Making Friends

The transition from college to university can be really challenging for so many of us. On top of balancing academics, a new environment, new routines, we also have the chance to make new, lifelong friends.  In this episode, I talk aboout: How to adjust to a new routine and why it's important  Figuring out a bit of how to get to know yourself and how to transition out of the pre-college version of you The actionable ways to make new friends regardless of your personality/levels of introversion, social anxiety, comfort levels.  Please don't forget to give this podcast a rating since you're already here! And check out some resources below:  Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from a meetup event on calendar to friends. Grab that here If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like. Book in here Social Media: @friendshipcoachzayne on instagram!

If you've ever heard, or thought of this idea of it being hard to make new friends as an adult, and believed it, this episode is for you.  In this episode, we break down 3 reasons why it's easier to make friends as an adult including: The value of having limited time and energy What matters most in adult friendships The benefits of being able to invest in friendships specifically. Hope you enjoy it! Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from a meetup event on calendar to friends. Grab that here If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like. Book in here

Ever felt like or heard this idea of "(Insert your city) is just a lonely city"?.  In this episode, I share why I don't think lonely cities exist and why telling ourselves our city is lonely is actually what makes in lonely.  I teach your how to cognitively reframe the "lonely city" mentality so that you can actually meet some new people and make new friends.  I go over some of the research on loneliness so that we can look at both sides. And most importantly, I share why you're worth putting in the effort to make new friends regardless of what anyone says about how lonely or non-lonely your city is.  Resources mentioned: https://newsroom.thecignagroup.com/loneliness-in-america Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from a meetup event on calendar to friends. Grab that here If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like. Book in here

Finding that you want new friends but don't feel motivated to actually go out and meet new people? If so, this episode's for you. We talk about.  We we don't feel motivated to make new friends How to overcome that lack of motivation Some strategies to stay consistent Don't forget to leave a review and rating if you enjoyed this episode!  Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from meetup event on calendar to friends. Grab that here If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like. Book in here

We're talking all about how to become the person who knows how to and is willing to make friends before you've actually made the friends.  It's a tried and true tool in self-development. Becoming the person who's accomplished the goal, before you've accomplished the goal.  In this breakdown, we're talking all things: 🫶🏼 What a friend-maker identity means 🫶🏼 Why we don't use this language in friendships and self-development spaces 🫶🏼 What actions a friend-maker takes 🫶🏼 How to consistently keep the identity of a friend-maker Enjoy!  Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from meetup event on calendar to friends. Grab that here If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like. Book in here

Website: zaynekhancoaching.com  This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published. I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like Procrastination Challenges with school and grades Friendships Social Anxiety ADD/ADHD Family challenges Making future decisions Career anxiety Time Management Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults

In this episode, we take a deep dive into something all of us experience when we're making new friends - self criticism. We go over the 5 step framework for overcoming and managing self criticism so that it doesn't stop us from making the friends we know we deserve. Study Referenced: Effect of compassion-focused therapy on self-criticism and self-soothing: A meta-analysis.  If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now FREE 20 Places to Make New Friends Guide + Mini Training on How to Take Friend Making Action

In this episode I take you through how I managed social anxiety at a party with strangers, and how you can to. We go over   ·      What you can do before the party itself to get your anxiety low enough to manage ·      How to deal with the anxiety in real time during the party ·      How to not fall for your brain’s “post-anxiety cringe” download.   Thanks for listening!   If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now FREE 20 Places to Make New Friends Guide + Mini Training on How to Take Friend Making Action

Join me and fellow friendship coach and expert Sarah, where we take a deep dive into the funnest topics like: ·      Making and maintaining friends as an expat, and how to overcome some the specific challenges expats face when making new friends. ·      The undeniable power of mindset when making and maintaining friendships. ·      Friendships goals and why they’re so foreign to so many of us. ·      How to keep scarcity and lack away when making new friends.    Work with Sara:   Link Tree If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now FREE 20 Places to Make New Friends Guide + Mini Training on How to Take Friend Making Action

The obstacles are lies your survival brain tells you to keep you: Moving towards pleasure Keeping pain at a minimum Conserving energy These are the 3 things your survival brain wants you to do. Thankfully you also have a prefrontal cortex and higher brain that's read this far in the podcast description - the part of you that WANTS more friends.  In this episode, we go over 3 brain lies where if those lies are believed, will stop you from making friends.  If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now FREE 20 Places to Make New Friends Guide + Mini Training on How to Take Friend Making Action

Have you ever set a goal? Maybe a financial goal? A goal for your business? But what about a goal for your friendships? Most of us haven't and today I'm going to explore with you exactly why that is, how you can make a friendship goals that work for you, and what you can do to actually achieve those goals. Making friends doesn't have to be complicated and tricky. Let's break it down and get intentional. I'm also hosting a Friendship Assessment and Roadmap Masterclass where we take an hour deep dive to find out exactly what worked, what didn't work in your 2023 friendships, and what you're going to do differently in 2024, by developing a friendship roadmap. Details here If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now How to Make 1 Friend in 3 Simple Steps

You know those friends who you're kind of lukewarm with? They're there, you might have a few laughs, but then they also say some things that don't sit right with you. On the other side, have you ever wondered some of the non-conscious impacts those amazing friends who celebrate you consistently are having on you?  Either way, this episode is for you. We dive deep into the way your friendships are affecting the quality of your thinking, your subsequent feelings, your actions and the quality of your life and future.  If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now How to Make 1 Friend in 3 Simple Steps

In this episode we go over a question from a listener all about the challenge in thinking that your friends like you more than you like them. We're going to go over what to do when that thought-feeling combination comes up, what it means to be liked and if you like that definition, and how making friends and maintaining friendships can be challenged by painful thinking around this.  If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now How to Make 1 Friend in 3 Simple Steps

This one's a little different! Not as much conceptual stuff here, but I share my story going from being asocial, socially isolated, closed off, to being so connected, fulfilled and friendly to the point where I can help others create meaningful friendships. If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now How to Make 1 Friend in 3 Simple Steps

In this episode, we dive deep into the somewhat vague and nebulous term called "open communication", and how it applies to friendships. We go over what it means to openly communicate with friends, how it can help you to up-level your friendships, what happens when you don't have it, and practical mindset tools and real skills on how to actually use it.  I know for me, open communication has saved and helped my friendships thrive in a way I could never have imagined before using it. It's not an easy skill for many of us to develop, but your friendships are worth the effort it takes 😊 Resources mentioned: Nonviolent Communication: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/71730.Nonviolent_Communication?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=Prf00wZuMo&rank=1  Vinh Giang, world renowned communication and public speaking expert: https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com Book your FREE Friend Finding Game Plan Call, where we figure out your main challenge in your friendship life and give you a game plan moving forward + discuss the potential of working together: Book Now How to Make 1 Friend in 3 Simple Steps

This episode's for anyone who feels like they're doing the things to make new friends like managing the social anxiety, signing up for the meetups, going to the community events, but consistently find that the people they're meeting just aren't friendship material. We go over the top 3 reasons why you're not making friends in these contexts and how what to do about it. My FREE training on Making 1 new friend in 3 steps: Training Book a Discovery Call to see if we're a good fit for a dedicated coaching container. Thank you! If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com

This episode is for all of the people out there who love the idea and mindset tools behind making new friends, but think that they're not ready. In this episode I go over: Why you may think your not ready What to do when you think you're not ready How to use that "not ready" feeling to become friendship primed FREE Make 1 New Friend in 3 Steps Video and Visual Guide here Join my meetup group for FREE where we do monthly interactive webinars here Join my Facebook Community of Friends here where I post tips, tricks, ideas, quotes, prompts and more here Email me with any questions, concerns or podcast topics at : zayne@zaynekhancoaching.com If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com

Have you ever wondered if you really needed a coach to help you with your friendships? The short answer is no. You don't need anything to live the exact life you want except for that big, beautiful, foldy brain of yours.  The long answer is no, AND A friendship coach can help you overcome social anxiety. Being in a coaching container with the right coach means that you're always held to highest possible level of capability, belief and regard.  Accountability. Active practice towards up-leveling your friendship life. Faster more directed results. I didn't need to develop any of these skills right when I did. But I'm so glad I pursued a coaching program to help me because it's why I'm here doing everything in my power to help you. Up-level your friendships, today, with a FREE discovery call where you diagnose what the main challenge in your friendships is, + direction on how to change it and then we'll talk about working together. Book in here If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com

Going from meeting a stranger and having a nice interaction with them, to actually becoming friends with them can seem tricky and even a bit defeating based on how you're thinking about it. In this episode, I share three questions you can ask yourself to make it easier for you to actually form those friendships. My FREE training on how to make 1 new friend in 3 steps.  My email in case you want to reach out or request a podcast topic: zayne@zaynekhancoaching.com If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com

We have standards for almost everything in our lives, but when it comes to our friends our standards can get muddied up based on: Past experiences  Past programming Settling "I'd rather this than be alone" energy. In this episode I share exactly why it's harmful to have a standard that's based off past experiences or scarcity versus a genuine desire to have amazing, compatible friends. I also talk about how to actually implement that standard in your daily life. Enjoy!  My FREE: "Make 1 New Friend in 3 Steps Training": https://zaynekhancoaching.ck.page/3235fe67f3 If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com