Love Your Fertility Journey With Rosanne Austin

  Have you ever sat in the exam room of a fertility clinic — your doctor talking FSH levels, IVF protocols, statistics, donor eggs — while your whole life feels like it’s falling apart and nobody in that room even notices? Rosanne Austin, JD noticed. And she just told the doctors. In this episode, Rosanne pulls back the curtain on a courageous invitation: to share her white paper, The Hidden Variable in the Exam Room, with a room of reproductive endocrinology Fellows at Baylor College of Medicine — one of the most respected medical institutions in the country. She shares what she taught them, why the room went silent, and what it means for every woman listening who has wondered whether the mindset piece is actually real. It is. And it’s being taken seriously at the highest levels of reproductive medicine. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL DISCOVER:→ What Rosanne shared with the Fellows in reproductive endocrinology at Baylor College of Medicine — and why they invited her in the first place → The white paper, The Hidden Variable in the Exam Room, and the peer-reviewed science behind it → Why emotional distress is the number one non-medical reason women abandon IVF — higher than poor prognosis or financial burden → The objective biomarkers linking stress and cortisol to fertility outcomes → What randomized controlled trial data shows about women who receive emotional and behavioral support during fertility treatment → Why high-performing women apply the wrong toolkit to this journey — and what to use instead → The single question Rosanne posed to the room that changed the conversation entirely → What this presentation means for you, whether you’re in treatment or trying to conceive naturally THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:You’re an accomplished, driven woman navigating fertility challenges — and you’ve been quietly wondering if the mental and emotional piece actually matters, or if it’s just something people say. You’ve done the treatments. You’ve followed the protocols. And something still isn’t clicking. You want proof that this work is the real thing — not inspiration, not woo, not a weekend seminar. Science. Data. Results. This episode is your proof. THE SCIENCE ROSANNE PRESENTED AT BAYLOR COLLEGE OF MEDICINE:Rosanne Austin, JD presented peer-reviewed, published research demonstrating that: Emotional and behavioral interventions have a measurable positive influence on pregnancy outcomes Emotional distress is the leading non-medical cause of IVF abandonment — surpassing poor prognosis and financial burden Randomized controlled trial data shows women are significantly less likely to drop out of fertility treatment when receiving support for their emotional wellbeing and quality of life Objective biomarkers confirm the physiological link between chronic stress, elevated cortisol, and impaired fertility The Fearlessly Fertile Method™ addresses the hidden variable that medicine cannot — the identity, nervous system, and behavioral patterns of the woman in the exam room This is not self-reported. This is not anecdotal. This is published, peer-reviewed science —received by reproductive endocrinologists at one of the country’s most respected medical institutions. ABOUT ROSANNE AUSTIN, JDRosanne Austin, JD is a former prosecutor, certified coach (CTI — platinum standard), and the founder of The Fearlessly Fertile Method™ — a structured nervous system and identity mastery framework for high-performing women navigating fertility challenges. Her methodology is trusted by top fertility clinics in New York, San Francisco, and St. Louis. She was invited to present at Baylor College of Medicine. She has over 10,000 coaching hours in fertility mindset work and conceived her son at nearly 44 after being told it was not possible. Her work is grounded in 39+ peer-reviewed studies linking stress physiology and cortisol to conception outcomes. She is not a therapist. Not a cheerleader. Not a generic fertility coach. She teaches the skill set most women on this journey didn’t know was missing. Ready to have the strategic advantage when it comes to fertility? Apply here to be considered for Fearlessly Fertile Method programs. They work. Fearlessly Fertile Podcast | Top 1% Globally Ranked Topics: fertility mindset, Baylor College of Medicine, reproductive endocrinology and mindset, IVF emotional support, stress and fertility outcomes, cortisol and fertility, nervous system regulation and fertility, fertility coach for high-performing women, Rosanne Austin, The Fearlessly Fertile Method, hidden variable in the exam room, fertility white paper, mind body fertility connection, natural conception over 40, IVF abandonment emotional distress Answering Your Questions Is there scientific evidence for the mind body connection in fertility? Yes. Published, peer-reviewed studies demonstrate objective biomarkers linking chronic stress to fertility challenges. Independent meta-analyses of multiple research teams confirm the connection. Randomized controlled trials — the gold standard of data collection — show that emotional and behavioral support improves pregnancy outcomes and reduces IVF dropout rates. This is not anecdotal or woo woo. It’s documented science. Why do women abandon IVF treatment and what does the data show? Research shows that emotional distress is the number one non-medical reason women abandon IVF — at a higher rate than poor prognosis or financial burden. This means how a woman feels on the fertility journey can literally determine whether she stays in the fight long enough to succeed. Addressing the emotional and behavioral piece is not optional for women who are serious about fertility success.   Can you have perfect IVF circumstances and still not get pregnant? Yes. Rosanne Austin points to the clinical reality that women can have a perfect embryo, perfect endometrial lining, and optimal protocol — and still not achieve a successful pregnancy. This is why the mind body connection matters: something beyond the physical is influencing outcomes, and that something is addressable through the right kind of mindset and nervous system work. What did Rosanne Austin teach reproductive endocrinologists at a medical school? Rosanne presented her white paper, “The Hidden Variable in the Exam Room,” sharing 12 years of client data, case studies, and the peer-reviewed science behind the Fearlessly Fertile Method. She addressed what high-achieving women experience emotionally during fertility treatment, how fear and stress translate into physiological changes, and how emotional and behavioral interventions have demonstrated positive influence on pregnancy outcomes. What is the Fearlessly Fertile Method and how is it grounded in science? 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  In this special episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Rosanne Austin guides high-achieving women through a powerful fertility meditation focused on breaking fear-based identity patterns that impact reproductive success. This is not manifestation. This is not passive relaxation. This is identity recalibration. Drawing on principles of self-image, neuroscience, and nervous system regulation, this meditation addresses a critical truth: We will never outperform our self-image. For women trying to conceive over 35 or 40, navigating IVF, miscarriage, unexplained infertility, or advanced maternal age, fear patterns often show up as:-Hypervigilance -Control -Over-researching -Self-blame -Scarcity thinking -Comparison -Burnout This guided meditation helps you:Identify unconscious fear patterns Release shame, scarcity, and lack narratives Recalibrate your nervous system toward safety and receptivity Step into the identity of a woman who receives her fertility Align mind and body for conception Fertility requires receptivity. Receptivity requires regulation. Regulation begins with identity. If you are serious about fertility success and ready to break free from fear-based patterns, this episode provides a structured experience to begin that transformation. For best results, listen in a quiet, safe space where you can fully engage in the process. Smart women know that a single meditation is a great start, but it’s not the solution. If you are ready to step into the identity of the woman who no longer walks her fertility journey in a weakened state of burnout, stress, and nervous system overload, submit your application to be considered for the world renowned fertility mindset strategy programs that top REIs and “women in the know” KNOW and trust:  https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app  Answering Your Questions How do fear patterns affect fertility? Fear patterns — including hypervigilance, over-researching, self-blame, comparison, and scarcity thinking — keep the nervous system in a chronic state of activation that directly suppresses reproductive function. Rosanne Austin teaches that fertility requires receptivity, and receptivity requires a nervous system that feels safe enough to receive. Fear patterns are the physiological and psychological barriers to that state. What is a fertility meditation for fear patterns and how does it work? A fertility meditation for fear patterns is a guided inner experience designed to help women identify the unconscious beliefs and behaviors that are creating distance between them and their baby, release those patterns consciously, and recalibrate their nervous system toward peace, safety, and openness. This is not passive relaxation — it’s identity work grounded in neuroscience and self-image principles. What is the connection between self-image and fertility success? Rosanne Austin draws on Dr. Maxwell Maltz’s principle that we will never outperform our self-image. If a woman sees herself as broken, behind, or undeserving, her choices, her energy, and her body will reflect that self-image. Shifting the self-image — through meditation, coaching, and consistent inner work — is what creates the conditions for the results to change. How does nervous system regulation support conception? When the nervous system is in a chronic state of fight-or-flight, the reproductive system is suppressed — this is well-documented in the relationship between stress hormones and fertility. Nervous system regulation through practices like meditation signals to the body that it is safe to conceive, shifting from a bracing, contracted state into one of openness and receptivity. What is the Fearlessly Fertile Method and how does it build on this meditation? The Fearlessly Fertile Method is Rosanne Austin’s signature fertility mindset coaching program that takes the identity recalibration begun in this meditation and builds it into a complete, structured transformation. It addresses fear patterns, self-image, nervous system dysregulation, and the specific mindset blocks keeping women from their babies. 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One of the most radical shifts a woman can make on her fertility journey is internal honesty. In this episode, Rosanne Austin explores the connection between self-honesty, self-respect, nervous system safety, and fertility outcomes. High-achieving women trying to conceive often suppress their truth: “It’s not that bad.” “I’ll be fine either way.” “I don’t need support.” “I can handle this alone.” But emotional suppression, unprocessed grief, resentment, shame, and quiet self-betrayal dysregulate the nervous system and undermine confidence. This episode examines how self-deception impacts: Self-image Emotional resilience Leadership on the fertility journey Decision-making during IVF or treatment Advanced maternal age confidence When a woman tells herself the truth, she builds self-respect. When she builds self-respect, she leads differently. And leadership changes outcomes. If you are navigating IVF, pregnancy after loss, unexplained infertility, or trying to conceive over 35 or 40, this episode will challenge you to adopt a new internal policy: No more lies. Topics Covered: Self-respect and fertility Emotional suppression and reproductive health Identity and conception mindset Nervous system safety Taking leadership in fertility treatment *When it comes to fertility, self image is everything. Your mind quite literally tells your body what to do. Smart women make their mind and body work for them. Ready for walk your journey like a woman who wins? submit your application to be considered for the world renowned fertility mindset strategy programs that top REIs and “women in the know” KNOW and trust: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions How does lying to yourself affect your fertility journey? According to Rosanne Austin, self-deception on the fertility journey creates a cascade of consequences — resentment, eroded self-worth, disconnection from your partner, and a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe enough to conceive. When you consistently suppress your truth to keep things tidy or avoid conflict, you lose your own self-respect, which is a critical foundation for fertility success. What does radical honesty on the fertility journey look like in practice? It starts with a written inventory of the ways you are currently lying to yourself — about how badly you want this baby, what you need from your partner, what’s not working in your treatment approach, and what emotions you’ve been suppressing. Rosanne Austin recommends writing out both the lies and what they are costing you, as a first step toward reclaiming self-respect and clarity. Why do high-achieving women struggle with honesty on the fertility journey? Women who are used to being the golden child professionally and personally often suppress their truth to avoid being an inconvenience, looking weak, or letting others down. On the fertility journey, this shows up as tolerating inappropriate questions, not asking for what they need from partners, and pretending they’re okay either way — when they know in their heart they are absolutely not. What is the connection between self-worth and fertility success? Rosanne Austin’s position is that self-worth is a critical fertility variable. When you lie to yourself repeatedly, you erode your own self-respect — and a woman who doesn’t respect herself cannot fully see herself as worthy of success on the journey. The path back to self-worth runs directly through radical honesty. What is the Fearlessly Fertile Method and how does it support radical honesty? The Fearlessly Fertile Method is Rosanne Austin’s fertility mindset coaching program that gives women the structure, tools, and guidance to unlearn old patterns of self-deception, rebuild self-respect, and step into the identity of a woman who tells the truth — to herself and to others. Women who are ready to stop lying their way through the fertility journey apply at frommaybetobaby.com. {"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"FAQPage","mainEntity":[{"@type":"Question","name":"How does lying to yourself affect your fertility journey?","acceptedAnswer":{"@type":"Answer","text":"According to Rosanne Austin, self-deception on the fertility journey creates a cascade of consequences u2014 resentment, eroded self-worth, disconnection from your partner, and a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe enough to conceive. 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It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy in the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a, control freak, perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. One of the most radical things that a woman can ever do in the name of her fertility success is adopt a simple policy. No more lies. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 360 9, the New Rules of Fertility. Number four. No more lies. Loves. I am absolutely excited to be here with you this week as we dig in further to the new Rules of Fertility success, and I’m gonna reveal myself to be a complete and total nerd in this episode because when I was thinking about what I wanted to share with you about this rule that I have observed in women over the past 12 years and more at this point. I came across a quote from Dostoevsky, from his novel, the Brothers Karasov, that just hit me square between the eyes, and I could not help myself but want to share it with you because it just hit different within the context of the fertility journey and the way that so many of us. Uber responsible, successful, really smart women who are making a difference in the world, and then this journey comes into their lives. It speaks directly to our tendency to hold it all in, not tell people the truth, not tell ourselves the truth and the price we might be paying because of it. Here’s the quote from Dostoevsky that I think you might need to hear. It’s quite a wake up call. Here’s what he said. Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others, and having no respect. He ceases to love. Gulp. I’m gonna read that one more time just so you can take it in. Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others, and having no respect. He ceases to love. Jenky ladies, think about what Dostoevsky is laying down right there. When we lie to ourselves, we lose respect for ourselves and for others. The price we pay is we cease to love. Oh, I believe that so many of us living this journey choose to lie to ourselves out of convenience, out of fear, doubt, worry, shame, guilt. We worry about what our parents think, what our partners think. What our friends think, what our coworkers think. Like we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect, to not be an inconvenience, to not let people down, to war game, every move that we make so as to not make mistakes, not inconvenience anyone, that it gets to the point where. We lose our voice. We get so used to keeping everything neat, tidy, and packed in that we just lie to ourselves about what’s really going on. And when we consistently lie to ourselves, we find ourselves lying or omitting things from the people around us that it’s kind of the same thing as lying. It’s being deceptive. Then we get to a point where we do this for so long and we build up resentment, we build up anger, we build up disappointment with the people around us when the reality is they, they might not have even had a chance to be who we want them to be to us on the fertility journey. I know that’s a lot, but if you take the time to begin to unpack the way that you might be lying to yourself on this journey and in turn. Others, you give yourself a chance to build up your confidence, build up your self respect again, regain that swagger that you have every right to have as you move to a goal in your life of being a mom. That is your birthright. But when we can’t tell the truth to ourselves, how the hell are we gonna tell anyone else the truth? How can we ever feel the closeness, the support, and the care that we long for? I don’t want this to be some weird academic exercise for you. Take a moment and write out, like if you’re driving, wait till you get home, but start to make mental notes to yourself right now. What are the ways that you are currently lying to yourself? Maybe you’re not being honest with yourself about how badly you truly want this baby. Maybe you’ve taken on the, the lazy attitude of, well, we’ll see what happens. I’ll be okay either way, if, if this baby doesn’t come. Maybe that’s just the way it was supposed to be. When you know in your heart. I’m going all the way for this baby. Maybe the truth is, is that you haven’t been honest with your partner about what you need, and because of that, the resentment is piling up. Maybe you’ve been tolerating questions that are wildly inappropriate from family members, and it’s just time that you are honest that those questions, they don’t feel good and you’d rather not have people ask about your fertility journey. It’s like, get the hell outta my bedroom. What’s. Going on in my bedroom or in the street room. Room is none of your fucking business. Whatever the case may be. Maybe there are aspects of your pain that you’re not being honest about with yourself. And instead of just toughing it out, maybe the truth is it’s time that you stood up to some people in your life. Whatever the case may be, take a few moments and make a list of the ways that you are currently lying to yourself. Mama, I know this doesn’t sound like much fun. But you may as well get it out because you could not possibly hope for a solution if you can’t be honest about what’s going on. We think that we’re doing the right thing by triangulating everything and scheming and. And trying to war game things out, we think that’s better for the people around us. But what if that’s the very thing that’s keeping you from being successful? What if all of that fear, doubt that shame, negativity, and not enoughness is sending messages to your nervous system, that it’s just freaking not safe? For you to conceive right now. What if this is keeping you from seeing yourself as the woman who is worthy of respect? Think about the wisdom of what Dostoevsky said. When you lie to yourself, you lose respect for yourself. So when you don’t respect yourself, how could you possibly see yourself as a woman who is worthy of success on the journey? Self-worth is a critical. Thing on this journey. So many of the, the blocks and the obstacles that we create go directly to the way that we see ourselves, not just within the context of our fertility, but in the context of our lives overall. You’ve gotten to this point in your life because you’ve been able to hold it in, you’ve been able to be disciplined, all these things. If those are great, but at the end of the day, the truth has no agenda. It will catch up with you and you may have gotten away with it at work. But this journey is emotional. It’s spiritual at the same time as physiological, biological. But when we’re struggling and when we’re not getting the result that we want, we can’t just look at the physical. Because if you’re listening to this podcast and you are the woman that I am pretty sure that you are. You’ve got the physical nailed. That part is easy. It’s the other stuff. It’s the stuff that wakes you up at two in the morning and has you getting into an illicit conversation with chat GPT and and looking for reassurance. But at the end of the day, you still feel powerless. Your power, your self-respect is going to come from the truth. This is why I wanna pull it out of you. Just be freaking honest. What are the ways you are currently deceiving yourself? What are the lies that you’re telling? Write what it is costing you. To not be truthful about this, what are the things that you’re feeling as a result of holding this in? Be lovingly ruthless. Mama. I know some smart ass is gonna probably say something like, well, how do I know if I’m lying to myself? What if this is true? You know when you are lying to yourself because that tiny little voice that we consistently suppress is gonna be barking at you the whole time. And this is an exercise not to expose you, but to truly empower you. There’s no way that we’re ever going to repair. Our self-respect, our self-esteem on this journey until we freaking tell the truth and when we can tell ourselves the truth, we can summon the courage to tell the truth to others. If you don’t do it. The resentment, the fear, the doubt, it’s just gonna pile up. So see this as a first step in positioning yourself for fertility success. You’re not alone. So many of us have not told ourselves the truth on this journey because sometimes the truth is really scary, but at the end of the day, the truth remains the truth. I don’t expect anybody to write down this list and all of a sudden run around to every single member of their family, friends, coworkers, treatment team, whatever the case may be, and, and have this catharsis conversation. But it does start with awareness. Your awareness is going to be your path to peace. Your awareness is going to be your path to self-respect your, your path to the kind of confidence, the kind of calm that can only come from living by the truth on this journey. Every single woman who is created outrageous success on this journey had to. First come to grips with the truth within her. And when you come to grips with that, there is a peace, there is a surrender, and there is a resolve that will come out in you that no lie could ever begin to approximate. Take a stand for no more lies on this journey and watch what begins to unfold. Taking on a policy of truth on your fertility journey isn’t easy. There are so many conflicting ideas and there’s old programs that we’re having to unlearn. This is the exact thing that women come to fearlessly fertile for. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true through the tools, the strategies, and the ways of being. That can help you reframe your identity, calm your nervous system, and put you into a place of incredible receptivity so that you can finally get and stay pregnant. You want to do the best that you can to cover your bases, mind and body. Go to www.frommaybetwobaby.com. This is a logical, linear. Structure for changing the way that you think, believe, and take action on this journey so that you can create the kind of success that you know deep down you deserve. Go to www.frommaybetwobaby.com. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

  If trying harder were the answer, you would already be pregnant. In this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Rosanne Austin introduces a modern fertility principle for high-achieving women trying to conceive over 35 and 40: The Rise of Soft Power. Many women navigating IVF, unexplained infertility, miscarriage, or advanced maternal age default to force: Over-optimizing Hypervigilance Panic research Timeline obsession Control disguised as preparedness But chronic stress and sympathetic nervous system dominance can interfere with hormonal balance, emotional regulation, and reproductive resilience. Soft power is not passivity. It is:Nervous system regulation Emotional coherence Identity alignment Decisive leadership Receptivity without collapse This episode explores why force works in business but backfires in biology — and how women can shift from fear-driven control to grounded authority on their fertility journey. If you are trying to get pregnant over 35 or 40 and feel exhausted from pushing harder, this episode reframes fertility mindset strategy for the modern woman. Topics Covered:Stress and fertility Nervous system regulation and conception Advanced maternal age mindset IVF emotional resilience Identity shifts for pregnancy success *Ready to step into soft power on your fertility journey? Submit your application to be considered for the world renowned programs that top REIs and “women in the know” KNOW and trust: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What is a soft power fertility mindset and why does it matter? A soft power fertility mindset is an approach to the fertility journey built on alignment, emotional regulation, intuition, and receptivity — rather than force, hustle, and control through pressure. It matters because chronic force keeps the nervous system in fight-or-flight mode, which suppresses reproductive function. Soft power creates the internal conditions of safety and openness that conception requires. How does chronic stress and force affect fertility? When the nervous system is in a prolonged state of hyper-vigilance — constantly scanning for threats, agonizing over statistics and timelines, fighting harder — cortisol levels rise and the reproductive system can become suppressed. This is a documented biological response, and it’s one reason why women who are otherwise healthy may struggle to get and stay pregnant despite doing everything “right.” What is the difference between soft power and passivity on the fertility journey? Soft power is higher-order authority — the ability to make decisions from discernment rather than panic, move deliberately from the inside out, and walk with confidence rather than reacting to every fear trigger. Passivity is disengagement. Soft power is fully engaged, self-possessed leadership of your own journey — just without the exhaustion and desperation of force. How do I know if I'm stuck in force on my fertility journey? Rosanne Austin’s diagnostic includes: feeling constantly behind, panicking at every symptom, being unable to enjoy your life even briefly, living for the “I’ll be happy when,” feeling guilty when you rest, and walking through your days holding your breath. If several of these resonate, force is likely running the show — and it’s time to make the shift. What is the Fearlessly Fertile Method and how does it teach soft power? The Fearlessly Fertile Method is Rosanne Austin’s fertility mindset coaching program that helps women make the identity shift from force-based, fear-driven striving to the aligned, regulated, receptive approach that she calls soft power. It’s designed for women who are done grinding their way through the journey and are ready to lead from the inside out. 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If several of these resonate, force is likely running the show u2014 and it’s time to make the shift."}},{"@type":"Question","name":"What is the Fearlessly Fertile Method and how does it teach soft power?","acceptedAnswer":{"@type":"Answer","text":"The Fearlessly Fertile Method is Rosanne Austin’s fertility mindset coaching program that helps women make the identity shift from force-based, fear-driven striving to the aligned, regulated, receptive approach that she calls soft power. It’s designed for women who are done grinding their way through the journey and are ready to lead from the inside out. Women apply at frommaybetobaby.com."}}]} transcript  Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy in the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin. Fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a control freak. Perfect. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. If trying harder were the answer, you’d already be pregnant. Women who are succeeding on the fertility journey now are not hustling harder. They’re mastering soft power. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 360 8. The New Rules of Fertility Success, the Rise of Soft Power Loves. I am so excited to be continuing in this series that we’re doing. On the new Rules of Fertility success, it delights me because this is the kind of shit I wish somebody told me all those years ago. When I was a prosecutor, I had one speed and that was crush it. It was all about pushing harder. It was all about working myself to the bone. It was all about striving and doing everything that I possibly could from a place of fear, chaos, limitation. Lack, scarcity, and most importantly, my own fears that I wasn’t gonna be enough in order to have the baby, the baby boy that I knew was meant for me. In this series, I’m gonna continue to walk you through what the real rules of fertility success look like today. The old way of approaching this journey through the very rigid and masculine rules that we’ve been talking about, they’re freaking falling apart. Now when you hear about soft. Power. Do not worry. My powerhouses. This is not about being passive, it’s not about giving up, and it’s certainly not about descending into the kind of femininity that makes you a wet noodle. Now, most of us were raised with the idea that power is about force. It’s about aggression, it’s about overwork, striving, exhaustion. It’s all of those things that as women take us to a place of depletion. So when we talk about soft power, it’s about. Alignment. It’s about emotional regulation. It’s about clarity. It’s about vision. It’s also about receptivity and influence. It’s an approach to having power in your life that’s not at all aggressive. It’s you really stepping into a place of authority and clarity that allows you to approach your journey with a degree of expectation and certainty that does not exist when you are approaching things from. Force and force is exhausting. Soft power is regenerative. It makes you feel alive. It makes you feel clear, and you get out of the fog of war that can so often. Dominate us on this journey because we are just in a constant state of struggle. Force brings struggle, and force is the antithesis of what brings about fertility. When you think about all of the women that have appeared on this podcast, every single one of them was exercising a form of soft power. They all in one way or another, describe. Spending, the pushing, the shoving, the desperation that is force and stepping into a place of influence, clarity, certainty, faith, and all of the things that you’ve heard them describe. Soft power is about influence. Not force. It is regulation without rigidity. It is authority without aggression. It is receptivity without collapse. And all of this begins to come together when you have nervous system regulation, emotional coherence, your hormones are in check, especially your cortisol, and most importantly, you have decision clarity. This is both physiological. And strategic force is failing high achieving women. Now we are all awake to the triggers that are often used to push women into fear, panic, and despair on this journey, and frankly, we’re just not up for it anymore. If you’ve been listening to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, you’ve heard women who were told they had a less than 1% chance. You’ve heard women. Who have been told they couldn’t get pregnant with their own eggs. And boom. If you’re listening to this podcast, I know you’re already disciplined, already optimizing, and probably up to this point you have sacrificed a shit ton in your life and none of that. Has worked, which is why it’s time for us to pivot. Getting out of the pushing and shoving into a way of approaching our journey that allows us to leverage our nature as women to use things like influence, vision, emotional coherence, and receptivity to get what it is that we want. Babies. Nobody needs panic at 2:00 AM or micromanaging their cycles anymore if that actually worked. We do that and never talk about this journey ever again. The other thing that you have to understand about soft power is it a hundred percent lines up with biological realities. We know that. Hyper vigilance signals a lack of safety to your nervous system. When your nervous system believes that it’s unsafe, what does the science tell us? Our reproductive systems can become suppressed when we have cortisol shooting through our veins for an extended period of time. AKA. Chronic stress. Now we know that that’s one part of the puzzle, but it is an undeniable part of the puzzle that more and more people are paying attention to, especially if you’ve done multiple rounds of IVF are otherwise healthy and are still not getting and staying pregnant. I also want you to understand that soft power isn’t. Passivity soft power is a version of higher order Control. Force is all about control through pressure and striving. Soft power is control and clarity through alignment. One of the critical hallmarks of soft power is being able to make decisions from discernment, not panic. Not lack in scarcity, and most certainly not doubt. And when you put all of this together, this feels strong. This feels at peace. This feels open, this feels receptive, and this feels like a more complete version of you rather than just. The scared version of you controlling everything and controlling your perspective. Let’s talk about the identity shift that starts to happen when a woman moves from force into soft power on her fertility journey. Number one, it feels fucking good. I’m gonna tell you, it took me a long time to get there, but once you start to engage it. You are going to find a level of clarity, intuition, alignment, and, and true discernment that we’ve been talking about that just brings a whole hell of a lot of peace to your fertility journey. But the best way for for you to understand this shift is by contrast. Let’s look at how approaching your journey from force can look. A woman who is stuck in force is all about hustle fights. And pushes harder and everything feels like a battle. She’s constantly agonizing over the timeline, her age, statistics, what so and so in a white coat, said it’s not her in her power. There is a feeling that these things are happening to her and it often can signal a victim mentality around the fertility journey. A woman who is leveraging soft power on this journey doesn’t need guarantees. She understands that she and her decision making is her guarantee on this journey. She doesn’t need to scrutinize and over obsess about anything. She’s open, she’s receptive. She has calm conversations with the members of her bump squad. She takes in information. She is discerning with it. She’s also allowing her intuition. To drive her. I mean, so many women, including myself, who have lived this journey and, and just knew that all of the doom and the gloom wasn’t their story. Speak of this. We’re often encouraged to indulge in self-doubt, like somehow self-doubt makes us stronger. But the woman who is leveraging soft power, she sees herself as a leader on her journey, not somebody that things are just happening to, she takes full responsibility. She walks with. Ease. Now, that doesn’t mean she’s perfect, and it also doesn’t mean that she doesn’t experience some fear, but she understands what’s happening. When she feels fearful, she can say to herself, okay, something in me is triggered. There’s something in me that needs reassurance. Let me see what that is. So this is a person who is self-possessed and sees herself as powerful and not. A victim of circumstance. She discerns, she decides, she trusts, and she moves deliberately from the inside out. This is a woman who is walking with confidence through her journey. As opposed to relying strictly on force. A woman who is walking her fertility journey leading with soft power knows that she doesn’t have to force anything. It’s not about hubris or being an egomaniac. It’s being aligned with what she knows to be true and she can confidently move through her journey. For that reason, she doesn’t have to negotiate, beg, or plead. Burnout is no longer a badge of honor, and women who are finding success on this journey quicker and under circumstances that they were told were not possible are doing so because they are getting their nervous system regulated. They are shifting their identity into being the woman who can, instead of running around with labels like infertile, too old, too late. Two hopeless. You’ve gotta trade all of that in and walk your journey with that soft power that we’ve been talking about. Let’s do a fun little diagnostic. How can you tell if you are trapped in force, not soft power number one. You feel behind. Number two, you panic at every symptom. Number three, you can’t remember the last time you really enjoyed your life, even for a few moments. Number five, you frequently catch yourself saying, I will be so happy when number six, you can’t rest without a sense of guilt. And number seven, you spend so much time constantly worried about what is going to happen next. It’s like walking through your life. Holding your breath. Now, none of this is criticism. Loves all of this is about gaining the kind of self-awareness so that you can make that identity shift. When you walk with soft power, you’re not constantly worried about who’s gonna cheat you, who’s gonna jack you, or this doc treated you wrong. Like instead of that, you can work collaboratively. You can be in a place where you express yourself thoroughly and clearly as opposed to expecting anyone on this journey to save you. Fix you. That makes you an asset, not a liability. As you’re moving through your journey, and that shit’s real. And if you want a gold star for this assignment, it would be really cool to check in with yourself about what scares you about soft power. Is there a part of you that is worried that you can’t possibly get what you want through walking your journey with clarity, confidence, alignment, and influence? Maybe up to this point, all you’ve known is. Force and exhaustion and working your fingers to the bone. Write it out because once you begin to understand that, you can begin to understand the way that you might be creating obstacles to the soft power. That’s your birthright mama. Soft power isn’t weakness. It’s the ability to remain regulated when the road ahead seems uncertain. Sounds amazing, right? It is totally within your reach, and if you know you will love some of that in your life, go to www.frommaybetwobaby.com. My methodology has helped women around the world exercise this beautiful soft power that takes them from struggle and exhaustion into peace. Confidence and calm that kicks the door wide open to the baby that they’ve been longing for. Go to www.frommaybetobaby.com. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

  If you’re trying to conceive over 35, you’ve likely been labeled “advanced maternal age.” In medical terms, advanced maternal age refers to pregnancy at 35 or older — a designation that often comes with warnings about increased risks and declining fertility. But is this label still accurate in 2026? And more importantly — what does constantly hearing it do to your fertility mindset, confidence, and emotional resilience? In this episode, fertility mindset expert Rosanne Austin explains why fear-based age labels undermine fertility identity, emotional resilience, and confidence — and how women can reclaim power, clarity, and success on the fertility journey later in life. Rosanne dismantles one of the most damaging, outdated, and emotionally toxic labels in women’s health — and exposes how it quietly sabotages fertility identity, emotional resilience, and confidence for women who have the audacity to start their families over 35. This episode is not about denying the current state of medical information. It’s about refusing to let fear-based labels define your fertility future. Rosanne — who conceived naturally and gave birth just before turning 44 — breaks down why the term advanced maternal age is no longer aligned with modern women’s lives, bodies, or realities, and why blindly absorbing this label can deeply impact how a woman thinks, feels, and experiences her fertility journey. You’ll explore how authority-driven labels shape identity, how fear-based statistics are often delivered without regard for their psychological or physiological impact, and why women over 35 deserve a massive upgrade in how fertility, pregnancy, and motherhood are discussed. This episode is an invitation to reclaim sovereignty over your fertility mindset, redefine your identity, and stop outsourcing your belief in what’s possible to outdated and frequently contradicted medical terminology. What you’ll learn in this episode:Why the label “advanced maternal age” is emotionally and psychologically harmful How fertility identity directly influences mindset, resilience, and decision-making Why women over 35 are not the same as women over 35 fifty years ago How fear-based statistics can undermine fertility confidence and wellbeing Why more women over 40 are having babies now than teenagers — and why this matters How to have empowered, peer-to-peer conversations with healthcare providers Why you get to decide which labels you accept — and which you reject How to consciously choose a fertility identity rooted in strength, readiness, and self-trust. This episode is for the woman who:Is over 35 and tired of being spoken to with fear and judgment Feels emotionally activated every time age is brought up in appointments Wants facts without having her hope stripped away Knows she is more than a statistic Is ready to become the woman who leads her fertility journey — not one who is led by labels. Want to live your fertility journey with the kind of peace, calm, and confidence that can make your age, diagnosis, or past failures irrelevant? Rosanne’s work goes beyond the limits of fertility medicine…and her clients are living proof. Submit your application to be considered for our curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What is advanced maternal age? Advanced maternal age is a medical term used to describe pregnancy at age 35 or older. The label originated decades ago when maternal health data and life expectancy were different. Today, many women over 35 and 40 conceive and deliver healthy babies, making the term increasingly debated. Is advanced maternal age considered high risk? Pregnancy over 35 may carry statistically higher risks for certain complications, but being labeled “advanced maternal age” does not automatically mean a pregnancy is high risk. Individual health, lifestyle, medical history, and overall wellness matter more than age alone. Can you get pregnant naturally after 35? Yes, many women get pregnant naturally after 35. Fertility may gradually decline with age, but natural conception over 35 — and even over 40 — is common. Individual factors such as ovarian reserve, overall health, and stress levels influence fertility outcomes. What are the risks of pregnancy over 35? Pregnancy over 35 may be associated with: Increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities Higher chance of gestational diabetes Greater likelihood of high blood pressure Slightly increased miscarriage risk However, risk does not equal inevitability. Many women over 35 have healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies. Why is advanced maternal age controversial? The term is controversial because it can: Create fear-based thinking Undermine fertility confidence Oversimplify individual health differences Apply outdated risk models to modern women Many experts argue the label does not reflect how women live, work, and care for their health today. Are more women having babies after 40? Yes. Birth rates for women over 40 have increased significantly over the past decade. In some recent data reports, women over 40 are having more babies than teenage mothers. Delayed motherhood is becoming increasingly common due to career, financial stability, and relationship timing. Does mindset affect fertility after 35? While mindset alone does not determine pregnancy outcomes, chronic stress, fear, and anxiety can influence hormonal balance and overall wellbeing. A strong fertility mindset can support resilience, decision-making, and emotional stability during the conception journey.

  If you’ve been trying to conceive and quietly wondering, “What if something is wrong with me?” — this episode is going to hit home. In Episode 363 of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, fertility mindset expert Rosanne Austin dives into one of the most overlooked drivers of fertility success: fertility identity. This isn’t about positive thinking. It’s not about pretending everything is fine. And it’s definitely not about blindly “manifesting” your baby. This is about understanding how the way you see yourself — as fertile, infertile, broken, behind, high-risk, too late, or “low odds” — directly impacts your stress response, emotional regulation, decision-making, and even the biological environment of your body. Your fertility identity is the internal story you carry about who you are on this journey. And whether you realize it or not, that story influences how your nervous system reacts, how consistently you advocate for yourself, how you interpret setbacks, and how your body processes stress. For high-achieving, intelligent women — especially those trying to conceive over 35 or 40 — fertility challenges don’t just feel disappointing. They feel destabilizing. When your identity has been built on succeeding, performing, and figuring things out, fertility can feel like a direct threat to who you are. In this episode, Rosanne explains why identifying as “infertile,” “broken,” or “too far gone” creates a self-reinforcing loop — both psychologically and physiologically — and how to begin shifting into the identity of a woman who succeeds on her fertility journey. If you want a strategic, emotionally intelligent approach to getting pregnant — whether naturally or through IVF — this conversation will change how you think about mindset forever. What you’ll learn in this episode: What “fertility identity” really means (and why it’s not fluffy or abstract) How identity influences stress response, emotional regulation, and behavior Why high-performing women struggle deeply when fertility challenges success-based identity How subconscious beliefs translate into biological reactions in the body Why identifying as “infertile” or “broken” creates a self-reinforcing loop The science behind belief, expectation, and physiological response (including placebo research) How to begin identifying as the woman who succeeds on the fertility journey. This episode is for women who: Are intelligent, driven, and used to succeeding Feel destabilized by fertility challenges Have been labeled “infertile,” “low odds,” or “too late” Are trying to conceive over 35 or over 40 Want a strategic, emotionally intelligent approach to fertility success. Don’t’ let misalignment in your fertility identity block your baby. Submit your application to be considered for our curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What is fertility identity? Fertility identity is the internal story a woman holds about herself on her fertility journey. It includes how she sees herself — fertile, infertile, broken, too late, behind, high risk — and how those beliefs shape her thoughts, stress response, behavior, and emotional regulation. Fertility identity is not abstract; it influences both psychological and physiological responses in the body. Can your mindset really affect fertility? Yes. Research in psychology and psychoneuroimmunology shows that beliefs and thought patterns influence stress hormones, nervous system regulation, immune function, and hormonal signaling. Chronic stress and fear-based thinking can create biological responses that are not supportive of pregnancy. A strong, regulated mindset can reduce stress and improve behavioral consistency during the fertility journey. How does identifying as “infertile” impact the body? Identifying as “infertile,” “broken,” or “too far gone” can create a self-reinforcing stress loop. When the brain perceives threat or failure, it activates stress pathways that influence hormonal balance and immune responses. Over time, this chronic stress response can affect overall health and reproductive function. Identity shapes interpretation, and interpretation shapes biological reaction. Why do high-achieving women struggle with fertility challenges? Many high-performing women build their identity around success, control, and achievement. When fertility doesn’t respond to effort or strategy the way career or academics did, it can feel destabilizing. 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High-performing women experience the fertility journey differently—and the kind of support we need is radically different from what generic fertility spaces provide. In this episode, world-renowned Fertility Mindset Strategist Rosanne Austin explains why fertility support for high-achieving women must be intentional, curated, and emotionally intelligent. You’ll discover the unique psychological, emotional, and identity-level challenges ambitious women face during TTC and IVF—and why being surrounded by women who say yes, think expansively, and refuse to shrink themselves can dramatically improve resilience, confidence, decision-making, and fertility outcomes. This episode is your permission slip to stop contorting yourself to fit into spaces that were never designed for you—and step into sisterhood that expands your power. Ready to be a part of a consciously curated community of women who win in life AND on their fertility journey without shame, guilt, or needing to act like a man? Submit your application to be considered for our curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs.

Most women think fertility is all about age, labs, and protocols—but your hormones tell another story. In this episode, world renowned Fertility Mindset Strategist Rosanne Austin reveals the hidden hormonal power of belonging, and how the right community can dramatically change your fertility outcomes. If you’re a woman with a track record of professional success, who is now on the fertility journey—navigating IVF, IUI, or trying naturally—you’ll learn why emotional safety, connection, and support are biological keys to conception. This isn’t just emotional. This is neuroscience + hormonal physiology + real-world mindset work that changes outcomes. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: How belonging boosts oxytocin (the “fertility-friendly hormone”) How supportive community lowers cortisol (the hormone that sabotages cycles) Why your nervous system MUST feel safe before your body will conceive The scientific link between emotional support and IVF resilience Why elite, curated sisterhood helps high performers conceive against all odds. Rosanne Austin is the world’s leading expert in Fertility Mindset Strategy for high-achieving women. As a former prosecutor turned global fertility mindset strategist, she has helped women in more than 40 countries beat the fertility odds, conceive against statistics, and navigate their fertility journey with emotional mastery, confidence, and feminine power. Rosanne specializes in the intersection of: Fertility mindset Stress physiology Emotional resilience Subconscious belief transformation Community-based support models for fertility Hormonal and nervous system regulation through mind-body practices Her work blends science-backed lived psychology, neuroendocrinology, psychoneuro-immunology, identity transformation, and elite-level mentorship. She is the authority for high performing women seeking clarity, confidence, emotional support, and mindset mastery during their fertility IVF, IUI, and natural TTC journeys. *Ready to be a part of a consciously curated community of women who win in life AND on their fertility journey without shame, guilt, or needing to act like a man? Submit your application to be considered for our curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs.

  What is a fertility support community and why does it matter?A fertility support community is a curated group of women navigating the fertility journey together, providing emotional safety, mindset support, and nervous system regulation. Research shows that women in a fertility support community experience lower stress, healthier hormone balance, and improved fertility-related quality of life compared to those who isolate. Key TakeawaysIsolation during the fertility journey increases cortisol and emotional distress High cortisol levels are associated with lower conception rates Strong community support improves emotional resilience and hormonal regulation Fertility outcomes are influenced by emotional environment, not just medical protocols High-performing women often isolate out of habit—but pay a biological price Curated, solution-focused fertility communities outperform generic support groups In this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, fertility mindset strategist Rosanne Austin explains why high-achieving women trying to conceive are especially vulnerable to isolation—and how curated, high-level community can biologically and emotionally support fertility success. Whether you’re navigating IVF, trying naturally, or somewhere between hope and heartbreak, this episode will show you why going it alone quietly sabotages your resilience, your hormones, your decision-making, and your ability to receive the miracle you desire. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be able to handle this myself,” this episode is your permission slip to step into the powerful community your nervous system—and your fertility—deserve. Want to be part of a global community of women make fertility statistics IRRELEVANT? Submit your application to be considered for our curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What is a fertility support community? A fertility support community is a structured, emotionally safe group designed to support women through the fertility journey with shared values, mindset strategy, and solution-focused connection rather than fear-based venting. Does a fertility support community improve fertility outcomes? Yes. Studies show that women with strong social and emotional support experience lower cortisol levels, better emotional resilience, and higher fertility-related quality of life—all factors linked to improved conception outcomes. How does a fertility support community reduce stress? A fertility support community provides emotional safety, belonging, and co-regulation. This increases oxytocin, lowers cortisol, and supports nervous system balance—conditions necessary for healthy reproductive function. Why is isolation harmful during infertility? Isolation increases stress hormones, emotional suppression, and nervous system dysregulation. Over time, this can disrupt hormonal balance and quietly sabotage fertility outcomes. Is a fertility support community better than a generic support group? Yes. Generic groups are often unmoderated and fear-driven. A curated fertility support community is structured, solution-focused, emotionally intelligent, and designed to support forward progress. Who benefits most from a fertility support community? High-achieving, professional women trying to conceive—especially those navigating IVF, fertility treatments, or long-term infertility—benefit significantly from a fertility support community.

A fertility mindset for success isn’t about regret, perfection, or reliving past mistakes. It’s about becoming the woman who thinks strategically, leads herself with confidence, and creates a clear vision for motherhood. In this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Roseanne Austin explains how wise women generate “MUTHA energy”—the identity, mindset, and decisiveness required to move into 2026 positioned for fertility success, regardless of age, diagnosis, or past outcomes. There’s a clear and distinct mindset of a woman who is looking forward to 2026 with an eye for fertility success. She’s not wallowing in regret or reliving every past “mistake.” That’s for amateurs. Instead she’s gearing up to step into the New Year like a MUTHA. I’m sharing exactly what wise women are doing to create mutha energy, so you can start doing it too. Here’s to a whole new level of fertility success in 2026. Want to live your fertility journey with the swagger of a MUTHA? Submit your application to be considered for my curated, bespoke, Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Quick Answers: Fertility Mindset for Success What is a fertility mindset for success? A fertility mindset for success is the identity, belief system, and emotional leadership that allows a woman to stay strategic, confident, and committed to her fertility goals—especially when outcomes feel uncertain. Why does mindset matter for fertility success? Mindset influences decision-making, stress regulation, emotional resilience, and follow-through. Women who cultivate a fertility mindset for success are more likely to take aligned action and sustain momentum on their journey. How can I develop a fertility mindset for success in the new year? By reflecting on past lessons, creating a clear vision for motherhood, identifying who you must become to achieve it, and committing fully to that identity—before the year begins.

  If you want a baby in 2026, your fertility mindset matters more than you think. Many women trying to conceive unknowingly repeat the same fertility mindset mistakes year after year — and those mistakes make heartbreak predictable. One of the biggest fertility mindset mistakes? Arguing in favor of your limitations. Whether you’re trying to get pregnant naturally or with support like IVF, the way you think about age, diagnosis, time, and possibility directly shapes your decisions, resilience, and outcomes. When you repeatedly say “I can’t because…” and accept perceived limits without questioning them, you reinforce beliefs that work against your fertility success. If you’re serious about getting pregnant in 2026, it’s time to identify the thought patterns that sabotage results and consciously replace them with beliefs that support success. In this episode, you’ll learn:The most common fertility mindset mistakes blocking conception Why arguing for your limitations keeps you stuck How to shift from fear-based thinking to empowered action A practical journaling exercise to uncover hidden mindset blocks What elite-level fertility strategy really looks like If 2026 is your year, your thinking has to match that commitment. Learn the amateur move you’ve got to STOP tolerating if you want baby-making success in 2026. Elite Miracle Mamas leave nothing to chance on their journey. They make their mind work FOR them. Is it time you elevated your game to VIP status? Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What are fertility mindset mistakes? Fertility mindset mistakes are thought patterns that reinforce fear, limitation, or hopelessness during the conception journey. Common examples include assuming age automatically equals failure, believing a diagnosis defines your outcome, or repeatedly saying “I can’t because…” without challenging the belief. These patterns influence decision-making, stress levels, and long-term resilience. Can mindset really affect fertility? Mindset does not replace medical care, but chronic stress, fear, and hopelessness can influence hormonal balance, sleep quality, and overall wellbeing. A strong fertility mindset supports consistent action, emotional regulation, and strategic decision-making — all of which matter when trying to conceive. Why do I keep saying “I can’t get pregnant because…”? “I can’t get pregnant because…” is often a reflection of unconscious limiting beliefs. Many women absorb rules about age, diagnosis, money, or timing without questioning them. Identifying what follows “because” helps uncover assumptions that may be shaping your fertility strategy without your awareness. How can I improve my fertility mindset in 2026? To improve your fertility mindset in 2026: Identify recurring negative thought patterns Challenge beliefs about age and diagnosis Replace “I can’t” with intentional, evidence-based thinking Surround yourself with supportive experts Take aligned action consistently Success requires both mindset and strategy working together. What are common limiting beliefs about getting pregnant? Common limiting beliefs include: “I’m too old to get pregnant.” “My diagnosis means it’s impossible.” “I don’t have enough time.” “If it hasn’t happened yet, it won’t.” These beliefs often feel factual but are interpretations, not guarantees. Many women conceive after challenging these assumptions. How do I stop sabotaging my fertility journey? You stop sabotaging your fertility journey by becoming conscious of how you argue for your limitations. Track your “I can’t because…” statements. Question whether they are objectively true or inherited beliefs. Replace passive thinking with intentional, empowered decisions aligned with your goal. TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a, control freak, perfectionist. [00:00:20] I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat. The odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell Yes. [00:00:37] For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 3 55, baby in 2026. Stop doing this. Hey, loves. I’m so excited to be here with you this week. We’re just a couple weeks [00:01:00] away from 2026, and I wanted to make good on a promise that I made in last week’s episode, and that is to start helping you prepare for success in 2026. [00:01:11] You gotta stop doing this. Stop arguing in favor of these perceived limitations on your fertility journey. Stop arguing in favor of what they tell you are limits on your fertility journey. Stop accepting that shit. Straight up. You’ve gotta stop arguing in favor of limits on your fertility journey. [00:01:36] Here’s why. More often than not, those limits aren’t even limits that you as a grown-ass woman have placed in your life. Most of these things are just kind of spoonfed to us on this journey. The reality is there is a woman. Right now on a planet of almost 8 billion people that is older than you, has a worse diagnosis and is [00:02:00] in a labor and delivery room, or giving birth at home somewhere on the planet. [00:02:05] That’s a reality. But more often than not, when we’re in pain, when we’re confused, when we’re feeling overwhelmed, or we fall under the authority of somebody wearing a white coat, we just take in all these limits without ever truly challenging them. Who says that having a baby in your forties is harder? [00:02:25] What if the only reason why it’s actually harder is because you accepted that as truth, as gospel as law, without ever stopping and thinking. There was information that came out within the past couple weeks that said there is a baby boom for women, 40 and up. That is a reality. The US census, the last time we did the census even showed that it is an antiquated and broken notion that having a baby in your forties is weird. [00:02:55] It’s an anomaly. It’s hard, it’s miserable, or [00:03:00] it’s something to be ashamed of. I posted something recently to Instagram where Claire Gaines. A-list celebrity talked about being pregnant at 44 and how she felt shame and and didn’t even think it was possible. This is the kind of crap that you have to exercise like a fricking demon from your fertility journey because this is just not true. [00:03:22] Women are getting pregnant naturally. Women are getting pregnant with the support of IVF and other interventions. All the freaking time in your forties, even fifties, you may not even fucking need IVF. That’s a reality. We have to start challenging these antiquated, rigid notions about what’s truly possible for us. [00:03:43] On the fertility journey, your responsibility if you’re committed to fertility success is start looking around your life, your psyche, the way that you think for these kinds of limitations, and fucking stop arguing in favor of them. You [00:04:00] have to start conditioning a different way of thinking so that you can create a new result. [00:04:06] Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. It’s logical, linear, and true. There was a study that came out of Harvard talking about how your body is quite literally listening to your mind. It’s a fucking fact. Your body does exactly what your mind. Tells it. If your mind is not calibrated to success on this journey and is instead ruminating on all of these limitations and only looking at the negative on this journey and not counterbalancing it with the reality that women are having babies in their forties and fifties all the fucking time, what decade are you getting that information from? [00:04:46] 40 and 50. Today is not what they were. 60 years ago, 40 and 50 is when women are truly coming into their own, especially if you’re a fucking professional. If you spent most of [00:05:00] your twenties, thirties, and forties getting to be the chief medical officer at the hospital, or your top engineer or partner in the law firm. [00:05:10] Forties and fifties is exactly when you’re gonna have your family. What’s the big deal? It’s time to just throw those antiquated notions out the fucking window. They don’t apply to women who are vibrant and living a full life Today. It is completely normal to see a woman in her forties or good luck trying to even figure out if she’s 40 in the pickup line at school. [00:05:33] This is the new normal. This requires us to think. In a more precise way on this journey, a more truth-based way instead of allowing. All of these statistics and fear mongering and hurry up and get pregnant because you’re gonna turn 40 and it’s downhill from there. Nope, that’s just not true. It’s just not true. [00:05:56] And who cares? There are gonna be some women who get pregnant naturally in their [00:06:00] forties and fifties. There are gonna be some women that need support, but who fucking cares? It’s your life. The point is, as a grown woman, it is your responsibility to create the life that you want. On your terms, but that doesn’t come without significant changes to your thinking and being judicious in what you let in and what you push out. [00:06:22] Quite literally, when we’re talking about stop arguing in favor of your limitations, here’s how this can look. Most of the time we are completely unconscious of the way we’re arguing in favor of our limitations. It can sound a lot like I can’t because. I can’t, because what you have to start focusing in on is what comes after, because is it something that’s actually true or is it a rule that you’ve just sort of accepted and never really challenged or made a decision that you wanna live by as a woman [00:07:00] who is trying to get and stay pregnant? [00:07:03] In her late thirties, forties, or even fifties. Is that a rule that you choose to live by? Who says that you don’t have time? Who says that you don’t have the money? Who says that it’s impossible? All of those rules, if they are not consciously chosen by you and through careful thought, accepted by you, all of those things are just somebody else’s beliefs. [00:07:27] If you want to create success on this journey, and you might be the only one on the left on the fucking dance floor, you have to take authority of the way that you think you have to be consciously creating a series of beliefs that support your success. I can’t because. Isn’t one of them. You are actively choosing success on this journey. [00:07:50] Here’s how you can begin to get a handle on this, and this’ll be fun, ladies, especially around the holidays. If you approach this exercise with love, a sense of humor, [00:08:00] some compassion, and some fucking forgiveness, you can really get somewhere as a result. I would strongly encourage you to keep an I can’t journal. [00:08:11] Take a couple pages in your journal. Or get a special notebook for this. This can be super interesting because what comes after I can’t, because is always telling of the current state of your mindset. You may be very shocked and you may find that these aren’t your rules at all. They might be your mom’s rules, your dad’s rules, your boss’s rules. [00:08:32] They’re just not conscious and created by you. There’s never been more urgency, especially in your life, in the context of this journey. For you to be a conscious creator in your life, that means you choose the rules. You say what goes. If those people don’t wanna play by the rules, you are gonna find another team. [00:08:54] You are gonna find new people on your bump squad. I have met so many women over my [00:09:00] 11 year career coaching women to fertility success who had no idea that despite the fact that they had JD md, all these amazing titles, multiple letters after their names. All of these certifications, all of these degrees, prestigious positions at universities, hospitals, law firms, these women had no fucking clue that they had handed their license agency and authority to rules that they never consciously challenged or even investigated to see whether or not they actually bought that shit. [00:09:33] It doesn’t matter how academically smart you are. Or, or what your position is Until we wake up and become conscious to this pattern, more often than not, we’re living by rules that we didn’t even choose. So. Get out some paper, get some pages in your journal, and start writing down every one of your I cans, because I’d like to do this in real time. [00:09:58] Keep it close by. If you [00:10:00] catch yourself saying, I can’t do that because I can’t afford it, you’re gonna write that down. Give yourself a moment and say, well. Is it that I can’t afford it or I choose not to afford it? Those are two very different things, mama. I’m not saying that either is wrong, but know why you’re saying that. [00:10:20] Don’t just be a parrot that’s just repeating shit that your mom used to say, your dad used to say. When those rules may not even apply to you. You are not a stay at home mom. Who’s not bringing in money? Maybe that was your mom. No shade either way. But if we’re just parroting what was modeled to us, we’re not consciously creating our experience. [00:10:40] We are living by somebody else’s limitation. You may find I can’t because I don’t have the time. Well, have you ever thought about making the time? I know that some of you might think, well, you know, I’m, I’m a physician in a hospital. This is my. Shift. This is the way it works. I don’t know that it’s necessarily the way it works, it’s the way it’s been done in the [00:11:00] past, but you won’t know until you challenge that. [00:11:03] So often. The experience that we want to have on this journey was just an ask away. It was just having the guts to challenge the rule, and then you might find yourself in an entirely different circumstance, and this really can fuel your success on this journey. Shortly before recording this podcast, I had an amazing conversation with one of my Miracle Mamas in the making. [00:11:26] She had just been having a real tough time with a clinic that she was working with. She called another clinic that was outside of her country and asked for what she wanted, and they were like, great, we can totally do that. She was absolutely floored because she thought that that clinic’s way of doing things, the one in her home country, she thought that that’s just the way it was. [00:11:50] It wasn’t until she had summoned the courage inside of her to challenge the alleged rules, that she started to create an entirely different [00:12:00] experience, found a clinic that wanted to love on her and do things her way, and she is. Well on the path to fricking success in 2026. That’s how powerful this process is. [00:12:11] Take note of the ways in which you argue for your limitations. Mama, and fucking stop it. Think about this. Chances are there’s a conversation that you have been avoiding. With someone that is maybe on your bump squad and you’re just afraid because you think they are going to say no, or you think that challenging them is going to mean a loss for you. [00:12:37] You don’t actually know that you don’t know it until you do it, and that I can’t because could be blocking your clear path to your baby. One of the things I would encourage you if you have the courage to do this assignment and Miracle Mama’s will, is have compassion for yourself in this process. [00:13:00] None of what I am encouraging you to experiment with. [00:13:04] Is a gotcha. We’re not looking for all the ways that you’re fucked up. What we are looking for is your way to freedom on this journey. You’ve heard me say this a bazillion times, and I’m gonna say it again. The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. Mama, you learning to argue in favor of your possibilities. [00:13:26] Not your fucking limitations is going to make you a legend on this journey. It’s going to make you a mom. I know this is a lonely road because most people in our lives and far too many living this journey worship at the altar of limitations. They are all too ready to throw their hands up, let go of their license and agency and let somebody in a white coat be in authority. [00:13:52] Nobody but you deserves authority in your life. You can call in. Experts, [00:14:00] let them love on you. Let them help guide you, but you don’t have to live by anyone’s rules but your own. If anything is going to be limiting you on this journey, it’s time to question it. You are not going to get to where you want to go by accepting limitation. [00:14:17] Have the courage to challenge the rules and motherfucking make your own. And if you want my help getting there, go to my website www.frommaybetobaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true, and the results as you’ve seen. [00:14:36] Speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy except no substitutes. Women serious about fertility success and who want the best? Get fearless. Till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. [00:14:59] [00:15:00] Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

  If you’ve been told your age, diagnosis, or fertility statistics limit your chances of getting pregnant, this episode will challenge everything you think you know. Fertility limits are often presented as facts — but they are not destiny. In this powerful episode, I break down why declaring “fertility limits don’t apply to me” is more than a mantra. It’s a strategic mindset shift that changes how you show up, how you make decisions, and how you ultimately experience your fertility journey. Women who beat fertility statistics and get pregnant after 40 aren’t lucky. They think differently. And that difference matters. Ready to be that woman?  Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions Do fertility age limits really determine your outcome? Fertility age limits are statistical averages, not personal guarantees. While age can influence biological factors, statistics do not predict individual outcomes. Many women get pregnant after 40 and even 45 when they combine medical support with a strong fertility mindset. Can you beat fertility statistics? Statistics describe populations, not individuals. Beating fertility statistics often requires persistence, informed medical decisions, stress management, and a resilient mindset. Women who succeed frequently refuse to let averages define their future. How does mindset affect fertility success? Your mindset influences stress levels, nervous system regulation, decision-making, and persistence. Chronic fear and doubt can increase emotional and physiological stress. A strong fertility mindset supports clarity, resilience, and consistent action. Is it realistic to believe fertility limits don’t apply to you? Believing fertility limits don’t apply to you isn’t denial — it’s a strategic decision to focus on possibility rather than prediction. It shifts your behavior, the team you build, and the way you advocate for yourself. Can women really get pregnant after 40 or 50? Yes. While chances statistically decrease with age, many women conceive naturally or with support in their 40s and even early 50s. Individual factors vary widely, which is why averages don’t tell the full story. {"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"FAQPage","mainEntity":[{"@type":"Question","name":"Do fertility age limits really determine your outcome?","acceptedAnswer":{"@type":"Answer","text":"Fertility age limits are statistical averages, not personal guarantees. While age can influence biological factors, statistics do not predict individual outcomes. Many women get pregnant after 40 and even 45 when they combine medical support with a strong fertility mindset."}},{"@type":"Question","name":"Can you beat fertility statistics?","acceptedAnswer":{"@type":"Answer","text":"Statistics describe populations, not individuals. 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It shifts your behavior, the team you build, and the way you advocate for yourself."}},{"@type":"Question","name":"Can women really get pregnant after 40 or 50?","acceptedAnswer":{"@type":"Answer","text":"Yes. While chances statistically decrease with age, many women conceive naturally or with support in their 40s and even early 50s. Individual factors vary widely, which is why averages donu2019t tell the full story."}}]} Transcript [00:00:00] Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a, control freak, perfectionist. [00:00:20] I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat. The odds on their fertility journey, just like I did, get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell Yes. [00:00:37] For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 3 54. Fertility Limits Don’t apply to me. Your new mantra loves. I’m so just so thrilled to be here with you this week. [00:01:00] Because man, we are getting super close to the end of 2025, and I thought one of the greatest gifts that I can give you over the course of the next few weeks are some ideas for you to really start to set yourself up for looking at yourself, your journey, your baby, the possibilities for yourself in a completely different way. [00:01:22] And the first one that I wanted to share with you is this, fertility limits don’t apply to me. It’s a bold fucking statement, but if you’re serious about getting and staying pregnant and you have a history of quote unquote failure, or the statistics, which I don’t even know, care about that shit anymore, like if you’ve been listening to this podcast, you are hearing from women left and right in various ways. [00:01:48] All united by the power of mindset who are making statistics, their age, their diagnosis, fucking irrelevant. Yet we are consistently handing our power [00:02:00] over to people possibly well intentioned with white coats on telling us that shit’s not possible. But every freaking day, we are seeing proof of this that not only is having a baby with your litany of diagnoses. [00:02:16] And in your forties, in your fifties possible. In today’s world, it’s fucking normal. It’s important that you start to shift your paradigm around this topic. That starts with what you’re telling yourself about your possibilities. This isn’t something random that you’re just gonna say. It’s really an idea and an identity that you must begin to ingrain within yourself. [00:02:45] Fertility limits don’t apply to me. They just don’t say it. Say it to yourself right now. Fertility limits, they don’t apply to me. And if English is not your native tongue, fucking say it in your mother tongue. [00:03:00] Try it on for size because most of the time on this journey, we are getting hit left and right with tons of limitations, tons of reasons why we can’t do this, and if you are actually going to position yourself for success. [00:03:14] It’s going to require that you start planting the seeds in your own head for a completely different reality. If you need a reminder, we are the ones that create our experience on this journey. People are gonna try to tell you, oh, that’s bullshit. No, it’s not. You can have two people sitting next to each other in the same fertility clinic having two fucking diametrically opposed experiences. [00:03:40] One that is in a place where she knows how the story ends, she’s gonna tell herself, Nope, I don’t care what it takes. I don’t care how long I’m not leaving without my baby. And then you’re gonna have somebody else who’s scared of her own shadow, full of fear, doubt, worry, shame, jealousy, because she hasn’t done the work. [00:03:56] She has not. Awakened the awareness [00:04:00] within her to understand she’s controlling the experience. And not only is she controlling the experience, she can control the team that she brings in with her. Look, when you’re serious about a goal, you are not gonna go in there like solo. You’ve got to start building a team around you that believes in you. [00:04:17] And part of that is having a team that is rooted in the notion fertility limits don’t apply to me. Think about that. If we just step out of this for one moment and apply that idea to the way you select your team. Who are the physicians that you might bring in? Who are the coaches that you might bring in? [00:04:39] You’ve gotta make sure that anyone that has a front row seat on your journey is not a hate and ass bitch. You’ve gotta make sure that that person isn’t quietly throwing shade on your ass in the chart. You want all hands on deck. Everybody’s fricking ovaries deep on a hell yes to you and your vision. [00:04:59] [00:05:00] Now that doesn’t mean that there aren’t maybe some tweaks, some subtle. Shifts in the plan and some flexibility. But at the end of the day, if you are a woman who has ingrained in her heart, mind, body, and soul, that fertility limits don’t apply to me. Watch what kind of results you start to create. When you come from that mindset, you are gonna be. [00:05:20] Far more selective about who you bring in. You’re gonna ask different questions. You’re gonna feel a different sense of empowerment, license agency, and more importantly, some fucking authority. I’ve watched women from ages 28, which sounds really young, like who struggles there, but you’d be surprised. Two. [00:05:37] Fucking 54, or make stats, age, diagnosis, fucking irrelevant. Part of what you can start doing for yourself is really take the stand. Fertility limits don’t apply to me. I know that’s probably gonna be rattling some chains for some of you, but if you don’t take [00:06:00] up space on your journey and more importantly in your own mind about what you are gonna do with your life, what you’re gonna do with your time on this journey, what the fuck are you doing? [00:06:13] This is the power of mindset, like this is the thing that so often is the missing link. Is your attitude, your belief in yourself, the way that you approach this, the way that your own belief system is impacting your nervous system. Are your thoughts keeping you in fight or flight, or are you thinking like a woman? [00:06:34] Who does not believe that limits apply to her? Think about it ladies. We see people in so many different walks of life who either accept limitations or fucking bust through them. Which side of the aisle you end up on is entirely up to you. I have seen through my own work. I mean, you’ve seen these women on this podcast. [00:06:57] In my own coaching practice, I [00:07:00] see women rise like the fricking Phoenix. They are completely making their past irrelevant by beginning to play with this idea that. I can go beyond the limits of fertility medicine. I mean, that’s the essence of what I do every single day when I am coaching. I am helping women take themselves beyond the limits of fertility medicine. [00:07:22] So I want you to take some time. I know that this could be a little bit challenging around the holidays, but you know what? Here’s the deal. There’s never been a better time for you to be fucking crystal clear. On who you’re gonna be in 2026. Are you gonna be the woman that accepts limits on her fertility, or are you gonna be the woman that busts right through any limits that are presented to her and gets to the end of the year pregnant or holding her baby? [00:07:53] Think about it exactly a year from now, December. 2026, you could be in a [00:08:00] very different position. You could have a big old belly, you could be holding a baby. All of those things are possible. And from where you stand today, the landscape is wide open. Who fills that landscape? You Say it again. Fertility limits don’t apply to me. [00:08:19] Say it with gusto. Say it with flare. Say it in a way that you can get emotionally attached to this idea. I know that there are gonna be some of you that hear this and say, but what if I’m wrong? Well, what if you’re fucking right? You know what living this journey in fear and doubt has done to you mentally, you feel what it’s done to you physically. [00:08:41] Remember, your body follows your mind. And you know, you look at athletes who are in the gym throwing thousands of three-pointers like Steph Curry, Venus Williams, you know, was out there working, you know. Their mental game is freaking [00:09:00] everything. How does that not apply to your journey? Try on this idea. [00:09:05] Give yourself the opportunity to walk with the stance of a woman that says, Nope, those limits don’t apply to me. Think about people you admire in many different walks of life. Do they walk around in limitation? Do they anticipate failure or are they expecting. Success in that simple statement. Fertility limits don’t apply to me. [00:09:27] It says a lot. It says a lot about you. It says a lot about what you think of yourself, and it also says a lot about how ovaries deep you’re willing to go. Are you willing to break the rules and be the woman who gets pregnant easily in her forties or fifties? Are you willing to be the woman that is done with these arbitrary limits based on age, time, money, you name it. [00:09:57] I bet that every single one of you could probably [00:10:00] rattle off at least 15 reasons why you can’t do this. And they’re all based on the fucking past. If you want to create a different fertility future, it starts with the premise that not only do you deserve a different future, but that you, yes, you can actually have a different future. [00:10:21] Play with the sound of that statement. How does it make you feel? What does it feel like? Reverberating in your mouth? How does it hit your tympanic membrane? Notice how you feel in your body as you say it. Fertility limits. They don’t apply to me. Fertility limits don’t apply to me. Those limits, yeah, they don’t apply to me. [00:10:43] Not one bit. Try it out in many different ways. Say it in funny voices if you have to, but this is the genesis of your shift in identity that begins now by claiming the identity of a woman for whom [00:11:00] fertility limits. If they just don’t apply, this is a skillset, ladies. I know that you’re gonna be like, well, Rosanna feels great for me to play with this idea, but what next? [00:11:09] What you have to do next, now that you say those words. Is begin to learn the skillset of backing those words up with the way you think consistently on a daily basis with the actions that you take as a result of those thoughts and beliefs, and start to create new results, thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. [00:11:30] It’s logical, linear and true. This is a mantra that gets you started, but it is your decision to actually be that woman that’s gonna make all the difference in the world. Mama. Fertility limits, they don’t apply to me. And if you want my help getting there, that is what my ladies are internet famous for doing all over the world from ages 28 to 50, fucking four. [00:11:54] Go to my website www.frommaybetobaby.com and apply for an [00:12:00] interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true and their results speak for themselves. Mama, if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping. Hole in your strategy. If you truly want to be the woman for whom fertility limits don’t apply. [00:12:18] Who breaks the rules and is laughing all the way to her nursery, www.frommaybetobaby.com. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. [00:12:41] When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

  If you’re trying to conceive and feel overwhelmed by restrictive diets, confusing nutrition advice, or hormone imbalances that “look normal” on lab work, functional nutrition may be the missing piece. Functional nutrition is a root-cause approach to healing that uses personalized nutrition, lab interpretation, and lifestyle strategies to reduce inflammation, balance hormones, and support fertility. Instead of generic diet plans, it focuses on what your body specifically needs. In this episode, functional nutrition practitioner Katie Keen shares how she reversed chronic inflammation, insulin resistance, PCOS, and hypothyroidism after being told everything was “fine.” Her healing journey led her to help other women address gut health, hormone imbalance, and metabolic dysfunction in a way that feels practical — not extreme. If you’ve ever wondered:What is functional nutrition? Can nutrition really improve PCOS and fertility? How does gut health affect hormones? Why do my labs look “normal” but I still feel off? This conversation breaks it down in a way that’s relatable, empowering, and actionable. Because supporting your fertility isn’t just about mindset — it’s about creating a body that feels safe, nourished, and ready. Join me for a super cool, NOT boring conversation with my friend Katie Keen. Don’t forget…your body follows your MIND. Let me help your ass. Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What is functional nutrition? Functional nutrition is a root-cause approach to health that uses personalized nutrition, lab interpretation, supplements, and lifestyle strategies to address imbalances in the body. Instead of treating symptoms alone, it looks at gut health, hormones, inflammation, and metabolic function to identify why symptoms are happening. How is functional nutrition different from a regular diet? A regular diet focuses on calorie control or weight loss. Functional nutrition focuses on healing underlying imbalances such as insulin resistance, inflammation, gut dysfunction, or thyroid issues. It is personalized and based on symptoms, labs, and health history—not generic food rules. Can functional nutrition help with fertility? Yes. Functional nutrition can support fertility by reducing inflammation, improving gut health, stabilizing blood sugar, and balancing hormones. Conditions like PCOS, insulin resistance, and hypothyroidism often respond well to targeted nutrition and lifestyle changes. How does gut health affect hormones and fertility? Gut health plays a critical role in hormone regulation. The gut helps metabolize and eliminate excess hormones like estrogen. When gut function is impaired, inflammation and hormonal imbalance can increase, which may interfere with ovulation and fertility. 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Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. [00:00:37] Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get [00:00:39] fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. [00:00:46] Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 3 53. A not hella boring conversation about functional nutrition with Katie Keen loves. I’m so excited to be here with you this week as I [00:01:00] share a very special conversation I had with my friend Katie Keene, and what I love about Katie. [00:01:07] Look, this topic of what we eat on this journey, how we can improve our health and vitality, like it can get super overwhelming. It sounds like a lot of deprivation and around this time of year it can be like, nah, I’m just gonna totally screw off on my diet and enjoy the holidays and all that good stuff. [00:01:25] We can just get so exhausted by these topics and when it seems like we are following so much rigidity on this journey, it can just be like, I’m not dealing with that. But what you’re gonna love about my conversation with Katie is she does not come at it from a high horse. Like she’s not a high horse rider. [00:01:41] What she is, is somebody who earned her expertise, not only through her education, but actually having lived a healing journey. That’s what I love when it comes to experts. I only have people on this podcast that really walk the talk. And Katie found out that her [00:02:00] body was overwhelmed with inflammation. [00:02:02] She was gaining weight, her health was all fucked up. PCOS like. All these autoimmune conditions, and what she was able to do was quite literally heal herself. What her mission is now is helping women heal themselves. I thought it would be a great idea to have her come on, share a little bit about herself, share about her own healing journey, and empower you to look at the subject of. [00:02:27] Functional nutrition, which is deeply connected to finding root cause and is a wonderful supplement to any functional medicine stuff that you might be doing. It really takes it to the next level. We have so much information that we’re having to process on this journey that when you can have somebody like Katie come in, explain these things like a human being. [00:02:51] Really speak to the heart of why you’re healing. It’s truly a gift. So here is my conversation with Katie. [00:02:58] Katie, [00:02:59] [00:03:00] I’m so excited to have you on the podcast because. I love featuring experts that have actually walked a health journey. Yeah. Because I think it brings a perspective that’s not just clinical or academic. [00:03:18] Yeah. And look, there’s value to that, but I think that there is a relatability that comes from actually having done the work to heal your. Self that really empowers you to not only connect with people on their own health journey, but really be able to coach at a level of knowing. Absolutely. So I’m so excited to have you so. [00:03:43] Why don’t you share a little bit about yourself with a fearlessly fertile audience, and then we’ll get to what the hell functional nutrition is. So we’ll start there. [00:03:54] I started out maybe about 10 years ago or so now, just feeling [00:04:00] completely off. I was gaining weight and losing weight, and gaining weight, and losing weight, and I could just never get control of what was going on. [00:04:08] I was having. Tons of symptoms, um, fatigue, insomnia, um, problems with my menstrual cycle, gaining weight and losing weight. I could never keep the weight off and knew something was going on, but I really didn’t know what it was. So I went to my ob, GYN, and she ran some blood tests and of course came back with the, everything looks fine every single time, four months, and. [00:04:38] About six months after that, I went back and just said, nothing’s fine. I don’t feel good. I need some help. I cannot keep this weight off. I know what I’m doing. I’ve always been educated in working out and nutrition and just nothing is working for me. And she said, at that time, it’s all in your head. She gave me a card [00:05:00] to the therapist in the building next door and told me that I needed to go talk to somebody. [00:05:06] Shut up. [00:05:07] Yes. Shut up. [00:05:09] Up. Okay. [00:05:10] Yes. [00:05:11] Let me just stop you for one second. Yep. So many women listening to this are gonna relate to that. [00:05:18] Yeah. [00:05:18] The fact that you, you knew something was off. [00:05:21] Yes. [00:05:21] You have somebody in a white coat with this air of authority. Mm-hmm. Telling you it’s all in your head. [00:05:28] Yes. [00:05:28] What was that like? [00:05:30] Yeah. Oh, it was awful. Like I cried at that whole appointment because it was like. Lady look at me like, look at me. I even ex, like there was so much weight on me at that time. I was probably at that time about 30 pounds over, but like have lost and gained and the weight would come back so rapidly and I was walking. [00:05:51] Lifting weights like I was carb cycling. I was on keto. I was, I tried everything in the book and the weight would just [00:06:00] come right back. I’m not an idiot when it comes to nutrition, and I would try to explain that to her over and over, and she just did not want to hear it. She had no help for me. So, fast forward maybe like a year later, I pretty much gave up. [00:06:16] But fast forward about a year later, I was talking to one of my friends named Roseanne Austin, and, and she said, you have to see my functional medicine doctor. And at that time I was like, what is functional medicine? Like, what even is that? And you said, girl, it’s gonna change your life. Just go see her. [00:06:38] And I said, I’m gonna do that. So I made an appointment. I went and saw her and I am not joking in that appointment. She, you know, it was about an hour long taking my health history and all those things. She ordered some blood work. I went and did the blood work and in that one and a half years following that, I lost 50 [00:07:00] pounds and completely fixed myself. [00:07:04] It was insane. She diagnosed me with leaky gut, non-alcoholic fatty liver, PCOS, insulin resistance, hypothyroidism, that I actually look back now and think I had since I was in my twenties and yeah. But there was nothing wrong with me. Ask my ob, GYN, [00:07:25] it sends me into orbit. Oh [00:07:28] yeah. [00:07:28] I mean, but clearly like you are not the only one. [00:07:31] I know. I certainly wasn’t the only one. No, [00:07:33] no. [00:07:34] It blows my mind how little deference there is in traditional allopathic medicine. Yeah. To somebody being in tune with their body, feeling like something is off. [00:07:46] Yes. And that you [00:07:46] have to go outside of the matrix mm-hmm. In order to find that kind of help. [00:07:53] Mm-hmm. So you go to functional medicine, doctor, you start. Working [00:08:00] on yourself. You see these fucking incredible results, [00:08:03] right? [00:08:04] What did you do next with that? Because clearly you did something [00:08:07] right. Oh, I didn’t even mention my chronic inflammation that was off the charts. She hadn’t even seen inflammation like that on any of her patients like in the past year. [00:08:18] Yeah, so she literally just put me on a nutritional protocol and like I said, I was already pretty well educated in nutrition, so that was pretty easy for me to follow. She put me on that nutrition nutritional protocol while we fixed, um, my leaky gut. Which in turn fixed my liver and in turn took down all of my chronic inflammation, and then everything just fell into place. [00:08:46] I’m not kidding when I say I’ve never had results like this before. Every single day when I got on the scale every single day of the week, my weight was going down because my inflammation was just dropping and dropping [00:09:00] and dropping. She put me on two thyroid medications to bring that back into balance. [00:09:05] But besides that, it was all just supplements and food. [00:09:08] It blows my mind that this, in this day and age, especially Katie, that we could go for so long in suffering and just tolerate it as normal. [00:09:19] Yes. And yeah, that’s, that’s why after that whole experience of a year and a half of going through all of that, I said. [00:09:27] To my husband one day, how can I help people in the same way that I was helped? Bifunctional medicine without becoming a doctor. ’cause I don’t really have time for that or the years for that. How can I help people in the same way? So I started doing some research behind that and I have that experience with nutrition. [00:09:51] It’s something that I studied in college and just something I was always passionate about. And literally one day just said, is functional nutrition [00:10:00] like a thing? So I Googled that and just looked into it and looked into a bunch of different programs and landed on one that I was like, this is it. And my husband said, go for it. [00:10:11] So I did. [00:10:12] Oh, so today you are helping people through functional nutrition. [00:10:17] Absolutely. [00:10:19] Wow. So what does that really mean, Katie? Because people will get online they’ll, or they’ll Google, they’ll chat GPT or Grok something that says, okay, this is a functional diet. But I think you and I both know. That ain’t it? [00:10:34] No. So functional nutrition, the title is a little misleading because it sounds like, oh, I’m just a nutritionist. You’re gonna go to me and I’m gonna, you know, put you on a diet or whatever It, it’s actually very different. So functional nutrition is actually a holistic and personalized approach. Where you are deep [00:11:00] diving into the root causes behind what’s causing the imbalances in somebody’s body, and then fixing those imbalances by different protocols or like nutritional. [00:11:15] Tailored nutritional plans and lifestyle strategies. So it’s, it’s a lot more than just nutrition. It’s your whole health history. It’s the reason why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling. And then food and supplementation and lifestyle strategies behind that are what fix it, exactly how I fixed myself. [00:11:37] I think that’s really fascinating because I did nutritional testing at the beginning of this year and people think that. Fixing your gut or or changing your diet is a destination. And it’s like, no, dude, it’s a journey. [00:11:52] Right. ‘ [00:11:52] cause I had done testing in the past, but when I tested this year, my needs were completely different. [00:11:59] Yep. And I was [00:12:00] blown away. Mm-hmm. By what I was sensitive to in 2025 that I was not sensitive to In 2022. [00:12:08] Yes. [00:12:08] In just that short period of time. So. I think it’s important that people understand that you’re not going to do this for like three days and Okay, check the box. Right? Like this is a lifestyle change. [00:12:19] Right, right. And and also a lot of the protocols that people will go on in the beginning can be temporary things. Like at first when I had to cut out. Gluten and dairy and eggs and sugar and alcohol and all the things that was temporary while I was fixing my gut. But because it made me feel so good and I knew what it was doing for my body, I drug that protocol out way longer than she wanted me to, and then stopped that about around a year and a half. [00:12:54] I decided to reintroduce some of the foods and I reintroduced gluten [00:13:00] as the last one. Well, my chronic inflammation spiked up again, so we knew by that that my body didn’t like it at all. So I cut the gluten back out. Um, now I’m just gluten-free. I was able to introduce dairy that doesn’t disagree with my body. [00:13:17] Um, I eat some sugar and, um, I don’t drink alcohol anymore. That was just a choice that I made. But, um, yeah, it’s, it’s very temporary. It’s not these really harsh things that people are scared to deep dive into because they think like, well, I’m not gonna go the functional route, because they always make you cut out everything. [00:13:37] It’s, it’s just temporary. [00:13:39] Well, and I think that’s an important point that you’re raising because people tend to think in very extreme terms of deprivation. [00:13:47] Right. [00:13:47] And it’s like a, it ain’t deprivation when you start to see a result. [00:13:52] Right. And when your body is not cooperating with what you’re eating. [00:13:56] It’s probably something that you should stay away from. [00:14:00] [00:14:00] Yeah. I’m telling you, like having retooled my own protocol this year. Mm-hmm. Like I, I was seeing results in I would say about 11 days. [00:14:08] Yeah. [00:14:09] Like that’s the kind of thing. Yes. Because, and, and with stuff that I was like. UTF. [00:14:14] Mm-hmm. [00:14:14] Like, you know, ’cause we were eating very cleanly, generally speaking, like on the straight and narrow. [00:14:20] Mm-hmm. [00:14:21] But when I actually got information instead of just Googling something or going to chat GPT, I could get. Something that was specific to me because I had done blood work, right? That gave me like, I don’t know, it’s like 180 page report, [00:14:36] right? [00:14:36] Like showing you all of these different either nutritional deficiencies, supplementation, deficiencies, like so that you could more strategically and accurately. [00:14:48] Supplement for what you need or change certain things. Mm-hmm. Because not everyone needs to be freaking dairy free. [00:14:54] No. And it can come down to, um, people are like nutrient [00:15:00] deficient. It can just be because nowadays the foods that everybody’s eating, all the chemicals that are in things, or even our soil is so nutrient deficient, depleted that. [00:15:12] Even if you’re eating clean, you can still be missing a lot of the key nutrients and your body can be reacting that to that, and you don’t even realize that that’s what the issue is. [00:15:22] That’s, that’s completely true and I, and I really encourage women to not just follow what some blog post says to do. [00:15:30] Right. Like, go and do the investigation because [00:15:33] Right. [00:15:34] Everybody is unique and what worked for Jane Doe over here may not work for negative Nancy. Right, right. Like especially on the fertility journey with, with this system of fertility. That’s so. Delicate. Mm-hmm. And is really dependent on not being in fight or flight, because so many of, so many of the markers of inflammation can create all these different things in our nervous system. [00:15:57] Yeah. It’s like this is a whole system. Mm-hmm. [00:16:00] We’re not just talking about your uterus and your ovaries. When your body is struggling, it’s going to redirect resources to something else because it, it’s in crisis. [00:16:09] Yeah. That’s why I like functional nutrition, because it’s. Everybody’s unique, and it’s a whole body approach. [00:16:16] Like in my schooling, it was a total body approach. We went over, you know, brain, yes, we went over gut, but we went over, you know, reproductive, we went over the endocrine system, we went over everything because it. Everything works in sync together. And a lot of people don’t really understand that. They think like, oh, well my gut’s just messed up. [00:16:34] I’ll just fix that and I’m good to go. But there’s so many more issues that come up when one thing is outta balance, especially gut since it’s connected to your brain and everywhere else, that there’s just more to it. And so functional nutrition is like that detective deep dive behind everything, and I can connect dots that people never even realized were there. [00:16:56] Yeah, I think it’s also interesting that we take a look [00:17:00] at our overall stress level. I think people, oh, absolutely accept. This level of stress that in, if we take a step back, we look it, it’s actually unacceptable. [00:17:11] Mm-hmm. [00:17:11] Because that’s when we start to go to convenience foods. We, we cut corners and mm-hmm. [00:17:16] You know, we find ourselves exhausted. It’s like, [00:17:18] yeah. [00:17:19] When you can take an approach that you’re talking about and say, Nope, I’m gonna make this lifestyle choice. I’m gonna make this decision to do something different. It, it’s not. Something that is about deprivation or being in a constant state of perfectionism. [00:17:35] ’cause that’s the other thing that can start to happen is people fear going into this area because they think their life is gonna be turned upside down. But you and I both having healed in different ways, it’s like, uh oh no. Once you start to see the result, this is not difficult. Right? So why don’t you share a little bit about. [00:17:55] Some of the things that functional nutrition can help you see [00:18:00] results with, and especially more related to fertility. [00:18:03] I, um, I specialize in PCOS, hypothyroidism, Hashimoto’s, and with all of that comes insulin resistance, the inflammation, and the GI issues. Right away when people, um, start on a protocol and start eating better, taking the nutrients that they’re deficient in or, um. [00:18:28] They will, it’s not just the energy, but it’s the sleep. You don’t even realize sometimes how horrendous your sleep is until that’s fixed. Like I suffered from a horrible insomnia that’s gonna get better. But also, um, your inflammation is gonna go down. You’re gonna notice that in like your joints every morning when I woke up, my hands felt swollen and I never even put two and two together that that was the inflammation like. [00:18:55] It just, you know, when your fingers feel like sausages, that’s what it felt [00:19:00] like. Never dawned on me that it could be inflammation inside of my body until she pointed that out. Um, it can be constipation, diarrhea, just any GI issues. Um, heartburn like the, the acid reflux, all of that. Um, go along with the GI issues. [00:19:17] Um. But also, uh, like with PCOS, it’s going to lower the stress in your body and take a lot of those symptoms away as well. Um, this, I, it’s funny because with my PCOS, I didn’t actually have a lot of the normal symptoms that people get with PCOS, but it was my insulin resistance. That was the big key factor that she noticed that pointed to that. [00:19:44] So something I work on big time is blood sugar balance, and that on its own is gonna help your PCOS, but it makes you feel so much better throughout the day because those meals are balanced. You’re not getting like that hangry feeling [00:20:00] all the time that a lot of women get. It’s just, it’s an overall. Um, feeling in your body of just feeling better. [00:20:10] And that is so hard to put into words because everybody is so different, but it’s just feeling better. [00:20:16] Well, and I, I think to put an even finer point on that, it’s fricking vitality, [00:20:22] right? And, [00:20:22] and I think that for women who are struggling with fertility and women who wanna give themselves the best possible chance. [00:20:30] Of conceiving having vitality. I mean, life attracts lives. [00:20:35] Right. [00:20:35] You know, and, and it’s so funny because I, I know how that feels, because I was just doing all kinds of crazy things when I was living my journey, like I did. Nobody even talked to me, Katie, about getting any nutrition testing. Nothing. [00:20:53] Yeah. [00:20:53] And, and he just said, oh, go eat healthy. But the reality is, is if you have a thyroid condition or you have certain conditions, you [00:21:00] shouldn’t be eating cruciferous veggies. [00:21:02] Right, [00:21:02] right. Like there’s, there’s [00:21:03] or [00:21:03] gluten. Yeah. [00:21:04] Right, [00:21:05] right, [00:21:05] right. And so it. The more you can have real data behind what kind of protocol, nutritionally or through supplements can, can, like what’s right for you. [00:21:19] I think you can just make the best choices as opposed to just taking a shotgun approach, [00:21:24] right, [00:21:24] and doing whatever. [00:21:26] Right. It’s really working on your metabolic health. Which so many women like yo-yo diet, or they’re constantly just, I need to, I’m trying to get skinny. I’m trying to get skinny. It’s all about their weight, but really metabolic health is everything. [00:21:43] It’s your fatigue, it’s your energy, it’s your sleep, it’s your libido, it’s your metabolism. It’s all of those things. So functional nutrition. Helps all of that come into balance. Yeah. [00:21:54] But I love that you’re out there sharing this because you can take it that one step beyond, I [00:22:00] still see a functional medicine doctor. [00:22:02] Right. But, and they’ll have protocols, but not the way that you will dig down and fricking nerd out. [00:22:08] The thing is, like functional medicine doctors, like I’ve even talked to my functional medicine doctor about this. It’s like the nutritional protocols that you’re put on a lot of times, um, at the doctor. [00:22:20] People walk away not really knowing what that is like, they’ll say, oh, go more Whole 30 or Go Paleo or, but there’s no specific information really behind that. And so unless you’re gonna come home and completely deep dive and stress out and. Freak out and don’t know if you’re following it to a T. That’s what functional nutrition is for. [00:22:43] I do that deep dive for you, and then I help you with whatever protocol that you’ve been put on. If you have hypothyroidism or Hashimoto’s or PCOS or insulin resistance. Everybody’s going to be eating a different way, and that’s something that I can guide you in. But also along with all of [00:23:00] that. Toxin education is something that I took a deep dive into that I add onto my program because I just feel like. [00:23:08] Functional medicine touches on that. But I go into a deep dive of education and guidance on um, toxins as well, because that is something that even if you are a bodybuilder and you’ve got it down pat and you are buff and you work out and you eat clean and you do all these things, but your body just for some reason, you have insomnia, you have some fatigue, you have these different things. [00:23:33] People don’t also realize that toxins is also. Completely. Involved in all of this as well. [00:23:42] That’s the, that’s the thing that a lot of women, I mean especially women who are short on time and are super busy, you know, you think you can go to a jack of all trades, right? And it’s not the way to go. Yeah. The reality is, is that you are gonna bring in a functional medicine doctor for one specific [00:24:00] task. [00:24:00] Mm-hmm. You are gonna bring in Katie Keen, right. Functional nutrition expert in for another thing, because everyone is gonna offer you something different. In your healing journey. And that’s what I love about, you know, going to somebody like you that is very narrow in scope. You, you don’t use a scalpel for everything, right? [00:24:21] Yeah. You’ll use a scalpel for certain things and other tools for others. And I think it’s really cool to be able to narrow down, uh, with somebody that’s a subject matter expert on that specific. Topic, [00:24:34] right. I have functional medicine doctors that are now referring their clients to me because they realize that the information that they were getting is just a little broad and people need so much more help, or they walk away so frustrated that they end up giving up on the protocol and they end up not fixing the issue that they went to the doctor for that they spent so much money on trying to help. [00:24:59] [00:25:00] But then there’s no follow through. [00:25:02] I think you raise another good point there is that the reality is, is that the, the current medical system is not geared toward this kind of information. You have to go outside of it. You’ll get some very general information, [00:25:16] right. [00:25:17] That never quite hit the mark. Look, the, the mo, the, the average model is to say, is this covered by my insurance? [00:25:24] And it’s like, yeah. Do you think your insurance company cares about whether or not you’re Well, [00:25:29] no. [00:25:29] Right. They don’t. They don’t. They don’t [00:25:31] get you off all those medications. Are you kidding? [00:25:33] Yeah. Because they get a kickback for that stuff. [00:25:35] Exactly. [00:25:37] The reality is, is that if you want to have a fresh perspective, you have to get outside of the system. [00:25:43] Right. [00:25:43] And I think one of the most empowering things that. Any woman can do on her fertility journey or any healing journey that she’s on is get out of the system, start looking. For the truth that’s outside of the system, the often inconvenient [00:26:00] truth. Yeah. That says you can heal, you can make these adjustments. [00:26:04] It doesn’t have to be painful. It can actually be fun. I mean, right. Ladies, those of you listening, like I know Katie from way back and she’s one of the most relatable, hilarious people. We actually both have a background in law enforcement and criminal justice. I think that. Watching you in your own transformation. [00:26:23] Yeah. [00:26:24] And having had to heal on your own, gives you a relatability and, and frankly, softer touch that I think is really needed out there. Right. You know, as people break out of the matrix and they start to explore functional medicine and root cause, and then thereby functional nutrition. You really do need some handholding. [00:26:50] I know there are people that were hardheaded like me, an attorney like, ah, you know, I can pass the California bar. I don’t need all this. And it’s like, whatcha talking about? [00:26:59] Right? [00:26:59] [00:27:00] You are a subject matter expert in what you do, but when it comes to this, we have to have the humility to be able to take a step back and say, actually, I don’t know. [00:27:09] Much. [00:27:09] Right? Right. I like to take the approach with people of giving you as much assistance or as little assistance as you want. Like if I give you all the information and you wanna run with that and you only wanna do those 30 minute check-ins once a month, totally fine with me. But if you’re also that person that you’re at the grocery store and you’re freaking out because you’re like, is this salad dressing clean? [00:27:32] I can’t tell. Like I allow access to me by my clients. When they need it, because I totally understand what it’s like going through this and the changes that I want these women making are for life, not just a temporary diet or a temporary thing, like 30 to 60 days or the 12 weeks that I work with somebody or the six months that I work with somebody and then you’re done. [00:27:57] No, there’s no end [00:28:00] goal to this thing. The end goal is the rest of your life and hopefully that’s a very long life. That’s where we’re trying to go. It it is for life. And what is. Great about it is you are now gonna know how to feed your kids, how to feed your family, how to remove the toxins from your house that are going to disrupt your daughter’s hormones or your son’s hormones, or you know, causing all those respiratory problems or other things that happen with toxic chemicals in your home or on personal care products and in your food. [00:28:31] So I like to give everybody like a well balanced overall education and then. They can do with that without what they want, but it’s for life. It’s for your family’s life. Like it’s kind of a, it’s for you, but it’s really for everybody in your household when it comes down to it. Because you are gonna be learning how to cook the right kinds of foods that your whole family is going to want to eat and should be eating because it’s going to fix their health in turn. [00:28:58] I, I think that’s a extremely [00:29:00] important point as well, because when I started making changes, even the changes that I made this year in 2025, it had a ripple effect. Yeah. We slowly started to remove, I mean, I was already gluten-free, but Right. We started to remove gluten from our house. Mm-hmm. And now like. [00:29:18] You know, Brandon, he can’t be stopped with his cookies, right? Like, so he’s not giving that up too easily. [00:29:23] Brandon, I’m gonna mail you some gluten-free cookies that are actually good. [00:29:26] Yeah, yeah. Well, and it’s funny though because I’ll modify things and then he’s like, oh, this is good. And he doesn’t know that it’s gluten-free and it’s like kinda looks at the funny, [00:29:36] you just don’t tell ’em. [00:29:37] They don’t know the difference because it’s good. [00:29:39] They don’t. Yeah, they [00:29:40] don’t. I always tell the kids, I tell the girls like, do I cook anything disgusting? Just eat it. Just eat it. You’re gonna like it. Don’t look at me like I’m crazy. And they always like it. [00:29:50] I love your point about it’s for your family because the women listening to this. [00:29:56] Are nuanced enough to understand that everything [00:30:00] that you’re doing isn’t just about getting pregnant. Mm-hmm. And clearing that inflammation that can be telling, giving your body the wrong message and saying it’s not safe to get pregnant. What what you’re doing is creating an environment before you get pregnant. [00:30:14] Right When you get pregnant for the duration of your pregnancy, that’s not only good for you, but it’s good for your unborn baby. This is the kind of thing exactly to your point that ultimately has a ripple effect throughout their entire lives. I mean, you would be so proud of Asher. He actually reads labels like he’s. [00:30:32] That’s amazing. [00:30:34] Yeah. He, well, he, he kind of, when, when he, when we were telling him about food dies, like, and explaining to him how dangerous they were, he kind of freaked out. Right. Like in a good way. But if, [00:30:44] if some of the info can be a little bit scary, like for kids, I mean, it, it is a little hard, but like, you want them to be educated about it. [00:30:51] Like the girls always say like, mom. There was red dye 40 in that, so I did not touch it. [00:30:58] Well, [00:30:59] that’s, and I’m good [00:31:00] girls. Good girls. [00:31:01] Well, but what that does is empower them, [00:31:04] right? [00:31:04] So. Asher freaked out when we told him a little bit about that, but he felt empowered. And so [00:31:09] right [00:31:10] now he’s learned and he’s only eight. [00:31:12] Mm-hmm. To look at a label and decide for himself if there’s soy in there. Yeah. If he wants to eat something with soy in it. Right. And if he makes a decision. That that’s not for him. I mean, I make that decision when I’m with him, like he’s not eating soy. Right. But that he’s empowered when he is at school, if there are treats available, that he can make a really educated decision and not just out of dogma, but understand. [00:31:41] Why he’s making that choice. I mean, [00:31:43] right. [00:31:43] It builds confidence in them. It builds authority, license, and agency that I think is beyond their years, but it, you know, is really [00:31:52] gonna help. Well, and then just that, like that ripple effect you were talking about. Just imagine now Asher, when he gets married and has kids, he’s [00:32:00] now gonna pass that on to the I know, I know, I know. [00:32:02] I can’t, I can’t even, I can’t even picture it. I can’t even, but. You know that wife of his, that you’re gonna, she [00:32:08] better be a good cook and she better have gone through Katie’s program. [00:32:12] Yeah, she better have. Um, but like he’ll be able to pass that on to his family and from the time his children are born, like they’re gonna be in a non toxin environment eating healthy foods. [00:32:24] And that is just so much better for the bloodline. If you think about it, [00:32:28] it really does become a mother’s responsibility to begin to educate herself so that. Before you’re pregnant, during your pregnancy, after your pregnancy, and into your motherhood, that you’re making really great choices. So why don’t you share with the women listening a little bit about, uh, how you work, where to find you, and how somebody can get started. [00:32:53] Okay, so my website, um, has all the information about the, the two different programs that I run. [00:33:00] So I run a program called the Total Body Reset that is a 12 week program, or you can extend that program and turn it into a six month program. And that’s the Total Body Reset, VIP. So the program pretty much breaks down. [00:33:16] Um, I meet with the client. Um, over Zoom and we go through a full in-depth assessment that is your whole entire health history, very similar to what they would do at functional medicine. Um, at that time is when I completely break down the program for you, explain to you exactly what we’re gonna be doing in the amount of time that we’re together, um, and also go over all of your goals because not everybody wants to lose weight. [00:33:45] Not everybody, um, you know, has the same issues. So then I will functionally read your most current lab work that you have. If you don’t have lab work that can be ordered, um, that is an additional cost, [00:34:00] but lab work can be one of those things that you went and got it done at your regular doctor or your ob GYN. [00:34:07] They told you, like they had told me everything looked fine, but I can look at it through a functional lens and tell you. Well, this may be in range for what your doctor learned in medical school, but functionally it’s not because it’s not optimal for your body if you’re having all the symptoms of something, but your blood work is coming out fine. [00:34:31] Mm. We’re still gonna work with that. [00:34:34] I love that you focus in on that too. Yeah. Because when I started seeing, and it’s so, it’s so interesting to me when I started seeing functional medicine practitioners and I would hear somebody say, well, yeah, that’s within range, but you have to understand those ranges are based on sick people and like, [00:34:50] right. [00:34:51] I was like. [00:34:53] I also learned recently that your, the ranges that they look at are based on a [00:35:00] certain age range in the state that you like live in. So it can be completely different all across the whole country Also. Oh man. Which makes zero sense. Zero sense. [00:35:13] Wow. So you can be like living in this like subclinical state, [00:35:18] right. [00:35:19] For a period of, and have no idea. [00:35:22] Mm-hmm. That that’s the reason why they’re telling you like, well, you’re within range. And you wanna go like, what range is this? Because I feel like garbage. What range are you reading anyway? So then what we’ll do, well, [00:35:36] I love that you go through that in your [00:35:37] program. Yeah. [00:35:38] Yeah. So then what we’ll do is we will address your gut health. Um, a lot of people. Also don’t realize they have gut health problems because nowadays, um, acid reflux or getting bloated, constipation, diarrhea, all those things, it’s so, everybody’s like, it’s so normal. That’s just normal. I just, I [00:36:00] always have reflux. [00:36:01] I’ve had it since I was younger or I have always had, um, you know, stomach aches after I ate dairy. Or I get bloated all, every single night after I eat dinner, or, oh, yeah, I’ve suffered with constipation. I go to the bathroom every three days. I’ve been like that for years now. It’s just my normal, yeah, that’s not normal. [00:36:22] That’s, that’s not normal. I don’t want you to think that’s normal. I don’t know who told you that was normal. Please don’t believe that’s normal. We’re gonna address your gut health, whether you think there’s something going on or not, because every single person on earth who consumes food period has something going on in their gut. [00:36:41] It just is what it is nowadays with food, period. It just is what it is. [00:36:45] Well, and it’s good to have a baseline, right? Right. So that you can eliminate some of these things. Ladies, I’m telling you, having done this myself, there is so much relief. And a sense of control and a sense of direction [00:37:00] that comes from taking the time to investigate this and walking through this in the way that Katie’s talking about. [00:37:06] Right. Right. Um, from there we’ll move on to a very individualized. Tailored nutrition plan or protocol, um, especially just for you because of the things that we learned in your hes, uh, health history through your blood work, through what I know about your gut health. Um, that nutrition plan is gonna be tailored just to you, and I’m gonna be able to walk you through that with. [00:37:33] Teaching you about, um, meal prepping or ingredient prepping meals for your family. Um, breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack ideas. I’m not gonna just throw it at you and leave it to you to figure it out. That’s something that I’m gonna completely walk you through and hold your hand if you want the handhold. Um, and then at the very end, I do a very deep dive. [00:37:55] On the toxin education. I feel like that nowadays [00:38:00] is something that not a lot of people know about, but that everybody needs to be educated about because you need to decide in your family what toxins you wanna be exposed to, and you may not even understand that you’re being exposed to as many toxins as you’re being exposed to. [00:38:16] Like a little fun fact that I like to tell people is, do you wet dust in your house? And they say, what does wet dusting mean? I say, do you dry dust? And they say, yeah, I dry dust all the time. But do you wipe the same services down with a wet cloth afterwards? No, why would I do that? Because there are so many toxins from your air in your house, from the cleaners that you use, from your skin. [00:38:45] If you’re using toxic chemicals on your skin, your skin sheds. Those dust particles are just sitting toxins in your house and you are breathing that. Every day. Totally insane. So I love to go on that deep dive, [00:39:00] but I also like to explain to people, don’t stress out too much about the toxins, because you’re gonna kill yourself from stress quicker than the toxins are gonna kill you. [00:39:10] So it’s very much about that 80 20 when it comes to products. Like if you’ve tried every single mascara that’s clean on the market and you’re just like, girl, I gotta go back to my. Whatever mascara, use the mascara. But as long as you are cutting out as many things as you can, n not even fully non-toxic, just lowering your toxins in the products that you’re using, you’re winning. [00:39:38] You’re winning. [00:39:39] I think that’s so smart. And I love the bespoke white glove option for working with you because Well, and I’m the kind of person like, look, I don’t have time to figure this out on my own. Right. Right. And where do I have any interest? Right. I, I want to go to an expert, tell me what to do. [00:39:56] Right. I’m going to do it because I don’t have time [00:40:00] to go. Right. [00:40:00] And not a lot of people like to nerd out and deep dive into things. I just happen to be one of those people. Yeah. That when I wanna know about something I have to know. Everything about the subject and I like teaching about it, you know, and other people just like, that’s so far out of the realm of what they’ve got room in their brain for. [00:40:18] Like they need an expert to give ’em the information and walk ’em through it and make it happen. And then you’re gonna know the stuff, you know, after I teach it to you. But it’s, it’s the handholding along the way that will. You know, [00:40:30] I think, I think that’s important for accountability as well to really get on board with that. [00:40:36] Right. And, and to really get into a place where not only are you having this testing done, that you’re learning exactly what to do with it, how to empower yourself, have accountability, have a place to go with your questions. Mm-hmm. Uh, that isn’t just some canned solution, but that is truly bespoke and white glove. [00:40:53] That always, that always gets me when I, when I hear those things, I’m all over it. [00:40:57] Right. [00:40:57] So that’s great. And we’re gonna put a link. [00:41:00] To your website in the show notes. What are some points that you would like the women listening to take away from our conversation here when it comes to functional nutrition? [00:41:12] Well, first of all, it’s. Nowadays, everybody thinks that not sleeping, being tired all the time, being stressed all the time is normal. It’s normal. All of these imbalances that our people are feeling nowadays, you, it’s almost like you just get so used to it that it’s your normal. It’s not normal. I don’t want anybody to ever think that they can’t live their optimal life, that they can’t feel great all the time and have their energy back and be able to play with their kids, or, you know, not fall asleep on the couch at night, at seven o’clock after their exhausting day at work. [00:41:50] Like it’s, it doesn’t have to be that way, and I just want women to get that feeling that I had when I [00:42:00] finally. Put all those pieces together and like the whole puzzle of what was going on and fixed it and it was amazing. Like I feel 20 years younger, I can’t believe that all of these things were wrong with me and it, it just doesn’t have to be that way. [00:42:16] All of us should be in our optimal health where we. Are living our best lives and we have that longevity. Like when we have kids, we want our family to have us around for a very long time. I wanna be around for my grandkids. That’s super important to me. So it’s not about being skinny, it’s not about being on a diet. [00:42:35] It’s about fixing yourself from head to toe inside out, and just being the best version of yourself that you can be. [00:42:42] Ooh. I love that. And the women in my community, we all, all, all have an agreement that we’re all gonna live to 130. We’re gonna be [00:42:50] faithful, [00:42:50] we’re gonna be rich, everything’s gonna be working out for us. [00:42:53] Yeah. Yeah. [00:42:53] And I think what you teach and what you do in the world is such an integral aspect of that. So [00:43:00] thank you so much, Katie, for Yeah. [00:43:01] Thank you so much for having me. [00:43:03] Yeah, it’s great and I, I really am inspired by what you’re doing and I really hope that the women reach out to you, bust down your door and, and really get that kind of support that is so necessary to be making educated choices. [00:43:16] Yeah. About how to support themselves in this area. And I just think it’s great. So thank you for coming on. [00:43:23] Of course, you can also go on my website. I do a free 30 minute consultation. For anybody that wants to discuss the program before committing and signing up for something and see if we’re right to work together. [00:43:34] I think that’s so smart. It’s gotta be a fit. Yeah. But I know that working with you is gonna be fantastic, so thank you so much. [00:43:40] Yeah, awesome. Thank you so much. Roseanne [00:43:42] loves wasn’t my conversation with Katie? Absolutely fantastic. I love that we could talk about the subject of functional nutrition and doing right by ourselves, our bodies and our babies, our families in a way that’s approachable and is being taught by somebody who. [00:43:58] Really lived a healing [00:44:00] journey, man, that gives you some massive street cred. So I hope that you check out Katie’s work. We’re gonna have a link to her website and contact information in the show notes. So do not forget to reach out to Katie. She’s gonna be an amazing partner with you and helping you work on the physical stuff, just as important as the physical is what’s going on between your ears. [00:44:23] And if you want my help with that, go to www.frommaybetobaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true and their results, and speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you gotta keep a hole in your strategy. [00:44:40] You wanna have the whole approach, mind and body work together. Your body follows your mind, sister. So go to www.frommaybetobaby.com. Don’t start 2026 off in chaos and no plan. You want to be the woman who says a big hell yes to making 2026 your year [00:45:00] till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. [00:45:05] Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Low Ovarian Reserve Success Story: From Shame + a 1% Chance to Baby Girl (Sam’s Story)If you’ve been told you have low ovarian reserve and your odds are “tiny,” this low ovarian reserve success story is for you. Sam went from shame, self-blame, and a 1% prognosis… to holding her baby girl. And the turning point wasn’t more panic, more perfection, or more pushing — it was becoming the woman who and starts leading. Answering Your Questions What does “low ovarian reserve” mean? It usually means testing suggests fewer remaining eggs than expected — but it does not automatically predict your outcome or your ability to become a mom. Can you still get pregnant with low ovarian reserve? Yes. Many women do — especially when they stop treating a diagnosis like a destiny and start making aligned decisions instead of fear-based ones. What did Sam do differently when she was given a 1% chance? She stopped negotiating with fear, rebuilt her self-trust, and made decisions based on what felt right — not what sounded “acceptable” to other people. Why is shame so damaging on the fertility journey? Because shame keeps you in self-rejection — and self-rejection kills discernment, consistency, and emotional safety (the inner environment you need to sustain this process). What if I don’t feel “spiritual” — can mindset still help? Yes. Mindset is practical: it’s how you interpret reality, make decisions, handle uncertainty, and stay emotionally steady under pressure. Your next steps: Want me to teach you what I taught Sam? Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only experience:  https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Related Posts: EP350: If you keep doing everything right and still feel stuck, you may be unknowingly pushing your baby away. Let’s fix that.  EP352: Gratitude and faith aren’t cute quotes — they’re fertility-altering power tools when you know how to use them. EP349: Told your embryos aren’t “normal”? Cool story. Liz still became a mom — and this will light a fire under you.  EP348: There might be one thing you’re gripping tighter than your baby. Find out what it is — and drop it.  EP347: If you’re forcing your way through this journey, you’re missing the actual doorway. This episode shows you where it is. Your next steps: From the time she was a little girl, Sam knew she was meant to have a baby girl. But, with a failed marriage, a diagnosis of “low ovarian reserve,” and being given a 1% chance, Sam worried that her dream might not come true. Then Sam decided that if she was going to have any chance of calling her precious girl in, she had to be better. Learn how Sam overcame her self-image, a poor relationship with her body, and her prejudices to kick the door wide open to her beautiful baby girl and TRUE LOVE on her terms. Want me to teach you what I taught Sam? Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only experience: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app

  Women on this journey LOVE to talk about abundance, surrender, “manifesting,” and femininity…but do they really understand what those words mean in practice? Because here’s the truth: an abundance mindset for fertility isn’t cute affirmations on Instagram. It’s not pretending you’re fine. It’s not bypassing grief. And it’s definitely not waiting around hoping the universe sprinkles baby dust on your life. Real abundance is lived. Real surrender is embodied. Real manifesting requires courage. Years of personal development, heartbreak, faith, growth, and radical self-honesty have led my closest friends and me to a deeper understanding of what these principles actually look like in everyday life. Not theory. Not fluff. But the gritty, feminine, fearless application of them when your heart is on the line. In this episode, my dear friend Rachel Burch and I pull back the curtain. We talk about everyday miracles. We talk about non-attachment. We talk about faith. We talk about receiving without shrinking. And we talk about what it really means to cultivate an abundance mindset for fertility—even before you have the baby in your arms. Rachel is a former attorney and general counsel turned author, podcaster, comedian, and truth-seeker. Together, we explore how high-achieving, logical, skeptical women can open the door to magic without losing their edge. If you’ve ever wondered: Is this manifestation stuff actually real Can I be powerful, intelligent, and feminine? How do I receive instead of force? This conversation will stretch you—in the best possible way. If you’re ready to stop performing abundance and start living it… I’ll show you how to RECEIVE in a new, feminine, fearless way. If you want to learn what we know, I’ll teach you how to RECEIVE in a new feminine and fearless way. Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only programs: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app Answering Your Questions What does an abundance mindset for fertility actually mean? An abundance mindset for fertility means choosing to believe that your desire to become a mother exists for a reason—and that your journey is happening for you, not against you. It’s not pretending you’re never sad. It’s not bypassing grief. And it’s not passive waiting. It’s about: Trusting that your growth matters Believing miracles can happen in everyday life Detaching from timeline panic Staying open to support and faith Abundance isn’t denial. It’s power rooted in belief. Is surrender the same as giving up on having a baby? No. Surrender is not quitting. Giving up says: “This isn’t meant for me.” True surrender says: “I release the timeline and the panic, but I still trust my desire.” Surrender is about non-attachment—not detachment. You can still deeply want your baby while releasing control over how and when it arrives. How do I stop obsessing over timelines on my fertility journey? Obsession often comes from fear and attachment. The shift happens when you: Focus on who you are becoming Strengthen your faith in the outcome Learn to feel safe without immediate proof Celebrate small “everyday miracles” Chronologically speaking, you have never been closer to what you want than you are right now. That perspective alone can calm urgency and increase trust. Your next steps: Want Help Thinking Like a Woman Who Beats the Odds?Ready to think like the women who beat the odds and become the miracle mamas everyone else calls “lucky”? Apply for my curated, invitation-only Fearlessly Fertile Method® experience here: 👉 Submit your application If you’re in or approaching your Two Week Wait, get the Luxuriously Low-Stress Two Week Wait self-study course and give those 14-ish days a calm, confident structure.

Pregnant naturally at 46 is possible, especially when you support your body with strong health habits and protect your mindset from fear-based fertility messaging. In this episode, Ch-a Mosley shares how she conceived naturally in her mid-40s without IVF, what she learned after an early loss, and how shifting from fear to confidence—alongside better self-care and supportive medical guidance—helped her bring her miracle baby home. To learn more about Ch-a follow her on Instagram @pregnancyover40 Transcript: Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin. Fertility Mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type a control freak, perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes for your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to a Fearlessly Fertile Podcast special. Pregnant naturally at 46, a conversation with Chia Mosley loves. I’m very excited to be sharing this very special episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast with you. You get to be a fly on the wall during my conversation with the amazing Chia Mosley. If you are on Instagram, you may know her as pregnancy over 40, and I love Chiia and her story because she like me, and so many women like us are proving that conceiving naturally in your forties is the thing, and it’s becoming more and more out there in the world. We were once under the tyranny of the belief that if you were going to conceive over 40, you definitely needed IVF, and you needed to throw everything at it. But when you have mindset. Great health and the decision that you’re going to be a mom, your heart is open and you’re ready to receive. The most incredible things can happen and they can happen naturally. So without further ado, here is my conversation with the amazing Chia Mosley. Okay, chia. Yes, ma’am. I have been, I’ve been looking forward to this conversation for a really long time. So why don’t you start off by sharing a little bit with the women listening. Mm-hmm. Who you are and how you found yourself on this journey. Absolutely. So my name is Chia Mosley and I am now 49 years old with a 2-year-old daughter, Naomi. Now, how did I get here, man? You know, every woman has a unique journey and. All of us are given our, now we’re supposed tos. You know, when you turn a certain age, you think, oh, I’m gonna have a husband and I’ll have my baby. And you know, when you’re in your twenties, for sure, you think it’s gonna happen before you’re 30, and then you hit 30, and then you’re like, well, maybe by 33, 35, and then by 35 you’re like, maybe not at all. And then by 40 it’s like, forget it. Um, but if you’re like me and you’re patient with your process in life, sometimes you get surprises. I was never on a fertility journey. I was never on a fertility journey. I was on a life journey and, uh, raw strap, excuse me. Um, I, I was just on a life journey and my, my perpetual weakness in life was choosing the right man for myself. Some women are better than that than others. I was not so good at it, and it took me a very long time, not until I was 44, that I met the right man who could treat me well and who I was ready to receive and have be treated well. And fortunately I did take good physical care of myself and I was able to conceive with him naturally. We were never trying. It was something that it was like, Hey, you know, well, I’m still having a regular cycle. We need to talk about what we’re doing here. Uh, do you wanna have a baby? Yes. Okay, me too. I would be happy if that would happen. And then we continued on with life and we got a baby. That’s the long and the short of it, because that’s the most succinct I think I’ve ever told it. It can be that simple. Right? Mm-hmm. Meet the right man and it happens. It’s not always like that for everybody, but what I wanna really zero in on is your unique story. Yeah. Because I think what you are doing, just by the nature of you laying out your story in that way, it really helps us see that, hey, this happens all the time. Like right now, chia, right now, as you and I are having this conversation, there are women in their late forties giving birth somewhere on the planet everywhere. Everywhere, all the time. But I think so many of us are led to believe that not only is this some kind of a freak show, but that unless we have medical intervention, it’s not possible. Oh my God. The lies. The lies. I remember when I was in my twenties and my roommate at the time, she had gotten pregnant just before she broke up with her ex. They’re now together and have three more children. But at the time, um, she and I, we were living together and I was in a delivery room with her and I was watching her scream. She had to been about 24, 25. And the nurse looks at me at the time and she says, you wanna do this before you’re 30? It’s easier. That stuck with me from right there in that moment. Oh, if I don’t do it by 30, it’s going to be hard. And that came from another woman. And it came from a nurse, right? And so throughout life you can get these little things said to you, and they go on as truth. Because she was a labor and delivery nurse. Of course, she knows what she’s talking about. She must be telling me the truth, right? And so. No one is really talking to women. As I look back over my OB GYN visit history, not a single female doctor, talk to me about my fertility goals. They will give you birth control, they will give you condoms. They will give you everything to kind of stop the process, protect yourself from it, from an STD point of view or whatever, but they don’t actually talk to you about real sexual health and fertility health. Not a part of the conversation at all. It’s not taught in school. We are taught so many things in school that aren’t particularly important, but your reproductive health and what does it mean to maintain it through the years, not at all a discussion. I don’t even know what’s happening with our education system. The amount of things that I just learned between when I conceived at 46 and now is insane. It’s embarrassing. Oh, I agree. It. Some of the stuff I’m just like, what are we even doing? Like how is any of this fricking useful? How is any of this going to be helping the next generation even feed themselves? Yeah, it’s ridiculous. I’m sorry, but I don’t know about you. I had not even heard of a MH. I had not even heard of a MH, you know, and it’s funny, GIA, because I remember picking up the same kind of story, and I don’t remember where it was other than this folklore that if you’re over 35 or if you’re even close to 40, like forget it, your fertility falls off a cliff. And I just remember never, even once considering where is the source of that information and is that a person I want to believe? Is that a person I want to believe? Yes. Right. Like I never even challenged that authority. It wasn’t until I was. Personally struggling with fertility, which I think in part was due to the mind virus that got into my head saying that one, I couldn’t have a career and a family and love in my life. I mean, I mean you talked about receiving and we’ll get into that. ’cause conceiving is all about receiving, but I was not receiving nothing. You know, pretty much like I was all about being in my masculine, and I’m sure you’re gonna have stuff to say about that as well, but we, so we found ourselves in similar situations with the mind virus. That’s right. That’s right. Yeah. People, you have to be very, very, uh, careful about who you accept truth from. Oh, yeah. Right. Yeah. There’s information, there’s, you know, there’s facts and figures and there’s information, but then there’s truth. They’re not the same thing. And there is not a one size fits all to femininity, womanhood, health. There’s just not a one size fits all. Right? And so the college girl in me likes to talk about the bell curve. And so, right, there’s, there’s averages, there’s means, right? But then there’s statistical outliers. There’s some women who are young who cannot conceive or who will have genetic or chromosomal things show up in their baby. There are some women who are young that’ll experience that. And then there are some of us who should be in menopause, and we are popping off babies, and we are healthy, and the babies are healthy, and it’s all good. We’re called statistical outliers, or even worse, chia, geriatric. Yes. I, when I had my son, so I, I had him shortly before I turned 44. And I remember feeling like such a weirdo in the labor and delivery. And luckily my doctor was relatively un open-minded because she said, oh, you’re not even the oldest woman in here. And I’m like, I knew it. Like I knew this. You know that I’m not an anomaly. You’re living proof of that as well. Yep, yep. It’s, it’s all in my comments. And I, and I’m sure you find a similar thing, like in the social media community that I’ve built, there’s women who look at me because you’re optimistic to have a positive outcome. I give them hope. Right? And then there’s another part of the community that’s fellow moms over 40 that are just like, yeah, hey, I had one at 42 and another one at 45. I had my first at 44. And then another one at 46. You start to see that it is not as uncommon, like, I like to say this, it’s not common, but it’s not as uncommon as a medical field and your friends and family may make you believe. And the evidence of that is all through my comments. I’m like, no, no, the it’s there. And so I click on their page and I’ll go look at them and I’m like, oh yeah, there she is with her baby. I think that. It’s, it’s important for women like us to normalize this because I might be the oldest mom in the pickup line, but nobody can tell and nor does anyone care, right? The reception that I have gotten, I don’t, I don’t know about you, but when I announced to family and friends that I was pregnant, I was nervous because I thought they wouldn’t make fun of me. There was so much celebration and well wishes. Now, this might be tied to the fact that most of my friends knew that I lost my father, um, because he had some celebrity to him, friends, even from college who I hadn’t spoken to for a long time, but who knew who my dad was. I, I’ll, I told you, but my dad was TC from Magnum pi, and so for a lot of us in this generation, like they grew up watching. TC and his helicopter. So when the news broke of my dad’s passing, a lot of attention went on on me. Lots of friends who I hadn’t spoken to in decades found ways to reach out and then to follow that up, because I conceived my Naomi a month and a half after his passing, I got met with so much well wish. So here I was thinking that, that I was gonna get made fun of and no, it was just like all cheers, all celebrations, things like that. I mean, even an ex-boyfriend, I, I just, this one shook me. An ex-boyfriend sent me money for my baby shower. He just like, this is just so beautiful girl. Like, let me just, wow. I love that you shared that because I think so many of us carry this internalized. Skepticism Yes. About being a mom in our forties. And we, we play out this drama in our head that everyone’s worried about what we’re doing and we’re gonna be making fun of. But I, I think the reality is, is nobody actually cares. Nope, Nope. There, there’s gonna be categories of women who go through their journey different ways. So in my case, I just turned up pregnant. So I, I love that. I love it. It just like, here, it’s, here’s my sonogram. If you scroll through YouTube, uh, not, uh, YouTube, Facebook, you’ll find a post where I, I come, I come out with my sonogram, right? And so I didn’t have to listen to anybody give their opinions about my journey. Now, this is a bit different when you are over 40, or for some way, even the family and friends, like, they kind of look at them sideways, even when they’re past 35. They’re, and they’re starting to communicate out loud that they wanna have a family. That’s when I find the women are telling me they’re receiving the criticism, because now people are interjecting themselves and their short thinking, their shortcomings on their thinking into your process. See, I got to bypass all that because I just, like I said, I just showed up pregnant. But when you have women that are like, Hey, I, I feel like I can still do, I feel good, I feel healthy, and then they tell their mom or their grandma, they tell their, well, are you sure? Well, do you really want to, that’s when. The people start to interject is what I’m finding from my followers is when they’re hearing a criticism. Mm-hmm. I don’t know if you experienced that as well because you had to do some planning. Well, yeah. I mean, in, in, in my world, I serve women really from all over the world who are trying to get and stay pregnant. And I’m teaching them about the mindset piece of the puzzle, which I’m telling women. And chia is living proof at this point that your what’s going on in your mind is critical because there had to have been some part of you chia that believed this was possible and, and possible your way. Yes, you’re right. And she mindset is everything. And that’s why I really wanted to come on to this podcast because what you think about yourself and what you speak into the life of your baby matters. So I’m gonna, I wanna share my mindset moments. So please do. Can I, since, since we’re talking to the mindset mom all over here. Oh, I wanna hear it. It’s so, it’s, I’m, I think it’s, it’s absolutely fascinating to watch other women’s process. So yeah, bring it. There must be a process at this stage, and it does start up here. So I conceived at 45 and then six weeks later, it was a natural conception, total surprise. But I was nervous about it. I didn’t wanna get excited about it because of my age and, and the chances because when you go to Google, forget about it. Oh four, forget about it. Your chances are slim to none and forget about it. And your eggs are deformed anyway. And so even if you got pregnant, the chances of it surviving are whatever says Google. So I did not get excited about that pregnancy. I was more afraid. And six weeks later. I miscarried. Right? And it was right around the time that I started kind of handling myself about my attitude. I did not like the way that I felt. Right. And I was like, chia, you always wanted to be a mom and now you have an opportunity to be a mom. Get excited about that. And right when I started having that mindset shift mindset, the miscarriage started. Mm-hmm. Now the beautiful thing is the OB, who I had at the time was phenomenal. And she told me that, listen, just because you are losing this baby doesn’t mean anything. The fact that you can still get pregnant at your age is a really good sign. She was like, this is a good sign that you got pregnant. And she focused on the positivity of it. And she left me encouraged, because what happened was throughout life. I kind of was just like thinking I wasn’t gonna have a baby, right? I arrived at the conclusion motherhood was not in a cards for me. I’m not gonna have a baby. And I was okay with that. But that pregnancy with the right man kind of sparked the, okay, well maybe I can be a mom. Well, and she said, I can do it again. And so for me, I’m the mind and the spirit are so important. So when I lost that baby, I went to church and I, and I spoke things out spiritually because these things, this is not a mental health matter. There is no, there’s nothing wrong with my mind. It’s correct to be sad, it’s correct to be feel a little broken, to feel a little introverted, but that’s a spiritual. So I’m always like, ladies, wherever you go for spiritual enhancement, you have to understand that when you’re bringing life to you. This is being meets being in a body form, but we are beings. So where you are spiritually upset, you must repair that. And wherever you go for repair, go there. So that was my first step. Then I said, okay, good. I feel good. I feel like I, I can be a mom. I wanna be a mom, but I’m not gonna pressure myself about it. We go back to life as usual, and I conceived again 10 months later. Naturally, at 46, there was still that fear, there was still residual, there was still residual fear. But this time I, I was whole enough to pull myself up by my boot bootstraps and I said, okay, what’s the opposite of fear? Fear is introversion. And I said this on Tamron. Fear is introversion fears. I don’t wanna go out, I don’t wanna speak out. I don’t want anybody to see me. I don’t want anybody to know. That’s fear. And I’m like, okay, that’s not okay because. That meant I was also rooting against my own baby, and there’s two of us. And I said, that’s bs. I’ve got somebody with me. And she, well, I didn’t know it was a she at the time, but I’ve got my baby and it’s not okay that I’m operating in fear and I’m rooting against my baby, essentially, who’s in there pitching? So I’m gonna start sharing my story broadly, and that is how I started sharing. Sharing on social media. It was to handle my fear and my mindset because I didn’t like that I was being fearful about something that I should celebrate, and I didn’t like that I was essentially rooting against my own baby. Wow. I mean, chia, you are basically, I mean, demonstrating for women who are listening to this, the absolute power of mindset. First baby, you’re scared. You miscarry, and that’s not blame. We’re just, you are just pointing out, Hey, like this was the reality. I was living in fear. I was rooting against my baby. 10 months later, I get pregnant naturally again. This time you’re 10 months older, 46, and instead of completely going off the deep end in the fear, you remember the experience that the fear did not pay off. You did the opposite. Spoke life to your daughter. You didn’t hide, and look at you now, baby carried a term and she’s the cutest thing ever. It’s so perfect and that, that is the part of this journey that I haven’t spoken about really until with you. Because the more I tell the story, the more parts and pieces I, I get to look at, right? And I remember that moment all the way down to when she was born. I wind up having an emergency C-section, and a couple of nurses there were kind of talking crap about my Naomi. Like, oh, she’s a little, whatever. So she, she didn’t come out, you know, she wasn’t, they weren’t, it wasn’t in their mind negativity. Right. But they were kind of blaming her for not coming out. It was, it was very interesting. And I was like, excuse me. We’re a team. We’re a team is me and her. I, my entire pregnancy was me and my teammate. And look at us. So you see that we’re a team. I’m actually quite flabbergasted, GIA, that anyone would speak negativity in that delivery room. There needs to be a sign, like a, a black box, like a warning box. No negative words shall be spoken in this space, because I think people forget the humanity of what’s happening. Yeah. And the sacred nature of that space when a woman is giving birth. No matter how she does it, whether it’s and how she does it. Well, now these, fortunately they came after the fact. They came after that nobody was in, in the delivery room or in a c-section space saying those kind of things. But they were, they were just said on the back end as though we’re separate, but we’re not, we’ve been together nine, 10 months. I still can’t do pregnancy math. How long was our pregnant? Yeah. Yeah. Wow. I mean, yeah, but so, you know, it, it is so mindset. It is so mindset. And, and I do hear these heart wrenching stories from some women who have suffered so many losses in their journey, right? Like, so I recovered from one, so part of my, you know, advice to women too. You also have to kind of measure out what is your tolerance for loss? Like, are you in it until your period stops? Are you going until menopause? Regardless? Great. Then you know that I don’t care how many losses I may endure along the way, I’m going until I have no more eggs left as evidenced by menopause. Right? You can have that attitude, but you should decide that you need to know, or you’re like, Hey, I’m willing to give this three tries and if I don’t get three then, but it puts you more at cause it puts you more at cause kind of lets you know, like, okay, when am I gonna throw in my own towel? Right. But you do it, you kind of think these things out ahead of time if you can. Mm-hmm. You can always change your mind, but you gotta plan it out. Yeah, and I think that women, I, I think that’s an interesting point that you raise. Women need to check within themselves when they are, are kind of setting their own expectations. Make sure those expectations are from possibility, not limitation, right? Look, your living proof, you and I are both living proof that you can have perfectly healthy, normally conceived babies in your forties. My son came after years of failed fertility treatment, so technically I was more fertile in my forties naturally than I was in my thirties with all these interventions. But it started up here. I think the, the point that you’re making is an excellent one. And, and the minor twist to that would be make sure you are making it based on real facts, on truth. That would include the truth in your heart, the truth in the stories of women like us Yep. And other women out there, not just based in the narrow facts of statistics and what your, the naysayers around you may have to say about it. That’s right. Because none of that matters. None of that matters. And that’s why I mentioned earlier like there’s facts and figures there, there are statistics. I got it. There are numbers and, and they bear out. Right? But then there’s truth and there are miracles. There is God, whatever that is for you. There’s higher power. There is self-belief, there’s self determinism and statistics, and which one is gonna win? Well, okay. You get in there and, but if you, if you start to believing those statistics and facts and figures and listening to the medicals about everything, then forget about it. Hang up your panties girlfriend because yeah, it’s not gonna happen if you go on listening to those naysayers, right? You gotta have a team, team that believes in a process as much as you do. And quite frankly, what that medical doctor who rooted for me when I was miscarriage, what she did for me was also showed me something about medical. Now she was an older lady. She was an older lady. I like, she had been around and she had seen it. Yeah. She knew where you have doctors tiptoeing around and Patty caking and not wanting to over promise you. And well, we just wanna set your expectations and what we just don’t want, and they haven’t seen it. Mm-hmm. Yeah, they haven’t seen it. They’re not true professionals. If you asked me, I don’t care if they’ve been doctors for 20 years, they haven’t seen it. I think it’s so important to take into account what you’re saying because there’s so much that’s not accounted for in a statistic. Right. Did the statistics include you? Did it include anyone in your family? Anyone with your level of belief? Anyone with your health history? Probably not, girl, I’m getting, I’m sorry. My blood is going because I had this conversation. I tried to nail one of the midwives, so I wind up going to a birthing center. Right. I wanted to have a natural birth and this was my plan. And so I met all the midwives and they were all lovely, but there was one that was still pushing me on a preeclampsia, baby aspirin, which I never did. Right. And. She was like, because there was this line, you know, well, we know statistically that because it’s your first baby and because you’re African American and because of your age, blah, blah, blah. And I said, I totally got it. I said, but can we distill that down? Like I was also a D one athlete through college. Like I ran hurdles all, like I’m, I’m more physically fit. I lived a more athletically challenging life than an average person. I never did drugs. Um, I’m college educated, which for some reason education does tend to bear out in other positive statistics, right? My family has no preexisting conditions. I have no, I don’t have a fibroid. I don’t have A-P-C-O-S. I have a regular period. I have all these amazing physical factors and lifestyle factors going to me, going for me well, but even with those, you’re lying. Lies. I love you Chiia. And I mean everything about you is about being an outlier. Yeah. Like, like why? As an outlier, why would you ever hem yourself in by a statistic that included nothing about you? I know I was like with these other ladies. Were some on drugs? Were some smokers? Were some alcoholics were some like, did some come from abusive households were some like have black eyes. Did some Like what is the real math? I’m gonna tell you something because I, I am a believer and if you speak it, you achieve it. So I’m gonna speak it to your platform here because there is an end all, be all goal that I have that I want to result from my journey. So I’m gonna speak it to you ’cause maybe you’ll participate in it with me When it happens. Bring it. I would like to see some PhD level student take on a true survey. Of the common denominators of women who are able to conceive after 40. Ooh. I think that would be really, really cool. I mean, in my mind there’s some, there’s definitely some characteristics that I think would be consistent. Yeah. There, amongst these women, there are always, whenever you study any cohort of commonalities, you will find traits. I mean, there was a whole study done. I watched it on 60 minutes that carried on for decades about centenarians. What are the common, what are the common denominators they found about people who lived over a hundred? Yeah. You look at successful athletes, like, I think there was a documentary on Netflix I, for, I forget what it was called, but you go research these category of people and you find out why are they successful? Can we please not do that for women who were able to conceive after 40, and our men too, because in this, it takes two. Mm-hmm. Right. And so, but in researching us, you’ll find out, well, what’s up with the fellas too? Right off the top of my head, the number one thing that I at least have observed, and I’d be curious to see what you think about this, every single woman that I have seen conceive over 40 made the decision she was going to be successful somewhere in her heart. It started with the decision mm-hmm. That she was gonna love herself enough to see this thing through. Yeah. Yeah. All of these ladies who I encounter were willing to experience the best outcome. Wow. They were willing to experience, and I, and I have some testimonies that, you know, I, I can’t fact check it. Right? Like, I don’t know, but. They’ll be like, I had one block tube. My A MH was blah. I had three fibroids and I was told it could never happen. And it did. And there is a percentage of women who were only successful like you after they stopped tampering with themselves medically. It’s fascinating. Gia. I think it’s just further testimony of the power of the mind and incorporating exactly what you’re talking about, the mind and the spirit. Because when we just treat ourselves like a pile of meat, right, like this meat suit that we’re wearing and we don’t treat it with respect and we treat our mind and our body as separate, like separate units, that’s when we find ourselves in trouble. That’s right. That’s right. What you think and what you speak into your fertility journey and what words you allow from external sources to feed into your fertility journey. Matters and I believe that you are correct. It’s absolutely of senior importance. Part of my story even involves like I look back at the conversations that my fiance and I had prior to conception. We said, no, IVF. We said that because I was like, listen, at my age I don’t wanna experience that. Like I don’t wanna go through that. If we were to have a baby, this baby has to come naturally on its own head of steam. It has to want to be with us and it has to use our resources. We name how it would have to be. There is a caliber of person who had to show up, right? And. I used to joke, I would tell people when they said, well, do you, do you guys think you wanna have a baby? Like, do you guys talk about have a baby? And I would joke, I’d be like, mm-hmm. If somebody wants to show up and scrape an egg off the side of my uterus, if they can find a good one and scrape it off and make something happen, fantastic. But it was a testimony to the caliber of person that needed to show up into our life. Like, you gotta be a make it go right baby. You wanna, because we ain’t giving you no external help. Oh, I’m not, I’m not taking a hormone. I’m not tracking my period any further than I do. I don’t know if I’m hot, if I’m cold, what my mucus is. I don’t know. You just got to show up. Wow. But that’s such a testimony of faith too, chia. Yeah. That is a very bold move for you to be able to say, this is how it’s gonna happen. I mean, you spoke life into that. You, you drew the line and you were basically inviting your baby to come in and to show up. Yeah. It, it’s, it’s fascinating, you know? And, and I wanna go back to something that you said that was really profound earlier, because it’s a place where I see women really struggling and when it comes to the mindset piece of this, it’s critical. And that’s receiving. So you had said earlier that that was something that you struggled with mm-hmm. Was receiving. And I tell my ladies all the time, conceiving is all about receiving metaphorically and physically. So I would love it if you would speak to some of your own journey on the path to being able to receive, because you not only received love from the right man, you received a miracle baby girl. Mm-hmm. And I mean, I mean, now anything is possible for you, girl, because I mean, the fact that you called in life is this massive, like, just testimony of the miraculous. So what was that journey like for you? You know. The make break of my journey came when I started to understand that you have to be fully responsible for your own condition in life. So good. It’s so good. Challenging. Well, it’s ing no victimhood, right, that I was literally getting ready to say that we are grooved into, well, what happened to me and my trauma and he did this and I was triggered and my trauma. Listen, first of all, we live in here in America. We don’t know trauma. I don’t care what you’ve experienced. There are some things happening in other places that are some for real trauma. I feel like over here we have overstated trauma. Now, I’m not saying there isn’t trauma. I’m not saying that there isn’t abuse in, in really hard conditions to come up in life and like I don’t, I don’t wanna also come off as insensitive and like think real things are not happening to people. They really, really are. But I think it has blown up out of proportion where everybody thinks that they are really experiencing something terrible. And if you don’t break yourself of that, first and foremost, good luck. If you do not break yourself of that and realize that every bad relationship, everything that is happening in your life is you. Is you. So every time I went through something that was non optimum, I don’t care how terrible, and I’m gonna speak about dating specifically because this is something I have a lot of followers who are, they’re in their thirties or forties and they’re still single. Every guy, I don’t care how terrible he was. Showed up in your life because there was something about you that was willing to receive that. Yep. We attract the partner at the level of our own awareness. That’s right. So I took every loss as an opportunity to kind of rework what I was looking for. All I, all I could do was I could look at myself and say, huh, well why did I get that guy? And, and this is not about like, oh, I’m so this and I’m not worthy and looking down on myself because I was, I was, I’ve always been a good catch. This is not about like, oh, I, I, I, I had such low self-esteem that I just think so little of myself. Like there, there is that, like I have come up in my esteem for myself for sure. But as I’ve gone through my thirties and forties, this isn’t about like, oh, I’m, I’m so not worthy. It’s about, what did I miss? What did I miss? What was I not looking at? Why did, why did I ignore that warning sign? Why didn’t I like pay better attention when he said blah to me? And so each failed relationship, I just got to, or even dating, right? Like, you think you’re dating and, and oh, this is gonna go somewhere. And then the guy like rips his mask off and like the worms come out, you’re like, whoa, I didn’t see that come in. Right? Wow. I was dating Two-Face Tyrone. I missed that. Like, how did that happen? Its hilarious. But it’s so true though. It’s so true. And like think about what you’re describing, even in the dating context, you’re essentially saying everything was happening for you. In a sense it was serving you up another area of yourself that you could get to know so that you didn’t have to make that mistake again. That’s right. But you gotta look inwards. You gotta look inwards. It doesn’t mean that that guy wasn’t a piece of dooo. Like maybe he was a piece of dooo. That’s fine. But if you don’t look at why did you have a piece of dooo in your life, how did he get here? Well, I, I mean, what I love about what you’re sharing here with such humility Yeah. Is really the process of personal responsibility. And none of what you’re saying is blame. It’s really about, hey, how many times do I have to have this experience before I have the courage to look at my role in creating these circumstances? And I think women free themselves up the faster that they do that. When you agree to take a hundred percent responsibility for your own outcomes, you’re freaking free. Yeah, it, it, you hang it up, you forget about that guy like you, right? Like you go cry it out, talk to your girlfriends about it, get it out your system, and you’re like, all right, pull myself up by my bootstraps. And then also you start to, for me, I started to rework what was important to me in a man. What, what is important. Yeah. Right? And so, you know, when we’re younger, it’s all about like, what kind of car does he drive and what kind of job does he have, and how tall is he? And, and this and that. And, and there was some of that, right? Like, uh, you know, like, okay, I don’t want a guy that is, is broke. And he, especially at this stage, you know, he can’t provide anything and the wheels of his car are falling off. Like there’s a, there’s a standard, but I don’t need him to pull. Your dad raised you, right? She, but I don’t need them in a Bentley either. So we can go get that together. We, we can go get that together. But I started looking at things because the out points that I had missed in previous relationships, I’m gonna share one here. If he doesn’t get along with his own family, he doesn’t get along. Like, I don’t mean a family member or two, I mean the whole family. Right. If he has children from a previous relationship and them kids don’t like him. Okay. Okay. Red flag? Red flag. Red flag. Like, um, I haven’t met any of your friends. I haven’t met, I haven’t met, I haven’t met any of your family. Like, you say that I’m all this and you say them all that, but I can’t meet just one. Oh, you told everybody about me. Oh, you told everybody. But we didn’t, we didn’t actually meet them. Mm mm Okay. Well, you’re not, or you’re not showing up. When you said you would, you said you’d be here at eight. I get a text message at at eight 30. Does that actually happen? Gia, please. It’s crazy. It’s crazy. But like, but you know, it’s funny that you were talking about being in a place of receiving because it wasn’t until I met my husband and, and that we made the decision to be together, that I realized I had to step up my game because he was in an uber masculine profession. If I come at him like a man, he’s gonna treat me like a man. Woo. And there was not gonna be any of that business. So like I knew stepping into that relationship with my husband that I would have to be better. And then that was amplified when we were struggling to conceive because it became very clear to me that. In a huge way. I was having to step into my own femininity. I’d had to stop acting like a man or trying to get pregnant like a man, which doesn’t happen. I had brought so much masculine energy that it required a transformation in me to be able to receive just like what you were talking about. Wow. So that was like a whole sub transformation within my own fertility journey. But I think you, I think you know something about that too. Yeah. Well, it’s interesting, you know about femininity because there’s, I don’t know, I’ve never felt more womanly than I did when I was pregnant. Oh, yeah. So good. Like, it just, it’s so primal and it’s just so as, as nature intended, and it is so not a masculine activity, and there are things that you find yourself just having to surrender. To make this go right. I think, um, especially at our ages, like we have to be more gentle with ourselves and more patient. You know, when you, when you’re in your twenties, you have so much future ahead of you, but when you are at our ages, the every month does matter. Right? And so you’ve got to calm down. You have to bring those cortisol levels down. Okay. You got to relax. You have to just, I don’t know, be woman. Well, and I think it’s, and it’s interesting ’cause I think this really plays out for us as Gen X because we were the first generation post-feminist movement that really came up through that. And this, and I, I wrote a book that, my fourth book is called The Feminine Fertility Cure, because I’m encouraging women to go back to their feminine because we got the message coming up. Chia that in order for us to achieve, we had to achieve in a very masculine way. Mm-hmm. Like we had to act like men to achieve like men, which is, in my perspective, one of the deceptions about what we call the feminist movement. I’m all about women making choices and doing what they need to do. However, who said that it had to be like men? Yeah. Like that was the piece I think that was left out of that movement was honoring the idea that we can certainly, we can go do professions that are traditionally male, that’s great, but that we as women get to do it uniquely in our own unique feminine way. What do you think, I mean, don’t even get me started on, on how I feel like the family unit is being brick by brick destroyed. Mm-hmm. As some other grander plot. I agreed. Yeah. And the role of the woman in the house being devolved and not devolved, but degraded like the, the like building future leaders and the time that it takes to do that is so unimportant in that being able to go out, be a baddie of forward red bottoms. And I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with that, but there is absolutely everything right, about giving proper due respect to raising human beings. ’cause I am looking out, I go outside sometimes I look at some of these teenagers and kids and I’m like, who’s raising you? Who’s raising you? They’re so degraded. They are drugged, they are lethargic, they are low eyed. You can tell it is in their fiber. They’re unaware. There’s some, they’re glossed over and these are, these are supposed to be our future decision makers. I’m literally like, who is raising these people? Yeah. Yeah. Like, and so the, the family, the household is the building block of society in a stable, happy, flourishing mother is a part of that. And if she has to by design, run out and feel like she has to compete just as much as her husband does, if she feels like she has to do that, has to, is different than wants to. Right. Like some women are just, that’s, that is what they’re gonna feel compelled to do and then they make it all work. Right. And I’m not negating that as well, but there has been an absolute degrade to the stay at home mom as though that is not a job. And honey, I. It is a job and a half that goes seven days a week, seven days a week, day nights, weekends. There is a no break from bombing. And it’s interesting chia, because the data shows this. There was a study that tracked women’s happiness from 1972, I think it was 2006 and 2009 is when it was actually published. And it showed an inverse relationship. So the more educated and the higher pay the woman had, the less happy she was. We’re like 35% less happy today when we have more education, more wealth, more opportunity. It really makes you wanna question? Yeah. All of the stuff we were promised in the quote unquote feminist movement, but really what that was is I think it really took away the, the respect as you were saying. Yeah. That we had at one time. To choose to stay home. I know when I was coming up, I heard nothing about the idea of staying home and raising children as a legitimate alternative to going out and slaying it in the workplace. And, and I live, you know, I, I did that, I did that, I walked that route. So I’ve got nothing against it. But it does make you wonder. Yeah. I mean, a woman just really has to look at what her goals are like down the line and how are you going to incorporate marriage and family into all of it. And it is, it’s a bit of a dance. And the kind of cool thing for me about doing is older because I felt more able to pivot. Right. Ah, okay. Well let’s, so let’s talk about that, because I think that people are running around with this idea that they’re gonna be tired. As older moms that I’m not gonna have any energy. I mean, I don’t know what your experience is, you’re gonna share it, but I feel more energetic and frankly more ready to be a mom now than I ever was in my thirties. Yeah, it’s an interesting thing, ’cause I’ve talked about this before. I say the same thing. I have more energy now than I did in my twenties. I think technically my body stores had more energy that my body stores, but I was in my late twenties, I lived in Las Vegas, so I, I was partying. I would drink, not like all the time, right. But sometimes I would, I would go out, I would drink too much. So, or I would do things like this. I would take Advil and Red Bull so that I could stay up all night, right? So even if I didn’t like get drunk necessarily, but I, you know, I’m, I’m up. That was my upper ’cause I’ve never been like a. I’ve never been a drug user, right? But to this degree, I was a drug user, right? Advil and Red Bull. That’s a concoction. Let me tell you, you wanna stay up. I learned that one night I had a headache, but I was supposed to go out, and so I took some Advil for my headache, and then I was tired, so I drank a Red Bull. That headache was so gone. And by four in the morning I was like, so that became just like my party, right? But then I wanted, but then I couldn’t sleep, so then I would, I would take NyQuil to sleep. So I, I didn’t take good care of myself, so as a result, I was tired, right? Mm-hmm. I was, I was doing, because I just didn’t know much about the body and. Like priorly. I was an athlete, so I would take supplements in college as an athlete, but once I graduated and I was in work world, I wasn’t on that supplement routine like that anymore. So here I am, red Bull, Advil party, stay up all night. Sometimes drink a little too much, sometimes a hangover, sometimes whatever. So my adrenals are probably taxed now that, now that I talk about it now, my adrenals aren’t taxed. I don’t know when’s the last time I had something to drink. I barely drink. It’s not a thing. I don’t rely on Advil for my headaches and period cramps. I used to take like nine Advil, day one in my period. Well now I’m like, no, it takes a magnesium, but I’m not doing things to throw my body’s systems out of whack. And so that evolved, like in my thirties I started learning more. I started bringing more people into my life who were like, Hey, you know, well you need to try this or take that, or, you know, um, and so I started supplementing more to take care of myself. How I handle stress is different now. I handle stress with a wall. Mm-hmm. Not a glass of wine. You know, like there’s just different ways in which I approach life, and so now I actually have more energy because I’m able to sleep at night when she lets me. Right. But that’s its own, you know, I, a 2-year-old, things happen. Right. But yeah, I’m more rested. I take better care of myself. I’m sure my adrenals are humming just fine. My hormones are doing what they’re supposed to do, as evidenced by the fact that I was able to conceive naturally and so I have more energy. I think women get so frightened in their forties that they don’t really ever stop to consider the possibility that they could do this naturally. If they took care of themselves. I’m not saying that there isn’t a place for all of these other wonderful interventions. That’s pretty obvious. Yeah. Especially if you have a diagnosis that is like, Hey, this additional intervention is gonna be necessary, but at least giving yourself the chance to at least consider the idea that if I took better care of myself, I might get a different result. That’s right. You’re so right. I tell women all the time, please work with a nutritionist. Work with a naturopathic doctor, functional medicine doctor, who is going to work with you to find out like where, where’s your health period? Where’s your health? So that if you do go do IVF, well you have a better chance of a faster take, but maybe you conceive along the way because you. Improve your gut health. You’ve gotten rid of foods you’re allergic to, you’ve handled your inflammation, you’ve balanced your hormones naturally, you’ve started exercising. You’re just overall more healthy. Overall, you’re happier. And then see what happens. Like I think fundamentally speaking, even though I was technically going through a grief when I conceived, technically I had just lost my father, but I was fundamentally, fundamentally a happy, healthy person. That has got to be one of the characteristics, Shia, like I bet when that study gets done, maybe it’s you and I are gonna run around and do the study, but like, ’cause together we, we’ve got, I’ve got a jd, so maybe that’ll, you know, take the place of a PhD, right? It’s got a D in it. I would agree with you because when I think back to when we conceived our son, I had never been happier. It was, I don’t know if you ever read the book by Shonda Rhimes, the the year of Yes. But it was my own personal year of Yes. My husband and I decided, we’re gonna stop putting off our lives. We’re gonna go on, we’re gonna say yes to everything that feels good to us. We went on this crazy European vacation, came back, conceived, boom. And you know what’s funny? I know this is like totally like, not the same as the loss of your dad, but we conceived very shortly also after my, I call him my soul dog. Like dog, my soul dog. Like he’s my my buddy. He passed away and Asher came in. It was almost like one soul that was very close to me was leaving and allowing space in my life for another to come in. Listen. And I actually, I’m not offended by it at all. ’cause I, I remember the heartbreak of, you are like a family. It’s that, it’s exactly what you’re talking about. It’s this. We’ve never been happier. We’ve never felt better in our relationship. We are not blowing out our adrenals. We’re not doing all these things that are detrimental. I mean, I had my own chickens at the time. You know, I was eaten from our garden and like all this stuff, I had done so many things to improve my quality of life, which is exactly what you’re talking about. Mm-hmm. You know, starting with my mindset and then all these other things follow, and then boom, baby comes. Wow. Oh my goodness, woman. We could go on for hours, but I was so much that, I mean, I know we are just skimming the surface here, right? We could have a, a part 2, 3, 4, 5. I know, I know. There’s so much to, to making this go. Right. But I do think that we have landed in a fundamental agreement that is the mindset about it is everything, including how you take care of yourself. Because how you take care of yourself is a reflection of your mindset about yourself. Well, a hundred percent. And it’s also going to shape what I call the bump squad. Like, okay, so when you’ve decided that you have a baby, if you are, if you have a, a poor self image or you’re not able to receive, or you’re living in lack in scarcity, thinking, you’re going to attract people and, and providers at that level, and then everyone around you is all this never gonna happen. You wanna find people like the physician that you had at 45 when you had your loss. That’s gonna, she’s OG at that point. She’s seen some things. So she’s gonna tell you, she’s gonna speak life to your dream. Like you want to surround yourself with people who speak life into your dreams. Mm. That’s it. That is so good. Woman, what would you like to leave the women listening with as a woman who has earned the street cred of somebody who was willing to believe in their own dream? Enough to keep going. Like what are some nuggets of wisdom that you would just toss out there in addition to the bombs you’ve dropped along the way, but like, what would you want women to walk away with? I mean, really we hit on it that your self care is key. Self care is key. The care, well, we didn’t touch on this one, making sure your, your man or your significant other is taking care of him, or in this case herself because the baby is coming into a home and you wanna create a home environment that’s welcoming. Right? So you gotta, we gotta make sure that the both of you are doing very well. I was asking myself this question today. I was kind of like formulating a, a post and it’s like. If you’re asking yourself, how will a baby make my life better? You’re asking yourself the wrong question. Boom. Babies, don’t make your life better. If you are looking for your baby to make something better, fix that before the baby comes. Oh, the question is, are you ready for a baby? Mm. Do you, are you ready? Are you ready for the long nights? Right? Are you ready to experience being physically ill yourself, but still having to take care of a baby? Are you ready to experience the tantrums? Like, are you whole enough with, with no sleep? Are you ready? Are you healthy? Can you bend over? Can you squat? You know, handle your health mental physically and spiritually, and make sure that you’re ready. Hmm. Uh, that’s such gold chia. I really appreciate you and really love what you’re putting out in the world. I, I think one of the best ways for us to learn is through other people’s testimony of their own experience. Yes. So that people can see beyond the statistics, they can see beyond the limitation, and they can see beyond Right. All of this other garbage. You know, that’s often led by people who didn’t have the courage to give, I mean, to give their dream a real shot. So, thank you so much for everything that you’ve shared. We’re gonna link all of your social to the notes on this podcast and podcast. I just, I can’t wait for, for even more women to hear your story and to be inspired by it. So thank you so much for sharing with us. Oh my God, thank you so much for reaching out to me and for finding me and having me here because you are just another powerhouse lady. Who I now have in my arsenal as a success. Right. Because I always just think you don’t wanna take advice from failures. You wanna take advice from winners. And we’re winners, we’re winning. That’s right, girl. That’s right. We’re winners. And so I love it. I am so happy to have met you and to have been here and to hear about your story. And I would gladly come back because I think there’s just a thousand more nuggets we could drop between. Oh yeah, no, I’m already seeing part two, three, and beyond, so. So thank you so much Gia, and please hug that man and hug that beautiful girl for us. Same. Same. You have a great afternoon. You too. Okay, bye. Love wasn’t my conversation, which she had just absolutely fantastic. Well, I hope that you loved her as much as I do. She’s so inspiring, actually quite hilarious and has so much. From the trenches, real life information that as women on the journey, every single one of you can tuck into your back pocket. And remember, one of the greatest ways that we learn is through the power of story. And Shia is just another example of how normal motherhood in your late forties, even fifties can be. It’s fucking normal. So I hope you enjoyed it. Don’t forget, give Chia a follow on Instagram at pregnancy over 40. And if you know you wanna work on the mindset piece of this. Go to www.frommaybetwobaby.com and apply for an interview there. The Mind and Body Work Together, baby as Chia and I were talking about. So go to www.frommaybetwobaby.com and apply for an interview there. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for when it comes to your dreams. Keep saying hell.

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  If you want to protect your fertility, make informed choices during pregnancy, and parent with confidence—not fear—critical thinking is non-negotiable. In this powerful conversation, pediatrician Dr. Larry Palevsky joins me to break down how questioning medical narratives, asking better questions, and thinking independently can radically change your fertility, pregnancy, and parenting journey. Whether you’re trying to conceive, already pregnant, or preparing to raise your future child, this episode gives you the mindset tools smart, high-achieving mamas use to beat the odds and protect their families. Answering Your Questions What’s This Episode About? In this episode, you’ll learn how to use critical thinking to question medical narratives, protect your fertility before, during, and after pregnancy, and make informed, empowered decisions for your baby’s long-term health with pediatrician Dr. Larry Palevsky, so you can move beyond fear and become the confident, smart mama your future baby needs. Why Critical Thinking Matters on Your Fertility Journey Critical thinking isn’t “being difficult”—it’s how smart mamas protect their bodies, babies, and future. In this episode, we explore why questioning authority, asking better questions, and overcoming fertility fear are essential to your success. What You’ll Learn in This Episode How critical thinking can change your fertility, pregnancy, and parenting decisions Why simply “trusting the white coat” can keep you stuck in fear How chronic illness in kids connects to lifestyle, environment, and mindset Why learning to question medical narratives is an act of love for your future baby Who Is Dr. Larry Palevsky? Dr. Larry Palevsky is a New York pediatrician known for his focus on root-cause health, true informed consent, and empowering parents to ask questions—not just follow orders. Learn more about his work at drpalevsky.com. How This Helps Before, During, and After Pregnancy This conversation isn’t just for women already pregnant. Dr. P and I talk about critical thinking before conception, while you’re pregnant, and as you raise your child. Smart mamas use this mindset to choose treatments, navigate pressure, and protect their baby’s long-term health. Before pregnancy: choices around lifestyle, toxins, and fertility medicine During pregnancy: navigating prenatal interventions and “standard protocols” After birth: advocating for your child’s health with confidence Your next steps: Want Help Thinking Like a Woman Who Beats the Odds?Ready to think like the women who beat the odds and become the miracle mamas everyone else calls “lucky”? Apply for my curated, invitation-only Fearlessly Fertile Method® experience here: 👉 Submit your application If you’re in or approaching your Two Week Wait, get the Luxuriously Low-Stress Two Week Wait self-study course and give those 14-ish days a calm, confident structure. The ability to think critically is a skill that can be the difference between success and failure on your fertility journey. If you aren’t challenging narratives or questioning “authority” chances are, you aren’t empowering yourself with a complete set of facts upon which you can make fully informed decisions. Join me for another conversation with one of the most beloved experts in pediatric medicine, Dr. Larry Palevsky, MD. Take notes. Take the lessons. Take charge. Your baby will thank you for it. To learn more about Dr. P and his practice in New York go to: https://www.drpalevsky.com (We LOVE Dr. P and the work he does for children and families.) Want my help becoming the woman who goes beyond the limits of fertility medicine? Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only experience: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app

  Quick Answers:What’s This Episode About?In this episode, you’ll learn why IVF isn’t the solution many women are led to believe it is, why high-dose protocols often backfire, and what hidden factors like implantation issues, inflammation, and mindset may really be standing between you and your baby. Why IVF Isn’t Always the AnswerThe mainstream narrative pushes IVF as the surest path to pregnancy—but with a failure rate of more than 70%, we know that isn’t true. If IVF worked the way women are told it does, you’d do it once and be done. What if the real answers lie in places most doctors aren’t “OCD enough” to look? What if overcoming fertility fear, lowering inflammation, improving implantation, or addressing immune issues is the missing link? A Brave Conversation with Dr. Zaher MerhiIn this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr. Zaher Merhi—founder of Rejuvenating Fertility Centers—to talk honestly about why IVF fails so many women…and what you should be looking at instead. If you’ve had failed IVF cycles, are preparing for one, or simply want to do everything in your power to get and stay pregnant, you won’t want to miss this conversation. Check out Dr. Merhi’s clinic at: rejuvenatingfertility.com What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeWhy IVF isn’t the solution you’re led to believe How high-dose protocols can worsen egg quality Why implantation issues—not eggs—are often the real problem How immune and inflammatory factors block pregnancy success Why mindset is half the battle, before and during treatment Want to Strengthen What IVF Alone Can’t Fix?Biology isn’t the only barrier to your baby—97% of women struggling with fertility have mind–body misalignment. This is the missing link in IVF success that almost no one talks about. If you’re ready to approach your journey like a woman who beats the odds, start here: Apply for the curated, invitation-only Fearlessly Fertile Method®: 👉 Submit Your Application In your Two Week Wait? Get the Luxuriously Low-Stress Two Week Wait course for calm, clarity, and confidence. Need inspiration? Listen to this story of getting pregnant naturally at 46. The mainstream narrative would have women believe that IVF is the end all, be all answer to their fertility problems, but with a failure rate of over 70%, we know that isn’t true. What if the real answers are found in places that most doctors aren’t “OCD enough” to look? Join me for an eye-opening conversation with Dr. Zaher Merhi, founder of Rejuvenating Fertility Centers, as we lift the veil on what could really be standing between you and your baby. If you’ve had failed IVF cycles, want to prepare for one, or simply want to do whatever you can to get and stay pregnant, turn this one up. Check out Dr. Merhi and his team at: https://www.rejuvenatingfertility.com Remember, biology isn’t the only barrier to your baby–97% of women struggling with fertility have mind-body misalignment. The Fearlessly Fertile Method will help you clear the blocks between you and your baby. Submit your application to be considered for my curated, elite Fearlessly Fertile Method invitation-only experience: https://get.frommaybetobaby.com/bss-app

  After 7 years TTC, 7 miscarriages, 7 failed IVF cycles, and even a surrogacy journey that went off the rails, Yasmine still got her miracle: she became pregnant naturally in her 40s (at 43). In this episode, she shares what changed—how she rebuilt belief after relentless loss, why she stopped letting doctors and statistics write the ending, and the mindset shifts that helped her finally get and stay pregnant. If you need proof that your past doesn’t get to decide your future, turn this one up. Ready to learn what I taught Yasmine?Submit your application to be considered for my Fearlessly Fertile programs here. Answering Your Questions Can you get pregnant naturally after multiple failed IVF cycles? Yes. It is possible to conceive naturally after failed IVF cycles. IVF failure does not mean natural conception is impossible. IVF outcomes depend on many variables, and some women do go on to conceive spontaneously even after multiple unsuccessful rounds. Is pregnancy possible after 7 miscarriages? Yes, pregnancy is possible after recurrent miscarriage. Many women with repeated pregnancy loss eventually go on to have healthy pregnancies. A thorough medical evaluation can help identify treatable causes, but prior loss does not eliminate the possibility of future success. Can you get pregnant naturally in your 40s after IVF failure? Yes, natural pregnancy in your 40s is still biologically possible until menopause. While fertility declines with age, spontaneous conception does occur. Individual health, ovulation patterns, and overall reproductive function vary from woman to woman. What are the chances of getting pregnant at 43 naturally? Statistically, the chances of natural conception at 43 are lower than in younger years, but not zero. While fertility rates decline in the early 40s, individual outcomes vary, and natural pregnancies do occur at this age. Does mindset affect fertility success? 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While fertility rates decline in the early 40s, individual outcomes vary, and natural pregnancies do occur at this age."}},{"@type":"Question","name":"Does mindset affect fertility success?","acceptedAnswer":{"@type":"Answer","text":"Mindset alone does not replace medical care, but chronic stress, fear, and hopelessness can influence hormones, sleep, and overall health. A resilient mindset can improve decision-making, reduce stress load, and support consistent healthy behaviors."}}]} Transcript: [00:00:00] Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve gotta have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy in the whole clown car of low vibe, fertility, journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin. Fertility Mindset Master, former prosecutor and recovering type a control freak, perfectionist. [00:00:20] I use the power of minds. That to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. [00:00:37] Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get [00:00:39] fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. [00:00:44] Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode three 16 From seven years. Seven failed IVFs, seven miscarriages to pregnant naturally in her forties. Yasmine’s story loves. I’m [00:01:00] so excited to be here with you this week because we have yet another testimony of triumph from one of my miracle mamas. [00:01:08] And these stories are so important because one of the most powerful ways in which we learn is by hearing other people’s experiences. See, statistics don’t fucking matter really. Not really. It’s truly from other people’s experiences that we can gain inspiration to see the truth that success on this journey is possible. [00:01:35] Because when you hear Yasmine’s story, the cards were stacked against her. She even had a doctor flat out tell her not to try. Can you imagine the hubris? Well, that’s actually what happened. And so you are going to hear how Yasmine went from a place of just pretty much being ready to give up. To standing firm for her daughter that she [00:02:00] even named before she was born. [00:02:03] So I hope that you listen to this episode at least three times and gather all of the goodness that she has to share because look. When you think and take action like a woman who succeeds on this journey, you make time, your diagnosis, the statistics, and your past fucking irrelevant. So here is my conversation with the glorious, beautiful, hilarious mama. [00:02:30] Yasmine, we’re gonna jump right in. Yasmine, can you believe that we’re having this conversation? [00:02:37] No, absolutely not. No. Uh, no. Absolutely not. I can’t, [00:02:43] well, you know, but I have to ask you to do what you just did a few moments ago because it was so glorious. It was so Mia’s mom worthy. [00:02:59] [00:03:00] It’s pretty crazy [00:03:01] woman. Okay, so we, we have to start this from the top because in addition to asking, can you believe we’re here, I also love to ask like, how did you even find yourself here? Like, how did you find yourself on this journey? And ultimately, how did we meet? That’s, that’s how we’ll start it. [00:03:25] Uh, so what’s, I was in Bali, like so many Australians on your podcast. Um, I was in Bali and I. Your, something came up with your fertility program. It just popped up and I said, oh, I’ll have a, I’ll have a listen to this. And it was pretty immediate. The first, first time I listened to one of your podcasts, I felt this immediate connection and I hadn’t felt that way about anything I had been doing because I’d been on this journey for seven years and I just kind of went [00:04:00] like, oh, I was a bit bit over it at that point. [00:04:02] And you just kind of broke through all this other noise that I had. And I remember sitting there looking at the pool going, oh, this is achievable. I can do this. And my and my mindset completely changed in the matter of minutes. And then, then I started getting really hooked and I listened to all of these different women’s stories over and over and over again, like just all day long while I was in Bali. [00:04:28] And then I got home and. No, I don’t even think I got home. I was in Bali and I applied to, um, to the program, and then by the time I got back to Sydney, you had called me and that’s when we, when I met you. Yeah. [00:04:47] You know, it’s, it’s crazy how. When the right thing comes around, it just clicks, right? Like, that’s across the board. [00:04:54] Like, I mean, you’re an artist. Like so much of what you do has to be intuitive and, you know, it’s, it’s [00:05:00] that kind of thing. And so you said your journey, you’d been in the, on this journey for seven years. So share a little bit about that. Like, what were you doing or did you have a diagnosis? Were there things that were coming up for you that, you know, had you on this journey this long? [00:05:16] No, I had, um. Really no symptoms or a diagnosis from any doctor or anything saying that I couldn’t, um, I fell pregnant the first time when I was 37. I met my partner later in life and, um, we got married and just tried and tried and tried and I, we had seven miscarriages over the seven years and they were all naturally conceived, not through IVF. [00:05:42] And then on top of that we had the seven IVF rounds. Um, to which we got a couple embryos. They didn’t, didn’t really last. And then we had two embryos, um, that went on a surrogate journey. Um, so they disappeared to a place [00:06:00] in Greece. That was our last sort of, um, hurrah because I, I was convinced I could not carry the child. [00:06:07] Um, so after seven miscarriages, I was like, okay, well, I can conceive, but I can’t keep it. Obviously there must be something wrong with my, you know, inside. So I said, okay, let’s get someone else to carry it. So we looked at surrogacy, we went over to Greece, we met the clinic, you know, started the journey. [00:06:25] Two years later we got a call from our surrogate lawyer and he said that the clinic was, was being shut down. And we like, I mean all the. Signs were there. We were just like, okay, this is just not clearly happening for us. Like we waited two years. Um, it’s just. Yeah, let’s just give up essentially. So, um, after we’ve actually got the embryos back, but it took two years to get them back as well because no, no one knew where they were. [00:06:58] They just kind of were floating [00:07:00] around the universe. They’ve seen more of the, of the world than I have and haven’t even been born yet. [00:07:07] Okay, wait a minute. Wait a minute. Let’s back this up. ’cause this is cray. Like, like kind of when you lay it out like this, like, I mean, I know the, the story because I, I know you, but like when you hear it again. [00:07:19] And you say seven years? Seven miscarriages. Seven IVF cycles. A surrogate situation gone awry. Mm-hmm. Embryos floating out in the universe for two years. Mom and dad in Australia. Embryos in Greece? [00:07:40] Mm-hmm. [00:07:42] Giant. WTF. [00:07:45] Yeah. [00:07:45] Right. Like, I mean, you would be so justified in giving up, right? Most people would hear that and run for the hills, right? [00:07:54] Most people don’t like have that, so, so. And you’re then, you’re sitting in [00:08:00] Bali, you listen to this crazy American that you’ve never met before, shouting into the podcast. Like what was it in you though that was able to kind of crawl out of the rubble? Of what was your fertility journey and then stand up straight again with the idea that you could do this or had to have been something in you that stirred, because with your history, like I said, it would’ve been easy for you to just be like, I’m out. [00:08:30] Yeah. I, I, um, I think I mentioned this to you when we first met I, with all of my miscarriage history. When I fall pregnant or I think I’m pregnant, I don’t even bother testing because I don’t wanna get my hopes up. Um, so I just kind of leave it for as long as I can until, you know, I basically get my period. [00:08:50] Um, and this time I kind of felt a bit different about it and I feel like I was pregnant before I even joined the program. What I [00:09:00] wanted to join the program for was to keep it, and I never. I was able to do that over the seven times that I had fallen pregnant. And so that was, that was one thing that the reason I actually joined was ’cause I knew I needed help to sustain the pregnancy and make sure that it was viable and that it actually ended up in the outcome of having a baby. [00:09:25] Um. But before then I had, I was um, being interviewed by somebody and he wanted, he called me up late at night and he’s like, oh, I know it’s late, but can I just ask you a couple of questions? ’cause it’s tomorrow and I just wanna see where your head’s at. So we, he started sort of unraveling the fertility journey. [00:09:46] That I’d been on. And he’d also had his own struggles. He was, um, gay, he had a surrogate, and he, he managed to have kids. And so he totally understood, um, sort of where I was at. And he was [00:10:00] so sweet and just so loving and was like, I wanna help you. I know I can help you. What can we do? Um. And I said, well, I’ve met them, I’ve, you know, applied for this, uh, amazing program and I’ve actually been listening to this podcast about mindset and things. [00:10:16] Um, and as I was saying it, he said something that literally made my, if I envisioned a, a, a. A light switch it, I just imagined clicking it and it, and it going up the, the, the little guy that sticks out of the wall to turn the light on. And it was such a physical response in my brain. I could see this light switch and I turned it on and all of a sudden my, I just went, I can totally do this, I can do this. [00:10:46] I walked back into the house. And I was standing outside my house at the time, putting garbage in the garbage bin, multitasking, and talking to the guy and doing all this stuff. I got back in the house and my husband was on the couch and I said, we’re gonna, let’s go have sex. [00:11:00] And he is like, what? And I was like, yeah, I know. [00:11:02] I, it just, I’m, it’s the time. Like we’re doing IVF next month. Um, you know, this is the, let’s just give it one run red hot go. And he’s like, oh, I’m really not in the mood. And I was like, oh. But I, you know, I, I really feel like it’s. It’s good time. It’s good time. Let’s, let’s go, let’s do it. And we did it. And the whole time I was doing it, I imagined being very open. [00:11:26] You talked about this a lot, about stepping into your feminine and being open and just open to possibility, but also your body just imagining that being, you know, a field of all of this possibility that you could open up to. And so I imagine that as we were. Having sex, which is really weird. Then I remember going to the bathroom and sitting down. [00:11:55] I think I also told you this once before, this might be too [00:12:00] graphic, but usually, usually it just all comes outta me and this time it didn’t and it was like something had had had kind of shifted inside of my body and just got, no, I’m gonna, I’m gonna save it every last drop. Whatever this might be. And then I went to my room and I don’t journal. [00:12:21] I’m not a journaler, and I wrote in the book this and this journal still to this day, only has one page. And the one page says, I’m pregnant and I am pregnant. This time I know I’m pregnant. I just had it like I just had sex, like did the date like two minutes ago. There’s no way I could have known that and sure enough. [00:12:47] That one time got me pregnant. [00:12:52] Well, and I remember you saying this. [00:12:55] Yeah. [00:12:56] And then, and you’ve stayed [00:13:00] pregnant? [00:13:01] Mm-hmm. [00:13:02] For the first time in seven years. [00:13:05] Yeah. [00:13:09] Wow. [00:13:10] Yeah. And I remember so many on probably three or four occasions where before the 12 weeks was up, I could feel that familiar cramping that like, oh, I, it’s gonna happen. And I, I would take a pot water bottle and I’d climb into bed and I’d start talking. To the baby and I’d be like, Hey, we want you here. [00:13:35] Like you’ve gotta stay like you don’t have an option. Please, please, what can I do to make you stay? And it was this continual conversation because at the time I was reading that great book, you recommended, um, spirit Babies. And I’d never thought about them as little creatures. You were, you sort of signed a contract with in order to. [00:13:58] Create, be created [00:14:00] essentially. And I started doing that and it, and I really honestly believe 100% in my heart of hearts that that’s what kept the baby there. ’cause I, I really felt like she was gonna go on so many different occasions. And as soon as I started talking to her, the pain would subside and I’d be okay. [00:14:20] And then it would happen again, and I’d be like, okay, let, let’s have another chat. It’s crazy. [00:14:27] Do you remember, because like, you’re such a gangster, like I remember, you know, I’m like, Hey Yasmine, it’s, it’s midnight or plus for Yasmine while we’re all in the morning having these calls, but you were so gangster in this program. [00:14:41] You always showed up. You always showed up, and then we started calling you and your baby’s name. You know? Mm-hmm. This is Mia’s mom. Like it was just, there was this magic that was starting to happen because it really felt, I love the description that you gave, that a [00:15:00] switch was flipped, but you also, it was so clear in the way that you described it and, and even when we spoke. [00:15:11] You knew what you wanted. You knew what you were coming for. You had made the decision that you were showing up for this and that you were going to do this not just for yourself, but for this baby, and, and, you know, seeing everything through, and you spoke with such clarity about her so consistently. I mean, it, it’s incredible what you created when you know and, and like think about the transformation that happened for you. [00:15:43] I wanna hear more about this because I know that everyone listening to this is gonna be like leaning in on that part about like. Especially when you have a history of miscarriage, when you feel those familiar pains and your move instead of going panicked is to [00:16:00] go lie down with a warm water bottle and start talking to your daughter. [00:16:03] I mean, you knew she was a girl before she, I mean, you could not, I know possibly you called it. [00:16:09] I know it was very, yeah, it was really weird. I, I knew sh she was a g it was a girl and I knew her name was gonna be called Mia before the 12 weeks was up. And I remember that night when I, when we spoke and we had our workshop and all the other ladies started calling their names, their baby’s names. [00:16:30] And I just remember that night being so incredibly magical that everybody. Knew who they were gonna have, even though, you know, a lot of them went pregnant, but I, I’m sure they are now. Like, I really do. It was just such a beautiful, magical evening and I was so lucky to be part of it. Yeah. [00:16:50] Yeah. I mean, and it’s. [00:16:53] And how did it feel for you to start calling her in that way? Because [00:17:00] I, I think it takes a lot of courage in the face of that kind of a personal history to say, no, I’m calling her. I’m telling her we want her, it’s safe for her to stay. [00:17:15] Yeah, I felt stupid doing it too. I remember going, oh, this isn’t gonna work. [00:17:21] And I was like, why am I doing this? But it was really instinctive. It was, it wasn’t, it was almost like I didn’t have a choice. It was like, she’s there, you’ve, you’ve just gotta comfort her. And I think some of that supportive reading material you suggested was really, really, really helpful in just eye-opening the whole. [00:17:42] Willing of another being into the planet. I never thought about that. I had never, I’ll say, you have sex, you have a baby. That’s, that’s it. You know, there was, I know I had to do a lot of soul searching and, and different, you know, uncovering of things, um, from my past that I needed to [00:18:00] deal with. But I never willed her into life until I started listening to your podcast and I started listening to the stories of other women. [00:18:11] And realizing that it, that it is like this contract that you are signing with this, with this being that is not in existence yet. And you have to, you and your partner have to accept that you want a child, you want somebody to come into your life and change everything. And you have to say, yes, I, I’m ready for you. [00:18:30] And I don’t think I had ever really been ready up until that point. [00:18:36] Wow. And what was it like? To say yes to yourself, Yasmin, because here’s the thing, it, you know, your husband could have been like, oh, seriously, we’re doing this again. Or How many more times are we gonna get a kick to the head? But, [00:18:53] and he did. [00:18:55] Yeah. Well say more about that, because you know, you had to have said a massive [00:19:00] Yes to you. [00:19:01] It was, it was me. It was, and I think when we got pregnant, he said, this is all you. I had checked out. I checked out and I just didn’t wanna tell you. He checked out years ago and I kind of knew that because the last IVF clinic I’d gone to, um, or my, actually, my second to last, it basically told me, don’t try again. [00:19:24] It’s not possible. Um. You don’t have this thing that makes embryos, embryos, so just forget about it. And I remember when I got told that Tom was actually the one who received the phone call and I was in a shower and my, I just felt like my blood full from my face. I just, it was inexplicable the feeling. [00:19:46] I was just so devastated and angry. And Tom was like, look, it’s fine. We’ll like look at adoption. And we did. And I. It just, I wanted a natural child that was both of [00:20:00] us. I didn’t want to go down an egg donor route either. And I, there’s nothing wrong with that, but I just didn’t feel like it was my, what I wanted to do. [00:20:09] So I was like, I did for a year. We didn’t have sex. We didn’t try, we didn’t talk about it. Nothing. And then my friend who was going through a surrogacy she’d also had the very similar journey and she looked at me and she said, when she told me that, you know, she had the baby, I couldn’t believe it. My mouth dropped. [00:20:31] And she’s like, I’m telling you, please do not give up. The minute you give up, it’s over. You’ve got no chance in hell of having the baby like it’s gone. She’s like, don’t give up. No matter how hard it is. Keep going. And I just kept listening to her after the year that I’d had, I was like, he, she’s right. [00:20:51] And I, and it’s not necessary. The partner is there with you. I mean, it’s great if he is, but it’s almost a contract with yourself [00:21:00] that you go, I can do this. And then you, on top of that, gave me that confidence of, I’m in my forties, I’m 43. I can have a baby. Why can’t I have a baby? Who the fuck can tell me I can’t have a child? [00:21:16] Especially a doctor? I, so I started listening to that and I was like, that’s, that’s right. I can do whatever I want and I am late to the table in most things in my life. Why is this not one of those things as well? You know, I always come late to the table and so this is like fully what I’m supposed to, this time is when it was supposed to happen, you know? [00:21:40] Yeah, [00:21:41] that is that really, I just, it, I have to be honest, Yasmin, it just grinds me the hubris that people speak to us with because of what we look like on paper. Like can you imagine if you listened to [00:22:00] that doctor who told you, don’t try again, you don’t have what it takes. I mean. We all saw the picture. [00:22:07] You got a bump af on. You conceive naturally when IVF didn’t work, and look at you now because you’re, you’re gonna have her in a few weeks, right? [00:22:20] Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I’m 37 weeks in two days, and they wanna induce me a week early because I’m a geriatric, which by the way, they should change that term. It is absolutely revolting and. [00:22:32] I’ve had the craziest pregnancy. I’ve, I, again, with my history, I thought it would be really difficult and it’s been so smooth and so amazing. Um, I, they really need to change that term. It’s revolting. [00:22:47] Well, it, it’s, it’s not even based in truth anymore, so it’s totally disrespectful and it’s totally revolting. [00:22:53] The connotation is rotten. Um, but they’re wrong. It’s, it’s like, [00:23:00] what are you even talking about? Like especially when you’re, you’re young and you’re healthy as you are, it’s like, let this, let this baby ride. She’s fine. Like she’s doing great. I mean, that has to have done a lot for you. I think not just as a woman, but as a mother to be as an artist. [00:23:24] I mean like all of these things. I mean, think about that, like you got this massive nod from the universe that you can trust yourself. [00:23:33] Mm-hmm. [00:23:35] Like with, with something as massive as life Yasmine, like, you can, you can trust yourself. I mean, what has that done for you? Like, because your life, in addition to your pregnancy obviously, and, and you know, calling in your daughter, like what do you think some of the ripple effects have been in your own life since this [00:23:56] I. [00:23:58] Have never been so calm [00:24:00] in my whole life. I’m pretty like, uh, not frantic, but like I’m a busy person. So I, you know, I think about a thousand things all at once. And, you know, I, I don’t ever really give myself time to reflect or think or, um. Really connect, I guess to moments in life or of my day. And for some reason, and it’s been ever since I found out I was pregnant, I have never felt so calm and collected and even I don’t have this crazy in and out, strong surges of crazy emotion I have. [00:24:38] I am just so much more level-headed and even my husband was like, can you just stay pregnant? The whole time because you like, you’re, you’re like a changed person. It’s ridiculous. And maybe it’s because, you know, I’m not drinking or whatever, but I just feel like at peace, like I feel like this was what I [00:25:00] wished I’d never worried before, and that this was what the, the timing was. [00:25:06] The timing. And I should have just. You can’t do that when you’re in the moment, obviously, but like I wished I had just trusted myself a little bit more and gone. It’s gonna happen. When it’s gonna happen, it’s gonna happen. [00:25:17] Well, and you know, you said something that was really important that I wanna go back to because I think we have a tendency as women who, uh, have babies later in life that it’s like you aren’t late to the party. [00:25:32] And just because other people were having kids in their late twenties and early thirties doesn’t mean you’re late. Yeah. And it, it’s like, how dare you Yasmine wanna develop your work, um, or yeah. You know, find the right partner and, and, and have some accomplishments under your belt before you, you know, as part of the preparation for being in this next stage in your life. [00:25:54] I don’t think it’s laid at all. I, I think it’s the new normal. [00:25:58] Yeah, I totally agree. [00:26:00] And, and my husband and I often laugh because had she come earlier, I mean, my husband almost died two years ago. Like it was a cra like all of these things happened that wouldn’t have, if, if Mia had arrived early, like some bad shit would’ve happened when she was around. [00:26:20] And I feel like now. Everything’s been cleared and we are just ready. We are just so excited and ecstatic, and I’ve never seen my husband more happy ever in my whole life. [00:26:34] He’s gonna be [00:26:34] a girl [00:26:35] dad. [00:26:35] I know. [00:26:37] Wow. [00:26:37] And it’s just, it’s just amazing to feel this good and this happy after such a shit journey. Um. [00:26:46] And I had a baby shower yesterday, uh, with a, my bump squad, and it was, you know, six of us sitting around a table, and it was the most beautiful, delightful afternoon. I, I was actually supposed to meet somebody at [00:27:00] five and I totally didn’t even look at my phone. Looked at my phone, and it was past five and I’d been there for five hours and I hadn’t even. [00:27:06] Thought about looking at my phone. It was just this delightful collection of women who’d also had their own struggles, some of them still going through it. And we were just holding hands and crying and listening to people’s stories about, you can do this and you know, don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. [00:27:25] And I just, it was just fucking amazing. It was such a nice day. And. I was just so lucky. I felt really, really, really, really, really blessed yesterday. Um, [00:27:37] wow. [00:27:37] Yeah. [00:27:38] Cool. So let’s talk about that for just a moment, because one of the things that I have observed, I, I observed this not only on my own journey, but in the journeys of so many women Well, that you’ve gotten to meet and, and hear about on this podcast. [00:27:54] But what do you think this did for your relationship with your spirituality and your faith? Because [00:28:00] it had to have blown something wide open. The fact that you. Knew her before she was, you know, before you could see her on a screen. You knew Mia. It was Mia. Mm-hmm. And all of these things must have opened up for you. [00:28:15] So what do you think? [00:28:18] I have a, I’ve had really, um, I guess, uh. Uh, tumultuous relationship with faith. I grew up in a really religious household, and so I sort of rejected it for a lot of my life and it only started sort of reappearing in a more spiritual way later on, and I’ve always felt really connected and, um, yeah, I, I kind of feel things a lot more than a lot, a lot of people. [00:28:46] My grandmother was a lot like that as well, who I’d never met, who I actually feel has been. Quite significant in my own journey, um, as well. And since I fell pregnant, [00:29:00] I ha it has definitely shifted my intensity in belief. And this is a miracle. Like, I just don’t, I don’t know how else to explain it, like it’s miracles exist too. [00:29:19] Make somebody fall back in love with faith. I really do feel that that’s what’s kind of happened and I. I can’t, I still can’t believe it’s happened. I still can’t believe I’m on here talking about the last 37 weeks. Like I can’t, I, I bump into things ’cause I forget that I have this huge protrusion on my stomach and I’m like, oh yeah, I’m, I’m pregnant. [00:29:51] I still, I’m, I, it’s, it’s mind boggling and the only thing I can put it down to is a reconnection to something bigger than myself. This world, [00:30:00] this, everything. And it, I, I’m so lucky that I got, given that I got given that opportunity to fall back in love with it. You know, it didn’t have to happen to me. It did, but it didn’t have to. [00:30:16] Um, [00:30:17] that’s such a beautiful way of putting it. I’ve never heard it put exactly that way, but I believe it is so Right on. Because that, that’s exactly what it is, is like, it, it’s a, it’s falling in love with the idea of faith and it’s, and faith in its execution, [00:30:38] you [00:30:38] know, but at the same time, it’s, it’s almost. [00:30:42] Just even picking up on your energy here, it’s almost like a homecoming. It’s a return to something. Mm-hmm. You’ve always known. [00:30:49] Absolutely. Absolutely. And through your, whatever circumstance your life brings upon you, it changes your outlook on how you look at faith. It [00:31:00] has to, you know, you, you have bad times. [00:31:02] You’re like, oh, fuck this. Why should I believe in anything? And then, I don’t know. It’s, uh, it’s why it’s a miracle that you even get the miracle, because why would somebody give you that if you’ve been so unfaithful? Right? Why would you do that? You know? Um. So to be given that opportunity is a miracle in itself. [00:31:21] So I to have a double whammy, to have the, the opportunity and then the miracle actually appear like, that’s crazy. So how can you not believe, like, like, yeah, [00:31:34] yeah. [00:31:34] Um, yeah. [00:31:37] How, how do you think this is gonna shape how you parent Mia? Like, do you have a sense of that? Like, have you been thinking much about that? [00:31:45] Oh yeah. I mean. Just that your mind is everything, the way you think, the positivity, what you tell it, what you feed it, what you read, what you watch. Um, you [00:32:00] really can do anything, anything you want. You just have to tell yourself you can and will it and you, and it will happen. Like there’s nothing, no one cannot do. [00:32:15] I truly, truly, truly, truly, truly believe that, um, and especially as women being told their entire lives, you can’t be this, you can’t do that. You’re not strong enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not pretty enough, you’re not any of these things. That’s absolute bullshit, and I can’t wait to teach her. [00:32:36] That the world is your oyster. You. You go and do whatever you want. You can do whatever you want. You can be whoever you want, as long as you do it with kindness and grace and gratitude. That’s all I care about. Mm-hmm. [00:32:52] I, I remember Dr. Christian, Northrop said to me, gosh, a few years ago now, but she said that the children born to [00:33:00] mothers in this time were going to be special and they were going to be unique. There’s an a unique. Call on their lives. And I think that as women who have lived a journey like this, I think there is a uniqueness about like, wow, it really took so much to get them here and understanding the miracle, but it also gave us a chance to grow and become something more as well, because I think this is also a testament. [00:33:32] To your own shift in your femininity. Yeah. To be able to receive, I mean, kind of going back to something you said earlier, but to really be in that softness and be in that receptivity that, you know, we get to change our family tree completely. [00:33:49] And that’s so true. Like I, I’m, I really struggled with the feminine side of me. [00:33:53] I think we talked about this and I, uh, and you are like, being creative is like the number one. Thing about [00:34:00] being feminine. So you have to be feminine ’cause you’re super creative. But I’ve never felt that way. And since being pregnant with Mia, I have felt more feminine and maybe, obviously ’cause it’s such a, you know, female driven situation. [00:34:16] I find myself in, you know, growing, growing a child. But I, I really hope that when she comes out. And I already feel that she is this way. She’s gonna be way more feminine than me. She’s gonna have that connectivity from the get go. That softness, that, that, um, that beauty that you attached with the female figure. [00:34:38] I know that she’s, she’s already encompassing because I can feel that. Um, it’s [00:34:43] so funny, [00:34:44] so [00:34:44] funny [00:34:45] that Yeah. [00:34:45] Yeah. I mean, it’s so funny that our kids are exactly like when I look at Asher now, I was just out with him. Um, he was out climbing trees this afternoon and I was out there. He’s like, mom, come and watch me climb the street. [00:34:58] And I’m like, this, you know, the whole time. [00:35:00] But he is exactly the boy. It makes perfect sense that he’s my son and I, I really, I honestly believe that when you, when you really meet Mia, you know, for the first time, you know, face to face, I think it’s gonna make all kinds of sense. And then as she’s growing up, you’re gonna be like, oh, [00:35:19] of course she’s my daughter. [00:35:21] Of course. [00:35:22] Yeah. Yeah. [00:35:24] Wow. It’s crazy. Wow. Well, so ya, what would you, so as we close this out and you. And we reflect. I mean, you were once a listener and now you’re a guest. Yeah. You know, what are some of the things, in addition to some of the bombs that you’ve dropped here, but like what are some of the things that you would want the women listening to really take to heart from your own experience? [00:35:58] I think every, [00:36:00] when I was talking about my lunch yesterday, everybody’s way of conceiving was so different. Um, you know, one of my friend’s child, uh, she’d already had a baby and, and he was a, you know. He wielded it in. That’s what she said. He, he brought the baby in. He wanted it a sibling so bad, he stood in front of her belly and whispered daily. [00:36:26] And she honestly believes that’s how he came about. And then another friend of mine had a, like a, uh, she heard something. And I know this sounds crazy. All of this is, [00:36:38] it’s not girl [00:36:39] sounds crazy. [00:36:40] You’re forgetting what podcast you’re listening to. Like, yeah, no, none of this is crazy. [00:36:45] There is, it’s about sitting down and listening and making sure that you actually listen intently because there’s signs everywhere telling you that it’s gonna happen. [00:36:56] You’re just not really open to it. ’cause at that [00:37:00] point you’ve gone through such a terrible time that you are willing it not to happen. You are saying no. You know, it’s not gonna happen. It’s not gonna happen. It’s not gonna happen. Of course, it’s not gonna happen. If you’re gonna say that, the minute you change that mindset and truly not just today, I’m feeling better. [00:37:21] It’s possible. I mean, truly, truly, truly think about it and go, I can do this. You will do it. There’s, it’s not an option. Because you wanted to get that job. You got that job. You wanted to buy that house. You got that house you wanted to be friends with. That person you were friends with that person. Why is this any different? [00:37:42] Why is it any different? Because you don’t believe it because you’ve been told your whole life, you can’t. You can’t have this. Why would you believe that? If somebody said, you can’t have that house, you can’t have that job, you can’t have that friend. [00:38:00] No, you would try harder every time until you got it. So that would be, yeah, that would be my take home is listening to yourself and being kind and saying, you can do this. [00:38:19] And it sounds so, so incredibly easy, but it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my whole life is have a baby, is conceive and keep this child. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, [00:38:31] and it’s unquestionably the thing that’s going to propel you even farther. In everything else that you do, because I’m telling you now, Yasmine, everything else is a piece of cake. [00:38:46] That’s what I feel like. That’s what I feel like. [00:38:49] It’s like that cover all this. Please, Kate, you’re like, yeah, no problem. I, you know, look at my daughter. The rest of it I can handle, [00:39:00] like I’m ready for it. I mean, and, and thank you so much Yasmeen, for sharing that. It’s, it’s such a beautiful thing and I think this is gonna touch so many lives because we don’t hear enough of this. [00:39:13] We don’t hear enough of the real stories of inspiration. Real women. Yeah. You know. Clawing themselves out of a pile of statistics. And you know, women who are very badly behaved and refuse to accept the labels, refuse to be put in a box, refuse to just be cast aside and being told that what they desire is idiotic. [00:39:44] Like, thank God for women like you who, who were. Courageous enough to buck the system and say no, like, I’m going to believe for this. I know my daughter’s named I, I, I’m calling her [00:40:00] every time she try. She might try to go, but you bring her back and you’re like, Nope, you’re gonna be born. Your dad and I are ready. [00:40:07] So thank you so much for sharing that, Yasmine, and I just couldn’t be more delighted for you and Tom. Like I just am so thrilled. And yes, thank you for your generosity. [00:40:19] Thank you so much. Like honestly, you triggered something in me that, um, I thought was very much dead. Um, so thank you so much for what you’ve brought to the table for myself and my my family to be. [00:40:33] Um, I can’t thank you enough for everything, Roseanne. Oh, I really appreciate it. [00:40:37] Oh, I received that and you hug Tom for me. And you let me know when she’s born. Okay. [00:40:43] I will, I will. [00:40:45] Alright, love you ya. It’s [00:40:47] me as mom. See you later. [00:40:49] Loves wasn’t my conversation with Yasmine. Absolutely fantastic. I hope that you took from all of this, that you could have seven years [00:41:00] of quote unquote failure failed IVF seven miscarriages and still get and stay pregnant naturally at 43 and beyond. [00:41:09] It is completely possible, but you have to be the woman. Who takes a stand for that? So if you wanna learn what I taught Yasmine, go to my website www.frommaybetwobaby.com and apply for an interview there. 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