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We are almost doneeeee!!! In this episode, I am just chatting!!! We have each been shaped in many ways, and this season we discussed those possibilities. I wanted to dial in on the categorization social media has been perpetuating, and how harmful it can be to us who are finding our way. I am learning to stand out on my own and live life in my own style and way, with less focus on what's trendy. 

This is our final episode🥺I am sooo thankful, but I won't ramble any longer. In this episode, I welcome a clean and fresh start to this month of love. I try to make every day a day of love but February is just a bit more special. I gave some love-ly affirmations❤️hopefully this is a beautiful month for you, but until next time, stay safe and take care of yourself!!!

So often we run to relationships to heal our wounds of rejection, abandonment, and loneliness. These feelings lead us to horrible relationships and create bonds with folks who only hurt us more. Listen and let me know what you think! 

In this episode, we welcome my cousin, Makayla to this space. She is my cousin and has to be one of the sweetest people I know. This conversation was so powerful; and has to be the longest episode yet! We share our experiences and how we have been living and coping with trauma. 

Maliek and I discussed the Media and the Self; a topic that has been discussed for decades now, but today we discussed the wide-ranging effects of the media on our self-perception and the way we seek to portray ourselves on social media. 

There seems to be this going trend of paper-chasing and establishing a certain socioeconomic status. After some reflection, I began to understand why this may be the case...let's talk about it! 

Who knew that heartbreak wasn't just romantic? Heartbreak can be a manifestation of a perpetual let-down and disappointment. In this episode, my guest, Maliek, and I discuss experiencing heartbreaks in life and how we have chosen to heal through them.  Be sure to follow and like him on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/Thatgut?mibextid=LQQJ4d

In this episode, we welcome our special guest Deno, who is no stranger to the spotlight, as he has played sports for several years. He shares his experience with playing sports and how he feels it has affected his life and perception of himself. These days, he is following his passion and redefining himself in his authentic way.   Here are Deno's links:  Instagram: itssdeno  Twitter: itssdeno  Twitch: itssdeno  YouTube: itssdeno 

In this episode, I really wanted to make sure that my intentions were clear for the season; we are what we eat so here, we are discussing the various things we define ourselves by and love and how these very things impact who we are. 

HEYYYY YOUUU GUYSSS! I am back..after a break. This time was so necessary; I wanted to make sure that I kept the fire fresh for yall, and that what I give to the world is something that I am passionate about. I don't want to give you all any trash, so I have planned this season carefully. Much like before I started, I began to overthink and feel intimidated during this break. Quite a few people reached out to ask why I stopped uploading, which added even more pressure on me because it showed me how anticipated my podcast was. I did not forget about yall..this is only the beginning so I ask that you continue to support me. Your support and kindness mean so much to me. I hope each of you enjoys this season just as much as I enjoyed creating it. Let's Talk! 

Can you believe it's been ten episodes?? This season we covered the "The's", and confronted some of the most difficult parts of our identities. Today, we are focusing on a "The" that is the most empowering of all. I am better. I am a winner. I am victorious. Things always get better and the sun will always come out after the rain. 

Whew....this episode was a doozy. I recorded this one at a very random moment when I just needed a release. I've realized that my perfectionism was tied to my ego, which I believe has been bruised and killed in this season of my life. I am not really who I thought I was, and I am learning that this is the best and most beautiful thing because who I defined myself as, has nothing on who I actually was and am currently becoming. I was comfortable with selling myself short. I thought I was doing what was best for me but I did not have the slightest clue. I am embracing my human-ness, and realizing that this does not make me less perfect, but rather more complete. I love me. 

"You're so strong..." This is a statement that I feel has often been used against me, as people have always called me this, and have taken advantage of my strength. While I am grateful for the strength I have, sometimes I wish I did not always have to put on a strong face. Sometimes I wish people would just consider me and my emotions, instead of acting out and assuming that I'll be strong and get over it. It is so tiring. In this episode, Jaylen shares his journey of being strong and the profound meaning he found in strength as he reconnects with his birth father. 

For this episode, we sit down and talk with fashion guru and entrepreneur, Chamilla who opens up about her journey of settling. Her story was so encouraging to me and I hope it has the same impact on you all. She is now one who does not settle; in relationships, but neither in her career. She knows her worth and expects nothing but the best outcomes. Her perspective on things is so fresh, light, and calming; you just feel okay when you're around her. In this episode, she urges us to love and learn ourselves and in doing so, we will experience the true love and opportunities that we deserve. 

What comes to mind when you hear the word "User"? I've realized most recently, as human beings, that most of us use *something* to cope. Even those with a seemingly "perfect" life may find themselves using people, places, and things to fill a void within. In this episode, I open up about the times I've used others to validate myself, often leading me down an unhealthy path of feeling invalidated. These cycles of codependency have left me depleted and dazed. Hopefully, my reflection will cause you to be open about your history of using. 

In this episode, I open up about how I recently cut my hair. This transformation was so needed and felt somewhat spiritual. As soon as I cut it, I felt lighter, and even soon felt a little grief, but remembered that the cut was for me. I just feel like a new woman <3 I thank God for better days, days like these often felt so far from reach. 

The last 3 episodes have been a little dense, so I wanted to remind you to breathe. In breathing, and doing it mindfully and intentionally, you may find yourself processing your emotions a lot better, making better choices, and even fully tapping into your own strength. Just remember to breathe! 

In this episode, I revisit last week's topic, but in a different way. I realize that even as a "fixer", I am still broken and in need of fixing myself. I discuss why I have a way of being like this and why it is an issue, not only for myself but for the other parties involved. I will no longer be force-filling anyone. 

Hello! In this episode, I open up more about myself and my tendency to want to "fix" people. I have often been told that I "like projects", and I never quite saw it this way until recently. In this conversation, I delve into why I have the tendency to gravitate to people this way and ultimately, how that has affected me. Fixing people is crazyyyy...and I am realizing that some people don't want to be "fixed", and that is okay...just not okay for me. 

Hiii! For this first episode, I just wanted to chat a little and introduce myself. I did not intend on sharing so much of myself right off the bat, but wanted to give ya'll a glimpse into what this podcast will be about. I, like many of you, is learning about "life"; what makes it the most enjoyable but also seemingly unbearable. As a recent college graduate, my adult life is just beginning, and I am intentionally making an effort to find myself and be better. I want you to take this journey with me...