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This is the last episode of New View Advice podcast! This is truly the end of an era for me, and I am so grateful for every single person who has ever listened to this podcast. In this episode I share my gratitude, talk a bit about my decision to end of the podcast, and I offer my last 10 pieces of advice for the journey of healing, and also life in general. Timestamps Introduction to the Last Episode - 0:00 What to Expect Moving Forward - 5:07 My 10 Pieces of Advice - 13:04 Outro - 20:15 Ways to stay connected with me: Visit newviewadvice.com for updates, blog posts, poems, and more Send me an email at newviewadvice@gmail.com Subscribe to my Youtube channel - @newviewadvice Thank you so much for being a part of this journey with me. It wouldn't have been possible without all of you. I am forever grateful and cheering you on as you continue your healing journey 🩵

In this episode, I dive into a listener’s question about feeling conflicted between being with someone special and embracing a period of independence. We’ll explore indecision, fear of the unknown, and the pressure to make the “right” choice. I’ll also talk about how many women are sold the idea that independence means being alone, and why committing to your choice is so important. I also offer many different questions throughout the episode to reflect on to help you to decide what path is most aligned with you and your heart. My intention is to help you to find clarity and a new view on your own crossroads and life. 🕓 Timestamps Introduction :05 Listener Question: 2:29 Outro: 38:13 🔗 Today's Episode Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/141 ❤️ More Resources from New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ ✍️ Have a Question?: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question 📧 Reach out: contact@newviewadvice.com

Welcome back to New View Advice! After taking a short break, I’m excited to return with an episode all about courage. In this episode I share – What is courage? What does it really mean? Why is courage important for the healing journey? Why do so many of us struggle to be courageous even though we know we want to be brave? 4 Steps for stepping towards courage today This episode is inspired by my own life. Recently, I’ve noticed that many loud and performative people are labeled as courageous, and I’ve found myself wondering – is that true courage? And if not, what is true courage? So in this episode we discuss how  I believe true courage is often quiet and vulnerable. It shows up in those small, everyday moments—like feeling your feelings, setting boundaries, or choosing to show up for yourself even when it’s hard. I hope this episode helps you to see you’re more courageous than you know, and helps you to continue on the brave path of healing and following your heart. 🕓 Timestamps Introduction :05 Courage Discussion 3:50 Outro: 30:41 🔗 Today's Episode Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/140 ❤️ More Resources from New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ ✍️ Have a Question?: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question 📧 Reach out: contact@newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I address the rarely discussed topic of woman-to-woman sexual assault. I respond to a listener who shares her story of being sexually assaulted by a coworker she trusted and saw as a close friend and mentor. We explore the painful reality that sharing a similar cultural background does not guarantee safety. I also explain what grooming looks, discuss workplace grooming, and outline key characteristics. Throughout, we discuss the complex feelings of broken trust, self-blame, and the unique grief when harm comes from someone familiar. As a rape survivor myself, I emphasize the importance of releasing self-blame — if you’ve experienced sexual violence, it is not your fault. While everyone’s healing journey is different, I offer guidance and advice on how to begin moving forward. I also share a poem. Please listen at your own pace. If you are a survivor, know you are not alone and healing is possible. Sending you all my love. 🔗 Resources & Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/139 ❤️ Sexual Trauma Healing Hub: https://www.newviewadvice.com/healing-sexual-trauma ✍️ Poem Shared in this Episode: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems-for-the-healing-journey/do-you-live-with-regrets-poem 📧 Reach out: contact@newviewadvice.com

Feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure if your job is still right for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about burnout at work—what it really feels like, how to recognize the signs of burnout, and how to begin healing without rushing to quit. We’ll explore: What burnout actually is (beyond just being tired) The most common burnout symptoms and causes Why people-pleasing, over-empathizing, and perfectionism can lead to burnout How difficult coworkers can influence burnout Reflective questions to help you better understand your burnout How to slow down, set boundaries, and begin true burnout recovery Whether you're questioning your job or just feeling drained, this conversation will help you reconnect back to yourself and help you to begin to heal. 🕘 Timestamps: Intro: 05 Listener Question: 1:40 Outro: 29:25 🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/138 🩵 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question 🎶 Choosing a New View Music Playlist to Help You Feel Inspired

In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain still lingers—grief, the stories we tell ourselves, the impact of toxic relationships, identity loss, and old wounds that heartbreak can reopen. I discuss why healing can feel so hard, share new perspectives, and offer gentle, actionable tips to help you start moving forward. 🕘 Timestamps: Intro: 05 Listener Question: 2:20 Outro: 25:29 🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/137 🩵 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question ✨ For more resources, check out the New View Advice Heartbreak Healing Hub

Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close friendship becomes romantic — and then ends. Whether you're experiencing a friendship breakup, a "friends-to-lovers" heartbreak, or navigating unspoken feelings, I offer compassionate advice to help you process the pain, find closure (even if it's one-sided), and validate your emotions. 🎙️ In this episode: How to grieve a friendship breakup with romantic feelings involved Why blurred boundaries can deepen the heartbreak Self-blame, red flags, and learning to trust yourself again Healing after queer friendships and relationships end Tips for protecting your heart and rebuilding your social support Unique challenges in queer friendships and relationships — and how to navigate them with care 🕘 Timestamps: Intro: 05 Listener Question: 2:02 Outro: 25:33 🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/136 🩵 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question ✨ More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies. Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience using fantasy as a coping mechanism and how uncovering the roots of these feelings can lead to genuine healing and a more loving relationship with yourself. Timestamps: Intro: 05 Listener Question: 2:26 Outro: 36:48 Show notes: newviewadvice.com/135 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations. I focus on strategies for regaining your sense of safety, honoring your feelings, and navigating triggers rooted in past family dynamics. This episode is focused on healing and restoring inner-balance. I also talk about the importance of self-compassion and inner child work, while offering guidance for anyone dealing with unsupportive or judgmental in-laws. To round out the episode, I read one of my own poems inspired by small-mindedness, reminding us all that other people’s cruelty is rarely about us. Join me as I hold space for both heartbreak and healing on your journey. Timestamps: Intro: :05 Listener Question: 1:46 Poem: 29:03 Outro: 30:13 Show notes: newviewadvice.com/134 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purpose after trauma. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, you are not alone. I am sending you so much love. If you need support: RAINN 24/7 Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.org Free online community: aftersilence.org/forum Neither of these resources are affiliated with New View Advice. They’re simply here in case you need support today. Please take care of yourself. 🙏 Timestamps: Intro – 0:05 Listener Question – 2:14 Outro – 28:44 Show notes: newviewadvice.com/133 Reflections #2: Check It Out on Youtube Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance doesn’t always mean giving up. For more on this topic, I recommend you check out episodes 128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You and 131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go? Timestamps Intro :05 Listener Question: 1:41 Outro: 16:23 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/132 Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisions, and honoring your own healing journey. Timestamps Intro: :05 Question: 2:10 Outro: 20:30 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/131 Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Sending you all my love.

Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups. Timestamps Intro: :05 Poem: 2:28 Question: 3:42 Outro: 24:11 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/130 Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once. I offer compassionate advice on reframing the narrative around “square one” moments, emphasizing that new beginnings are natural and often become the foundations of our most aligned lives. My intentions is to provide comfort and actionable steps for anyone feeling stuck or lost. Tune in for a compassionate conversation on embracing change, letting go of unfair expectations, and stepping into newfound hope—no matter how tough the reset. You’re not alone, and you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 3:00 Outro: 25:53 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/129 Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Sending you all my love.

This week I am sharing an episode from my other podcast, Love Under the Scope. In this episode of Love Under the Scope, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships. Both Amanda and Kelby found Harville Hendrix's book Getting the Love You Want to be a key resource on their journey of understanding and healing childhood wounds with their partners. Throughout the episode, they reference concepts from the book. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and offers actionable practices to help partners navigate triggers, do the inner work, and foster compassionate relationships. Listen to this episode for guidance on healing childhood wounds in long-term partnerships. Follow Love Under the Scope on Spotify Follow Love Under the Scope on Apple Learn more about Love Under the Scope Follow us on Instagram - @loveunderthescope

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t hold you back, and how maybe you are your own soulmate. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 2:44 Outro: 27:50 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/128 Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My intention is to guide you on your journey healing from sexual violence and also reassure you that this was never your fault and you are not alone. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 1:58 Outro: 29:25 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/127 Blog Post: Why I Can't Stop Talking About Rape For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself. Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Listener Question: 3:19 Outro: 28:28 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/126 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question Sending you all my love.

This week I am excited to introduce a new podcast on the New View Advice podcast network - Love Under the Scope with Amanda Durocher & Kelby Knutt! Do you ever feel like you’re the only one navigating the highs and lows of a long-term relationship? If so, you’re not alone. Join Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt each week as they explore the realities, nuances, and joys of long-term love. In this candid podcast, they share personal stories, real-life advice, and fresh perspectives on what it means to grow, evolve, and thrive together in a relationship. While both Amanda and Kelby have faced their fair share of struggles, they’ve also found that these challenges have deepened their self-love, and also helped them to connect deeper with their partners. Long-term relationships can be messy and sometimes triggering, but they’re also a beautiful part of the healing journey. Tune in for honest discussions about the nitty gritty, messy, and beauty of long-term relationships and look at love under the scope. This podcast is for anyone in a long-term relationship, those interested in learning more, or those who wonder if there’s something wrong with them when they find relationships to be triggering. This podcast is here to offer all humans a new view on long-term relationships. Follow Love Under the Scope on Spotify Follow Love Under the Scope on Apple Learn more about Love Under the Scope Follow us on Instagram - @loveunderthescope

In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have any follow up questions about EMDR, reach out to Amanda at contact@newviewadvice.com and we can do a follow up episode. Thanks for listening! Timestamps Introduction: 0:05 Chat with Kelly about EMDR: 1:45 Outro: 53:15 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/125 For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question