#LOVEGASM PODCAST with Summers McKay | Healthy Sex

An update and a teaser for our next episode about self-love.

Casual sex isn’t for me. But it is for some people. Some people can have very exciting, passionate, extraordinary lives with lots of casual sex and that’s just something I can’t do. I think people who say that it’s just sex are crazy! Because its never just sex. Where my vagina goes, my energy flows, and I fall in love. So I wanted to better understand the difference between them and me. I wanted to talk to people strongly for casual sex and strongly against it. And what you hear may surprise you.

An update and a teaser for our next episode about casual sex.

Welcome to Season 2! In this season, we're going to be answering the big questions and we're starting with this one: what is tantra? You’ve probably heard this word before and, like me, you had no idea what it meant. Is it mystical and spiritual? A new way to connect to your partner? Or is it something that just Sting does and involves massive orgies? It turns out tantra is much more than it seems. Join us with relationship expert, Anita de Francesco, as we explore this fascinating topic.

In our second part with clinical psychologist Dr. Tracy Bennett, we get advice on how to manage and protect our virtual identities. Is anything you put on the internet truly safe? What is the best way to flirt over text considering our interconnected world? Dr. Bennett also describes a process she calls love-mapping.

This week, I talk to Dr. Tracy Bennett, a clinical psychologist who runs getkidsinternetsafe.com, a site that promotes internet safety for both children and adults. We get into the empowering and socially divisive discussion behind the naked selfie and how to teach your kids how to formulate good judgement when using the internet.

In this fascinating conclusion of our interview with Dr. Prause, we discover how her work has influenced her relationships. We also explore what an orgasm looks like to an MRI machine as well as the scientific distinction between a clitoral and vaginal orgasm. She also gives advice to listeners about relationships and a healthy sex life based off a lifetime of sexual research has taught her.

In part two, we dive in what Dr. Prause’s experience has been like to be a female researcher in this compelling field. How exactly does one navigate the world as a sex researcher? Turns out it is one job where being a woman is ABSOLUTELY a benefit. We also explore the specifics of how porn addiction functions, the good and the bad of watching porn while in a relationship, and a new technique that Dr. Prause’s team is exploring to increase or decrease someone’s sexual arousal.

This week, we interview Dr. Nicole Prause, CEO of brain research company Liberos. She tells how she got her start with the famous Kinsey Institute and how it fostered her interest in the connection between the head and the heart (or as she describes it, the brain and the genitalia). We also learn about the advances toward a female viagra and what it shares in common with anti-depressants. Dr. Prause challenges the efficacy of the drug and discusses why it might not be the panacea women need.

This is not your grandmother's sex life! What’s the worst sexuality advice you’ve ever received? Summers asks all our guests this question on LOVEGASM and August McLaughlin, award winning sexual health and relationship writer, host and creator of Girl Boner and author of Embraceable, has heard plenty! Listen to August’s answer in part three of her interview, as we explore the sexual stigma that August faced when she was younger and how she worked through it as she got older. Join Summers McKay and August McLaughlin for another life enhancing conversation on #LOVEGASM. Topics Discussed include: Sexual Health, Body Image, Love, Divorce, Marriage, Sex, Sex Hangups

What does your past mean to your sexuality today? How has a previous relationship or marriage affected your sexual experience and ability to find intimacy in your present relationship. In part two of our conversation with August McLaughlin, we dive into what August has learned about her sexuality through her past struggles. Listen to hear how learning and writing about other people’s experiences with sexual health has led August to redefine her own views on sex and body image. Join Summers McKay and August McLaughlin for another life enhancing conversation on #LOVEGASM. Topics Discussed include: Sexual Health, Body Image, Love, Divorce, Marriage, Self Stimulation and Exploration

Join us this week for an interview with August McLaughlin, the award winning health and sexuality writer and host of Girl Boner (R). Summers and August unpack her new book, “Embraceable: Empowering Facts and True Stories About Women’s Sexuality” and discuss August’s struggles with a life threatening eating disorder and how embracing sexuality was part of her healing process. Listen for a preview of the kind diverse and fascinating stories that are featured in August’s book! Topics discussed include: Sexual Health, Inspiration, Sexual Education, Anorexia & Bulimia, Relationship Therapy and Sexual Intimacy. Join Summers McKay and August McLaughlin for another life enhancing conversation on #LOVEGASM.

In part three of our conversation, we go in depth on the topic of sexual compatibility and how that factors into the matchmaking process. Should you have sex on the first date? Who wants what and when? Is sexual chemistry an important part of the relationship or are other factors more important? Also find out what Lisa’s ideal date night looks like! Topics discussed: sexual compatibility, how address sex in matchmaking, how they met their husbands thanks to online dating, perfect date night

In Part 2 of our conversation with Lisa Amador of Santa Barbara Matchmaking, we dive into the nitty-gritty of matchmaking: specific tips on how to find a mate and matching your sexual chemistry. Summers and Lisa also give insight to their own successful experiences with online dating, so if you’ve ever encountered frustration with this, be sure to listen to this segment. Topics discussed: tactics of matchmaking, how to find a mate, sexual chemistry, chemistry vs match, online dating problems/solutions (tinder) (Is finding love on Tinder even possible?)

Join us for a wonderful conversation with the Santa Barbara Matchmaking guru Lisa Amador and learn about what matchmaking can offer. In this segment, we discuss how Lisa got started in matchmaking, (because that's not a normal gig) how she matches clients (and what could make you a match), and her views about adaptability in a relationship. (Are you open or closed to love?) Here we go again with Love Languages, but seriously, it seems like they matter! Gift Giving? Acts of Service? Enjoy part one - and forgive us our audio issues. We are getting better every week!

In part 3 of our conversation with Tobi Jo Greene we take lessons from The Girls Empowerment workshop and apply them to us as fully grown and sexually functioning adults! The "Power of Yes" is actually as courageous as the "Power of No". How can we say what we want and need in a powerful, assertive and passionate way? How not saying I'm sorry for stuff that is not your fault can lead to better intimacy. Saying what you want in the world can give you the power to say what you want with your lover.

Parenting and Sex Ed - It's simple, quality sexual health education WILL help your children make a choice to wait to have sex, but no question it's a tricky subject. So what should we share and how should we share the right things? Join for the second part of our conversation with Girls Empowerment Workshop founder, Tobi Jo Greene as we discuss the right way to divest ourselves of shame and get to the body safe talk.

Join us for one of my favorite conversations ever! At LOVEGASM we have a few goals and one of them is to help improve sexual health education for ALL generations, including the teenager types. In this episode, we discuss with Tobi Jo Greene, Founder of Girls Empowerment Workshop about the extraordinary work she does helping young women find their power through awareness, education and cultivating self respect.

What is Burlesque? What makes it powerful? Join for Part 1 of our conversation with founder of the Lalas Burlesque, Erin Lamont as we unpack the ways of traditional women's sexual roles play out on stage. Humor, power, fantasy and respect is the mantra of this incredibly sexy show.

There's a saying out there that men want to have a Lala and women want to be a Lala. When Lalas Burlesque founder, Erin Lamont and I sat down to discuss our thoughts on how every woman has an inner Lala, we identified some of the key pieces of advice to increase confidence and power. In "The Art of Doing Nothing" Erin shares how our unplanned presence is in fact more powerful than our stage presence. Now that is hot.