00 – Upwork and Fiverr can help you hire people at a lesser cost  13:12 – Go to DaiManuel.com to get the free e-book and workout  14:26 – Kayvon’s “Productivity 30” explained  14:30 – Kayvon uses Canva for easy graphic design  15:10 – We actually outsource things without noticing it  17:00 – Keep outsourcing   17:55 – Outsourcing makes Kayvon life’s easier and faster  18:18 – Searching #productivity30 on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn to learn more about Kayvon’s productivity program challenge  19:00 – Dai uses Canva and PicMonkey  19:29 – Dai outsources graphic designers through Upwork  20:30 – Dai is satisfied with his graphic designer’s work https://www.upwork.com  21:40 – Think of that one thing that is taking up your time and figure out a way to streamline it  22:00 – Reach out to Kayvon regarding productivity  23:39 – Send Dai and Kayvon feedback on iTunes  24:10 – Contact Dai at DaiManuel.com   24:18 – Find Kayvon on Facebook and Twitter  3 Key Points:  There are many tools now that we can leverage based on technology advancements.  Think of that one thing that is taking up your time and figure out a way to streamline it.   Outsourcing can make your life easier, faster, and more importantly, simplify your happiness.

Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. This week, Kayvon and Dai answer the question “What it takes to always be a competing person.” Tune in to find out how competition can make us better, the negative aspects of competition, and why athletes are as dedicated to recovery as they are to training. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:28 – Introduction to the podcast 02:04 – Today’s episode is inspired by a question 02:34 – “Always be a competing person” question 02:51 – Dai always competes with himself – always trying to keep one step ahead 03:31 – Always strive to be better 05:20 – There are advantages to competing against yourself 06:04 – How competition is defined for Kayvon 06:20 – The negative aspects of competition 08:00 – If you’re going to do something, just do it 100% 09:10 – Never compete with your family, but be accountable with them 09:50 – “You will feel like a winner when you give it your all” 11:55 – When you don’t give your all to something, you know it, and will regret it 12:45 – Dai shares an example of competition through the Olympics 13:37 – The Champion’s Mind book by Jim Afremov 15:00 – Athletes take recovery as serious as training 16:50 – Dai shares his experience with recovery 17:51 – Everything that you do, do it like a champion competitor who is always competing 18:12 – Tell us what you do to be a champion or what you’re struggling to be a champion at! 18:52 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter 19:00 – Subscribe on iTunes and leave a feedback 19:29 – Feel free to share this episode with someone you care about 3 Key Points: Always do your BEST because you’re competing to create your BETTER self. In whatever you do, act like a CHAMPION competitor. Competition pushes us to our limits but the rewards won’t be what we want unless we keep our goals in mind. Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. Kayvon and Dai discuss the top of making mistakes. Tune in to find out how mistakes can serve as indicators that we’re trying, can be opportunities for learning, and how embracing our vulnerability as humans and parents is a strength.  Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:28 – Introduction to the podcast 01:32 – After recording half of this episode, Dai and Kayvon realize the laptop wasn’t recording! 01:44 – The theme of this episode is “Mistakes” 01:53 – “If you are not making mistakes, you are not trying” 02:17 – Mistakes are challenging 02:27 – Kayvon shares about certain changes in his life 03:02 – Learn from your mistakes 03:19 – Dai talks about Crossfit’s importance in our lives 04:04 – A personal commitment to making a change 05:02 – We should try to learn new things every day 05:22 – Kayvon’s motto, “Keep the flow going” 05:50 – A body at rest, stays at rest 06:46 – Kayvon and Dai competed in an athletic competition 07:20 – Dai shares their experience 08:03 – The sport of fitness 08:58 – Be OK with mistakes 11:05 – Everyone goes through moments of learning 11:41 – Be mindful of your mistakes 12:23 – Empower yourself 12:46 – “If you’re not on the right path, find another one” 12:54 – A pleasant part of learning from your mistakes is sharing it with other people 14:20 – The difference between being vulnerable and being weak 14:47 – It takes trust to be able to open up to others 15:39 – Learning from your kids 16:03 – Letting your kids know you are imperfect as a parent and as a human being 17:05 – Dai testifies to Kayvon’s parenting 18:36 – Please subscribe and leave us a review! 19:14 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter 3 Key Points: Mistakes signify that you are TRYING, that is a very good thing. Mistakes are inevitable—accept them as they come and LEARN from them. There is strength in our vulnerability; we need to embrace our own vulnerability so that others feel free to be honest and open as well.  Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Summary:  Happiness Simplified is a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #18, Kayvon and Dai talk life after 40. Tune in to hear Dai share about his life, the idea of the  mid-life crisis, and more lessons learned on how to simplify happiness.  Time Stamped Show Notes:  00:30 – Introduction to the podcast  01:18 – Kayvon is excited with his new business about accountability  01:39 – Kayvon created his own accountability coaching service  02:10 – His service calls people everyday  02:25 – Clients are ask to have 2 big tasks and 2 small tasks  02:41 – Kayvon started to test this activity with a group of 10 people  03:33 – Clients are using Kayvon’s service for EVERYTHING  04:35 – TheAccountable.me  04:53 – “The need for human connection is getting more pronounced”  06:08 – Dai shares his “40 Days to 40” post in social media  06:24 – Dai turned 40 on November 13   07:08 – “Every decade is a milestone”  08:00 – “Treat someone as how you want to be treated”  08:58 – Dai was thinking about how he spent the past 20 years   09:18 – Dai thought of making a daily video of things that he learned  10:00 – Posting videos is a good experience for Dai  10:50 – He’s getting closer and closer to an old man’s strength  12:01 – Tony Robbins once said, “If a life is worth living, it is worth recording”  13:10 – Kayvon believes that as he ages, everything ages synchronically  15:20 – “At 40, everything syncs and we hit basecamp”  15:35 – Dai has a book in process   15:55 – Check out Dai’s Youtube Channel  16:43 – “It is creating conversations that matter”  17:20 – Kayvon and Dai are wise people  19:20 – Dai shares his ideas about mid-life crisis  20:18 – People are looking at things anew  22:00 – Kayvon’s observation is people react differently when the topic of mid-life crises is brought up  22:45 – People do not spend time and energy on the things that truly matter to them  23:10 – Kayvon categorizes his friends and creates connections to those that really matter to him  24:10 – “If you apply categorizing in life, you will deal with less and enjoy more”  24:22 – Kayvon calls it “mid-life blessing”  26:35 – “Just simplify happiness”  27:30 – Give us a feedback and share with us your biggest milestone in life  28:00 – Find Kayvon and Dai on social media  28:16 – Give them a review on iTunes and share them  3 Key Points:  The connections that are REAL are the ones that MATTER!  Work hard for friendships and don’t take them for granted—we NEED that human connection.  The benefit of a mid-life crisis is that it makes us realize WHO is most important to us and deserves our time and energy.   Credits  Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives  

Summary:  Happiness Simplified is a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #18, Kayvon and Dai talk about accountability. Tune in to hear how motivation and commitment go hand in hand, the negative and positive impact of accountability, and why we need to set our goals into major and minor goals.  Time Stamped Show Notes:  00:40 – Introduction to the podcast  01:00 – Accountability is telling someone like a coach or a friend to check in with you about where you’re at with your goals and responsibilities  01:20 – Accountability helps Dai determine if his clients are reaching their goals or not  01:53 – Kayvon shares how accountability has helped him and his business  02:06 – “Many of the business owners started their business because they want to solve their own problems”  02:45 – Kayvon signed-up with multiple accountability coaches to help him focus on the things that he needs to do  03:25 – Kayvon shares to his clients and friends what has made him more productive  03:39 – Kayvon has an accountability coaching service called “Strive”  04:18 – Accountability has both a positive and negative impact on people   04:42 – About the book, Accountabilty: Taking Ownership of Your Responsibility   05:00 – How commitment coaching is similar to accountability coaching  05:25 – The difference between motivation and accountability  05:58 – Why motivation and commitment go hand in hand  07:55 – Some people think that motivation has an off  09:10 – People over or underestimate themselves on what they can do  09:37 – Having the right estimation of one’s ability is key  10:48 – In every habit that you wish to start, start small, then increase the work gradually  13:25 – Get a regular check-in on the process of reaching a goal  15:00 – Be with a group of people with like-minded goals  15:23 – Dai shares how he applies accountability as a fitness coach  16:25 – The biggest win that Kayvon has seen is the happiness of achievement  16:45 – “One of the greatest sources of happiness is your own point of view about yourself”  18:45 – Keep the mindset of knowing that things change—it’s hard in the beginning then gets easier as it becomes a habit  20:41 – 90 days is the perfect time frame to create significant change and short enough to stay connected  21:30 – Come up with some tasks to finish for daily accountability   22:00 – Separate your daily goal with a major and minor goal  23:40 – Do goal setting in the evening and let your mind subconsciously think of it  24:00 – Tell someone about your goal  25:55 – Visit Kayvon’s beta website of his coaching service – TheAccountable.me   26:40 – Give us a feedback and share with us what piqued your interest  3 Key Points:  Stay connected with your goals—emotionally and intellectually.  The perfect time frame to create significant change and short enough to stay connected is 90 days.  Your point of view about yourself is one of the greatest sources of happiness.  Credits  Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. This week, Kayvon and Dai are going to share their experience from the Summit of Greatness. They’ll talk key takeaways, memorable moments, and the speakers that made an impact on each of them. Time Stamped Show Notes: 01:20 – Dai and Kayvon have just come back from The Summit of Greatness 01:33 – Lewis Howes’ The School of Greatness Podcast 02:11 – Dai and Kayvon will summarize their key takeaways from the summit 03:35 – Lewis’ idea was to ‘bring you home’ 04:06 – How Kayvon stands out of the crowd 04:47 – Kayvon had some trouble in school because of how he looked 04:53 – For years, Kayvon tried to hide and blend in the crowd 05:15 – We all stand out in our own ways 05:45 – Kayvon’s goal in this event was to cultivate connections 06:12 – Unique names get attention 06:43 – When something requires extra work, people give up too easily 07:34 – Kayvon was nicknamed Special K –which turns out to be a street name of a drug 07:58 – Kayvon started using his nicknames’ 08:25 – His nickname facilitated the start of many conversations with new people 08:46 – What Dai thinks of Kayvon’s intro at the summit 10:11 – Dai’s intro makes a genuine connection 10:37 – People found Dai very approachable 10:58 – Dai’s introduction always includes him being a dad 11:39 – It’s your family that defines you 11:56 – Be the kind of man you want your daughters to marry 12:08 – Be the type of person people want to hang out with 12:25 – Being open attracts people 13:07 – The summit was about networking and meeting new people 14:18 – Speakers who stood out 14:25 – Matthew Hussey – The Dating Guru 15:36 – Matt’s Confidence vs Competence 16:42 – Matt’s “Don’t be a sardine, be a tuna” 17:03 – Christian Howes – #1 Jazz Violinist 18:13 – Christian was a breath of fresh air for Kayvon 19:03 – Adam IN-Q delivered a very powerful message 19:54 – Kayvon felt refreshed and recharged 20:14 – Ryan Blair: Rock Bottom to Rock Star 20:57 – Ryan’s honesty had Kayvon 21:44 – Ryan’s documentary on Youtube 23:08 – We are about uplifting one another 24:31 – Stacy London on what fashion is and what fashion is not 25:05 – Fashion is an industry that is based on insecurities 25:27 – Style is about expressing yourself and who you are 26:20 – Dai’s takeaways on Stacy 28:02 – Fabio Viviani 31:19 – Fabio went from rags to riches and from rags to riches again 31:51 – Kyle Maynard 32:32 – No Excuses by Kyle Maynard 32:43 – Kyle was born with no legs and no arms 33:03 – Kyle’s parents brought him up like a normal kid 33:27 – Kyle played football, did MMA and won titles, and crawled to the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro 34:37 – Dai’s friend Hersh’s story 37:46 – We gain inspiration from certain people in our lives 39:15 – Kayvon is glad he went to the summit 39:50 – Get out there and start talking to people 40:57 – Don’t be too quick to judge 41:23 – Please leave a review on iTunes! 41:40 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter   3 Key Points: Networking is essential in all aspects of entrepreneurship. Remember to list the takeaways from every new lesson learned. When you’re real, when you’re genuine—that’s when you inspire and uplift. Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast where we teach you about simple things to make your life awesome. In Episode #16, Kayvon and Dai discuss the key to clarity, exercises to help you find it with greater ease, and how confusion is frequently tied to challenging childhood experiences. Access to our Quick Life Enhancer: bit.ly/2dQJmkR Time Stamped Show Notes: ? 00:58 – Dai shares how he’s doing while on the road ? 01:31 – How Kayvon is doing o 02:05 – Kayvon’s father had health issues o 03:34 – Kayvon’s friend on EMDR therapy ? 04:10 – “We all have memories that are traumatic” ? 04:33 – Starting to live your life from belief o 05:09 – Identifying beliefs from early childhood ? 05:32 – The EMDR therapist alters the association and puts a new belief o 06:51 – Kayvon underwent EMDR sessions o 07:47 – “Stories develop in our minds through habitual choices” ? 09:25 – Habits as an excuse ? 10:08 – “We use different reasons as alibis to NOT change” ? 10:50 – Kayvon’s example from medical school ? 11:56 – Action orientation ? 12:45 – EMDR is pragmatism o 13:51 – Kayvon researched about EMDR o 14:48 – EMDR is Kayvon’s way to get clarity ? 15:32 – Dai turning away from alcohol ? 17:51 – A lot of personal habits are influenced early in life ? 18:15 – Living in the same pattern is similar to addiction ? 19:22 – Where Kayvon is right now in his EMDR therapy ? 20:33 – “Let the new level of clarity come up” ? 21:30 – Take time to explore and navigate ? 22:26 – TRY this EXERCISE o 23:01 – Get a sheet of paper o 23:14 – Column 1 – Write… o 23:47 – Column 2 – Write… o 24:04 – Column 3 – Write… ? 25:24 – The freedom model ? 27:42 – Some habits are just automatic ? 28:07 – Try the two exercises in one ? 29:48 – We encourage you to participate! ? 30:30 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter 3 Key Points: 1. Beliefs come from personal memories. 2. Memories play a great part on your life choices. 3. People use reasons to use as alibis for not changing. Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Summary:   Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things you can do to make your life even more awesome. In Episode #15 Kayvon and Dai discuss the normalcy of up and down experiences, and how the common constraints and definitions we tend to impart upon ourselves are damaging.   Time Stamped Show Notes:   ?      00:28 – Introduction to today’s topic   ?      00:46 – Dai shares his year of transition and how it impacted him   ?      02:23 – “All of us experience Ups and Downs”   ?      03:48 – Dai discusses his experiences from the road   o      05:24 – “I was physically tired…And it shifted to a negative direction”   ?      06:13 – Remember that tomorrow is a new day with a new opportunity   ?      07:39 – “The way we talk about life is how it moves through our head”   ?      08:43 – Kayvon’s experiences from the past and how those have changed him   ?      10:02 – Our brain gives meanings to non-specific, non-correlated facts   ?      10:28 – “Behaving in a certain way doesn’t have to be negative”   ?      11:01 – All of us, not matter our peculiarities, are normal human beings   ?      12:57 – Strategies on dealing with ups and downs that worked for Dai and Kayvon   o  14:42 – Stop focusing on the negative   o  14:59 – Improve upon the positive   o  16:32 – Look at the physicality (reality) of situations—don’t let your imagination wander too much   ?      19:50 – Subscribe on iTunes!   3 Key Points:   1.     Every person experiences Ups and Downs–it’s normal!   2.     Investing energy on negativity thoughts will only fuel negative actions.   3.     Every day is a new opportunity.   Credits   Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Episode 14 Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #14 Kayvon and Dai talk about tough love. Listen in for a routine to help you take responsibility for the good and bad in your life; advice on dealing with people who are hurting; and what you can learn from disgraced baseball player Pete Rose. Time Stamped Show Notes: ?     00:45 – Introduction ?     02:40 – Voicemail and communication ?     05:00 – People now use apps like Roger for asynchronous voice communication ?     07:00 – “Tough love” - how does it work? ?     07:35 – Toughness can be honest ?     08:30 – What does Kayvon answer if his daughter asks “Are you okay?” ?     08:45 – You can be honest or not - Kayvon tries to be honest when he’s not okay ?     10:30 – “Velvet boxing gloves” - giving tough advice from a place of love ?     12:30 – Dai often deals with people who are hurting deeply ?     14:00 – Before Kayvon started dealing with his physical health, he was dealing with his mental health ?     15:00 – Reached out to Dai for help ?     17:20 – Sometimes you need to give tough love to yourself ?     17:40 – A 5-minute exercise to practice tough love o      On a piece of paper, write 3 things that went wrong today and ask how you contributed to that result o      Then write 3 things that went right today and how you contributed to that result o      Repeat each night or as often as you can ?     20:20 – Dai worked in sales - and he used to ask himself how he could have dealt with a customer differently ?     22:00 – Pete Rose used to keep a baseball notebook so he couldn’t be caught out with the same pitch twice ?     23:02 – The Happiness Project - think of 3 things every night that have brought you happiness ?     25:40 – Affirmations and gratitude work. Be happy, grateful, and proud of yourself ?     26:40 – Tell us what you’re happy about and proud of! It would make our day.   3 Key Points: 1.       Don’t be humble. Don’t be cocky - but be proud of who you are and what you’ve done. 2.       Be honest with the people around you - even when it’s tough 3.       Write down what went wrong in your day and what went right, and how you contributed. By taking responsibility for the good and bad you’re showing yourself tough love.   Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Episode 13 Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #13 Kayvon and Dai talk about empathy. Listen in to hear about putting yourself in someone else’s shoes, how empathy is a skill like any other, and what you can do to develop it. Time Stamped Show Notes: ?     00:40 – Introduction ?     01:43 – “Empathy is the most under-utilized human emotion” ?     02:15 – Empathy is both and emotion and a skill ?     03:22 – Dealing with your own challenges lets you get closer to how other people are feeling ?     04:20 – Kayvon had English as a second language - so he knows the definition of ‘empathy’ and ‘sympathy’ ?     05:25 – Sympathy is acknowledging others’ emotions - empathy is understanding them ?     06:30 – People are very quick to judge ?     07:50 – How do you go about teaching yourself empathy? ?     09:00 – Life experience helps to produce empathy ?     11:30 – Sometimes there is too much of an experience gap to empathise ?     15:00 – Bedside manner - how do doctors manage empathy? ?     17:20 – Patients are helped by a doctor’s empathy ?     19:15 – Parents want nothing more than to make their kids’ sadness go away ?     20:15 – Empathy is a skill that we need to practice ?     21:02 – Try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes before the next episode ?     21:30 – Tell us how it goes! We’d love to hear back from you.   3 Key Points: 1.       Empathy isn’t practised enough - people are often quick to judge 2.       To practise empathy, turn to your own experiences. When have you felt something similar? 3.       Honest connections rely on empathy   Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Episode 12 Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #12 Kayvon and Dai talk about being a victim of circumstance. Tune in to hear why pain and suffering don’t have to make you a victim, how to make sustainable changes in your life, and the guru who taught his students to “remember yourself”. Time Stamped Show Notes: ?     00:45 – Introduction ?     02:25 – “Being a victim of circumstances” ?     02:45 – What are the concepts there? Can we unpack those ideas? ?     03:22 – “When we’re victims, our mental state is challenged” ?     04:25 – There is real victimisation - but how do we deal with tough situations? ?     05:07 – In his early life, Dan adopted a victim mentality ?     07:08 – Dan gave up drinking - after realising that even if circumstances gave him ‘permission’ to drink, it was something that was making him unhappy. ?     07:50 – Making changes is about taking control of your own life, even when it’s incredibly hard ?     09:30 – Changes start with yourself - then with others to help you sustain the change ?     11:00 – “We are people with power and choice” ?     12:05 – How do we deal with the real situations that cause us pain? ?     14:00 – Acknowledging that you are still there, and matter, in painful circumstances ?     15:15 – “Stop and remember yourself” ?     17:30 – You do matter in your life ?     18:40 – In school we learn to highlight all of the wrong things ?     20:30 - “I’d rather be Tigger than Eeyore” ?     21:40 – What do you think? Connect with us on social media.   3 Key Points: 1.       Hardship and pain are real - but you always have a choice about what attitude you take 2.       Changes start with yourself, but to be sustained they need help from other people 3.       Stop and remember yourself. You take up space. You matter.   Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Episode 11   Summary:   Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #11 Kayvon and Dai talk about eliminating grey areas. Tune in to hear why Kayvon hates backup plans, how to escape analysis paralysis, and a tip for tough decisions from Benjamin Franklin.   Time Stamped Show Notes:   ?     00:35 – Introduction   ?     01:30 – Dai tried parkour for the first time today   ?     03:17 – Kayvon attended a relationship workshop   ?     04:22 – Today’s topic: “No gray areas”   ?     04:55 – “You either commit or you don’t. Make a final decision.”   ?     06:07 – One of the reasons we don’t make decisions is that we ask the wrong questions   ?     06:30 – Ask yourself why you’re doing things: and then make a decision. Any decision.   ?     07:50 – ”You can have everything you love in life as long as you give up everything you don’t.”   ?     09:30 – Get rid of the gray areas and backup plans   ?     11:00 – How do you help people act instead of weighing up the options?   ?     13:05 – Pick something. You don’t have to kill the other options: but pick one option and give it a try   ?     14:48 – Benjamin Franklin would list all the pros and cons of any choice   ?     15:30 – Listing choices and taking time to weigh them up is a great way to get out of your own head   ?     18:00 – “Make the sale and figure out the logistics after”   ?     19:17 - “Do or not do: there is no try”     3 Key Points:   1.       Make a choice. Any choice. Action is always better than paralysis   2.       You can have time and energy for what you love if you eliminate the things you don’t   3.       Take some time to work on your choices - brainstorm, create a list, or use another tool to get out of your head       Credits   Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Episode 10 Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #10 Kayvon and Dai talk about give and take. Tune in to hear their thoughts on the pleasures of giving, how creating a community uplifts you, and why it’s sometimes good to be selfish. Time Stamped Show Notes: ?     00:30 – Introduction ?     01:12 – “Get versus Give” ?     02:17 – Kayvon connected with Dai through his free Sunday Funday project ?     03:02 – What has Dai got from his giving act? ?     04:35 – Dai wanted to create a community of people who would uplift each other ?     05:55 – “I wanted to pay it back” ?     08:00 – Dai finds the atmosphere in the group uplifting even on his toughest days ?     09:50 – ”You are the most important person in your life” ?     11:00 – Be selfish - let yourself recharge ?     12:00 – “Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others” ?     12:45 – Kayvon’s advice is to be your kindest version of yourself to the people you love the most ?     13:30 – There’s a relationship between getting and giving: give and take ?     15:00 – Give people the opportunity to help you ?     16:00 – If you share a dream, suddenly you aren’t ‘asking for help’ - you’re giving people the opportunity to come together and help build a dream with you ?     19:17 - There’s no separation between getting and giving. Giving makes us feel good. Getting is a connection with other people. ?     20:25 –  What are your thoughts? Help us learn from you! 3 Key Points: 1.       You are the most important person in your life: be kind to yourself and let yourself recharge 2.       Allow people the opportunity to help you 3.       There’s no separation between ‘getting’ and ‘giving’ - it’s all part of connection and exchange Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives

Episode 9 Summary: Welcome to Happiness Simplified, a weekly podcast about the simple things that can make your life awesome. In Episode #9 Kayvon and Dai discuss what to do when things go wrong. Tune in to hear why you should admit your mistakes, how to talk to someone with different core beliefs, and why sometimes it’s best to give up and move on. Time Stamped Show Notes: ?     00:36 – Introduction ?     02:15 – “Is this the right hill to be climbing right now?” ?     02:50 – How do you remain open to being wrong? ?     04:02 – For every successful project, there are 9 failures ?     04:45 – “Every No means you’re one step closer to a Yes” ?     06:50 – Kaycon usually realises he’s wrong when someone else comes into the equation ?     08:15 – Admitting your mistakes does not make you a weaker person - it just makes you a person ?     10:05 – When Dai started to admit he was wrong, he found his relationships functioning better ?     11:20 – “Learn to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on” ?     13:30 – “When you’re coaching - what’s the process of teaching someone whose core beliefs are different to yours?” ?     14:20 – The best thing is to assess the level of their emotional intensity at that moment ?     15:00 – If there’s a chance for a conversation, then try to ask questions that open up new possibilities in their mind ?     15:50 – “Sunk cost” - Sunk costs shouldn’t affect the decisions that you make about the future ?     19:00 – It can be hard to let go of the time, energy, and money that you’ve poured into a project. But whether you continue or not, the sunk cost is gone. ?     20:25 –  What’s a sunk cost that you found hard to let go of? And what did you learn from it?   3 Key Points: 1.       There are nine failures to every success - so don’t let them get you down 2.       Forget sunk costs. They’re lost, whatever decision you make about the future. 3.       Avoid arguing with people. Try to ask questions that open up the possibilities in their mind.   Credits Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives