Love's X Factor: Solving for X in SeX's

Test for Echo - Triggers are Echoes from our Past --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Part 2 - Test for Echo - Triggers are Echoes from Your Past --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Part one of adult survivors of Aversive Childhood Experiences and Trauma. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Part 2: Adult Survivors of Aversive Childhood Experiences and Trauma --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Part 2:  Fight, Flight or Freeze and co-regulation within and between couples --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Fear Virus versus Corona Virus  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Fear Virus versus Coronavirus - Emotional Contagion --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Part One - Stages of Trauma Recovery within and between couples with using trauma-informed relationship psychotherapy method with Joe Whitcomb --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Fight, Flight and Freeze Part One - Stages of Trauma Recovery within and between couples with using trauma-informed relationship psychotherapy method with Joe Whitcomb --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Infidelity and Betrayal of Trust is Trauma (PTSR - Post-Traumatic Stress Reordering) Joe Whitcomb - Reboot Your Relationship 310-560-0726 joe@rebuildingconnection.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Part 1 of 2:  How to Heal trauma in relationship through safety, connection and intimacy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Hit the Circuit Breaker on Mutual Injury - Taking Charge of Your Triggers with Time Out --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Connecting to One of 6 Our Core Human Needs - Admiration and Significance --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Wabi Sabi Love - The Art of Imperfection and Loving the Imperfection --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Reboot Your Relationship with Joe Whitcomb, Licensed Trauma-Informed Relationship Psychotherapist Reboot Your Relationship with Joe Whitcomb 310-560-0726 or click here to book a FREE 30 Minute Consultation: https://calendly.com/rebootyourrelationship "Raging against the dying of the light!" Volatile couples are often passionate couples. "We love each other and have a good relationship, why we do end up in the same hurtful arguments?" The passion in your relationship is energizing but can also turn into fights accompanied by extreme anger. Often this results in one person withdrawing and both left feeling hurt and misunderstood. I help couples turn volatility into versatility. Volatility is explosive energy; versatility means having choices and tools to use at the right moment while keeping healthy passion alive. My couples are people who have strong relationships but need help breaking patterns that continue having them slip into a vicious cycle and vortex. Some couples come committed to having their relationship thrive, others come with the intention of working out a divorce that is collaborative and respectful and includes a co-parenting plan that works for the whole family. I also work with couples to create and implement a healthy post-divorce family life. When couples disagree, most repeat the following disruptive pattern: blame, criticize, defend, express contempt, distance, and emotionally or physically withdraw. Distress is not about how many fights you have or even if you resolve the fights. Distress is about how you fight, and whether you can retain some sort of emotional connection after the fight. While traditional types of marital counseling tend to be open-ended and seek to solve immediate problems, such as continual arguing, by focusing primarily on behavior change and communication skills, my approach hones in on increasing a couple's appreciation for how each partner feels in order to build trust and a secure base they can each rely on. In this approach, couples learn to recognize the negative (vicious) cycle and pattern 'complain-defend-complain-defe nd-complain-defend' they are stuck in, where one person criticizes and the other responds defensively or withdraws. Couples learn to identify the needs and fears that keep them in that cycle. They learn to identify and express their underlying emotions. Partners learn to empathize with each other and become more supportive of each other. Partners come together through the emotional needs they are each expressing, and can begin to comfort each other's needs. Until a couple is able to identify, acknowledge and ultimately forgive injuries, an emotional gulf persists between them. No matter how dissatisfying things have become and how unhappy or angry partners may be, they each need to feel safe in coming together to work out their problems. Each partner needs to understand the emotions dictating their actions. The emotions behind perceived problems are the key to understanding each other. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Ever feel triggered and I stuck in a reactive tailspin despite all your efforts? It is from this place — this hooked feeling — that we find ourselves responding in less than ideal ways. These are the moments when we may speak with venom, act out, or completely shut down when faced with challenging situations. It is only later, when we've had the opportunity to calm down and reflect on our actions, that we wonder where we went wrong and how we could have chosen a more grounded response.  Today we are going to focus on learning that we have the power and freedom to Choose Something Different, we will examine and illuminate this nebulous process, clearly identifying where and when you have the opportunity to change your habitual response patterns. . . to choose something different. This is One of the principles and practices in our Reboot Your Relationship workshop we will personally walk you through the landscape of these deep emotional and internal thunderstorms and guide you through the tools to cultivate inner freedom and peace.  What does it mean to be “hooked”? Maybe it's a comment from a friend about your new shirt or the dinner you just cooked. Maybe it's a look, a glance from a stranger. But something about it sets you off. . . Your jaw or stomach tightens Irritation, frustration, or anger begins to arise out of nowhere Time speeds up Your mind begins to race Thoughts about the offending action begin flooding your head — judgments, defenses, accusations... Whatever you call it . . . You're hooked and your 'Amygdala Hijacked!'  How do you choose something different? Develop a subtle awareness for what it actually feels like to be “hooked." Learn how to recognize the feeling when it first arises and “catch it" quicker Interrupt the momentum of your habitual responses by slowing down your reactions and 'Notice-what-you-are-noticing!' Establish alternative forms of responding that come from an expansive sense of self-worth, rather than a constricted place of self-protection. Get the support you need to reinforce this change and make it a new and active part of your life. Are you ready to get unhooked? This exercise is a tool to help us discover the underlying emotions and tools needed to cultivate true inner freedom in your relationships. “Getting to the heart of the matter…” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Joe Whitcomb - Reboot Your Relationship --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Reboot Your Relationship with Joe Whitcomb 310-560-0726 or click here to book a FREE 30 Minute Consultation: https://calendly.com/rebootyourrelationship This podcast is best for couples, relationships, PTSD and those who "rage against the dying of the light." My area of expertise consists in helping with difficulties in relationships & social relationships. Such difficulties include finding and sustaining healthy intimacy, healing from a painful break-up or divorce, recovering from major loss, and growing up in aversive childhood experiences, abuse and difficult circumstances. Joe Whitcomb is a Licensed Trauma-Informed Relationship Psychotherapist. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Click or Copy this link to book a FREE 30 minute consultation to Reboot Your Relationship  - https://calendly.com/rebootyourrelationship Communication is a dynamic process of discovery that requires not just love and not just logic, but both love and logic, emotions and intelligence and your heart and brain.   And the secret of this is that if you are more of an emotional/love/heart centered communicator your curriculum is to learn to add the logic, intelligence and our brain.  And if you are more of a logically, intelligence and brain oriented communicator your curriculum is to learn to add the emotional, love and heart into the equation. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message

Health is Social.  Life is about relationships...connection is why we are here and what gives us meaning and purpose to our lives.   Joe Whitcomb,  Licensed Trauma-Informed Relationship Psychotherapist --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rebootyourrelationship/message