PASSION IN LOVE with Karolina Tatarenkova

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. When it comes down to sex, too many are focused on efficiency.  How long should a foreplay be? How many orgasms should a woman have? Why does it take women so long to orgasm?  The nature of these questions is confounded undermining what sex is all about. In this episode, Heidi and I share tips and strategies on what you can do to help your woman experience more powerful orgasms. We all know that about 80% of women have faked an orgasm at least once, and many keep faking it again and again without ever realizing that it doesn't help their sex lives or intimacy. However, the other side of this coin is that most women don't believe that men care about giving an orgasm to a woman. Unfortunately, from my professional experience as a sex therapist, it happens to be true. Not all the time - we don't want to generalize here but it has grounds to hold true.  What limiting beliefs do you have to breakthrough to be able to let go and give pleasure to your lover as well as receive it without worrying what to do next? If you don't have time to listen to the whole episode, you are missing out on a lot of great info. But the key to remember is that there is no rush when it comes down to orgasms: yours or hers.

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. Why do most lose their motivation to thrive for more in their intimate lives? Why do some give fear more responsibility to manage their lives that to motivation and hunger. I want to talk about what is it about hunger that pushes us, motivates us, encourages and entertains us when it comes down to our intimate relationship. This is the area that most neglect and would rather prefer to seek escape in work. Only those who never lose their hunger create passion in love. Please share and comment below if it resonates with you. Karolina Tatarenkova - Passion In Love

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. Have you given up on your intimate relationships? Have you settled in? This Monday I decided to remind you and myself, as well, about the importance of keeping HUNGER/motivation ALIVE in your intimate relationships with yourself and your lover. HOW To Stay MOTIVATED And ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING in your romantic and personal life. I talk about - Crazy & Sexy Goals - Being in the city without GPS - Standards - Expectations on rocks - Resentment Please comment below to let me know what you think of this video and share if it resonates with you. I deeply appreciate you helping me spread my mission and help people master their romantic lives and intimate relationships! THANK YOU! with love and passion, Karolina Tatarenkova - Passion In Love

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. Going through a break up or contemplating whether it’s time to move on with a separation? Sometimes getting over a break up/separation turns out to be a long grieving process.   Part of me remembers every excruciating detail of feeling lonely, doubting myself, and crying myself to sleep. And of course that awful fatalistic fear that it will happen again. Telling yourself that I never thought I would be the person who faces divorce, separation or an ugly break-up. Trust. How will I ever trust again? And this fear stays with you way longer than you trying to get over a break up. The feelings of loneliness, betrayal, and confusion make you not want to be in any relationship at all. EVER. Don’t give up on love. If you are on the edge of giving up or know a friend who is in need to hear this message – please pass it along. Interesting aspect about breakups is that it doesn’t matter how old you are. The pain is still there.  Disappointment as well. PM if you are going through this.

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. Why should you put yourself first? Selfish or SelfFULL? We often label ourselves as “STRONG.” How many of you are the strong ones? I am sure many. It’s not good. We tend to wear this “I'm strong” badge and put everything and everyone before ourselves. Why? I guess we hope to get Brownie points, or VIP seats or first class when it’s time to check out from this life. Does it work this way? NOPE.   Putting yourself last is not good. Why?   First, it’s just not authentic. You are not being yourself – you are rejecting your feminine side (both men and women).   Second, how you treat yourself is how your life treats you. By putting yourself last, you put your life last. You got to be as good to yourself as you want your life to be.   Some say – IT's SELFISH…. No. I say it’s SELFULL.   You need to fuel your gas tank. But most of us run on empty and on a very low gas grade. What would happen if you continuously gas your car with a very low gas grade instead of the required premium? Gas consumption will go up and your engine will scream bloody murder. But more importantly – it will burn out pretty soon.   Isn’t it a powerful metaphor for your life as well?   Get your gas tank full and whatever is left over at the gas station is for everyone else: your lover, children, business, employees, or friends. What’s inside is yours – what’s spilling over is for others. And there are a lot of gas left. Don’t worry – I checked. So when now would be a good time to fall in love with yourself?   Are you ready to join me on this journey of self-love, confidence, and good enough?   Date Yourself Program is 50% full. Apply NOW and SHARE with those women who deserve loving themselves.   http://www.passioninlove.com/date-yourself-2016/

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. When it comes to dating advice, most of you think of strategies or ideas to get a guy or a girl.  Yet, what makes a relationship passionate and intimate is on-going dating scene between partners.  Research shows that those couples who invest time in having fun, ravishing playfulness and reviving adventure tend to have more intimacy and sexual connection in their relationship.   I say that passionate sex is not possible without a sense of fun outside of the bedroom.  By investing time into scheduling regular dates, you transform your everyday life into ongoing foreplay of love.   The foundation of my approach to dating ideas and dating advice is to strengthen your friendship for emotional intimacy as well as seduction and romance for physical passion.   In this video, I offer dating advice for couples to find easy and simple ways to reconnect and create quality time in order to ignite passion. Too many fall into thinking that dating involves a lot of planning, expense, time and preparation. As a result, they give up on dating all together.   It’s often not the size of the paycheck that matters, it’s unshakable presence that emphasizes the importance of your relationship.

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. How often do you sabotage yourself? You may when you decide to embark on the journey of falling in love with yourself, but back down because of a number of reasons. If you were to honestly reflect, you would discover that none of them are good enough to disregard yourself. For some, it’s in their career or getting stuck in a job that they hate, and never ever setting off to establish their own ice cream stand. The lesson here is that when you find yourself in a new situation, new circumstances or new changes in your life, everything that needs healing will jump right up to the surface creating even more turmoil and reinforcing the same story you have been living buy. The story of why you are not good enough, or the story that you have to give your all and suffer in order to be loved by your lover. If you do not take a minute to breathe and gather yourself, you will do what you have always done. You will continue dealing with a problem in your relationship the way you always dealt with it, yet it often comes as a surprise to realize that a solution is not found. Why not to try filling yourself up first, so you have something to give? For it to not turn into a sacrifice that no one appreciates. You got to be clear enough, grounded enough and centered enough to pause and ask yourself, “How am I going to handle it this time?” If you decided to run on an autopilot, you will get what you have always gotten. But once you invite self-awareness and realize that your self-worth is independent of external circumstances, you will arrive at a new solution. The lesson is PAUSE. Stop living a life as a human DOING and start living as a human BEING.  We run from one job to another, from one meeting to another, from one plane to another, from one bed to another without ever taking a second to pause. We are particularly prone to making this mistake when it comes to our intimate relationships. We leave one relationship and dive into another because it looks new, different, sexy, and glossy. The grass may look greener on the other side, but what most of us are not clear about is that we enter this allegedly new relationship with all of our old stuff nicely packed in the backpack behind us. Pause. When will be a good time to get your confidence back, to fall in love with yourself or even get to know yourself again? It took me 20 years to realize that I was trying to heal my issues with my parents. It took a few relationships, pain and courage to get myself into a workshop to uncover truth. This is truth. But truth is the hardest thing you and I will ever have to face. As a therapist and counsellor, I can confidently say that when people say they are ready for truth, what they are actually saying is that they are ready for selective truth. How do I know this? They get angry, defensive, frustrated… Truth is painful. But it will set us…what? Free, right? You have to go through this meadow of pain to arrive at the gate called freedom. Remember this…when you settle for anything, you accept anything and you always be a few dollars short. The time is now. Join me on the journey of dating yourself – and learn to fall in love with yourself.  

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, create work-love balance, and bring more passion and intimacy. What if I tell you that you can choose and pick what problems you have have in your life? Can you imagine how your life would be different? The goals here is to have a better quality problem. 1. Ask and you shall receive. But watch out for what you're asking 2. You are not in control of your problems 3. Focus on how you can't solve it 4. Create prroblems 5. Important problems vs urgent problems

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life, bring more passion and intimacy. Infidelity is a heart-breaking experience that often brings up a lot of emotional turmoil, questions and doubt. Partners in a relationship often start to question their self-worth and confidence, trying to navigate through figuring how it all turned out and ended here…with infidelity.  The real pain that comes from having a partner cheat on you is often not from betrayal itself, it’s from realizing that you or the relationship and love you created don’t matter to your partner at all, – to the degree that he or she decided to sleep around.   How can we avoid cheating and infidelity? I want to offer a few strategies that are in your power to undertake. ____________________ SUMMARY: ____________________ - Have difficult conversations - What’s the meaning of infidelity? - What are our boundaries for interacting with other people? - Do you let “fear of not being good enough” to take over? - Are we monogamous and exclusive? - Prioritize emotional and sexual intimacy. - Set aside daily time to reconnect with your lover  

Visit www.PassionInLove.com for full summaries, quotes, videos and my special workbook that will offer you everyday strategies to improve the quality of life,bring more passion and intimacy. Learning when to say “no” can be the greatest gift in your life.  Because when you say “yes” to people or projects in order to not lose respect in people’s eyes, what you do is lose respect for yourself.  It’s much too high a price to pay for voluntarily cutting the throat of your self-respect open, isn’t?   Here are a few very effective ways to introduce and integrate healthy boundaries into your life.  These strategies have transformed my life and the life of many of my clients. If you follow through with just one of them, I guarantee you’ll start felling lighter than air.   Trust and believe in yourself and your ability to make good decisions.   When you notice that someone made a decision for you or talked on your behalf, take some time to reflect on it.  Ask yourself a question, “Will taking on this project be a pleasure and growth opportunity for me?” “Will spending time with this person enrich my life?” Then make a decision and trust that you deserve making this decision.   Check-in with your inner spiritual computer.   This small exercise will give you a road map of awareness for you to know when to stop and go within yourself to see if your boundaries have been crossed by you or others. This checklist is for you to gain self awareness of a moment when you are crossing a boundary before it’s crossed. Write down a list of answers to the following three questions.   How do you feel when you are around somebody (or invested in a business venture) who sucks the energy out of you? What do you feel in your body when you are involved in a business or interacting with a person who drains you? What thoughts do you experience when you are engaged in a relationship or event that drains you?   Ground yourself.   When you find yourself being blown away by the wind of help, meaning you meddle into other people’s problems with a sincere intention to help them. It leaves you depleted, and often you don’t bring the best version of yourself to your intimate relationship.   Grounding is a way to regain focus and connect with your intuition and self-love. Try visualization: Imagine you are a tree trunk and you have leaves around you. You feel so centred and connected with the ground that your roots penetrate to the centre of the earth. When the wind blows, your limbs tremble in panic, but your trunk is so stable that it barely moves.   Meditation or mantra are another way to ground yourself throughout the day.  It helps me personally to wind down before and after speaking engagements or business meetings.   Gratitude exercise is a must for me before I get up in the morning and go to bed.  When life is great and the universe sends you opportunities, it’s easy to be grateful. What about when challenges enter, how grateful do you remain? Do you tend to focus on obstacles and what you don’t have?   Mastering triggers.   When you believe in the false story that you are not in control of your life and your emotions, you let lies impregnate your mind.  To break free from this fantasy, get to know the triggers that you allow to push you beyond your healthy boundaries.   Notice what events, people, places or projects that tend to drain you. What do they have in common? As now that you are aware of these common characteristics, let’s develop a plan to deal with them.  Because it’s impossible to avoid all the people, business meetings, or trips that drain you.  And if anyone tells you otherwise, they aren’t being truthful to say the least.   Breath of safety. Next time you find yourself in the situation, imagine yourself breathing in and out an energy of safety, comfort and guidance. There is no need to seek happiness because it’s in you. (Tweet it)   Love message. The most powerful of all strategies is to send people love because life supports what supports more of life.   Like this episode? Please share it! I can keep this blog and all my podcasts and videos ad-free and sponsor-free ONLY because you share my work! Please share or subscribe to my podcast and YouTube channel too!

Visit http://www.passioninlove.com/blog/  for full summaries, quotes, comments and more love. In my daily life as a relationship coach and sex therapist, I know the importance of having healthy boundaries on a first hand basis.  In my Graduate school, the number one lesson repeated almost every day by almost every professor was Self-care. Self-care. Self-care. There are an endless number of articles to be found that offer an endless number of ways to build healthy boundaries in one’s life, yet too many do not even discern that they have issues with boundaries. Once reasonable boundaries are discovered, the more disappointing fact is that many of us are guilty of not following through to actually employ them in our daily lives. We set off on this journey of living, being, thinking and acting then real life factors slap us in the face. When that happens, most often we revert into our comfort zone.  The overwhelming fear of saying “NO, I don’t want to do that!” permits others to make decisions for us, causing confusion and wreaking havoc with the well thought out plans we had made. We often find ourselves taking on too may business projects and meetings. Let’s talk about how you know that you need to work on introducing healthy boundaries in your life and what you do in order to not fail in completing the integration. How do you know? Edge. You often find yourself on the edge. As an a example, even though you dearly love you partner, it is impossible not to reflect on your relationship which then causes the tendency to have negative thoughts, such as: Is this the right life for me or is this the right person for me? Loss of self-identity. People around you have been making decision for you, deciding what is good or bad for you, telling you who you are and what you are capable of doing or not doing. Have you ever found yourself not going after a wonderful opportunity or chasing your intuition because someone told you it was a stupid idea or that you would not do well at it? Tension and exhaustion. Your days often start with tension and end with a feeling of being drained, exhausted, and overwhelmed. Powerless. When you feel stuck in your intimate relationship or a business project, you tend to lose yourself in the void of powerlessness. The destructive thought patterns of you not being able to change your life and you being in control over your life contaminate your mind. Drama of Overwhelm.  Because you find yourself involving yourself in numerous events: meeting, errands, drama. This causes a sense of being overwhelmed. It can take the quality of your life to such a level of stress that your body gives up.  You then spend a few days being ill because your body can no longer fight off infection. Conflict. One of the reasons we tend to say “yes” to people asking us favours is because we try to avoid perceived conflicts that might come up as a result of saying “no.” Do you fear losing their respect if you say “NO”?  No is a complete sentence. How do you integrate healthy boundaries in your life for good? There are two very important steps for the integration to take hold of your psyche. If you go to the “hows” right away without taking time to complete these short yet powerful steps – you will relapse. Allow yourself at least 15 – 20 minutes to answer the following questions: Do you deserve healthy boundaries? Why do you deserve them? See, the problem why people fail at maintaining healthy standards in their life is not because they lack helpful strategies.  It’s because they lack WHY – the motivation – a compelling reason to act. If you have a strong reason why, you will figure out the how.  If I tell you to simply go a jump off the cliff, will you do so? No. You will probably look at me with eyes of a tarsier. That’s cute, but really weird. But if I offer you emotional and logical reasons that touch your soul and your heart of why you should do it, you will take it as your life mission to complete. That’s why some people will give their life to save another person or to manifest retribution. What are your reasons that you MUST have healthy boundaries in your life?