Resilience Junkie

Watch me new episode where I talk about why being "TOO MUCH" is the best compliment you could ever receive.

I've hit flat-out hit rock bottom—emotionally, mentally, and physically a few times in my life. The crash was painful in every way. It forced me to get brutally honest with myself and finally take responsibility for my life. In doing so, I was able to transform my world. It was the best thing that could have ever happened to me, Your pain doesn't have to define you. Rather, it can refine you and that's what I want for you. In this episode, I share 3 reasons why rock bottom can be the foundation upon which you rebuild your entire life.

Setting boundaries is about self-respect. It's a way of saying, "I matter." Boundaries show others how they are supposed to treat us. It's their choice whether or not they listen.

A lot of narcissists go undetected because empaths cannot even fathom that someone could be capable of being so manipulative and cruel. Education is power. When you take a look inside the mind of a narcissist, you start to see their behavioral patterns and understand why they act the way they do. Once you know the red flags, you are better able to protect yourself. Narcissists hate boundaries because it creates an invisible wall which inhibits them from exerting their power and control. From this place, you become a victor instead of a victim, and this is when the process begins of rebuilding your self esteem ??

Strong communication is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Without being able to express themselves and listen to another, partners cannot achieve the level of intimacy that is required to continue to grow and evolve as a couple. Ready to learn how to communicate better with your partner?

Don't allow anyone to choose your mountain or tell you when or when you shouldn't climb. Your life, your choices. Life is too short to follow someone else's dream. Whatever you do, just don't give up on yourself. Trust that every obstacle is merely a stepping stone on your journey to success. The view from the top will be worth every step.

Perfection does not exist. Instead of trying to get it right all the time, try embracing creative freedom. Mess up and learn to enjoy it because let's face it, life is messy. When you strive for good enough, you have more energy and time to be unapologetically yourself. News flash..you are perfectly imperfect just the way you are.

I believe that authenticity is one of the most beautiful qualities that someone can possess. Having the courage to be unapologetically yourself when the world is constantly trying to make you be someone else is bold. Authenticity is about being your true self; it's not hiding behind a mask and living someone else's life because you are too scared to live your own. Once you are ready to put aside anything and everything that is inauthentic to who you really are, that is when you will experience the ultimate freedom to be your true self. Be authentic, be yourself. Feel into it, embody it and embrace it fully. In the words of Brene Brown, “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let out true selves be seen.”

In this podcast, I share how to improve your communication skills. I believe that effective communication skills are the key to success in your life, work, and relationships. Many people who claim to be good listeners actually are not because they fall into a trap of blaming, arguing, or not paying attention to someone else's words. The cause of the majority of problems that occur in relationships of any kind is often due to communication breakdowns. In the words of Peter Drucker, "The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said." At the end of the day, we all want to be heard and seen, and communication is the vessel that allows us to connect, share and support one another through the highs and lows of life. Are you ready to learn how to improve your communication skills?

In this podcast, I share 3 ways that you can silence your inner critic once and for all. We all have an inner critic; that pesky voice inside of our heads that tells us that we aren't good enough, smart enough or strong enough. I don't know about you, but I'm over it. Our inner critic feeds off of our limiting beliefs, so in order to shut him or her up, we need to recognize what it is that he/she is trying to tell us. You are so much more than your thoughts. Once you realize that your inner critic doesn't have power over you, your world becomes lighter. Are you ready to stop negative self-talk, increase your self-worth and silence your inner critic?

In this video, I share how to be proactive and why proactivity is one of the most important habits that you can adopt in the face of adversity. Challenges are a normal part of life. It's how you respond to those challenges that matter most. When adversity strikes, a reactive person curls into a ball, blames the world for their problems and doesn't take responsibility for their lives. When a proactive person falls down, they pick themselves back up off the floor and keep moving forward. They are always looking for ways to transform pain into possibilities. Instead of reacting to life's blows, proactive people take control of their lives, making choices that serve their highest selves. Are you ready to learn how to be proactive so that you can master adversity? In the words of Stephen Covey, "I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions." Click here to read my blog post - http://resiliencejunkie.com/how-to-be-proactive/

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Don't waste your time settling for safe. Why not create a life that will blow your mind? Too many of us settle for a life of mediocrity, believing that this is the secret to happiness, but I'm here to tell you that it's not. Why do we torture ourselves? One word. Fear. Change scares the shit out of people. We go to great lengths to avoid things that make us feel uncomfortable. It's a lot easier to stay in one's comfort zone and coast through life, never taking risks or trying something new, versus putting everything on the line, taking a leap of faith, and letting the Universe have our back. Are you panicking yet? If so, you aren't alone. But here's the thing....change doesn't happen while you're lounging in your comfort zone. Living a life that isn't a reflection of who we really are only sucks our energy and takes away our drive to succeed and live with purpose. In the words of John Maxwell, "Everything worthwhile is uphill. You can’t experience a fully satisfying life by just coasting. Nothing that is good in life comes easy. And very little that comes easy is good." Are you ready to learn how you can get comfortable with being uncomfortable?

You are the CEO of your life. You are 100% responsible for everything that happens to you. As the CEO of your life, you have the power to make important decisions in it. Create a vision and mission for your life. What is the purpose of your life, and what impact do you want to have in the world? As the CEO, sometimes you need to be a voice for others, who don't feel empowered enough to stand up for their truth and be a leader in their own lives. Stand tall, be confident, and pave the way for others. We all need to inspire one another more. The time is now. Take control of your destiny. You are the CEO of your life and the world needs you now, more than ever before. In the words of Mark Yarnell, "A leader is someone who demonstrates what is possible." Are you ready to step into your power and become the CEO of your life?

We are all given a certain amount of time in life to create our dreams and live our destiny. You can't buy or ask for more time, so stop wasting it. When we abuse time, we become lazy and comfortable. Life isn't going to make things happen for you. You've got to become a diamond and carve out your own world. Take advantage of every moment that you have, because time doesn't stand still for anyone. In the words of Michael Altshuler, "The bad news is that time flies. The good news is that you're the pilot." Are you ready to stop killing time? Tick tock. Start moving now!

Who you surround yourself with is who you become. Are your friends inspiring and elevating you to greatness, or are they sucking all of your energy, leaving you feeling depleted and stuck? If it's the latter, I hate to break it to you, but it's time to find new friends. If you want to improve and succeed in life, you need to surround yourself with people who have higher standards than yourself, because who you surround yourself with is who you become. When you’re around people doing epic things, you are more accountable to achieve your goals, because you have a solid crew of people in your corner, cheering you on. There is an old proverb that reads, "Show me your friends, and I'll show you who you are." Choose your circle wisely. Filter out the negativity and do everything in your power to only surround yourself with high vibe people.

If you could travel back in time and make a different decision, how would your life be different now? It's so easy to get stuck in a cycle of self-blame and negative, repetitive ruminative thinking. Don't live with regrets. Guilt is a heavy emotion. It nourishes your shoulds, woulds and coulds. Regret is a choice, and you have the power to choose a different response. Nobody wants to get to the end of their lives and feel like they didn't actualize their potential, knowing that there's no way to go back in time and re-write their story. You can create the life of your dreams NOW. Has regret held you back from living your life to the fullest? If so, it's time to make a change and take back control of your life. Don't live with regrets. Forgive yourself, move forward and make regret a distant memory of the past. In the words of Victoria Holt, "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience."

Have you ever had an epic idea to do something, but you don't end up following through and make it happen, leaving you feeling scattered and going in circles? We've all been a victim of rumination at some point in our lives. When we overthink, we don't take action. It's time to stop thinking about yours goals and dreams and actually start taking the steps in order to make them a part of your reality. Feel into what it is that makes you come alive inside and start making moves! Life is too short not to. In the words of Paulo Coelho, “One day you will wake up and there won't be any more time to do the things you've always wanted. Do it now.” Are you ready to think less, do more? Develop the habit of taking action today!

Have you ever wondered why it is that some people bounce forward from adversity, while others fall apart? It comes down to resilience. As a character trait, resilience refers to one's ability to successfully adapt with ease to life's challenges, pick themselves up off of the floor, and continue to move forward. Life throws us as a lot of curve balls, but we have the power to rise above our challenges. It all starts with our mindset. Resilience is not a rare ability. Anyone can build it, and I'm here to show you how. Are you ready to learn how you can build resilience, transform your challenges into successes, and be in control of your destiny?

Believe in yourself and anything is possible! Unfortunately our inner critics try to convince us that we don't have what it takes to do great things; that we will never maximize our potential. As a result, we don't think and dream big enough. We freeze and become victims of our minds. I'm here to tell you that it's time to stop limiting yourself and playing down your awesomeness. Don't hide in the shadows. Rise up, embrace your authenticity, and know your worth. If you need some validation along the way, I'll be in your corner, cheering you on, reminding you how amazing you are. Believe in yourself and anything is possible.

Do you ever feel like something is missing in your life, but you can't pinpoint what it is? It's possible that you aren't living in alignment with your souls purpose. If you don't know why you are here, it can be tough to feel inspired about anything, or keep going when life tries to knock you on you down. Too many of us get fixated on figuring on what our life purpose is, that we get overwhelmed and don't know where to start. The problem isn't that you don't know what your purpose is; the problem is how you are trying to find it. In the words of Buddha, "The purpose of life is to find your purpose, and give your whole heart and soul to it." Are you ready to learn how you can find your purpose?