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This isn't a spooky story. But I definitely had an ADHD Meltdown. It started out with a school holiday and ended with me questioning the direction of my entire life and business. This is the story and what I did to dig my way out of it - with a teensy* bit of ADHD science thrown in. Link to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Adult ADHD Link to The ADHD Enclave

Several years ago when I was writing more posts about homemaking someone suggested I produce an ADHD Home Management binder. I laughed. A lot. Because I am absolutely not an expert on managing a home with or without ADHD. But I will say I've come to terms with how ADHD affects my ability to manage my home. And I've developed systems that work FOR ME. I don't claim to know how to help everyone. In this podcast episode I discuss simple household management and cleaning schedules.  I'll break down five ways to simplify your home management, including: Plan less. Stop making massive to-do lists. Cook less. Simplify your meal planning and cooking. Choose just one planner or calendar. One day per week take a break from household chores. Limit your use of apps on your phone. The more apps you have to check-in with each day, the more time you will spend on said apps.  The second part of the podcast is around cleaning schedules. I have women ask me every day for specific cleaning schedules, tips, hacks etc. I don't do hacks, I can only tell you what works for me. The Bottom Line is this : DO WHAT YOU CAN, WHEN YOU CAN. That's it. Keep it that simple. Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD (The book I couldn't remember in the podcast!)  Clutter Bug - so much fun A Slob Comes Clean - more organizing fun Join the Enclave and hang out with us while we work toward a calmer, more satisfying life WITH ADHD.

This is the podcast version of one of my most popular posts.  I talk to a lot of women with ADHD. Some of then work at home, some of them work in the home. No matter what form of, "work" my community members do, they are always working extremely hard. In some respects harder than their neurotypical counterparts. Listen as I break down the four most common complaints I hear from ADHD women at home: Organizational difficulties. Either we don't know how to start or we get hyperfocused and burn ourselves out before the job is done. Working memory issues. It's hard to get anything done when you cannot remember what you were thinking thirty seconds ago. When your thoughts, ideas, and inspiration are constantly in flux it leads to overwhelm. (And low motivation) Avoidance. Umm we don't like to do boring things. Cleaning, homemaking, and organizing is boring.  Multitasking/lack of awareness. In an attempt to overcompensate, many of us start multitasking. In doing so we miss critical information and interactions with the people in our homes. And we also do annoying things like leaving every cabinet door in the kitchen hanging open. The bottom line: Stop comparing yourself to other people. Accept what is. Sometimes good enough is good enough. And don't forget to laugh.

There are millions articles online about parenting ADHD children, but there are very few about Parents With ADHD. I've written about it. ADDitude Magazine has had some coverage of it. But there is not a lot of research available about how having ADHD as an adult impacts our ability to parent. As you can imagine, I got REALLY excited when I noticed Dr. Marcy Caldwell's session on the 2019 ADHD Conference website. Her session is entitled, Permission Slips, Lunches, Bedtimes and Beyond: Strategies for Surviving Parenthood with ADHD. You know me when I get excited! I fired off an email to Dr. Caldwell asking her to be on the podcast and spilling my guts about this website and my interest in parenting WITH ADHD. After we got our schedules aligned we talked. And the results are this amazing podcast episode. When we have kids our own issues become amplified. In this episode you will hear: Why life management is where we need to start Calming the chaos can actually be very emotional Why you can't just focus on practical strategies without working on the emotional side at the same time The struggle to juggle all the balls as a parent with ADHD Why distracted parenting is a big problem for us How being a parent with ADHD might be an advantage if your child also has ADHD The role of self-care in being the parent you want to be (and treating your ADHD) For more info or to contact Dr. Caldwell: Dr. Marcy Caldwell Rittenhouse Psychological Assessments

 Meal planning is only hard if you make it that way. There I said it. This is going to be a practical, straight-forward lesson on meal planning for busy women.  I am doing a pop-up at this year's ADHD Conference about meal planning. Because I'm good at it and well...I love it. This is the breakdown: Stock your kitchen - make sure all you/your family's favorite foods are on hand. (This makes your life easier when you don't have an actual plan)  Keep it simple - do not cook every day, do not try fancy recipes that require 25 ingredients Use the magic of the interwebs to find easy recipes, OR Start with a protein, then add side dishes Don't force yourself to meal prep, even though it's trendy Always shop with a grocery list (favorite foods + what you need to make a couple meals) Tools of the trade - crock pots, Instant pots (affiliate link) and toaster ovens Meal planning services are affordable and NOT a luxury Consider grocery pick-up or delivery because it will save your sanity Here is the link to the 2019 ADHD Conference - Come and hang out with me, Dani Donovan, and Jessica McCabe from How to ADHD. Here is the link to my inexpensive ebook collection - Including my Meal Planning ebook Link to the ADHD Enclave - to hang out with me and my girls

Same podcast, new name.

In this episode I talk about some of the limiting beliefs and fears that have impacted my life and my business. Then I delve into the top 6 limiting beliefs I hear from ADHD women. Including Everyone is judging me I cannot/will not be successful I'm not worthy or deserving I always experience rejection It's too late to make changes in my life I'm not strong enough to change/handle my life Just a heads up: These are all BS.  LINK TO MY PRIVATE COMMUNITY LINK TO THE ADHD CONFERENCE

The audio version of the written post. Not a post about ADHD. Or at least, not directly. We with ADHD often see things in black and white ways, so letting go of people and beliefs can be quite difficult for us. If you’re anything like me, you don’t catch the lessons that are layered in the middle of the shit sandwich. A lost relationship, or personal failure, is very hard for us to come back from and we have trouble seeing how any of our current suffering might benefit us in the future.

I was going to call this episode something funny like "Lets talk about (ADHD) SEX."  Just to get people's attention.  But then I decided to behave like a professional and name it after Dr. Ari Tuckman's new book, ADHD After Dark. About a year ago I walked up to Dr. Tuckman after hearing him speak and sort of got all fan-girl on him. But he was really nice about it, and didn't even seem freaked out when I emailed him randomly and asked if he would talk about his book on my podcast. So we scheduled a time AND I enlisted the Hubs to talk about our sex life.  I'll be writing a more detailed post about ADHD relationships, sex, and Dr. Tuckman's book in the future.  For now, enjoy this funny but also VERY informative conversation.  In this episode, you will hear: The origins, and results of Dr. Tuckman's sex survey The ADHD effect on relationships and sexual satisfaction Gender differences in, "mixed" ADHD couples  The sexual eagerness cluster in men & women The importance of managing ADHD  All the ways ADHD squeezes out time for sex The parent-child dynamic My sex life (if you are curious) ADHD AFTER DARK - link to buy MORE ATTENTION, LESS DEFICIT - link to buy UNDERSTAND YOUR BRAIN, GET MORE DONE (EF WORKBOOK) - Link to buy

Do you LOVE what you do? I mean really, really love it. Like you wake up on Monday morning and you are so excited to start another week. Ooooh here's another question: How many careers have you had? We with ADHD tend to have a fraught relationship with work.  Our interests and passions are forever changing. Even work we love can become routine and boring. And with ADHD boredom = inaction. Shell Mendelson is an ADHD coach with a background in vocational counseling - and yes, she has ADHD!  Listen in as she talks about : Her own diagnosis in her 50s The super successful business she created that ultimately FAILED Her training in the, "Parachute Method" from Richard Bolles The role of childhood passions in finding adult fulfillment Self-accommodation at work The importance of environment/working conditions for ADHD folks The true purpose of an interview How we limit ourselves based on our perceived limitations And enjoy listening to Liz get some career coaching of her own. 

Listen in as Samantha Cooper and I discuss her unconventional approach to coaching adults with ADHD. Samantha Cooper is a graduate of ADDCA and has a background in public health and epidemiology and takes an interest in recently diagnosed adults with ADHD and other comorbid conditions. Samantha is passionate about social justice and welcomes clients who have (or have had) unconventional, non-normative, and/or marginalized experiences and identities, including but not limited to: blended families (e.g. divorce, separation, adoption, multiple co-parents, chosen family, etc) family estrangement transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming LGBT, LGBTQIA, QUILTBAG — lesbian, gay bisexual, queer, asexual, pansexual, intersex polyamorous, polyamory, polyam, open relationships BDSM / kink unconventional occupations (e.g. activists, artists, performers, sex educators, sexuality coaches/surrogates) During this conversation you will hear Samantha explain the concepts such as intersectionality, boundaries, and verbal processing. Samantha will be presenting at the Annual International Conference on ADHD this November.

Parents can help or hurt the process of our children finding their life's work - it's as much about controlling our own expectations as it is about guiding theirs. In this podcast you will hear: - What is a gap year? - How parents can avoid negative messaging - Why college is NOT for everyone - Managing parental expectations - Common challenges in college - Choosing and changing majors - The importance of doing research - Utilizing on-campus resources - Anxiety as an underlying factor for the success of our kids Don't forget to pick up Lynn's free download just for See in ADHD Listeners! - lmrcoaching.com/seeinadhd

My son is entering third grade, so I've had four years to figure out how NOT to handle back to school. I decided this year to attempt*** to be more intentional with my preparations. In this episode you will hear: - The importance of checking the school website (even if you don't want to.) - Shopping for back to school as a way to get kids excited - Shifting routines incrementally back in the direction of school-day schedules Both kids and parents need support in making this transition. And no matter how you play it - it is a transition. Back to school is not easy, but it can be simple. Link to the ADHD Enclave -https://the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/settings/landing-page Link to the 2019 ADHD Conference - theadhdconference.org Click to view: show page on Awesound

My son is entering third grade, so I've had four years to figure out how NOT to handle back to school. I decided this year to attempt*** to be more intentional with my preparations. In this episode you will hear: - The importance of checking the school website (even if you don't want to.) - Shopping for back to school as a way to get kids excited - Shifting routines incrementally back in the direction of school-day schedules Both kids and parents need support in making this transition. And no matter how you play it - it is a transition. Back to school is not easy, but it can be simple. Link to the ADHD Enclave -https://the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/settings/landing-page Link to the 2019 ADHD Conference - theadhdconference.org Click to view: show page on Awesound

My son is entering third grade, so I've had four years to figure out how NOT to handle back to school. I decided this year to attempt*** to be more intentional with my preparations. In this episode you will hear: - The importance of checking the school website (even if you don't want to.) - Shopping for back to school as a way to get kids excited - Shifting routines incrementally back in the direction of school-day schedules Both kids and parents need support in making this transition. And no matter how you play it - it is a transition. Back to school is not easy, but it can be simple. Link to the ADHD Enclave -https://the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/settings/landing-page Link to the 2019 ADHD Conference - theadhdconference.org Click to view: show page on Awesound

This year's Annual International Conference on ADHD will be taking place November 7-9th in Philadelphia, PA. If you have ADHD, or love someone who does this event is the best source of information and inspiration you are going to find. Let me break it down: 1. The conference is not just for doctors. All kinds of people attend - from parents, to adults, to school counselors. And regular people like me! 2. There are sessions about everything under the sun. Everything. 3. The best experts and researchers will be there. And you can ask them questions. 4. There are fun non-session activities as well, and time to meet other people. It's a very warm and relaxed environment. Here is the link to the registration website. - theadhdconference.org/home Click to view: show page on Awesound

This year's Annual International Conference on ADHD will be taking place November 7-9th in Philadelphia, PA. If you have ADHD, or love someone who does this event is the best source of information and inspiration you are going to find. Let me break it down: 1. The conference is not just for doctors. All kinds of people attend - from parents, to adults, to school counselors. And regular people like me! 2. There are sessions about everything under the sun. Everything. 3. The best experts and researchers will be there. And you can ask them questions. 4. There are fun non-session activities as well, and time to meet other people. It's a very warm and relaxed environment. Here is the link to the registration website. - theadhdconference.org/home Click to view: show page on Awesound

This year's Annual International Conference on ADHD will be taking place November 7-9th in Philadelphia, PA. If you have ADHD, or love someone who does this event is the best source of information and inspiration you are going to find. Let me break it down: 1. The conference is not just for doctors. All kinds of people attend - from parents, to adults, to school counselors. And regular people like me! 2. There are sessions about everything under the sun. Everything. 3. The best experts and researchers will be there. And you can ask them questions. 4. There are fun non-session activities as well, and time to meet other people. It's a very warm and relaxed environment. Here is the link to the registration website. - theadhdconference.org/home Click to view: show page on Awesound

For ADHD moms, it's tough to balance healthy eating, planning ahead, and then listening to a houseful of picky eaters complain. If you've ever spent hours prepping and preparing a new recipe only to have your family complain, OR if you've attempted to lower your own stress by serving leftovers and listened to the whining, you know exactly what I mean. So I brought in a holistic health coach friend of mine, Anna Rubano, to talk about all of this as well as the role of gut health in managing ADHD. Feel free to listen if you don't wish to read. In this episode you will hear: - Anna's personal history with ADHD - How ADHD shows up in her life - What led her to become a holistic health coach - The underrated, but VERY important, impact of diet on your functioning with or without ADHD - Why we need to lose the guilt about pleasing everyone in our house - Keeping it simple when meal planning for both you and your family If you enjoyed this conversation, you will probably enjoy hanging out with me in my private community. Check us out! The Enclave has no ads, no trolls, and I'm not selling your info! - the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/plans/8951?bundle_token=bd114edd828dc9916fce597c66bb2fc8&utm_source=manual Learn more about Anna's coaching services here - intunewithannak.com Stalk Anna on Instagram here - instagram.com/intunewithannak/ Our Transformative Journey Book - amzn.to/2lkyxgW Click to view: show page on Awesound

For ADHD moms, it's tough to balance healthy eating, planning ahead, and then listening to a houseful of picky eaters complain. If you've ever spent hours prepping and preparing a new recipe only to have your family complain, OR if you've attempted to lower your own stress by serving leftovers and listened to the whining, you know exactly what I mean. So I brought in a holistic health coach friend of mine, Anna Rubano, to talk about all of this as well as the role of gut health in managing ADHD. Feel free to listen if you don't wish to read. In this episode you will hear: - Anna's personal history with ADHD - How ADHD shows up in her life - What led her to become a holistic health coach - The underrated, but VERY important, impact of diet on your functioning with or without ADHD - Why we need to lose the guilt about pleasing everyone in our house - Keeping it simple when meal planning for both you and your family If you enjoyed this conversation, you will probably enjoy hanging out with me in my private community. Check us out! The Enclave has no ads, no trolls, and I'm not selling your info! - the-adhd-enclave.mn.co/plans/8951?bundle_token=bd114edd828dc9916fce597c66bb2fc8&utm_source=manual Learn more about Anna's coaching services here - intunewithannak.com Stalk Anna on Instagram here - instagram.com/intunewithannak/ Our Transformative Journey Book - amzn.to/2lkyxgW Click to view: show page on Awesound