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Are you doing everything in your relationship… and quietly resenting it? In this incredibly relatable coaching session, Christine works with Melissa, who feels overwhelmed, emotionally triggered, and exhausted from carrying the mental and emotional load in her marriage. Even though she and her husband love each other deeply and have a strong connection, Melissa finds herself stuck in a painful cycle: she over-functions, suppresses her needs, builds resentment, and then reacts emotionally when she feels unsupported. As Christine unpacks the deeper dynamic underneath the conflict, a powerful truth emerges: Melissa isn't just reacting to dishes, chores, or household responsibilities—she's reliving childhood patterns of anxious attachment, people-pleasing, and fear of losing connection. Together they explore the "merging pattern"—a survival strategy where someone over-functions in relationships to maintain harmony and avoid abandonment. Christine helps Melissa see that true healing isn't about controlling someone else's behavior—it's about learning how to advocate for your needs without collapsing into fear, guilt, or resentment. If you've ever felt like the emotional manager of your relationship, or you struggle to ask for support without feeling guilty, this episode will hit home. Press play to learn how over-functioning may be keeping you stuck—and how to start creating healthier relationship dynamics. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you constantly feel responsible for everyone else's needs and emotions? Are you over-functioning in your relationship while your partner under-functions? Do you avoid speaking up because you fear conflict or disconnection? Are you building resentment because your needs aren't being clearly expressed or supported? Key Insights and A-Ha's Over-functioning is often a childhood survival strategy rooted in anxious attachment. Resentment builds when one partner consistently carries the emotional and practical load. Advocating for your needs is not selfish—it's essential for healthy relationships. Clear agreements and boundaries reduce emotional chaos and confusion. Healing requires tolerating discomfort instead of rescuing, fixing, or enabling. How to Deepen the Work Reflect on where you may be over-functioning in your relationships. Practice identifying your actual needs before resentment builds. Create clear agreements and responsibilities within your household or partnerships. Notice when your nervous system interprets conflict as danger—and gently re-regulate before reacting. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Group Coaching Call: Understanding Your Survival Strategies Christine shares details about her live coaching workshop focused on identifying the five core survival strategies and learning how to shift unhealthy relational patterns. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/group Reset Course + Inner Child Course ("Rewired") Christine also references her nervous system rewiring and inner child healing courses for deeper support around anxious attachment, emotional regulation, and relationship triggers. Explore courses at: christinehassler.com Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

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What if the calm, stable life you've worked so hard to create… is the very thing your nervous system doesn't trust? In this powerful and eye-opening coaching session, Christine works with Carla, who has done years of deep personal growth after a highly chaotic and unstable childhood. She's now in a loving, supportive relationship and living a peaceful life—but instead of feeling settled, she finds herself questioning everything. Why? Because her nervous system is still wired for chaos. Carla opens up about growing up in instability, being parentified at a young age, and constantly second-guessing herself—even now that she's created a completely different reality. Christine helps her uncover how old patterns of hypervigilance, self-doubt, and an overactive inner critic can make peace feel unfamiliar—and even unsafe. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing isn't just about doing the work—it's about recognizing and embodying how far you've already come. If you've ever found yourself searching for problems in a life that is actually working… this episode will help you understand why—and how to shift. Press play to learn how to stop sabotaging your peace and finally step into the life you've created. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel uncomfortable or restless when life is calm or stable? Are you constantly looking for what's wrong—even when things are going well? Do you struggle to trust healthy relationships or peaceful environments? Are you acknowledging your growth—or still focused on what needs fixing? Key Insights and A-Ha's A chaotic childhood can wire your nervous system to expect instability—even in safe environments. When life becomes calm, unresolved emotions and patterns often surface. The inner critic can keep you stuck in a cycle of "fixing" instead of recognizing progress. Healthy relationships can feel unfamiliar—and trigger doubt or questioning. True healing requires not just doing the work, but embodying and celebrating your growth. How to Deepen the Work Notice when you are scanning for problems instead of being present with what is working. Practice validating your feelings without needing to analyze or fix them. Acknowledge your progress regularly—write down how far you've come. Experiment with fully stepping into your current life without questioning it. Resource Mentioned in This Episode Inner Child Course with Christine Hassler Christine shares a powerful resource for healing childhood wounds, rewiring your nervous system, and building a more compassionate relationship with yourself. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/innerchild Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Today we're diving into one of the most transformative conversations happening in mental health right now. My guest is Keith Kurlander, a psychotherapist, co-founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute, and an expert in trauma and psychedelic-assisted therapy. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Keith has helped thousands of people access real, lasting healing. We're talking about the potential benefits of psychedelic therapy and microdosing, what trauma actually is and how it gets locked in the body, and most importantly—how psychedelics can unlock doors that conventional therapy often misses. Keith's new book, Psychedelic Therapy: A Revolutionary Approach to Restoring Your Mental Health and Reclaiming Your Life, is a New York Times and USA Today bestseller that breaks down how psychedelics uniquely target the root causes of anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Also if you are interested in learning more about microdosing, check out Golden Rule at christinehassler.com/mirco

What happens when you stay quiet in a relationship for too long? In this deeply relatable coaching session, Christine works with Mel, who has been in a long-term partnership of over 16 years. While there is still love between them, ongoing conflict, emotional disconnection, and unspoken needs have created a relationship dynamic where Mel feels like she's doing all the emotional work—while her partner withdraws, avoids, or shuts down. As they unpack the situation, a powerful pattern emerges: the cost of silence. Mel realizes that in trying to keep the peace, she has slowly disconnected from her own needs—over-functioning, people-pleasing, and tolerating behaviors that deeply impact her sense of safety and well-being. Christine introduces the concept of the "merging pattern"—where one partner over-functions and the other under-functions—and shows how true healing requires not just internal work, but external expression: speaking up, setting boundaries, and advocating for what you need. If you've ever felt like you're "doing all the work" in a relationship, or you're afraid to speak up because of how the other person might react, this episode will challenge and empower you. Press play to discover why your voice matters—and how reclaiming it can transform your relationships. Consider / Ask Yourself Are you holding back your true needs to avoid conflict in a relationship? Do you feel like you're doing all the emotional work while your partner withdraws? Are you over-functioning or people-pleasing to keep the peace? What needs have you not clearly expressed or advocated for? Key Insights and A-Ha's Silence in relationships often leads to resentment, disconnection, and imbalance. Over-functioning in one partner can enable under-functioning in the other. True self-love includes advocating for your needs—not just meeting them yourself. Taking things personally can activate survival patterns that keep you stuck. Healthy relationships require clear communication, boundaries, and shared responsibility. How to Deepen the Work Reflect on where you may be tolerating behaviors that don't align with your needs. Identify and write down your core relationship needs—get specific. Practice expressing your needs clearly and calmly, even if it feels uncomfortable. Consider seeking support (coaching or counseling) to navigate deeper relational patterns. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode, I'm joined by tapping expert Jessica Ortner for a powerful, experiential session using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or stuck in patterns you can't seem to think your way out of, this episode gives you a tool you can actually use in the moment. Jessica walks us through a guided tapping sequence designed to calm the nervous system, reduce stress, and help rewire the emotional patterns that keep you looping in anxiety or overwhelm. This isn't just a conversation—you'll have the opportunity to follow along and feel the shift in real time. We also talk about why tapping works, how it helps regulate your body (not just your mind), and how you can start using it in your daily life to create more ease, resilience, and emotional freedom. You can go deeper with Jessica's work by downloading The Tapping Solution App and checking out her new book Rewired(available on Amazon). Whether you're new to tapping or already familiar with EFT, this episode will leave you feeling more grounded, resourced, and empowered with a simple, effective tool for navigating stress.

Is your stress about money really about money—or something deeper? In this insightful and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Jody, who is navigating a major life transition after a 20-year marriage. As she steps into financial independence for the first time, she's facing intense fear, overwhelm, and a deep sense of scarcity. But as the conversation unfolds, a powerful truth emerges: Jody's struggle isn't actually about money—it's about years of conditioning around worth, safety, and control. Christine helps Jody uncover how childhood patterns, people-pleasing, and a history of shrinking herself have shaped her relationship with money—and how this moment of change is actually an opportunity to reclaim her power. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by finances, doubted your ability to support yourself, or tied your worth to your financial situation, this episode will help you see what's really going on beneath the surface. Press play to learn how stepping into your worth—not just your wallet—is the real path to abundance. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel anxious or overwhelmed when it comes to money or financial decisions? Have you ever given your financial power over to someone else? Do you associate safety with "staying small" or avoiding risk? Are your financial fears actually rooted in deeper emotional patterns? Key Insights and A-Ha's Financial stress is often a reflection of deeper nervous system patterns—not just numbers. Scarcity can come from years of shrinking, people-pleasing, and loss of autonomy. Major life transitions (like divorce) can be powerful opportunities to reclaim personal and financial power. Abundance begins with expanding out of contraction—not just earning more money. Support is a key component of an abundance mindset—you don't have to figure everything out alone. How to Deepen the Work Reflect on your earliest memories and beliefs about money and worth. Notice where you may be bracing, contracting, or avoiding when it comes to finances. Practice receiving support—whether emotional, practical, or financial guidance. Explore what truly matters to you and begin aligning your spending with your values. Resource Mentioned in This Episode Good With Money Workshop + Relaxed Money Program with Kate Northrup Christine recommends this resource for both practical financial strategy and deeper emotional healing around money. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In You Could Be Having Better S-x Dr. Nicole McNichols—dubbed "America's #1 S*x Professor" and one of the most popular lecturers at the University of Washington—translates cutting-edge research and data into a modern guide to pleasure, intimacy, and connection. Her relatable, science-backed approach has turned her into a true sensation, both in the lecture hall and online, where her highly-engaged following of over half a million (Instagram and TikTok) looks to her for real talk about what stokes desire and builds confidence. McNichols argues that pleasure is foundational to overall well-being. Her McNichols Hierarchy of Sexual Needs offers a roadmap for exploring s-x as self-knowledge And remember, you could be having a better experience with money too! Don't miss this FREE workshop: www.christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney

What if the belief holding you back today was formed in a single moment from your past? In Part 2 of this powerful coaching series, Christine takes Tiffany deeper—into the exact core memory that shaped one of her most limiting beliefs: "I'll get it wrong." After a year of immense loss (explored in Part 1), Tiffany begins to uncover how a painful childhood experience—being publicly embarrassed by a close friend—created patterns of self-protection, hypervigilance, and emotional shutdown that have followed her into adulthood. Rather than simply reframing the belief, Christine guides Tiffany through a real-time rewiring process—helping her reconnect with her younger self, express unspoken emotions, and shift from collapse into self-advocacy. This episode is a masterclass in what true healing looks like: not bypassing pain, but meeting it with presence, compassion, and a new response. If you've ever struggled with fear of rejection, self-expression, or "getting it wrong," this episode will show you how those patterns form—and how they can change. Press play to witness what it looks like to rewrite your story at the root—and reclaim your voice. Consider / Ask Yourself What core memory or moment may have shaped your biggest limiting belief? Do you tend to collapse, withdraw, or shut down when you feel vulnerable? Are you trying to "think your way out" of beliefs that were formed emotionally? What would it feel like to respond to your past self with compassion and advocacy? Key Insights and A-Ha's Limiting beliefs are often formed in emotionally charged childhood moments. Reframing isn't enough—true healing requires emotional and somatic rewiring. Suppressed anger can keep us stuck in patterns of collapse and self-protection. Giving your younger self a voice can unlock long-held emotional patterns. Healing shifts you from reactive patterns into conscious, empowered responses. How to Deepen the Work Reflect on a memory where you felt rejected, embarrassed, or hurt. Identify the belief that may have formed in that moment. Practice reconnecting with your younger self and offering support, validation, and protection. Notice where you can shift from reacting to consciously responding in your present life. Resource Mentioned in This Episode Rewired: Reparenting Your Inner Child + Reprogramming Your Nervous System Christine shares how this course guides you through healing core wounds, reconnecting with your inner child, and transforming limiting beliefs at the root. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/rewired Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Struggling with money stress even when you're being responsible? In this episode, I explore how your relationship with money is shaped by subconscious beliefs, nervous system regulation, and childhood conditioning—and how shifting these patterns can lead to more ease, alignment, and financial freedom. Join Kate Northrup's free Good with Money workshop here: christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney

What happens when loss isn't just one event—but becomes your entire reality? In this deeply emotional and raw coaching session, Christine works with Tiffany, who has experienced an overwhelming series of losses in a short period of time—losing her father, her longtime partner, her beloved pet, her home, and a major part of her physical body through surgery. When grief stacks like this, it doesn't just feel heavy—it can begin to feel like your new normal. Tiffany shares how she feels untethered, disconnected, and unsure how to move forward. Even with a background in personal growth and healing work, she finds herself in survival mode—struggling to feel grounded, supported, or clear on her next step. Christine offers a compassionate reminder: grief isn't something we're meant to process alone. Before trying to "figure it out," we need to be held, supported, and allowed to feel what's real. This episode is a powerful invitation to slow down, honor your grief, and recognize that healing begins with being witnessed—not fixed. Press play to experience what it looks like to be held in the middle of deep loss—and why that may be the most important step forward. Consider / Ask Yourself Have you experienced multiple losses that left you feeling overwhelmed or untethered? Do you find yourself intellectualizing your pain instead of fully feeling it? Are you trying to "figure out your next step" before fully processing your grief? Do you have a safe space or support system where you feel truly held? Key Insights and A-Ha's Grief compounds when multiple losses occur close together, often pushing us into survival mode. Intellectualizing pain can create distance from the emotional processing we truly need. Healing grief is not a solo process—we need safe, supportive containers. Being "held" emotionally is just as important as any tool or strategy. Sometimes life strips everything away so we can reconnect with who we truly are. How to Deepen the Work Reflect on whether you've given yourself permission to fully feel your grief. Notice where you may be detaching or "clinicalizing" your emotions. Seek out supportive spaces—whether through community, friendship, or professional guidance. Practice being with your emotions rather than rushing to fix or solve them. Resource Mentioned in This Episode Good With Money Workshop with Kate Northrup Christine shares a powerful resource for healing your relationship with money—especially if you feel stuck in survival mode or unsupported financially. Learn more and register at: christinehassler.com/good Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Kate Northrup for a conversation about why more money doesn't always create the sense of security we think it will. We talk about the deeper patterns that drive how we earn, spend, and relate to money—and how our nervous system plays a much bigger role than most people realize. Because if you've been doing all the "right" things but still don't feel the way you expected to, you're not alone. Kate shares how real change comes from creating internal steadiness first, so that growth actually feels sustainable—not stressful. She's hosting a free workshop called Good with Money, where she teaches how to shift your relationship with money at the root. You can join here: https://christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney

You've done the therapy. You've learned the tools. You've processed your past. So why does your nervous system still feel like it's on edge? In this relatable and validating coaching session, Christine works with Kate, who has spent over a decade deeply committed to her healing journey. Despite major progress—healthy relationships, career growth, and emotional awareness—she still experiences intense nervous system reactions like anxiety, overwhelm, and shutdown. If you've ever felt like "I've done so much work… so why am I still triggered?"—this episode is for you. Christine offers a powerful reframe that shifts everything: what if your sensitive nervous system isn't a problem to fix—but a gift to learn how to work with? Through their conversation, they explore how trauma, sensitivity, and subconscious patterns can coexist with real growth—and why healing isn't about becoming "perfectly regulated," but about learning how to support your unique wiring. This episode will help you move out of self-judgment and into a more compassionate, empowered relationship with your nervous system. Press play to discover how to stop trying to fix yourself—and start working with the system you have. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel like you've done a lot of inner work but still get triggered easily? Does your nervous system feel more sensitive or reactive than others around you? Do you find yourself over-preparing or "psyching yourself up" for everyday situations? Are you judging yourself for not being more "healed" by now? Key Insights and A-Ha's A highly sensitive nervous system is not a flaw—it's a different kind of wiring. Trauma + sensitivity can amplify nervous system responses, but that doesn't mean you're broken. Trying to "fix" yourself often reinforces the belief that something is wrong. Emotional and energetic awareness can be transformed into intuition and connection. Healing includes learning how to care for your system—not forcing it to be different. How to Deepen the Work Practice shifting from self-judgment to self-acceptance around your nervous system. Explore what "support" looks like for your body rather than trying to override it. Begin incorporating energetic hygiene practices (clearing, grounding, protecting your energy). Experiment with seeing your sensitivity as a strength rather than a liability. Resource Mentioned in This Episode Rewired: Reparenting Your Inner Child + Reprogramming Your Nervous System Christine references this course as a way to better understand subconscious patterns, support the inner child, and create lasting nervous system change. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/rewired For questions or support: assist@christinehassler.com Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Have you ever done the work to leave situations that no longer serve you—only to find that life still feels strangely flat? In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Amber, who has spent the past five years navigating major life changes including a divorce, a difficult relationship that activated childhood wounds, and the grief that followed. Even though she has maintained friendships, hobbies, and healthy routines, something still feels missing. The joy she once felt has faded, and life feels muted—almost like she's going through the motions. Through their conversation, Christine helps Amber uncover a powerful insight: when the inner child doesn't feel safe, parts of our vitality, creativity, and emotional color can go offline. What may feel like apathy or stagnation can actually be a protective response from the nervous system. Together they explore people-pleasing patterns, suppressed anger, childhood survival strategies, and how reconnecting with the inner child can bring vitality back online. If you've ever wondered why life can feel dull even after you've made positive changes—or why healing sometimes feels like it's moving painfully slowly—this episode offers a hopeful roadmap forward. Press play to hear how reconnecting with your inner child and safely releasing long-held emotions can bring life's color back. Consider / Ask Yourself Have you made major life changes but still feel like you're going through the motions? Do activities that once brought you joy now feel flat or muted? Are you working on healing but unsure whether you're using the right tools? Could suppressed emotions—like anger or grief—be keeping your vitality offline? Key Insights and A-Ha's Feeling "colorless" in life can sometimes be a nervous system protection response. People-pleasing and other survival patterns often develop in childhood to keep us safe. Suppressing anger can also suppress passion and vitality. Healing isn't about reliving trauma—it's about applying love to the parts of us that hurt. Reconnecting with the inner child can help restore joy, creativity, and emotional aliveness. How to Deepen the Work Reflect on whether parts of your life feel muted or disconnected from joy. Notice if certain emotions—especially anger or frustration—feel difficult to access. Explore practices that help reconnect you with your inner child and nervous system safety. Consider whether deeper emotional work or supportive containers could help you move forward. Resource Mentioned in This Episode Rewired: Reparenting Your Inner Child + Reprogramming Your Nervous System Christine shares how this course helps people understand subconscious patterns, reconnect with their inner child, and create lasting emotional change. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/rewired For questions or scholarship inquiries, contact: jill@christinehassler.com Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Today's episode is a little different from my usual format. I'm going to start by sharing why inner child work matters so much, why so many people struggle to change patterns even after years of insight and therapy, and what actually needs to shift at the subconscious level for real transformation to happen. And then after that, I'm going to play a recording from a live Q&A and alumni panel that I hosted about my program, Rewired. In this conversation you'll hear people who have actually gone through the work talk about their experience — what changed for them, what surprised them, and what the process of repatterning subconscious safety strategies really looks like in real life. To join me for my live inner child course, go here: www.christinehassler.com/rewired

Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns even when we know better? In this honest and insightful coaching session, Christine works with Amanda, who recognizes a long-standing pattern of choosing partners with narcissistic traits, emotional avoidance, or chaotic lifestyles. Despite strong intuition warning her early on, she finds herself staying in these relationships until they reach a painful breaking point. Christine helps Amanda uncover the deeper root of the pattern: the inner child seeking to recreate familiar dynamics from childhood in hopes of finally receiving the love, validation, and stability that were missing. Through the conversation, Amanda begins to see how self-worth, validation, and unconscious beliefs about love have been influencing her choices. If you've ever wondered why you continue to repeat the same relationship dynamics — even after years of personal development work — this episode will help you understand how real change happens through re-parenting yourself and building a secure relationship within. Consider / Ask Yourself: Do you notice yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships? Are you drawn to people who need fixing, saving, or rescuing? Do you sometimes ignore your intuition early in relationships? Do you place partners on a pedestal and abandon your own needs? Are feelings of shame or self-judgment keeping you stuck in old patterns? Key Insights and A-HAs: Relationship patterns often mirror unresolved childhood dynamics. The inner child seeks familiar situations in hopes of finally getting unmet needs fulfilled. Intellectual understanding alone does not change subconscious patterns. Self-worth struggles can lead to placing others on a pedestal. Shame heals through compassion and understanding — not judgment. Real change happens through re-parenting yourself in real time. How to Deepen the Work: Practice validating your feelings instead of dismissing them. When shame or self-judgment arises, respond with compassion: "Of course I feel this way." Notice when younger parts of you are driving your decisions in relationships. Begin relating to yourself as a supportive parent would to a child. Shift from analyzing patterns to actively rewiring your responses in everyday moments. Course: Rewired – Inner Child Healing Christine is opening enrollment for Rewired, her live inner child healing course designed to help you shift subconscious patterns and build a secure relationship with yourself. The program includes live coaching sessions, somatic and breathwork practices, and ongoing support designed to help you rewire the beliefs and nervous system patterns formed in childhood. Learn more or join the program at: christinehassler.com/rewired Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

What if the most honest answer right now is… I don't know? In this thoughtful and vulnerable coaching session, Christine works with Yasmine, who is navigating uncertainty in her relationship. She deeply values the emotional connection she shares with her partner, yet finds herself triggered by his financial instability and questioning whether this is a deal breaker. Christine helps Yasmine explore something deeper than "Should I stay or should I go?" Instead of rushing toward certainty, they unpack the childhood programming around independence, financial security, and self-reliance that may be shaping her attraction and her fear. The conversation opens a powerful invitation: sometimes clarity doesn't come from forcing a decision — it comes from doing the inner work and tolerating the discomfort of not knowing yet. If you're in a situation where there are many positives but one lingering concern, this episode will help you understand how uncertainty can actually be a doorway to growth rather than a sign to panic. Consider / Ask Yourself: Are you trying to force certainty in a situation that needs more time? Do you feel pressure to decide instead of permission to discover? Are childhood patterns influencing what feels like a "deal breaker"? Do you believe you have to rely only on yourself? Is your discomfort about the present situation — or about something older being triggered? Key Insights and A-HAs: The discomfort of "I don't know" often reveals deeper soul lessons. Childhood beliefs like "I can only rely on myself" shape adult attraction patterns. Emotional safety and financial stability are different forms of security. Pressure to decide can block the clarity we're seeking. We often project unmet childhood needs onto our partners. Uncertainty with a regulated nervous system is growth. How to Deepen the Work: Explore the belief: "I have to make it work on my own." Practice allowing support — even in small, everyday decisions. Notice when you are projecting past wounds onto your partner. Shift from asking "Is this it?" to "What am I learning here?" Allow yourself to sit in "I don't know yet" without rushing toward resolution. Free Masterclass: Untangled Christine is teaching a free masterclass called Untangled, designed to help you rewire childhood programming and release patterns rooted in uncertainty and bracing. If you're ready to move from survival-based decision-making into conscious clarity, you can register or watch the replay at: christinehassler.com/untangled Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode, I'm on the other side of the mic. I was interviewed by coach and podcast host Andy Hoffer about inner child work — not as a theory, but as the deep patterning that continues to shape our relationships, decisions, and self-trust as adults. We talk about why so many people can be successful, self-aware, and still feel stuck… how childhood survival strategies quietly show up under stress… and what it actually takes to untangle these patterns in a way that creates real change. If you've done a lot of personal growth work but notice the same reactions, habits, or relationship dynamics repeating, this conversation will resonate. And if you want to go deeper, I invite you to my free masterclass, Untangled, where I teach how to break the childhood patterns that quietly run your adult life. Join at www.christinehassler.com/untangled (and you can learn more about Andy here: https://www.andyhoffercoaching.com/)

What if forgiveness isn't the next step? In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that "forgiveness is for you," she finds herself stuck. Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn't blocked because we're not spiritual enough — it's blocked because we've skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be. If you've ever tried to forgive but couldn't get there — or felt ashamed that you're still angry — this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first. transcript Consider / Ask Yourself: Is there someone you feel you "should" forgive but can't? Are you trying to spiritually bypass anger or confrontation? Do you avoid conflict, even when something deeply hurt you? Are you holding onto resentment because speaking up feels harder? Is there a clearing conversation you've been postponing? Key Insights and A-HAs: Forgiveness is not condoning someone's behavior. Forgiveness is about releasing the beliefs and judgments keeping you stuck — not excusing the action. Sometimes the growth edge isn't forgiveness — it's confrontation. Anger is not unspiritual; it's information and energy that must be processed. Avoiding hard conversations can keep betrayal alive in the body. Peace often comes from self-advocacy, not silence. How to Deepen the Work: Ask yourself if there is a conversation that needs to happen before you can move forward. Explore somatic or anger-release work to move stored emotion out of your body. Notice where you are confusing forgiveness with people-pleasing. Practice being a stand for yourself in small ways before having larger confrontations. Shift the goal from "forgiveness" to "peace and acceptance." Free Masterclass: Untangled Christine is hosting a free masterclass called Untangled, designed to help you break out of childhood patterns and step into who you truly are — especially in this powerful Fire Horse energy cycle. This is an opportunity to create new momentum, untangle old emotional patterns, and strategically step into transformation. Register at:christinehassler.com/untangled Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

We're moving from the introspective Year of the Snake into the bold, forward-moving Year of the Horse. Snake energy has been about shedding — old roles, patterns, identities that no longer fit. The Horse brings movement, courage, and momentum. But if you haven't fully released what surfaced this year, you may feel pushed instead of propelled. In this episode, I share what this energetic shift symbolizes and how to consciously move from reflection into aligned action — without burnout, without rushing, and without dragging the past forward. And if you're ready to go deeper into untangling the patterns that keep repeating in your life, I'm teaching a free masterclass at christinehassler.com/untangled.