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On todays show we show you how we got through our financial struggles! Lack of finances can ruin a relationship. We learned how to get through it and we came out stronger! This episode is a much for those of you who feel like there is no way out! We did it and so can you!  Being broke almost broke us! How to get through financial struggles! 1. Learn how to communicate! - Read books or listen to audio books that can help you learn the art of communication. One of our Favorite books for relationships is the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Really teaches you how to connect with your spouse on their level. There are also plenty of podcast you can listen to. He's the DJ She's the Rapper" Remix your Marriage is one of them. Do your research. Google Google Google! Set a time to talk to each other- Not to nag at each other or point fingers. But to talk and vent. Don't blame each other. Sometimes you just have to let things out. Give yourself a time limit and move on. For example, talk for 15 minutes(set a timer if necessary) and then move on. Holding it in will cause an explosion!! 2. Have Sex!- It sounds crazy but having sex during tough times helps relieve stress and keeps you two bonded! Lack of sex is common for couples who are going through tough times but not healthy! Growing up with a psychologist I learned a lot about couples splitting up because of the lack of intimacy. So get busy! 3. Prayer and Devotions- Pray when you're alone, Pray when you're together. Ask God for clarity and direction. In our Ebook "30 Days of Pray and Play" we walk you through how to Pray with each other and for each other. If you want to hear from God, he needs to hear from you! "What would happen if you stopped asking God, why are am I going through this, and ask God, What are you preparing me for?" Steven Furtick 4. Have a plan of action! Write out your goals. 30 day goals, 6 month goals and 1 year goals. Brain dump! Write it all out and figure out a plan to get there. Their are plenty of Podcast that will help you along the way. "Build your Tribe" with Chalene Johnson, "Smart Passive Income" with Pat Flynn to name a few. "If you Fail to plain, then you're plaining to fail!" 5. Get HELP! Counseling is imperative! -We strongly believe that counseling is a must! Good or Bad relationships need it. Counseling is the maintenance of your relationship. The same way you get oil changes on your car. You know if you don't, eventually the car will breakdown. Oil changes maintain the longevity of your cars life. Just like in Marriage! You don't wait until your Marriage breaks down, you get the counseling before you think you need it! There are a lot of ways to get it FREE if you can't afford it. Typically Pastors will counsel you for free! 6. Be mindful of what you allow into your brain! Make sure to listen to positive messages and positive people! If you are watching bad talk shows and angry television you are going to get depressed. If you surround yourself with negative people, you will become negative! Find those people that lift you up and want the best for you. Watch tv shows with positive messages. Free your mind of the garbage!   Thank you guys so much for listening! If this has been helpful, please leave us a review on iTunes! We need your help to spread the word! Questions or comments? Leave us a speakpipe recorded message! Find us DJandRapper.com Facebook Instagram: @DJandRapper Snapchat: @ Lyndan @Vaness2911 Email: Ask@DJandRapper.com This show was brought to you by "30 Days of Pray & Play" the ebook that teaches you how to Pray with and for each other, and how to have a lot of fun playing together as a couple! Get your copy Today!! click here   Love ya and we will see you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa  

Today was very special for us! We got to interview our very good friends and successful entrepreneurs Steve and Kiki! Steve and Kiki live in Virginia and moved their from Arizona with their son, a beat up car and a couple bucks to to their name. Their story is amazing! They were able to build a successful construction business, home school their son and kill it online with their eat more to weigh less motto. It works! They recently bought their dream home on the Beach! Hard work, smart work and dedication! So proud of them! They go over the ups and downs and how they were able to keep it all together. Not only that, they talk about how they work together while still keeping the romance going in their relationship! These High School sweethearts motivate us to keep pushing daily. They would love to hear from you. Here is how you can reach them: Em2wl.com Em2wl.com/start-free to get their amazing quick start guide for FREE! @Em2wl on Periscope and Twitter @eatmore2weighless on Instagram Facebook.com/em2wl Pinterest.com/em2wl Em2wl.com/start Special thanks to our great friends Kiki and Steve for taking time out of there day to hang out and chat! It was a pleasure. Any question for us please go to DJandRapper.com leave us a speak pipe of fill out the contact and we will get back to you as soon as we can! Feels good to be back! Find us on Facebook at Facebook.com/LVTeamColeman SnapChat @Vaness2911 or @ Lyndan Instagram @DJandRapper @Lyndan_TCFitness @LyndanAndVaness Again questions, show ideas shoot us an email Info@DJandRapper.com This episode was brought to you by "30 Days of Pray and Play"! The book that helps you and your spouse get closer to God and closer to each other through Pray and some fun romantic games ;)

In every relationship there are going to be problems. Sometime these problems end a relationship but they don’t always have to. The truth is, your spouse is going to annoy you. You are two different people with your own thoughts and characteristics so its inevitable. How you deal with it can make or break you. So we put together 7 ways to deal with some of your spouses annoying habits.   **There is a part during this podcast episode that I was suppose to edit but I left it in. I wanted you to hear a little behind the scenes of a real couple who is not perfect!**   7 Ways to deal with your Spouses annoying habits   Talk to them without attitude- Be clear that it is a problem with what they are doing, not them as a person. Don’t let it build up and eventually you explode! Kick the door open and say “PICK UP YOUR FLIPPIN CLOTHES!!!” Communicate in a non-confrontational way. Express how you feel. “Honey, when you get undressed, will you please put your clothes in the hamper. When they are on the floor it makes me feel like you think I’m you maid and not your wife” It may not happen over night, just keep reminding him.     At the end of the week tell each other 5 things you loved and 1 thing you didn’t -We heard this from a friend of ours who is in counseling and we thought it was great! At the end of each week her and her husband write a list of 5 things they loved and one thing they didn’t love about the other for the week. That one thing they didn’t love is usually not done the following week and eventually not done at all. Thought this was a cleaver way to lift your spouse up and at the same time a way to find out how you can improve you!        Be patient -They say it takes 21 days to make a habit. That doesn’t mean you stand next to the calendar and mark off each day. So on day 22 you can say “WHY ARE YOU STILL DOING THAT!!” Give it time. Habits are hard to break, especially if its been a habit they have been doing for years       Don’t bring it up in front of people -It may seem funny to bash your spouse about their “Funny” annoying habit of eating chips in bed and crunching loudly but its not. Your spouse may laugh a little and admit that he/she does it but it can be damaging. Your spouse may feel stupid and embarrassed and eventually resentful toward you. Take it from us, this is not healthy for a relationship.       Work on yourself -No matter who you are, you are not perfect. No matter how incredible someones Facebook or Instagram appears, they are not perfect. So don’t sit back and expect your spouse to do all of the changing. You need to work on yourself as well.       Do not try to get even - Sometimes we can act a bit childish and instead of talking about these annoying habits, you want to get even by annoying them as much as possible! Remember two wrongs don’t make a right, in fact this will cause even more damage because now you have to frustrated annoyed people. “He didn’t take out the trash, so Im not going to have sex with him” Not good and this will not work!     Pray about it -Yes this is part of every answer we give. We believe in Prayer and that it works. Pray for patience, Pray for the right words to say, Pray for understanding. CAUTION: "IF YOU PRAY FOR PATIENCE, GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE PATIENT” -GOD -Evan Almighty   “I’d always end up broken down on the highway. When I stood there trying to flag someone down, nobody stopped. But when I pushed my own car, other drivers would get out and push with me. If you want help, help yourself, people like to see that.” -Chris Rock   Thank you so much for hanging with us! We love what we do and we have missed you all! The last thing you want to hear coming through your speakers is great info followed by loud coughs! We truly appreciate the support!   If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   YOUR 30 DAY DEVOTIONAL E-BOOK! We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It is available on our website now!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com  

Episode 46: Mixed Emotions -Are you having an emotional affair?   A lot of Married couples work jobs separately and spend a lot of time with people other then their spouse. When you spend 8 hours a day, 5 days a week with the same group of people Relationships are inevitable. But how do you know when your relationship with a co-worker (or someone else) has crossed the line? Here are 7 ways to know if you are sliding on a slippery slope that can lead to the destruction of your Marriage. Remember God never puts you in a situation of temptation with out allowing you a way out.     7 Signs that you are having an emotional Affair   You make sure you look nice -You take a little extra time to get dressed up  when you know you are going to see this person. Hair looks great, you smell incredible and are usually in a really good mood knowing you are about to see him/her.   You share your relationship disappointments - You talk to this person about how your spouse is constantly disappointing you. You share intimate details of your Marriage mostly complaining about your spouse.    You share things that can connect you -You tell them things that you don’t even share with your partner. Things that could possible bond you and your spouse. Things like goals, hobbies, dreams etc.   You figure out a way to spend extra time with them - If its someone you work with you go out of your way to get near them and figure out ways to spend extra time with them. At the water cooler, on the way to the bathroom. Go to lunch. Asking questions that others at your job can answer.   You start depending on how this person makes you feel -This person makes you feel happy, and fun. This person shows interest in you and you love the way that makes you feel. Now you depend on that. You look forward to the “High” this person gives you.   You feel guilty but you convince yourself that you shouldn’t - Deep down inside you know you shouldn’t feel this way about someone else. You know you shouldn’t be spending time and having these types of conversations with anyone besides your spouse. The way you act and the things you say are things you would never do if your spouse was standing next to you. You tell yourself, “Im not doing anything wrong” because you haven’t hooked up with this person, you are just friends. But you’re wrong and you know it.   You don’t tell anyone how much time you actually are spending with this person -No one really knows how deep this is. You may not have even told your best friend that not only are you hanging out at work, lunch and after work, but you are constantly calling, emailing and texting each other.   If you are guilty of any or all of these please STOP. You are headed for danger and a lot of hurt! This is the gateway to a physical affair. No one wakes up in the morning and says “Im going to have an affair today!” It is something that happens very gradual and usually unexpectedly. These 7 signs can lead down that path, so STOP!!   THANK YOU for listening and spending some time with us! We really appreciate our loyal listeners!   If you have any questions or comments about this episode please leave us message on our SPEAKPIPE   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feed back. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   YOUR 30 DAY DEVOTIONAL E-BOOK! We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It is available on our website now!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com

Ep45: Like a Prayer -My Spouse isnt feeling the Church thang How can I get my spouse to go to church and why it is important to marriages. What to do?  Only Ask once a month if they want to go and let it go. Be okay with going alone if you need too. Pray for them, everyday. Read your bible plans. "The Power of a praying wife" and “husband". Gives you specific prayers. Examine your heart. God may be working on you first. Your heart must soften, and humble. You have too see things according to the way God sees them. Not how you think your husband should be, but what does God what your husband to be. Don't ask God to change your husband, ask him to change you first! If your har boring resentment unforgivenes etc Chooses churches wisely. Maybe one that's not so stuffy, down to earth, people can dress comfortably. A church your spouse would also like.  Going to church won't save them. It's the message and finding the missing piece in their heart which is a relationship with Jesus. 4. Get involved in a small group. Something not very “churchy”. The small group we belong to gets together once a month. We talk, eat and Pray for each other at the end. If you are not comfortable Praying in front of people, no problem, they will not force you. 5.Get involved in a Church Sports group. Softball teams, youth camps, volunteer as counsellors or in your children's church activities. 6 Get your kids involved in church. When the y have a play, performance, camp your spouse will want to see them 7.Get involved Outreaches, Churches go to Mexico and help build homes, go around neighborhood and collect canned foods. Focus be on helping people. I believe this it what stirs people hearts for God. Serving His people. Many people sit in a church every Sunday and go home and scream at their family's, treat people horribly and then put on the Church Mask for Sunday's. They don't have a relationship with Jesus.  You want your spouse to have the heart for God and a desire to serve His people. Lastly, set the example! Be a good example of what God and Church can do to a persons heart. Be kind, do better and love more.   If you have any questions, comments or topics you would like us to discuss please leave us a SPEAKPIPE message on our webiste. Its recorded and you can delete and re-record as many times as you’d like.   Find us on: FACEBOOK    TWITTER     INSTAGRAM PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   Our FREE 10 day Ignite your Marriage challenge is still up! Its helping to change Marriages! Sign up today and get it sent directly  to your email.   “PRAY & PLAY for 30 DAYS” Devotional is now Available! 30 Days of Prayers to say for you Spouse, 30 Days of playful things to do with your spouse. Dealing with stress in Marriage and so much more! GET YOUR NOW or learn more by clicking here!   Thank you again! Much Love, see you soon :)   Lyndan & Vanessa Your go-to couple to remix your Marriage! DJandRapper.com    

Ep44: More than words "Sticks and stones" injuries heal, words last forever”   We have all heard the saying growing up “Sticks and Stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me” Unfortunately that is wrong! Physical wounds typically heal quite nicely but words can have a lifetime negative effect on us. In todays episode we go over the reasons you need to watch your tongue. How important it is to think before you speak! Name calling and saying hurtful things to one another is not okay!   Words can build them up!- Saying things to your spouse can truly build their confidence and make them feel like they can do anything. I know when my wife compliments me or lets me know she believes in me I feel like there is nothing I can’t do! But if she is saying you “Always” start something and you “Never” finish (like in the 1st half of our Marriage) That can be damaging. Try to stay away from words like “Always” and “Never"   The right words at the wrong time can do damage- Sometimes you need to listen and that is it. There have been times when my wife has told me something that has gone wrong, something that she is hurt about. My natural reaction was to explain to her why she should not have done that and how, had she done it the way I suggested this would not have happened. Not good! Sometimes you just need to be the shoulder to cry or complain on. Maybe down the road you can kindly point out her error and explain to her why you suggested her doing it a different way but not in the heat of the moment.     Words can allow grace - Have you ever done something so wrong that you are ready to deal with whatever punishment is coming your way! And someone says “Its okay, I know you didn’t mean harm” How good did that make you feel? How much relief did that give you? When it comes to your spouse, sometimes they just need some grace. I know they screwed up really bad and you want to scream!! But try some grace every once in a while. Show forgiveness.    Don’t say It not my Fault- This usually Means You’re not taking responsibility for your actions. When you are constantly blaming someone or something else, you are playing the “Victim” that can be extremely damaging to your Marriage. Not being willing to take ownership makes your spouse feel stuck.    Don’t say “Calm down” or “Relax” - These words will get your spouse more riled up instead of soothing. These words are very condescending and typically have the opposite of effect. Instead try this “I see that you are upset, how can I make this better?” Great marriages require patience and  team work!     ''King Solomon said, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). Every day, we are shaping reality for someone by the words that we use with them. The choice is ours. How will our words impact others?'' -Michael Hyatt If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feed back. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   YOUR 30 DAY DEVOTIONAL E-BOOK! We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It is available on our website now!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER  INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com    

The little devil on your shoulder is a liar! Don't fall for those negative thoughts! In this episode Vanessa tells the story of her biggest break through! After years of doubt, she over came and killed it! We all have our doubts! Feeling like we aren't good enough or we don't deserve success. Those are all lies from the enemy, from the little punk devil on your shoulder! Go for your dreams. If you fail, try again and again! Don't give up! Starbucks failed over 200 times! Oprah was told she couldn't , JK Rowling(author of Harry Potter) was turned down over and over again! The list goes on! Take baby steps everyday toward your goal and believe in yourself!! Listen, enjoy and hopeful get INSPIRED!! Thank you so much for listening! Thanks to you our downloads continue to rise each month and we really appreciate it! If you haven’t, please leave us an honest "rating and review" on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio. Those reviews help us more then you think and we love reading them.   If you have any questions, comments or topics you would like us to discuss please leave us a SPEAKPIPE message on our webiste. Its recorded and you can delete and re-record as many times as you’d like.   Find us on: FACEBOOK     TWITTER     INSTAGRAM PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   Our FREE 10 day Ignite your Marriage challenge is still up! Its helping to change Marriages! Sign up today and get it sent directly  to your email.   “PRAY & PLAY for 30 DAYS” Devotional is now Available! 30 Days of Prayers to say for you Spouse, 30 Days of playful things to do with your spouse. Dealing with stress in Marriage and so much more! GET YOUR NOW or learn more by clicking here!   Thank you again! Much Love, see you soon :)   Lyndan & Vanessa Your go-to couple to remix your Marriage! DJandRapper.com      

Ep 42: Hard Knock life -How we got through Hell   We often talk about the first 12 years of our marriage (The first half) where we almost didn’t make it. At one point we had to make a decision, to walk away or put in some serious work! We chose to work. We are giving you 12 things that help not only keep us on track, but helped us build a strong unbreakable bond!   1. We Made a decision, we were going to work on it. 2.  We Gave it to God every morning with prayer. 3. We Asked a group we trusted to pray for us. 4. We had Weekly Meetings with our Pastor. Scheduled. Make sure it's schedule and non negotiable! Or you will cancel because it's hard and it's painful. 5. Private 9:15am cry fest- Vanessa spent 15 minutes by herself to cry and let out some frustrations, then she cleaned up and moved forward. 6. We Spoke to someone who had been through what we went through once  a week.  7. We Decided we were not going to purposely hurt each other. 8. We Read Daily. Learned how to be better a spouse, better people, better communicators. 9. We Drowned ourselves in music. Two of our favorite songs are “  I Like” by El Debarge and “No One” by Alcia keys. 10. We Made a decision everyday that it was going to be a better day. 11. We both agreed that during this time, No drinking. 12. We Took people out of Our lives that were damaging. People who didn’t want the best for us.   If you are going through it in your Marriage, hang in there! Its tough and sometimes you just want to say “ Screw it” and give up! But don’t  The hard work and dedication can give you a Marriage you didn’t know existed. Take it from two people who were done!   "If you're going through Hell, KEEP GOING!!"   Thank you so much for listening! Thanks to you our downloads continue to rise each month and we really appreciate it! If you haven’t, please leave us an honest "rating and review" on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio. Those reviews help us more then you think and we love reading them.   If you have any questions, comments or topics you would like us to discuss please leave us a SPEAKPIPE message on our webiste. Its recorded and you can delete and re-record as many times as you’d like.   Find us on: FACEBOOK    TWITTER    INSTAGRAM PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   Our FREE 10 day Ignite your Marriage challenge is still up! Its helping to change Marriages! Sign up today and get it sent directly  to your email.   “PRAY & PLAY for 30 DAYS” Devotional is now Available! 30 Days of Prayers to say for you Spouse, 30 Days of playful things to do with your spouse. Dealing with stress in Marriage and so much more! GET YOUR NOW or learn more by clicking here!   Thank you again! Much Love, see you soon :)   Lyndan & Vanessa Your go-to couple to remix your Marriage! DJandRapper.com      

Todays episode is all about dating without spending a lot of money. It is so important to have date night at least once a week. That can get expensive, but there is a better way! Listen and learn how to save some money and have a blast together. Along with the cheap dates we give you a few questions to ask each other. You may notice a slight discrepancy in the number sequence, don't worry, we are the crazy ones, not you! :)   To get the list emailed to you send your request to Ask@DJandRapper.com       If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feed back. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   YOUR 30 DAY DEVOTIONAL E-BOOK! We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It is available on our website now!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com

In this episode we are back at it! Sex! But this time why it is so important for the Husbands. Men grab your wife, Ladies grab your husband, sit down and hold on tight!!    Why Sex is so important for Husbands     Sex makes a man feel more connected to his spouse -For most men Sex is the most important thing in Marriage. Sex with his wife gives him a feeling of comfort and confidence. A connection that only the two of them are allowed to share. Sex makes a man feel loved and desired. Without it men feel unattractive, lonely and eventually resentful.   Sex is important because of the physical effect -A man Not having sex with his wife can cause…. “A condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles accompanied by testicular pain, caused by prolonged sexual arousal in the human male without ejaculation.” Also Known as “Blue Balls” Yes this is a real thing and it can be very painful.         3. Without it a man may get depressed -A man can’t just turn     off the physical and emotional importance of sex, which is why not having it could be compared to the same pain you’d feel if your husband just stopped talking to you. Here is a quote from a very sad husband I found: "We’ve been married for a long time. I deeply regret and resent the lack of intimacy of nearly any kind for the duration of our marriage. I feel rejected, ineligible, insignificant, lonely, isolated, and abandoned as a result. Not having the interaction I anticipated prior to marriage is like a treasure lost and irretrievable. It causes deep resentment and hurt within me. This in turn fosters anger and feelings of alienation.” So please understand, your man is not just a “Horn Dog”. He has needs just like you and sex (for most men) happen to be at the top of the list. So before you utter those dreadful words “I have a headache” or “Tomorrow I promise” think about the internal damage you may be causing him.  And to get scientific on you I had to pull a study, check this out:   “The physical reason that men need to ejaculate comes down to a very simple reason, it provides a physical release. This release is not only pleasurable, but real chemical hormones are released, which affects a man’s overall health and well-being.” -Gina Ricci   We hope this is helpful. We know it can be a touchy subject. Take it from two people who almost split over it. Thank you so much for being a loyal subscriber! We appreciate every single download we get!   If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   ARE YOU READY FOR OUR E-BOOK!? We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! Learn more or Get yours now by clicking here!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK  TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com

Episode 39 Why Sex is so important to The Wifey   Todays episode is something most Men never think about. Why is sex important to your wife. Vanessa drops some great content and really makes you think. Guys this one is for you!   Why Sex Is So Important to Your Wife  "When you ignore God’s command to cultivate intimacy and romance with your wife, she is left with a void in her soul.” -Family Life Today   How your wife feels when you turn down sex. Empty. She feels that she's unattractive, unloved. It doesn't matter how may nice things you say to her, or do for her. If you're not coming home and being intimate with her she is going to fell neglected and unwanted. Resentful. She will become angry at the fact that she probably always needs to seduce you or talk you into sex. It will come out in everyday life. Being short, hot tempered and nagging. Sexually frustrated.  A void in her soul God’s design is for a man to “be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). “ "God created sex in marriage to be shared, not withheld. And when romance, tenderness, and sex are not shared, a sense of loneliness sets in that can ultimately result in emotional and sexual temptation.  Physical intimacy is not optional in marriage. When you ignore this God-given command to cultivate intimacy and romance with your wife, she is left with a void in her soul. Your romantic and sexual advances have tremendous power to set her apart as a woman and affirm her value. But rejection in the bedroom places her on emotional quicksand.” -Family Life Today    Having your husband not want to you is an unbearable pain and hurt. Why would you want the woman you vowed to spend the rest of your life with to feel that pain when you are in control of making it better.  If you do not have the desire to have sex, you MUST seek therapy and/or a Dr. Maybe it's a medical issue that can be fixed easily or maybe you both need therapy to walk through intimacy issues. Whatever it is, DO NOT IGNORE IT!!!! Not having Sex In a Marriage is a HUGE RED FLAG! Consider this your warning sign.          If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feed back. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bringing back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   YOUR 30 DAY DEVOTIONAL E-BOOK! We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It is available on our website now!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK    TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com

4 REASONS WHY FACING YOUR FEARS IS IMPORTANT   F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real   Fear can effect your Marriage more then you may know. In the first part of our Marriage I allowed fear to get in the way of our relationship. I never wanted to tell my wife how I felt about things because I was afriad she would get mad, or afraid that she would think I was soft. Because I held it in, I slowly began to resent her. That was the beginning of destruction! Our Marriage slowly started to deteriorate and we almost decided to divorce at one point. It wasn’t until I faced my fears and she faced hers that we were able to start this new incredible relationship that we have now. An unbreakable bond!   So below we put together 4 reasons you have to face your fears!     Fear puts limitations on you- Had we let FEAR control us we would have never Paid for Smart Success which is a online course and a live event that changed our life, had we not done that, we wouldn’t have meant some of our closest friends. We would have never started a Podcast or Periscoping because we were afraid of being judged. We would have never written our Ebook which is now available on our website and people are buying it and emailing us letting us know that they love it!   Anyone has the power to over come fear- It is in you to do it. I remember when i got into the car biz, I was so afraid to walk up to a total stranger who automatic didn’t like me cuz i was a salesman. But I needed to make money so I forced myself to do it. I Faced the Fear head on and slapped fear in the mouth. The nerves of talking to strangers is still there to this day, but I don’t care, I over came that False evidence appearing real. By Facing your fears, you will inspire others- People are always watching. Your friends, family and of course your kids. When you are able to speak publicly, or sky dive or Periscope. Those around you will be inspired. That  will help them think "IF YOU CAN DO IT SO CAN I”   The thoughts in your head are not real.- I remember being so afraid of roller coasters when i was a kid! In my head I thought, what if it jumps off its tracks, what if there is an earth quake, what if I fall out! Most of the time, the out come of the  things you fear the most never happen! So you have to take a chance. "Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it." --Judy Blume   So don’t sit home and think about all the things you want to do! Just go out and do it! All of the exciting things happen outside of your comfort zone!   To learn More about Chalene Johnson's "Smart Success" click here!   Thank you so much for listening! Thanks to you our downloads continue to rise each month and we really appreciate it! If you haven’t, please leave us an honest "rating and review" on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio. Those reviews help us more then you think and we love reading them.   If you have any questions, comments or topics you would like us to discuss please leave us a SPEAKPIPE message on our webiste. Its recorded and you can delete and re-record as many times as you’d like.   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER    INSTAGRAM PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   Our FREE 10 day Ignite your Marriage challenge is still up! Its helping to change Marriages! Sign up today and get it sent directly  to your email.   “PRAY & PLAY for 30 DAYS” Devotional is now Available! 30 Days of Prayers to say for you Spouse, 30 Days of playful things to do with your spouse. Dealing with stress in Marriage and so much more! GET YOURS NOW or learn more by clicking here!   Thank you again! Much Love, see you soon :)   Lyndan & Vanessa Your go-to couple to remix your Marriage! DJandRapper.com        

Ep37: We are in the Hot Seat with Licensed Therapist Julia Kristina, MA!   In this Episode, The very Awesome Julia Kristina Licensed Therapist ask us some tough questions about Living together, working together and playing together. How in the world to we spend so much time together with out killing each other!   She made this so much fun and easy. We laughed, had some serious moments but most importantly we shared our answers!   If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feed back. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   OUR E-BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE!? We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It will be on our website soon!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK  TWITTER    INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa

I was talking to one of the ladies in our Bootcamp who is getting Married in a couple of weeks. I asked her “What is your biggest concern about being married?” She said “Eating the same cereal for the rest of my life!” Obviously meaning being with and having sex with just one person for the rest of your life. That made me think. So we decided to base todays episode on that statement.   5 Ways to enjoy Eating the same cereal for the rest of you life   Always remember why you Married your Spouse- There are going to be times when you are fed up and ready to walk away. You start thinking “There is NO way I can do this for the rest of my life! That is a normal thought(to an extent) Now is the time to remember all the great qualities of your spouse. Remember that connection that the two of you have. The grass is greener where you water it not on the other side. Remind yourself of the struggle of getting to know someone new, its not fun! On T.V. one night stands are amazing, in real life they are damaging. Stand strong by his/her side. Play games- Having fun in Marriage is instrumental. We laugh daily. Here are a few games to play with each other to keep it spicy. *During our Periscope After Dark Episodes we mention plenty of game. Tune in to hear more.        -Naked Volleyball -Each of you on either side of the bed hitting balloons      back and fourth to each other.        -2 truths and a lie -Take turns telling each other 2 truths and a lie about your day. I know what your thinking “My spouse knows me to well” thats okay. For example your lie could be “I saw a woman today with a blue umbrella” But the umbrella was black. Each time your spouse doesn’t answer correctly you they have to take off an article of clothing.        -Picnic in the bedroom -Put the kids to bed, grab some dessert and drinks, set up a candle lit picnic in your bedroom. Sometimes do this and watch a movie or just talk and flirt. Look forward to your future together -You get to have a permanent sleep over. Plan getaways. Little one nighters and big Vacations. I know for a lot of us cost can be a factor. There are so many inexpensive things to do if you search. Obviously if you can put a little money to the side for 6 months that would be even better. This helps give you something special to look forward to. Have Sex -It is so easy to slowly slip into the stereotypical “No Sex” Married couple. Especially with work and adding kids to the picture. It doesn’t have to be that way. Having sex with your spouse regularly is a must. Not only because it is a stress reliever, great for your health, feels great it also keeps  the two of you connected on a different level. Try new things, new positions. Things you both agree on. The same cereal can be eaten in so many different ways. Have alone time -Make sure to have your alone time. For example Find a hobby that you love to do. Exercise on your own sometimes. Spending time alone helps clear your mind, increases productivity, gives you time to think deeply, helps you figure out solutions to problems. Once you are back with your spouse you will feel refreshed and have plenty to talk about.   So have NO fear. Cereal can be good for a lifetime if you are willing to keep learning and keep applying!   If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feed back. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   YOUR 30 DAY DEVOTIONAL E-BOOK! We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It is available on our website now!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com

We recorded this episode LIVE on Periscope! Their is no such thing as the "perfect couple". We are proof of that. People have said to us “Do you two ever fight?” the answer is yes! We are different people with our own thoughts, opinions and issues. In this episode we give you some ways to deal with that spouse of yours getting on your nerves!   Identify why they are bugging you - Is it because they have really done something to upset you or could you just be having a bad day, possibly PMS. Men-Understand that PMS is a real thing! Yes the act…..different, but you have to learn to roll with it and just let some things go. Choose your battles wisely.   Think before you speak -Is what you are about to say going to be helpful or hurtful. Do your best not to speak out of frustration because that usually ends up making things worse.    Communicate -Im just not having a good day (Name a few reasons) Id appreciate being left alone, or not be talked to for a while. Or I just need you to listen to me and not say a word. Be honest and keep it real.   Do not say “Nothing is wrong” -We all can’t stand that especially because we know that is a big fat lie! This circles back to communication.   To the spouse who is taking the punishment: Help End your spouses day on a positive -If you know your spouse’s love language, this is a great time to show case your skills in applying it. Acts of service- Do the dishes, clean up. Physical touch- give your spouse a nice massage. Words of affirmation- remind your spouse of why you love them and encourage them.   Bad days are just that, a bad day. They don’t last forever. So realize that and do your best to be empathetic.  Hope this is helpful. Remember we all go through it. Every couple has problems and issues, you are not alone. If you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave it on our SPEAKPIPE. Its recorded and you can delete and start over as many times as you’d like.   Thank you guys so much, we love what we are doing and we are loving all the feedback. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE leave us an honest “Rating & Review” on iTunes and Stitcher radio. We need those reviews! That helps with ranking and helps people find us. Our goal is to Crush the 50% divorce rate and with your help I know we can do it!   Join the 10 Day challenge that is bring back the butterflies to couples! Whether you’ve been Married 1 day or 100 years, this is only going to bring you closer. Sign up for FREE here 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge.   ARE YOU READY FOR OUR E-BOOK!? We are so excited and can’t wait to get it into your hands. We jammed packed it with some of our most powerful technics that have helped us grow this unbreakable bond! It will be on our website soon!!   Find us on: FACEBOOK   TWITTER   INSTAGRAM   PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness   See you soon! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com

A touchy and usually very uncomfortable thing to talk to your kids about….SEX! BUT its a must. If you are not talking to them about sex someone else is. Typically its one of there “Know it all friends” that actually knows nothing! Your Son/daughter can end up being filled with false information that can lead to a world of trouble. So sit back and listen or read and hopefully learn from the mistakes that were made on us when we were younger. We made sure not to make the same mistakes on our kids! We always hear “Talk to your kids about sex right around the age of 10 (5th grade). Pretty soon the school will be sending home a notice for you to sign asking for your permission to have your child watch their “Sex Education” film. That is great but that should not be your child’s first introduction to  sex ed. Because of the way I was introduced to sex, I made many mistakes and had many misconceptions about what sex is. Which can explain us having a baby as teenagers. So with each one of our kids we talked about sex with them from the age of 10 and up. Step 1 -At the age of 10 I (Lyndan) get out a pencil and paper and sit with Vanessa along side our kid. I start to draw. Keep in mind Im sweating and very uncomfortable every time I’ve had to do this. I draw a picture of the Male organ on one side and of the females on the other side. I ask “Do you know what this is?” We proceed to explain how these two things go together. I then draw picture of sperm and explain how it leaves the man and enters the woman’s eggs and so on. I am very clear that sex is meant to be done with a Married Man and Woman. It is also how babies are made. Then I really go on about how sex was created by God to make babies! I do that to instill some fear. We do let them know it is a beautiful thing but it is how babies are made! We answer any questions that they may have. Step 2 -By the age of 13-14 we talk about sex way more openly. We point out how complicated things get when unmarried couples start having sex. We talk about how there is always a choice. Then we tell a few stories of friends who caught some sexually transmitted diseases and the fact that people can die from them. We explain how condoms work and that they can help prevent sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy but that there is NO guarantee.  Step 3 - By the age of 16-17 we really talk about sexual temptation. How it feels good to kiss and how easily your body can change your mind about having sex. How lust can be easily mistaken for love at your age. That if a girl ever tells you, "I love you" and we should do this for that reason. Or a boy ever tells you, "this will prove how much you love me” that its a trap and she/he is being fake. Step 4 - age 18 and up we show them horrifying pictures of people who have sexually transmitted diseases. College kids around the same age, then we repeat steps 2 and 3. To be clear Vanessa and I do not look down or judge anyone who had a teenage pregnancy or have a child who got pregnant as a teenager. We were those teens. We just didn’t want our kids to go through the same struggles we did at such a young age. God blessed us and we made it through but it wasn’t with out a lot of pain, sweat and tears! Our son who is 21 is the only one who has reached step 4 and he can’t get those images out of his head. He has had only one girlfriend and they were together about 6 months. He talks to me (Lyndan) very openly about sex. Ask “What if” questions. My 17 year old daughter has never had a boyfriend and is incredibly picky about the boy who gets the honor to be her first boyfriend. She too, speaks openly and doesn’t like the fact that she knows her parents are still having sex. Our 12 year old doesn’t say much, but doesn’t get embarrassed when Sex talks happen. This is how we have done it and are doing it. This is our way, no psychological studies proving this or that, this is just how we do it! Thank you guys for being here and for listening to us. We love sharing what we have learned with you. If this has been helpful in any way we would ask that you do two things #1 Leave us an honest rating and review on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio #2 Leave us a recorded message on our website. A question, a comment or a topic you would like to hear. Our FREE "10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge" is still alive and kicking, people are loving this fun, romantic challenge, so sign up to day by clicking here! Want to get a deeper more spiritual connection? Sign up for our FREE “30 Days PRAY & PLAY” We will send you a Prayer to say for your spouse and something Playful to do with them everyday for 30 days! Some of feedback “I am feeling so connected to my husband” and “I feel so much closer to my Wife” Try it, its FREE and you have nothing to lose! Are you watching our Periscope After Dark yet? What are you waiting for! Interact with us live where we get down and dirty(yet classy) about intimacy in Marriage. You can find us at @LyndanAndVaness on the PERISCOPE APP Find us: FACEBOOK     TWITTER       INSTAGRAM LOOK FOR OUR E-BOOK COMING SOON!! LEAVE US A COMMENT, QUESTION OR TOPIC BY CLICKING HERE! Thank you and have a great day! Lyndan and Vanessa DJandRapper.com

So many times in life we feel like throwing in the towel. Just giving up! You are not alone. We all go through it. In this episode we go over some of the do’s and dont’s when you are feeling like you just aren’t good or strong enough to handle it. Hang in there, you can do it! God has your Back!     My My My -Feel like giving up sometimes? TheDo’s & Dont’s to success   These are some of the mistakes we made along the way not only in our Business but in our Marriage. These tips go hand and hand with both.  When I (Lyndan) was in the car business for so long people told me that I could never get promoted to management. That I just wasn’t ever going to be good enough. I believed that lie for almost 2 years! Then i started seeing people who were less talented and people who were dishonest get promoted all around me, so I decided to go for it! I knew I was better then they made me feel. Once I got my first promotion I never stopped! Not only did the promotions keep coming but job offers from other companies were pouring in. If only we had known to apply these same tactics toward our Marriage back then.    So here is a list of all the “Dont’s” the things we did as our life, Job and Marriage started heading in a downward spiral!   DONT’S   -Dont sit in a pool of your own mess and feel sorry for yourself. This isn’t going to change your circumstance.   -Dont second guess the thoughts God has but in your head and the passion God has put in your Heart.   -Dont let the enemy’s lies fill your head with negativity “Your not good  enough”, “No one likes you”, You don’t deserve happiness, look at your past!” these are all lies!   -Dont start fighting with your spouse, pointing fingers and tearing each other down. Never start off a negative sentence with “You ALWAYS” or “You NEVER”   These are some of the Do’s that we have learned that have made all of the difference. Back then and to this day!   DO’S   -Do Pray immediately about your situation. Pray with your Spouse and on your own daily. Ask for guidance in making the right decisions. Ask for patience and the ability to deal with your struggles.   -Do go on walks and exercise with your Spouse and on your own. Exercise is the last thing we wanted to do when we were going through our trials. I thought, why do I need to be concerned about how I look? Its more then that, its your health, its releasing stress, its releases endorphins.  Here is a quote I found: "When you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine.”   -Do keep moving forward, keep trying! Believe that No matter what others may say, you can do it! There is a picture I refer to often where there is a man with a pick ax digging for gold. He finally decides to give up because he is exhausted. What he doesn’t realize is had he dug another 2 inches, his treasure was there waiting to be taken.   -Do express your feelings. If you are having a day of feeling weak, talk to your spouse about it. On days where you are feeling like you are just spinning your wheels, talk about it. Holding it in may not only cause more stress and resentment for whatever it is you are trying to accomplish but eventually you will explode and possibly let out all that frustration in a way that you may regret.   We have been through so much over the last 25 years. So many ups and downs. As we go through each season we come out smarter and stronger. 8 years ago we almost through in the towel. We were so exhausted. But God told us that we are meant to be, we are meant to do big things in the lives of others so we had better figure this out. We worked hard on our Marriage and on our Business and we can now say we are a SUCCESS. That doesn’t necessary have to do with finances. We are a success in your Marriage because we are able to guide other couples past a lot of the mistakes we have made. Successful in business because we are doing our passion which is Helping people have healthier lives and healthier relationships   Thank you guys for being here and for listening to us. We love sharing what we have learned with you. If this has been helpful in any way we would ask that you do two things   #1 Leave us an honest rating and review on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio #2 Leave us a recorded message on our website. A question, a comment or a topic you would like to hear.   Our FREE "10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge" is still alive and kicking, people are loving this fun, romantic challenge, so sign up to day by clicking here!   Want to get a deeper more spiritual connection? Sign up for our FREE “30 Days PRAY & PLAY” We will send you a Prayer to say for your spouse and something Playful to do with them everyday for 30 days! Some of feedback “I am feeling so connected to my husband” and “I feel so much closer to my Wife” Try it, its FREE and you have nothing to lose!     Are you watching our Periscope After Dark yet? What are you waiting for! Interact with us live where we get down and dirty(yet classy) about intimacy in Marriage. You can find us at @LyndanAndVaness on the PERISCOPE APP   Find us: FACEBOOK      TWITTER       INSTAGRAM   LEAVE US A COMMENT, QUESTION OR TOPIC BY CLICKING HERE!   Thank you and have a great day! Lyndan and Vanessa DJandRapper.com        

This is a tough one. On todays episode we talk about some of the warning signs that we missed at first that our Marriage was in trouble. Thank God we caught it in time and we were both willing to work on our Marriage. It takes two.         1.You two don’t disagree on anything- This may sound a little backwards but it is      true. You are uniquely you and no one is exactly like you. So if you and your spouse never have a disagreement, someone is not being honest. Arguments can be great for a relationship. Finding out how someone truly feels will help you understand them. This can be the beginning of fixing a problem.   You rarely have Sex- Some will say its only because we are tired or we just don’t have time. Sex in Marriage is a must. Intimacy only brings you closer. Sex is a special bond that should be shared between you and your spouse regularly. We always talk about scheduling it. The same way you may have a hair appointment or nail appointment, have a Sex appointment with your spouse.   One or Both of you are drinking a lot- We are not experts on drinking or alcoholism I (Lyndan) can only speak from experience. When Vanessa and I were going through our rough patch, alcohol was a huge factor. I drank almost every night and she did mostly on the weekends. For me it was away to not care about anything. A way of me trying to escape. I NEVER felt good the next day, yet I continued down a really bad path. As we begin to rebuild I completely stop drinking and saw things through new eyes.   One or Both of you have a Quick fuse- Getting  angry at little things is a huge red flag that you are in trouble. I (Lyndan) would get so made if Vanessa wouldn’t put my keys back where she found them. Vanessa would get angry with me if I didn’t put my dish in the dishwasher. These may be things to get annoyed about but not worth a full blown fight! We have learned so much since then.   One or Both of you are staying out all night- I was always told “Nothing good happens after midnight” and I agree. If you are Married, thier is absolutely no reason to be staying out all night somewhere else. This is a bad sign in a relationship.   The two of you are Mean to each other- Dirty looks, not being helpful at all. Name calling. There are so many ways to be mean. The one thing Vanessa and I never did was name calling, but other then that, we were pretty mean to each other.   No respect for one another- Not listening to each other, not telling each other where you are going. Hiding Cell phones, not sharing passwords. Never saying Thank you, showing No appreciation for each other. Just to name a few.   If you and your spouse are dealing with any of the above. We strongly urge to get some help. Get therapy asap. If you can’t afford a therapist go to your local Church and make an appointment with the Pastor. Vanessa and I felt with almost everyone of these things and had it not been for the help we got we would be together today. But we had to reach out and make the effort. So please do it!   Thank you so much for hanging in there, we told you this would be a tough one! Divorce isn’t aways the answer. We understand in some cases it is necessary but not in every case.   If you’d like to see more of us you can catch us Daily on Periscope. Our Periscope handle is @LyndanAndVaness   You can also find us: FACEBOOK      TWITTER     INSTAGRAM   Have you started our 10 DAY IGNITE YOUR MARRIAGE CHALLENGE yet. Over 200 people have, so what are you waiting for!! Lets do this!   Want something a little more in depth? Try our 30 DAYS OF PRAY & PLAY  We will send you a Prayer to say for your spouse  and something Playful to do with your spouse everyday for 30 Days!   Here is the Whole 30 food plan! Recommended by Erin C Woodbury   PLEASE LEAVE US AN HONEST RATING ON iTUNES OR STITCHER RADIO.  We would so appreciate it!   Have an Awesome day! Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com  

One thing that our family does a lot is LAUGH! I thought this was the norm but apparently its not. Well it should be! In this episode we give you 7 things that we do to keep us laughing daily.   Marriage missions; "1. Laughter fosters a sense of playfulness and shared abandon                2.Laughter forges a positive bond                                                              3.Laughter brings greater perspective                                                        4.Laughter reduces defensiveness and opens you up to new experiences. 5. Laughter acts as a buffer to stress” Smile- 7 Things that will bring laughter to your Marriage   Don’t take yourself to seriously- If you have a bad day at work, the gym, or even the store, let it go! Don’t bring that grumpiness home. Don’t take people that upset you to seriously. Its usually something going on in themselves. So don’t waste valuable family time being upset. Leave it at the door and enjoy your Fam! Smile at each other throughout the day- Whenever you see each other, give each other a silly smile. If you are together all day even better. If not, take a silly smiling selfie and send it to each other. You won’t be able to keep a straight face. Smack that booty (Softly)- Easy, whenever you walk by each other, give each other a little pat on the bum. If you feel incline, give it a little squeeze too. If you see or hear something funny share it with your spouse- We always share the funny stuff. If its something on tv we rewind it and go get each other. If its something on social media we will sit down next to each other and watch. It just makes it funnier to watch things with your best friend. Surprise your spouse with a silly fun gift- A great example of this. On My (Lyndan’s) 40th birthday Vanessa bought me a “40” for those who don’t know, a “40” is a big giant glass bottle of beer that takes almost 2 hands to hold. In my early 20’s my friends and I would actually drink these things. So when she handed it to me on my 40th birthday, I just laughed! Obviously I didn’t drink it, but it brought back a lot of funny memories. Go see or rent a “B” movie- One of our silly B movies is “Malibus most wanted. The story of a rich Caucasian kid who was raised by his African American Nanny. He feels like he is in the same struggle as the less privileged gangsters in the Hood. He eventually finds himself kidnapped and in the Middle of South Central. It is a dumb movie that cracks us up every time. We have probably seen it 20 times. Another one of our B Movies is The Wedding singer with Adam Sandler. Always puts us in a great mood. Family Pillow Fight- Randomly walk into the room throw everyone a pillow who is in it and start smacking away! Not only will you laugh and surprise the kids but you will burn some serious calories! Its really hard to Pillow fight without laughing!   Go have some fun! Life is to short not to laugh everyday! Thank you so much for hanging out with us. We hope that we can make you laugh at least two days a week through our Podcast.   We so appreciate you and would love for you to leave us an Honest Rating and review on iTunes and/or on Stitcher Radio. The more ratings we get the high our ranking. We want to rank high couples can find us, so please help us out. Thank you   LEAVE US A VOICE MESSAGE! If you have a Question or Comment we would love to hear from you.   You can find us on: FACEBOOK       TWITTER        INSTAGRAM PERISCOPE @LyndanAndVaness we go live every night #ScopeAfterDark (no kids allowed). It gets a little freaky but always tasteful.   THE 10 DAY IGNITE YOUR MARRIAGE CHALLENGE THAT IS CHANGING MARRIAGES BY BRINGING COUPLES CLOSER! Give this challenge a try whether you are Happily Married or feeling you are stuck in a boring Marriage. Its FREE!!   We also have our 30 DAYS OF PRAY AND PLAY where we send you a Prayer daily to say for your spouse and something playful to do. Everyday for 30 Days you will get an email. Its just fun!   Have a great Day and LAUGH!!   Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com  

Welcome to Episode 30! As you may know by now we talk a lot about taking our 10 Day Ignite your Marriage Challenge! But what exactly is it and why is it so important? In this episode we break down all 10 things that you need to do to feel more connected and more in Love! Is it a guarantee, of course not for everyone. But this is what helped us and has helped many other couples who have taken the challenge! So what do you have to lose? Jump in and get busy!   Are you ready?? Her we go!   The 10 Day Ignite Your Marriage Challenge!   ?Here are the activities that you must and get to do everyday of the Challenge   1. Get busy, Make Love, you know, have Sex at least 7 out of the 10 days!! Say what?!?! Yes you can! I read somewhere that sex is like Chocolate, its good even when  you’re not in the mood. So no excuses, schedule it and do your best to hit that 70% mark. If you are not already doing this, this can bring your closeness to a whole new level. The feeling of intimacy is a game changer.   2. Kiss each other on the Lips Hello and goodbye daily. Even if you are together all day. Make it work. We are all about the 7 second kiss. This is your spouse, not your Grandma, so NO pecks! 7 seconds on the lips to say Hello and Goodbye.   3. Look each other in the eyes and say "I Love you" followed by one reason why, 3 times daily. Its okay to repeat the reason why on a diffent day, but at least try to be original. For example Lyndan will look into Vanessas eyes and say “I Love you because you can tell when Im upset and you do your best to pull it out of me so I will feel better.” Vanessa may say “I Love you because you remind me to invest in other people and to hear them out before I tell them about myself.” Your turn.   4. Hold hands. At the store, at lunch, even while driving in the car or laying in bed. This one can feel a little akward at first but it is so cool! Feeling like teenagers in love again. Most people will think you just started dating. How sad is that. Turn back the clock and hold hands everywhere.   ?5. 30 Minutes a day without technology. You'll survive, I promise! No t.v, no radio, no podcast, no cell. Just you and your spouse chillin with each other for 30 minutes. Yes we are taking it back to the prehistoric times, times of the CaveMan! If they could do it, so can you. Take the time to talk, hang out with no distractions. You will be amazed to learn how each others day went when you just talk. You can also use this time as part of Challenge #1   6. Write One Love letter. Just one. Well at least one. Text are great, as a matter of fact texting each other is on the list, however there is nothing like getting a heart felt love letter. Pen to paper. Tell Him/her how you feel in detail. Make sure to keep this letter and refer back to it when every you are feeling upset or discouraged. I love my Love letters.   7. Do your absolute best to go to bed at the same time as each other every night. Going to bed at the same time doesn’t seem like a big deal right? It is. Its a time to unwind together. Maybe rub the shoulders, run fingers through the hair and exhale. Another bonding moment without having to say a word.   8. Send a love text once a day that would freak your kids out if they saw it. This is the foreplay of the day. Guys be sure to text how sexy and beautiful you think your wife is and how you can’t wait to hold her and so on…. Girls text your man about his sexy arms and how strong he is and how you can’t wait for….well use your imagination!   9. Date night at least twice. Even if the date is sitting in the back yard having a drink together. Do your best to avoid movies. This one does not need to cost money. One thing we do as a couple is how dinner and a drinks in our room with the door shut. That counts as a date. Maybe just sitting in the back yard or going for a walk. If you can spend money, get dressed up and go have a nice dinner. If you work close enough to each other, meet for lunch. Just the two of you.   10. The Most important one!! Pray together every night! I think its better to Pray after sex, but thats just me. Yes, Pray for your spouse, for their health, for their  thoughts, encourage them through prayer. Pray for the decisions they make, for the people that influence them. In Episode 4 we go over our best practices for Praying for each other.   If you would like this List emailed to you click here :)   If you have any questions please send an email to Ask@DjandRapper.com or leave us a recorded message on our website. Record a Message Find us on: FACEBOOK     TWITTER    INSTAGRAM **********PERISCOPE********* @LyndanAndVaness Have fun with it and remember to SUBSCRIBE to He's the Dj She's the Rapper Podcast airing every Monday and Thursday! Please leave us an honest Rating on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio. We would really appreciate it! JOIN OUR PRAY & PLAY FOR 30 DAYS if you have gone through the 10 day Ignite your Marriage challenge. Or do them both at the same time! Much Love to you, Lyndan & Vanessa DJandRapper.com