Knowing Her Sexually

Chris is back! She joins J in this episode to talk about her husband and what's coming next with the Knowing Her Sexually ministry. If you can help Chris with funeral expenses for her late husband and through this period of transition, any amount would be appreciated! Two ways to donate: Online: Go Fund Me Mail: Chris Taylor  c/o Cullom UMC 103 E Van Alstyne St Cullom IL 60929 Resources Doug Taylor Obituary (1964 - 2023) - Cullom, Illinois (calvertmemorial.com) Episode 12: Guy Talk - The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 14: Guy Talk - A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 16: Guy Talk - Men's Sexuality - Sex Chat for Christian Wives To Good-willed Husbands Who Want a Great Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: khsministry.com

J is joined by an extra special guest (hint: "logical") to discuss and wrap-up this season of practical sex tips for husbands. We review past episodes but have fresh takeaways as well! And Chris will be back next time! Remember that if you can help her with funeral expenses for her late husband and through this period of transition, any amount would be appreciated! Two ways to donate: Online: Go Fund Me Mail: Chris Taylor  c/o Cullom UMC 103 E Van Alstyne St Cullom IL 60929 Resources Episode 3: Why Can't She Focus? Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | MarriedDance Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube How a Good Husband Can Be a Great Lover - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: khsministry.com

J welcomes Ruth Buezis of Awaken Love, to talk about three activities associated with female orgasm (and none of them is intercourse!). And a reminder: If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition. Resources Awaken-Love (Ruth Buezis's Ministry) These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Manual Play for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous Orgasmic Massage: When The Happy Ending Is The Goal - The Generous Husband Episode 77: How to Touch Your Wife You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her Why Your Wife May Not Want to Receive Oral Sex Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Volume 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Part Deux - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dental Dam Cunnilingus Barrier - Married Dance Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure - Webinar Replay - Knowing Her Sexually Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage by Ruth Buezis (and edited by our own Chris Taylor!) Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—     for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 Visit our website: khsministry.com

J is joined by Bonny Burns, cohost of Sex Chat for Christian Wives and author of Unlock Your Orgasm, to discuss why wives struggle with orgasm and how to help her reach climax. And a reminder: If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition. Resources Strong Wives - Bonny Burns's Ministry Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model (tandfonline.com) - Rosemary Basson Why Can’t My Wife Let Go and Enjoy Sex? Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay 4 Reasons Your Husband Desires Your Orgasm | The Forgiven Wife Q&A: Faking the Orgasm? It's Time to Get Real. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: khsministry.com

J's back with guest host Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage to talk about personal lubricant—why a wife might need it, our recommended products, and how to use it to improve the sexual experience. If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition. Resources Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube How Menopause Affects Her Sexuality (and How You Can Help) Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her Let's Talk Lube - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Tips for Choosing a Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous Slippery When Wet: Lubricant Review (intimacyinmarriage.com) Astroglide Personal Lubricant - Amazon Sliquid Personal Lubricants - Married Dance Sliquid Sample Packs Aloe Cadabra Personal Lubricant - Amazon K-Y yours + minute Warming/Tingle Lubricants - Amazon Jo Flavored Lubricants - Amazon Aloe Cadabra Flavored Lubricants - Amazon Pumpkin Spice Lubricant? It’s a Thing. (intimacyinmarriage.com) Q&A with J: A Guide to Using Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous Love Mop Sex Towel - Amazon (for clean-up) Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw - Married Dance (for protecting bed linens) Venus Pearls | Burns-Logsdon Therapeutics (b-ltx.com) Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Visit our website: khsministry.com

We address a wife's' body image and what a husband can specifically do to help her feel comfortable and confident in the bedroom. Resources Husbands, Help Us Feel & Be Beautiful - Hot, Holy & Humorous Silky Robe | Mentionables "Baby Doll" Lingerie | Mentionables Why Won’t Your Wife Wear Lingerie? - Knowing Her Sexually Should You Buy Her Lingerie for Christmas? - Knowing Her Sexually Battery-Operated Candles | Amazon String Lights | Amazon Colored Light Bulbs | Amazon Episode 78: Sex Positions That Work for Her Helping Your Wife Feel Good About Her Breasts Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Edvard Munch's The Scream Satin Blindfold | Married Dance How to Help Your Wife Get Naked - Hot, Holy & Humorous Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Visit our website: khsministry.com

Let's talk about sex positions! Not just generally, but what we hear from wives about sex positions they like and don't like, and what works best for her. Resources Christian Friendly Sex Positions (now 300+ Illustrated Sex Positions!) Doggy Style Sex Position aka "Stallion Style": How to Do It, 4 Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Packing the Suitcase Sex Position: How to Do It, 3 Tips to Spice It Up - (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Dragonfly Sex Position: How to Do It, 6 Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Banana Pancakes Sex Position: How to Do It, Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Banana Pancakes - Jack Johnson Deck of Sex Position Cards | Christian Friendly Sex Positions Let's Ditch Doggy Style - Honeycomb & Spice The technique of coital alignment and its relation to female orgasmic response and simultaneous orgasm - PubMed (nih.gov) CAT Sex Position & Technique: How to Do It, 2 Tips to Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) The technique of coital alignment and its relation to female orgasmic response and simultaneous orgasm - National Institutes of Health Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Clitoral Stimulator - Christian sex toy store (marrieddance.com) Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Sexual Positions: Hey, I'm a Housewife, Not a Gymnast (intimacyinmarriage.com) Sock Monkey Kama Sutra The Cookie Sutra Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs.

In our last episode, we talked about where to touch your wife. This time, Chris and J cover how to touch your touch your wife in ways that arouse, pleasure, and satisfy—all with the ultimate goal of wonderful sexual intimacy in your marriage. Resources Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10 Episode 76: Where to Touch Your Wife Q&A with J: "His Physical Touch Is Groping & Sex" - Hot, Holy & Humorous The One Sex Tip I Give Husbands Over and Over - Hot, Holy & Humorous Husbands Only Need One of These to Turn Her On - Hot, Holy & Humorous "What To Do with Your Hands" – section in Hot, Holy & Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design Visit our website: khsministry.com

Chris and J share where to touch your wife to help her feel sexually interested, aroused, and valued. You might be surprised by some of the places on her body that intrigue many women. Resources Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10 Episode 40: Her Erogenous Zones How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous

On this first episode of Season 2 (Sex Tips), Chris and J talk about setting the mood for your wife. What can you do to draw her toward the bedroom and away from what might distract her from sexual intimacy?   Resources Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10 Bull Durham kitchen table scene (NSFW, PG-13) Viking Revolution Men's Balls Wash for Men Caldrea Linen And Room Spray Air Freshener Yankee Candle MidSummer’s Night Scented, Classic 22oz Large Jar (other scents available) Scented Candle Wax Melter/Warmer Aromatherapy Essential Oil Diffuser Gift Set Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy & Humorous White Noise Machine Lock the Door, for Heaven's Sake! - Hot, Holy & Humorous (my interruption story) Creating an Inviting Bedroom Red Light Bulbs Fairy String Lights with Remote (mood lighting) Battery-operated Flickering Candles Crafted Beards Oil & Balm (several scents available) Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs. Visit our website: khsministry.com

Are you ready for Season 2? It's a sex tip season!

On this wrap-up of our first season of Knowing Her Sexually, Chris and J discuss what the men in marriage ministry had to say about women's sexuality, including what surprised us and what we took away. Resources Kevin A. Thompson's personal website Change the Odds - Kevin A. Thompson's new website Intimate Covenant - Matt (and Jenn) Schmidt Gary Thomas's website Gary Thomas's Substack newsletter Stupendous Marriage - Stu Gray Awesome Marriage — Dr. Kim Kimberling Heaven Made Marriage - Scott (and Jenni) Means Still Becoming One - Brad (and Kate) Aldrich podcast Aldrich Ministries - Brad Aldrich marriage coaching Dave Barringer's Website Our Webinars (all about women's sexuality and value-priced!) Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

Dave Barringer, pastor, podcast host, and author of Mosaic Marriage, spoke with us a while back about foreplay in and out of the bedroom. We revisit that episode with a few fresh takeaways in our season of talking to men in marriage ministry about women's sexuality. Take a listen! Resources Dave Barringer’s website Launch Point book site Mosaic Marriage by Dave Barringer Marriage Monday with David Barringer on Apple Podcasts (available through other providers too) Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? – KHS Ministry Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages® Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy & Humorous What Wives Long to Hear from Their Husbands (In Their Own Words) – Hot, Holy & Humorous It's filling up! Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

We talk with Stu Gray of the Stupendous Marriage Show, cohosted with his wife Lisa, about what he learned about himself and marriage while recovering from porn, what honesty can do for marital intimacy, and how women are different—in life and in the bedroom. Take a listen! Resources Stupendous Marriage Podcast Stu Gray's Links The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences by Bill and Pam Ferrell Sex Begins in the Kitchen: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle by Dr. Kevin Leman Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley If Only He Knew: A Valuable Guide to Knowing, Understanding, and Loving Your Wife by Gary Smalley "But the one who prophesies speaks to people for their strengthening, encouraging and comfort" (NIV). 1 Corinthians 14:3, all Bible Gateway translations Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl Dopamine: What It Is, Function & Symptoms (clevelandclinic.org) "The human heart is a perpetual idol factory" (originally, hominis ingenium perpetuam, ut ita loquar, esse idolorum fabricam). Institutes of the Christian Religion, John Calvin, 1.11.8. Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap Episode 67: Making Sex Pleasurable for Your Wife, with Gary Thomas Psst—only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

We welcome Matt Schmidt from Intimate Covenant, a sex-focused marriage ministry and podcast. He talks with us about how he and his wife addressed her past sexual trauma, what the goal of sex really is, and why hubbies should attend to afterglow. Resources Intimate Covenant The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth | The Forgiven Wife What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 10 Things to Do After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous After the Lovin': What Happens after Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimate Covenant's 6th Annual Retreat And hosted by J this fall... Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage Cruise

Kevin A. Thompson is a husband, father, and marriage (and men's) pastor at Bayside Church in the Sacramento, California area. Originally from Arkansas, Kevin has been a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and Family Life. Chris & J talked to Kevin about why it's still important to pursue and woo your wife (first, heart; then, body). Resources I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson Kevin's Full Website: kevinathompson.com Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last by Kevin A. Thompson Fearless Families: Building Brave Homes in an Uncertain World by Kevin A. Thompson Stay In Your Lane: Worry Less, Love More, and Get Things Done by Kevin A. Thompson Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (with Kevin preaching on sex!) Happily Book Review: Contrarian Advice for a Great Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous Would Your Spouse Say You're a Christian? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous The Worst Way to Get Laid | Knowing Her Sexually Friends, Partners, & Lovers: Great Resource (review) | The Forgiven Wife And learn more about J's Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise October 14-21, 2023 HERE: https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/. Space is limited!  

Scott Means of Heaven Made Marriage began marriage ministry in his church and has now expanded to a website, books, and videos to reach more and more couples. Listen to his conversation with J and Chris about the bridal paradigm, intimacy, and vulnerability. Resources Heaven Made Marriage Scott's books The Bridal Paradigm - Heaven Made Marriage Pursue the Path of Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Guy Talk: The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Guy Talk: Mismatched Sex Drives - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Guy Talk: A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Dr. Kim Kimberling has been married for 53 years and has counseled marriages for over 40 years! His ministry, Awesome Marriage, has reached even more couples with its honest, biblical, and practical insight. Listen in as Dr. Kim talks with Chris and J about sexual expertise, empathy, accountability, and more. Resources Awesome Marriage University Achieving Awesome Sex in Marriage: The Christian Sex Course | Awesome Marriage Awesome Marriage — Marriage, Relationships, and Premarital Counseling with Dr. Kim Kimberling When "I Feel..." Statements Don't Work - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Power of Sexual Empathy in Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous Support Groups for Men and Women | Small Groups Online (Live Free Ministries) Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer about Sexual Temptation - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for wives, but still relevant) And a reminder... Check out J's Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise—setting sail in October!   Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

Gary Thomas, theologian and marriage author, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What differences between men and women can help you cater more to your wife's pleasure? How can you unleash the power of the five senses? And what does "simmering" have to do with sexual desire? Resources Gary Thomas's Website Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC Simply Sacred with Gary Thomas | Substack Man vs. Woman: The Differences - Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. - Hot, Holy & Humorous How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God (mentioned by Gary) Episode 60: Use the 5 Senses to Help Her Engage with Sex The Only Woman in the World - Gary Thomas And a reminder... Click to learn more about the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise! Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

Brad Aldrich, marriage therapist and ministry leader, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What does connection mean for wives compared to husbands? How do connection, curiosity, and past trauma impact sexual intimacy in your marriage? Take a listen! Resources Aldrich Ministries Still Becoming One Podcast with Brad & Kate Aldrich The 7 Year Itch (Episode 27) - Still Becoming One Unfinished & Beautiful with Kate Aldrich - Hot, Holy & Humorous (oldie but goodie!) LEARN MORE ABOUT THE CRUISE WITH J. PARKER AND BRAD & KATE ALDRICH: Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise (hotholyhumorous.com) Support Us On Patreon KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon