How to be a Dangerous Woman

This episode is for everyone who wants to level up in every area of their life this year. I'll go over the seven non-negotiable things that you need to incorporate into your life to become the most dangerous and amazing version of yourself. Making these non-negotiables a part of your life will make leveling up inevitable. There's a lot of talk on social media about being “that girl,” which often relates to a skincare routine or external appearance. In our community, we aim to not only look good but also to be strong in our mindset and possess emotional intelligence. As Dangerous Women, we represent the whole package. I'm going to discuss how to take the thoughts and ideas around being “that girl” externally and merge them with the elements necessary to be a Dangerous Woman. Episode Highlights:  [02:25] 1. Start incorporating a morning routine. Customize your routine to your life and where you are. [03:17] Slow down long enough to wake up and pray or meditate or journal. Have some quiet time to check in with yourself. [04:19] Get into the consistent habit of starting your morning more slowly. [05:10] 2. Move your body in some way. You don't have to take class or buy equipment, just move your body in a way that's fun for you. [06:23] 3. I want you to take the time, preferably, as part of your routine to journal. [07:02] Start making journaling and writing out your thoughts a part of your life. [07:43] Spend time asking yourself what's going on with you and how are you feeling. [08:02] 4. Eat in a way that nourishes your body and helps you with your goals to be healthy and strong. [10:04] You might need to prepare meals in advance, so you don't just grab whatever's available when you get super hungry. Do an evaluation of how you can nourish your body in better ways. [10:53] 5. Have a schedule. This is what you do 99% of the time on rotation. Following a regular schedule will change your life. [12:49] 6. Get a hobby that challenges you and forces you into discomfort. That puts you at a beginner level and requires you to think in a new way. [15:32] 7. Understand your money. Look at your money no matter how much or how little you have. Know what your numbers are. [16:27] We need to learn how to handle our money in a way that benefits us and our families.  [18:14] Focus on these things and make them non-negotiables in your life. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society  Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

If you've been struggling with your self-confidence lately, this episode is for you. This week, we're focusing on building self-confidence through our inner dialogue. By examining how we talk to ourselves, we can foster a more confident, resilient, and growth-oriented mindset, leading to an improved self-image. In this episode, we'll explore several practical tips that you can apply today to boost your self-confidence. Remember, confident individuals are formidable. Even in moments of doubt, they know how to regain their confidence. Don't underestimate the power of positive self-talk and the profound impact it can have on your life. Each step you take towards nurturing your self-confidence is a step towards unlocking your full potential Episode Highlights:  [03:25] 1. Start practicing positive affirmations. I don't mean fake it till you make it. Begin your day believing the words that you are saying in your affirmations. [04:13] Begin and end your day with these affirmations. [04:37] Think about what you wish was true about you. Take this thought and create "but" statements that will become your affirmations. [05:53] An example would be: "I feel like I'm not quite capable, but I'm taking a class and studying, so I feel like I know what I'm doing." [05:57] Combine how you currently feel, add a "but" statement, customize it, and take the action.  [07:45] 2. The second thing I want you to pay attention to is challenging negative thoughts. [08:02] When you catch yourself engaging in negative thoughts, start challenging that inner mean girl. Ask if it's true and if you still want it to be true. Look for holes that you can poke in those negative thoughts. [09:00] 3. Using visualization. Daydreaming is an important skill. Start seeing yourself in the different areas of your life being successful. Use your self-dialogue for your good. [10:02] 4. Focus on growth and not perfection. Perfection is a way to protect ourselves from discomfort. Focus on things that help you grow, not be perfect. [12:48] 5. Surround yourself with positivity. Not just your inner self-dialogue but also the people around you. [13:11] Have a go-to friend that really pours into you.  [13:34] If you're feeling stuck, look at who you spend the most time with. [14:19] 6. Practice gratitude and celebrate. [16:27] 7. Embrace self-compassion. We have such a tendency to be angry with ourselves when we're not where we believe we should be. Practice having the same kindness and understanding for yourself that you would offer to a friend. [17:39] Instead of beating yourself up for something, you can say "You're so cute." Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society  Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Are you finding it harder to keep in touch with friends between the demands of work, family, and the daily grind? Do you reminisce about the days when friendships flourished with ease, wondering where the time for those meaningful connections has gone? If so, you're in the right place. In this episode, we're not just acknowledging the struggle; we're tackling it head-on. We'll explore practical strategies for nurturing friendships that withstand the pressures of adult responsibilities. Because let's face it, as we navigate the complexities of maturity, career paths, and personal life, the balancing act never seems to end. Yet, amidst this chaos, the value of true friendship remains constant. Episode Highlights:  [01:43] Having friends is a tremendous part of having that 10 out of 10 dream life. [02:08] How do we maintain friendships when adult duties monopolize all of our time? [03:37] How do you prioritize communicating regularly and defining what regularly means for your friendship? [04:37] Make the effort. Everyone is busy. Put it on your calendar and don't flake out. [05:30] Plan an in-person meetup. [07:54] Get a group of friends together and start planning your next gathering. Consider the quality of time you spend together. [08:26] Make sure there's a safe space for open and honest communication.  [10:31] Your willingness and their willingness to adjust roles will help maintain your friendships. Be mindful of what's going on in each other's life as you shift through life stages. [11:32] You need to be willing to modify the time and frequency of communication without it altering your commitment to the friendship. [12:07] Reciprocate efforts. Everyone has responsibilities. Don't leave the responsibility of maintaining the friendship on one person. [14:10] Foster the relationships that are there for you and celebrate the small things. Also, be present for the hard times. The best friendships stand the test of time and the ups and downs of life. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society  Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Have you tried everything possible and still find yourself not where you want to be? In this discussion, I'll address how to determine whether you're being too hard on yourself or too lenient. Generally, people fall into two categories: those who are overly critical of themselves and those who don't realize they are too lenient. I'll cover several key points, including recognizing the right moments to engage, finding a balanced approach, and providing tips for self-assessment to help you understand whether you're being too easy or too hard on yourself.  I approach the topics of procrastination and perfectionism, explaining how these behaviors can hinder progress. Finally, I'll discuss the issue of limited time and the importance of evaluating whether your goals truly align with your desires Episode Highlights:  [01:42] We want to be in the middle of the two extremes of being too hard or too lenient on yourself. [02:03] Finding middle ground will be very important when trying to establish anything new in your life. [02:16] A talk for those who are being too easy on themselves. Self diagnosis includes asking if you are always making excuses, procrastinating, or constantly switching the plan or the goal. [03:41] Commonly used reasons for not moving. [04:25] Procrastination and perfectionism will keep you stuck. [08:07] The flip side of being too easy on yourself is being too hard on yourself. You are using perfectionism like a hammer. [10:27] For every reason you have to not progress and go further, ask yourself if this is really true.  [11:15] We need to know how we spend our time, because our brains will validate not having time. [12:53] Make sure you're very clear about what your goal is. [14:37] Set goals that give you early wins so you don't get discouraged and quit. [15:27] Create a routine that you follow and make it non-negotiable. [17:08] There will be bumps on the road, your goal is to continue becoming the woman who makes the changes and reaches the goal. [17:58] The power of accountability is imperative in reaching your goals. A good coach will see your blind spots.  [19:20] Join the Dangerous Woman Society! Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society Get A Free One-On-One Session Before Jan. 23rd Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

If you need a quick push to get into action and create an amazing year, this episode is for you. This week, I'm doing a rapid-fire talk about why you could be in mediocrity and how to start taking action to get out of it. This is a wake-up call, so that you don’t settle into this year like you did last year.  If you aren't paying attention and taking intentional action, this year will look exactly like last year. We’ve talked about this dozens of times in our community, but there’s never a time it doesn’t need to be revisited. If you’re living below your version of your best life, you are officially living in mediocrity. Let’s make this year different.  This podcast revolves around what we'll be working on in our first session of the Dangerous Woman Society on January 23rd. If you would like to join, it's $99 a month for monthly group coaching sessions, monthly lessons, accountability, and a community that's going through the same things you are.  Episode Highlights:  [02:02] If you're living a life that is below your version of your best life, you are officially in mediocrity. [02:36] How you may have gotten to this place. It could be a lack of awareness. [03:09] If you never take a look at where you are or think about what you want, you'll never even consider making changes in your life. [03:15] Rate your life on a scale of 1-10 in relationships, career, business, money, and health. [04:05] 2024 is a perfect time to revisit your ratings and see where you are. [04:51] Other reasons you could feel stuck are an attachment to your comfort zone and an unwillingness to leave it. [05:14] Unclear goals or waiting for support from others could also be in issue. [06:02] What would you do if you didn't feel fear or any other negative feelings? [06:35] Your homework is to evaluate your life in health, relationships, money, career or business, and identify the Gap from where you are and where you want to be. Ask yourself the reason why you aren't where you want to be. [06:57] Make a commitment to being a woman who takes intentional action with the knowledge of what has been holding you back. [07:23] This is what we'll be working on in the first session of the Dangerous Woman Society on January 23rd. [07:33] Joining the Dangerous Woman Society will give you a community that makes you feel less alone. You'll see women in the same spot that you are and those that aren't even there yet. [08:03] There will be people that you can Inspire and people that you will be inspired by. [08:59] You are not mediocre. You may not be there yet, but being in progress is important. That is this work. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society Get A Free One-On-One Session Before Jan. 23rd Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Do you ever struggle with achieving your biggest dreams or goals? Using the art of delusion might be the key to your success. I explain what this means and give steps to take an honest look at your life and the emotions that come up. No more pushing down and repressing those emotions. No more responding immediately without taking a step back.  The next step is up to you. You have a choice in how you’ll look at the situation. It might not be as bad as you think and you can use the art of delusion to look at things in a different light. Believing that things will get better can be life changing and that’s our goal for 2024. This is the work that we are doing in the Dangerous Woman Society, a monthly membership community that will create a nurturing and uplifting atmosphere, fostering support and encouragement. You'll get group coaching and lessons. You can ask questions and personalize the experience. You'll also get access to a powerful community of women who are just like you. All for $99 per month, with the flexibility to cancel anytime.  Episode Highlights:  [01:35] The art of delusion is when you believe that things will be okay and get better even when they aren't going according to plan.  [02:08]  As challenges and struggles arise in your life, look at them for exactly what they are. Be real, raw, and honest about what's going on in your situation. [03:00] The only reason you wouldn't face the reality of what it would be if you couldn't handle the emotions that come with it. [03:06] This year we are going to focus on learning to handle the emotions that come with being a human being and having a human life experience. This is the year we learn how to do life better. [03:43] Challenges are here to teach us and help us to grow. [04:37] Give yourself permission to feel the emotions that do come up when you look at things as they are. [05:25] Look at the situation from an honest place. Feel whatever comes up. Now you have a choice. You can look at the situation from whatever angle comes up. [06:45] It's not delusional to look at things in a better light. It's faith.  [06:54] Faith is believing in something that isn't as if it already was. [08:24] Thinking that things are changing for the better makes a complete difference in your life. [10:03] This year I want you to know yourself at the deepest and most intimate level. [11:12] Take what you feel and connect it to what you believe.  [12:32] Have an anchor where you can create your own "but" statement to stop the descent into overwhelm or discouragement. [13:33] Look at things how they are and choose to believe that there are better days ahead. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

It's a new year, and I hope you're feeling excited, optimistic, and ready for growth and learning. This episode focuses on redefining kindness, especially in relationships. We'll explore how to overcome the fear of hurting people's feelings, empowering you to make better decisions and confidently follow your own path. Starting this January, the Dangerous Woman Society is opening its doors. Perfect for those who've been working independently, it offers an enhanced experience with monthly group coaching, challenges, and accountability. Featuring on-demand classes on specific topics, it's ideal for newcomers to coaching looking to dive deeper.  Priced at $99 per month, with the flexibility to cancel anytime. The community will create a nurturing and uplifting atmosphere, fostering support and encouragement among members. Episode Highlights:  [02:57] Most of us are certified good girls who don't like to hurt people's feelings. [04:15] Many of us think it would be cruel and hurtful to tell someone how we really feel. We don't want to upset the other person or have them think we're being mean. [05:03] Many of us believe that not hurting other people's feelings is kindness. The problem with this thought process is that we're not responsible for other people's feelings. [05:47] If someone feels love, it's because they're having loving thoughts about another person. [06:11] You must release yourself from the responsibility of making anyone feel anything whether it's good or bad. [06:42] It's not kind to not be transparent or truthful in your relationships for fear of hurting someone's feelings. [07:39] Begin to associate complete honesty with kindness. Associate clarity with kindness. Ambiguity is not kindness. [10:00] Making decisions based on the feelings of someone else will leave you angry and discouraged in the relationship. The most kind thing you can do in any relationship is offer honesty. [11:09] Free yourself from the thought that it's cruel or unkind to be honest. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Dangerous Woman Society Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Do you ever struggle with knowing when and how to ask for help? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking about how to avoid the trap of superwoman syndrome and managing everything independently. This is the 2024 Mindset Makeover Part 2.  Even when busy during the holidays, you likely still have thoughts and dreams for the upcoming year. We are going to talk about how to turn those dreams into reality. We've previously discussed the mindset steps.  Today, we’re focusing on the critically important execution phase. I'll discuss when and whether to seek help after completing the mindset work and formulating a plan of action. Episode Highlights:  [03:00] Define what matters most to you and clarify your priorities.  [04:02] What is your zone of genius? [05:07] Will the time you save getting support from someone else outweigh the cost of doing it yourself? Identify the benefits. [07:22] Will doing it yourself and learning a new skill set really matter to you? [08:57] The tricky part about deciding whether you should ask for help or not is where you're avoiding the discomfort of a task and just letting someone else do it. Or even if you think if someone else does it it'll be an immediate success. [09:41] I want you to be able to distinguish and catch when you are trying to avoid growth. [14:06] When I signed up for a coaching program, the relief I felt should have been a red flag for me when I thought of not having to do something that is essential for my business. [14:52] I wanted the program to do the heavy lifting and relieve me from the discomfort of doing what I needed to do. [16:11] I want you to be aware of how easy it is to fall prey to taking the easy way out. [17:00] Knowingly choosing discomfort isn't easy. You need to be mindful of how your brain will try to escape from any discomfort. [17:12] Examples of when it's good to ask for help include working with a financial planner, a certified trainer, hiring a housekeeper, or ordering groceries. [18:35] A life coach can see your blind spots and point them out to you in a way that your friends and family aren't going to. [19:52]  As a business owner, you need to learn how to deal with the rejection before hiring someone to do the sales and follow up for you. [20:21] Knowing when to ask for help is vital. It's important to know your motives behind asking for help. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto Dangerous Woman Society Membership

Are you struggling with being perceived as 'too nice' when you want to be seen as a strong leader? This interview with Fran Hauser is a must-listen. Fran, the author of The Myth of the Nice Girl, brings a wealth of experience as a media executive, advocate for women and girls, and an investor in over 30 female-led companies. She’s a best-selling author, speaker, and a truly wise and genuine person.  She frequents conferences and organizations, empowering women to build fulfilling careers without compromising their authenticity. Our discussion dives into crucial topics such as overcoming the urge to please everyone, increasing self-awareness, and self-advocacy. Fran's insights shine a light on how to maintain our true selves, stay kind, and emerge as respected leaders.   Episode Highlights:  [02:06] Being nice has been helpful to Fran's career. She could negotiate with real win-win outcomes. She was able to show empathy, build relationships, and deep connections. [04:07] She also had young women coming to her and asking how she could be so nice yet successful. [04:53] Fran became more comfortable with who she was and was able to list how being nice helped her business. [05:30] Once she became more established, people stopped saying she was too nice.  [06:16] There are more corporate cultures that encourage employees to show up in a way that's aligned with their values. There's more diversity, and there's a huge difference in corporate culture today. [07:13] Fran shares how she tried to get away from the nice girl image early in her career. She took bad advice and went over someone's head to get something done, and it damaged her relationship with this person. [08:43] It felt awful to hurt her feelings. That's when I learned that I really messed up, and I'm not going to try to be a person that I'm not. [09:30] As a leader, you can set the tone and work in an environment of respect even if you don't agree. It's more difficult when you're a team member and not the leader. [12:06] People pleasing is having no boundaries and saying yes to everything. Check in with yourself and ask if you're saying yes because this is aligned with your priorities. Am I saying yes, because I feel bad saying no? It's an important distinction. [14:45] Advocating for yourself doesn't mean that you're not a nice person. You can ask for more money or to be put on that high-profile project.  [15:43] People-pleasing can show up in many different ways. Fran shares an experience from her early career where she learned the importance of self-awareness and learning from her mistakes. [17:59] Is being a nice girl a superpower? Being kind, empathetic, and warm enables you to connect more deeply and build stronger relationships. [18:43] You need to set boundaries and not let people walk all over you or take advantage of you. [20:27] The importance of getting feedback from trusted friends.  [21:56] Fran's head and heart are with helping aspiring authors get their books out.  [24:08] You deserve to have a great week. Be clear on what really matters to you. Where do you want to spend your time? What are your priorities? How can you set healthy boundaries around those? [25:18] We have control over our time, energy, to-do list, and to-don't list. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto Fran Hauser Fran Hauser Instagram Reflect and Reset Journal The Breakthrough: Dancing My Way to Happy The Breakthrough: From Shadows to Spotlight The Breakthrough: Cooking Up Confidence with Gaby Hale

Are you gearing up to make 2024 your most successful year yet? Then this podcast is tailor-made for you. Join me as I guide you through the essential steps to mentally and physically gear up for an outstanding new year. Whether 2023 was a year of challenges or a year where your expectations weren’t fully met, this fresh start is your opportunity to shine. Perhaps you're reflecting on your 2023 successes, wondering how to surpass them, or you might feel you fell short of your goals. In either case, we'll navigate these feelings and strategize to set you up for unparalleled success. Welcome to Part 1 of our two-part series, where we'll focus on cultivating a winning mindset to kickstart your journey. Episode Highlights:  [02:53] It's time to take this mindset information in and put it into practice. Take action. [03:30] Evaluate your year. Ask yourself the following questions. 1. How am I different now than I was in January? Think about the positives and the negatives. How have the positive changes impacted your life?  [04:08] 2. How have I stayed the same? How has this helped or hindered me? [04:35] After answering these questions, ask yourself where you believe that you have the most work to do. [07:03] I've noticed that there were times where I just coasted in my business. I looked at the tangible outcomes and my business and clients have increased, but I didn't hit all of my goals. [09:00] Know when and where you need to push and where you need to pause. This is important as you decide how you want 2024 to look. [10:25] Have a picture of what you want the year to look like before you go out and set your big goals. Envision what you want your everyday life to be like. [11:08] Everything is determined by how you answer the question of what you want your life to look like. [12:44] Allow yourself to dream and listen to the information that comes up in your mind.  [13:25] When you capture all the thoughts about your dreams, your unconscious limitations will come up. Challenge these thoughts and fight for the opposite. [15:33] Fight for the possibilities as opposed to fighting for the limitations. [18:06] Practice catching your limiting thoughts and ignoring other people's possible limiting thoughts. [19:52] After you've tackled what you want your life to look like and the limiting thoughts, then it's time to work on the how. [20:40] Really take time and spend it on these two steps and next week we will tackle the action stage. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto The Breakthrough: Dancing My Way to Happy The Breakthrough: From Shadows to Spotlight The Breakthrough: Cooking Up Confidence with Gaby Hale

If you want to get healthy and be inspired, this is the podcast for you. My guest, Tawana Miller, is the CEO of BFitBFly, a healthy lifestyle brand that specializes in plant-dominant meal prep, kitchen, and pantry organization, and her signature detox culinary program called The Meal Edit. Tawana has a master's degree in healthcare administration. She's a personal wellness chef, a healthy lifestyle expert, and she holds a certificate in plant-based nutrition from the Center of Nutrition Studies at Cornell. Tawana's approach to a balanced, plant-based lifestyle extends beyond mere diet; it's a tailored solution to individual needs. She's also an advocate and speaker for autism awareness, and part of her company's proceeds are donated to Autism Speaks. We talk about how Tawana’s life changed for the better when her miracle baby arrived. This episode will have you wanting to eat better and appreciate unexpected blessings. Episode Highlights:  [02:30] Tawana's son was a miracle child. She was inspired to start her nutrition business to help with her son's autism.  [04:03] Tawana talks about the transition that she and her husband went through and the loss they mourned. She found a whole new life when she got to the other side. [05:16] She began taking cooking lessons. She wanted to cook better for her son and found it to be very therapeutic. [05:50] Tawana explains why it's so important for her to be an advocate for the special needs community. [06:40] No matter what someone's special needs or disability may be, we all have a story and have unique needs.  [07:06] It's not true that special needs kids aren't able to learn. [08:33] Tawana always invites people to ask questions, and she loves it when people are curious about special needs children.  [09:06] She's not totally vegan, but believes in being plant-based. Her son had food intolerances like dairy sensitivity. She tells her clients to do what works for them. [11:06] This diet has improved the health of the whole family. A plant-based lifestyle has worked well for them.  [12:39] Tawana shares how eating plant-based has improved the health of her clients.  [14:31] Her favorite part of her business is when people see the value that she's giving them. [16:28] She feels like media is the next step for her, so she can get the message out.  Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto BFitBFly Kitchen Studio Tawana’s Email: info@bfitbfly.com Tawana Miller Instagram Starting A Podcast Can Feel Scary, These Hosts Say Start One Anyway The Breakthrough: Dancing My Way to Happy The Breakthrough: From Shadows to Spotlight The Breakthrough: Cooking Up Confidence with Gaby Hale

If this year and this season have been really hard for you, this episode is for you. Today, I'm talking about what to do when everything doesn't feel okay. It's almost the end of 2023, a year that has been challenging for me personally and in my business. I know that many of you have also been dealing with grief, anger, sadness, and even hopelessness.   It's time for all of us to collectively learn how to get through tough times and come out stronger on the other side. Challenges and struggles are normal, and so are the feelings they evoke. I'll share how to work through your emotions and feelings without reacting negatively.   Episode Highlights: [02:00] You are allowed to feel whatever you feel. [03:15] Release the need to compare struggles or edit and correct the feelings you are having. [04:07] Most people allow themselves to respond from negative emotions as if there was no other choice. [05:31] You'll start seeing a big shift when you decide to no longer be a puppet to your emotions. [05:54] Look at the circumstances that make you feel like things aren't okay. Get out all of the thoughts. These are real and valid feelings. [06:50] It's okay to not be okay all of the time. We want to feel, acknowledge, and process, but not respond. [08:19] Talk about the worst-case scenario and what would happen if things got worse. Feel the feelings of what this would mean if it really happened. [09:04] The light at the end of the tunnel is that by facing your fear, it no longer has a grip on you. [09:27] What would you do if your worst-case scenario became a reality? [11:08] After facing the negative emotions, what is your next step? [13:35] Commit to riding the emotional roller coaster. [14:06] If you don't feel okay right now, that's okay. [14:51] Find small pockets of joy and peace and write those moments down.   Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto The Breakthrough: Dancing My Way to Happy The Breakthrough: From Shadows to Spotlight

As the year progresses, the pace quickens with a flurry of responsibilities, demands, invitations, and, inevitably, guilt. That's precisely why I felt it was important to revisit my previously published Episode 9, which delves into the crucial topic of setting boundaries. In this episode, I guide you through the process of establishing healthy boundaries—a practice that not only improves your interactions with others but also nurtures a more loving relationship with yourself. I'll address the common pitfalls of setting boundaries incorrectly, such as using them to exert control in a relationship or failing to maintain the established limits. I explain how poorly set boundaries can detrimentally impact your relationships. Then, I show how appropriately set boundaries can promote love, connection, and intimacy, enriching your interactions with others as well as with yourself. You will receive a three-step process for creating healthy boundaries and actionable steps that you can put into practice starting today. Episode Highlights:  [01:37] Boundaries are the rules we set for ourselves in relationships. They are a form of protection for a personal, mental, and physical space. [02:06] Boundaries make it clear what you will and will not tolerate in your life. Setting boundaries correctly helps create more intimacy and connection. [02:44] If you set up a boundary trying to control a person's behavior, you are setting up an ultimatum. This is like withholding affection until they do what you want them to do. This is an example of a poorly set boundary. [04:14] Handing over how you feel to another person is a sign of personal weakness. [04:20] Another problematic behavior is not upholding your boundary when violated. [04:45] Not following through with the consequences of your boundaries makes them a request. This can be an issue for people who are people pleasers. They might think that they are being unkind or cruel by following through with the consequences of their boundaries. [05:14] When people violate the boundaries you present to them, you become resentful and feel disrespected because you think they shouldn't do that. [06:44] Resentment by not enforcing boundaries or not having your boundaries expected reduces the opportunity for a genuine loving relationship. [07:02] The most significant damage of not setting boundaries correctly is the damage that it does to you. You're robbing yourself of control. [08:57] I want to teach you how to set boundaries so that you can create healthy relationships with other people and yourself. [09:11] #1 You need to communicate clearly what your boundary is. #2 Clearly communicate what you will do if the boundary is violated. The consequence of a boundary always states what you will do if the other person doesn’t honor the boundary. [11:24] Allow the other person to decide how they will behave moving forward. You're not controlling their behavior. They have the free will to continue doing the behavior, and you have the free will to follow through with the consequences. #3 Follow through. [12:50] Setting boundaries the correct way with the intention of honoring both you and the other person is the most loving, honest, and genuine thing you can do in any relationship. [13:49] Write down the name of the person you've been thinking about this entire episode. Then write down three reasons why that person would benefit from a boundary set from a place of love. Write down one boundary you will set with this person and what you will do if that boundary is violated. Links and Resources: Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram Dangerous Woman Manifesto The Qualities Successful Women Embody (That makes them DANGEROUS)  

I’m so excited to have my friend and coach, Kristina Knapp, back on the show. In last week’s episode, I mentioned my new show, 'The Breakthrough,' which premieres on October 30th. Kristina is featured in the pilot episode. I connected with Kristina, and we discussed the show, her experience, and her breakthroughs. Kristina is very confident. However, being confident enough to learn and present a dance performance was a challenge she chose to work through. We talk about the challenges that arise from last-minute changes. We also share some behind-the-scenes experiences and discuss what having a true breakthrough feels like. Episode Highlights:  [02:21] We talk about why Kristina said yes to being on the show.  [04:30] Kristina always wanted to sing and dance. She loves watching dance videos. Dancing is cool. She wanted that confidence that was connected to her body.  [07:10] Kristina is confident in most aspects of her life. She struggled with serious performance. [09:21] Kristina was going to learn salsa and give a performance. The instructor/partner canceled at the very last minute.  [11:29] We learn how Kristina felt when her dance was changed from Salsa to Hip Hop, and her male instructor is now a female.  [14:00] Did I want to hide or really show up as my highest self and go for it? Kristina wanted it to be the best day of her life.  [15:17] Kristina had to learn a dance in 45 minutes.  [16:01] Kristina shares her reaction when she met her new dance instructor. [17:35] There were hundreds of people and a few surprises thrown in.  [18:42] This was a very challenging opportunity for her to stay in her power.  [19:07]  After she was done, it was no big deal. Which is an accurate description of how it feels after you face your fears. [19:20] Fear is now a green flag for Kristina.  [20:01] She's now being pitched for a show. She's writing a book, and launching a podcast. Feeling the fear means you better go for it. [22:26] She also discovered a huge appreciation for her body. Links and Resources: Watch The Breakthrough on AIB Network Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto EVOLVE your mindset, GROW your Business: Showing TF Up w/ Dr. Krystal Conner Kristina Knapp Instagram The Show TF Up Podcast Elixir Media Last Week’s Episode: The Power of Being Present Year of Yes

As some of you know, I'm working on a television show. Today, I'm going to share this experience as a guide to help you in building the life and legacy that you want for yourself. The show is called Breakthrough, and it’s about breaking through old patterns of thought that have been holding people back. Next week, you’ll get to hear from my friend Kristina Knapp who has been a guest on the show before and is featured in the pilot episode.  Being part of this show has been an amazing experience for me. I’m excited to share the breakthrough that Kristina experienced. She had always wanted to learn to dance, but beliefs were holding her back. The exciting part is that her breakthrough was about so much more than learning to dance. This week, I’m going to share with you how this opportunity came about and the power of being present.  Episode Highlights:  [01:25] I'm going to be hosting a show called Breakthrough on a station that's available on Amazon and YouTube. The show is about people breaking through old thought patterns in order to achieve something that they've always wanted to achieve. [01:48] In the first season, we have a woman who always wanted to learn to dance, a woman who always wanted to be an actress, a woman who has been afraid to learn to cook, and a gentleman who always wanted to learn to play the piano. [02:09] In each episode, you can watch them overcome all of the thoughts and obstacles that have prevented them from doing what they actually wanted to do. [03:46] Getting what you want includes focusing on mindset and being, becoming, and showing up. [04:16] I didn't ask to host a TV show, it quite literally fell in my lap. [04:54] I received an email from my website contact form. It was a producer who wanted me to speak with her about hosting a life coaching show she was developing.  [05:27] I was skeptical, but I did some research and responded. [06:02] She had been looking for someone to host the show and found my Instagram. She found me because I was there. [07:13] Is there an area of your life where you are beginning to question what the point is? [09:13] I was approached to do a series for the Calm app from a woman who found me on LinkedIn. This came to me because I was present. I was being and becoming. [10:39] It's not about you. Putting use to your gifts with pure intention is when success comes. It comes without chasing it. [11:20] Homework: Know what your gift is. Write it down. Find ways to use your gift.  [12:45] Figure out how to show up brightly. You were not created as a dim light. [13:28] Think of one thing that you can do to make a difference and watch and see how clients and businesses appear. Links and Resources: Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto How Painful Growth Led To Astronomical Success w/Kristina Knapp From Weekly Breakdowns to Multi 6 Figures | Podcast Interview w/ Kristina Knapp from Elixir Media Co

Have you ever felt like no one understands you or your journey? If so, you’ll love today’s episode with Paulaska S. Ramirez, the Founder and Executive Director of Generation Fearless. Paulaska has devoted her life to uplifting and advocating for first-generation women, aiding them in navigating life's challenges with confidence and resilience.  She’s recognized as a trailblazer and a symbol of determination due to her unwavering commitment and contributions to the community, notably impacting society and inspiring other first-generation women to surmount hurdles and create positive change in their own lives and the lives of others. In my interview with Paulaska, we explore her first-generation experience and delve into why she founded Generation Fearless in order to help others navigate their journey. She shares why she was inspired to assist others, why having a space dedicated to first-generation individuals is crucial, and offers tips and resources to inspire us all. Episode Highlights:  [01:30] Paulaska is a first-generation American and college graduate. She created Generation Fearless to provide a space for first-generation women to be seen and heard. [02:28] After graduating from college, she realized that being first generation everything left a void on how to navigate life. This is why she wanted to create a space specifically for women to address the intersectionality of their identity. [03:05] Challenges include high expectations and a high level of pressure. Paulaska isn't only opening the door for herself, she's also opening the door for her community. [04:30] Paulaska talks about grasping and navigating cultural expectations that she felt. [05:25] She talks about how it feels to be a woman of color walking into a space where no one looks like her. [06:16] Handling the pressure of expectations. It's really been about finding what is important to Paulaska.  [07:29] Managing to balance it all. Paulaska is a mom, teacher, and Executive Director. She puts some things on simmer while the heat is on another area.  [09:00] There isn't enough acknowledgement that a first generation experience transcends college space. [11:21] She started her own nonprofit because she felt a personal responsibility to help others figure out the things that she had to figure out on her own. [14:49] Providing holistic support for women as they navigate the world's reality is the goal of Generation Fearless. [15:14] Paulaska shares a fearless conversation with family and connections.  [16:30] Advice to her younger self includes starting Generation Fearless earlier. Not everyone is going to see your vision, so follow your gut. [17:12] Paulaska shares her big dream of supporting first-generation women with their dreams.  [18:54] Understand who you are and what is important to you. [19:29] Paulaska shares how to access Generation Fearless resources.  Links and Resources: Ready to chat about 1:1 coaching? Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto Paulaska Ramirez Instagram Generation Fearless Fearless Growth and Development Institute Conference Registration

It’s the time of year when things start moving fast. If you are someone who didn’t hit your yearly goals, this episode is for you. I’m diving into what to do when you're not going to hit your annual goals. It’s time to take a look at where you’re at in relation to your goal. Examine the process, but don’t judge.  I talk about focusing on the things that you have control over and looking at whether you still have a chance to achieve that goal. If it’s still possible, make a revised list of what you need to do and who you need to be to make it happen. I also walk you through what to do if you know you’re not going to be able to reach your goal this year and how to shift into action and solution mode.  Episode Highlights:  [01:11] We are less than 90 days away from 2024. [02:00] Look at the distance between your goal and where you are now. What did you want to accomplish and complete? Examine the gold process and you. [04:12]  When you think about the goal that you haven't yet reached, what thoughts come up about you? Make note of whatever comes up. Write it down. [04:52] Include the things that you have control over. [05:22] Is there a fighting chance that you might still actually be able to achieve that goal? [06:26] If you see a clear path, take your list of what went wrong and turn it into a list of what you should be doing now. [07:12] If there is no clear path, settle in your mind that the goal won't be reached. [08:14] If you won't reach your goal this year, ask, now what?  [08:29] Shift your focus off of all of the feelings of sadness, anger, or disappointment to propel you into action and solution mode. [09:00] After asking, now what, it's time to revise your action plan. You're not changing the goal, you're just changing the timeline. [10:14] Look at your why during the examination process and make sure you are still in alignment with this particular goal. [12:28] Spend some time working through these questions and examine your goal and yourself. Links and Resources: The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

Amri Kibbler the Co-founder & Chief Community Officer of HeyMama is here to inspire and motivate us in this Dangerous Woman Interview Series. HeyMama is THE Community for Moms in Business. This community provides support, connection, and collaboration for working mothers, advisors, executives, founders, builders, and makers.  Being an entrepreneur has always been very important to Amri. She had a very business and success-driven mindset until she began having health issues. At the beginning of 2020, she began having symptoms and feeling unwell. Amri and her family had recently moved, and finding any doctor to see her was almost impossible.  She had always been healthy, but struggled with the healthcare system as she struggled for answers. After a lot of effort and trial and error, she received a diagnosis a year later, and this is where the healthcare struggle really began. Amri shares how a diagnosis and battle with colon cancer changed her priorities and the way she thinks about what truly matters.  Episode Highlights:  [01:51] Amri was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2020. [02:01] Prior to her diagnosis, she was completely in an entrepreneurial mindset. She also had a lot of anxiety and fear. [03:46] She spent 10 months during the pandemic being misdiagnosed and being told nothing was wrong. [04:21] At the beginning of the pandemic, Amri started having a lot of symptoms and not feeling well. It didn't really compute that something could be wrong with her.  [05:08] Amri shares her struggles with getting medical care at the beginning of the Pandemic. She was concerned about her productivity and didn't realize she might have a real issue.  [07:43] Once she got in to see her old doctor, he couldn't find anything wrong with her. She found another doctor and the same thing happened, but he did suggest a colonoscopy. [08:17] Amri shares her struggles of navigating the US healthcare system when she's not feeling 100%. [09:36] Amri shares how she felt when she finally received her diagnosis of colon cancer a year later. [10:15] The news was a total shock. Colon cancer wasn't for her. She was completely frozen. She was overwhelmed with all of the decisions that she had to make. [12:42] Amri had to reframe what she was doing depending on how she was feeling. She then had to break the news of her diagnosis with her kids. She had chemo and radiation in 2021. She just had surgery at the beginning of the year.  [15:06] We learn about the impact on her family and team.  [18:41] Amri shares some of the things that weren't helpful from her friends and family during treatment.  [19:36] We learn how she was able to maintain balance and work. Meditation helped her a lot while she was healing. Active healing was her number one goal.  [21:56] Amri had to pull herself up and manage her emotions to thrive.  [23:15] Prioritizing herself helped Amri also prioritize her family and the important relationships in life.  [24:15] We learn why Amri decided to share her story. She wants to raise awareness and share her story and resources.  [25:45] She used to define herself as an accomplished entrepreneur. Now she is defined by her own purpose. [26:21] Focusing on the small things will bring us joy and happiness. Having small special moments with your children will create a deeper relationship with them. Paying attention to the small things make sure a more thoughtful and supportive partner. [28:07] Amri is excited about starting a podcast about moms with cancer. She wants to share women's stories and help other moms who are going through this. Links and Resources: The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto HeyMama Community Membership Amri Kibbler Amri Kibbler Instagram

Do you ever feel like things aren't going right and nothing is working? If so, stick around for my five-step process on how to move forward when it seems like everything is falling apart. Let’s conquer those struggles of frustration or hopelessness.   Instead of being overwhelmed, follow along as we tackle things like avoidance and how to acknowledge what the problem may be. It’s time to make a conscious choice to respond like a dangerous woman. Let’s work together to regain momentum and take control of what’s going on in our lives.  Episode Highlights:  [01:53] Some people avoid acknowledging reality and what isn't working in their lives. They distract themselves by being hyper-focused on another area of their lives.  [02:34] There are also unhealthy ways to distract ourselves like alcohol or unhealthy relationships. [03:37] When you feel like things aren't working. Define what the problem is and what exactly isn't working.  [04:24] List what isn't working and take the time to find the what and why.  [05:57] It's time to shift into determination and not accept that this is just how it is. [06:31] Create a list of exactly what things would look like if they were working.  [07:33] You know what isn't working. You know why, and you know what things would look like if it were working.  [07:43] The next step is to know who you need to be in order to create a scenario where things are working. What do you need to think? How do you need to show up? [08:58] The woman who figures things out is the one who runs directly into it and figures out how to get out of it. The "who" is the most important part when life serves up trouble. [10:38] Embrace your thoughts, and be the woman who pushes through and finds what's working.  [11:27] Don't fake it until you make it. Add "but" to the “it's not working” thought. Carry these thoughts as you take intentional action. Don't leave your thought alone without the "but". [13:20] 5 step recap. 1. Identify exactly what isn't working. 2. Identify why it's not working. 3. Identify what it would look like if it were working. 4. Go back to who you say you are. (Check Dangerous Woman Manifesto) 5. Lay out the how and the steps to get where you want to be. Links and Resources: The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto

This is the second episode of The Dangerous Woman Interview Series and it’s all about building generational wealth. Generational wealth is homes, businesses, or savings—that are handed down from one generation to the next.  This can give the younger generation a financial boost, helping them to pursue opportunities without starting from zero. Lack of generational wealth can widen existing socio-economic gaps, because not everyone has the same starting point. It’s time for Dangerous Women to close the generational wealth gap. My guest Sarah Miskelly from HYLEE Capital is here to share how we can earn passive income through real estate investing without being a landlord.  Episode Highlights:  [01:49] Sarah has been involved in real estate since she was a kid. Her dad had rental properties, and she spent a lot of time growing up working on those properties. [02:15] After college she became involved in marketing. Then she moved into real estate sales. She was not only a top salesperson, but she built her own real estate portfolio in Canada, the US, and Belize. [03:09] She was driven and making a lot of money, but the lifestyle wasn't the type of lifestyle she wanted. [03:29] She went 10x into real estate investing and now she's involved in multifamily real estate investing. [03:45] Sarah breaks down what it was like to be successful in a male-dominated industry. [04:30] Commercial real estate is very male oriented and an old boys club. This has made Sarah even more passionate about getting women involved in commercial real estate investing. [05:13] Sarah shares the biggest misconception when it comes to real estate investing. Lack of confidence and not feeling like you have the knowledge or the ability is really the biggest roadblock. [06:00] Sarah breaks down how to get started as a new investor in real estate. First thing we need to know is your numbers. Then we need to pick a strategy. [08:02] HYLEE Capital works with women of high net worth. What if we don't have as much money? There are definitely ways to get into real estate with smaller amounts of capital. It's important to get into the market at some level. [08:52] You can find cash flow positive investments in less expensive states.  [10:32] Passive income is so beneficial. There's a lot of innovative models where things are more collaborative. [12:10] Working with Sarah can be simple. Apartment buildings have a lot of growth. You can invest capital and invest in deals as an equity partner. You'll get cash flow and a share of profits.  [13:42] Start allocating a portion of your income for investing. Look at your options and the available deals that align with your goals. What you're looking for will expand. You can also join Sarah's investment community. Education is really critical.  [15:15] If you're ready to invest, hop on a one-on-one call with Sarah's group.  [16:21] Joining the investment community is the best way to get your foot in the door and start having deals sent to you. [17:30] Sarah talks about The Passive Real Estate Summit that she is hosting and you can sign up for. [18:48] Sarah's future dreams include a 50 million dollar net worth and donating a million dollars to charity. [19:49] Advice includes believing in yourself and having the confidence to do it! Links and Resources: The Dangerous Woman Mastermind Dr. Krystal Conner Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram How to Be a Dangerous Woman Facebook Group Dangerous Woman Manifesto Summit Registration Link Sarah Miskelly LinkedIn HYLEE Capital God Behind Bars