Simply Abundant Intuitive Hour

When we think of someone who’s rigid, we picture a person who is tightly wound, wearing stuffy clothes and pursed lips… right? Actually, no. Rigidity often shows up dressed to the nines, flashing a smile. Outwardly put together. Things just get serious pretty quickly when you butt up against a rigid person, or mess with the flow of their stream. Know anyone like that? Maybe YOU? Most of us don’t think we’re rigid. We see ourselves as accommodating and go-with-the-flow instead of recognizing how hard we fight to stay in our comfort zone. We operate on autopilot, thinking it’s perfectly reasonable not to pause or question (doesn’t everyone do that?). How does rigidity show up in your life, and how does it limit you? Listen to the podcast, then take this quiz to see how rigid you really are bit.ly/1VuA6Bq or www.tracycrossley.com/rigidity/

Why do we STILL worry about disappointing our parents? Do we really have that much influence over making them happy? Or do we think we have the power to keep them from being sad? When it comes to our relationship with our parents, we quickly slip into old childhood roles. It’s easy to forget we’re grownups too! We second-guess our choices because we’re programmed to think “Daddy (or mommy) knows best.” But when we let our parents’ fear or prejudice or rules dictate our choices, we’re really saying, “I don’t value me enough.” Guilt wins. So how do you stop feeling guilty and speak your truth? I’ve got five steps to help cut that umbilical cord.

Many of us listen to old voices that tell us what we can and cannot do. Often it starts in childhood (i.e. “it’s impossible to succeed as an artist” or “you’re so good at math, you should go into engineering!”). Hear me when I say this… you are NOT obligated to live up to someone else’s expectations. Period. Doing so can result in feeling disconnected and depressed. But here’s the good news: It’s not too late to step into the driver’s seat of your own life. Living your truth requires listening to your intuition, which is probably not in alignment with your list of “shoulds.” What’s the worst that can happen by following your bliss? Follow it through to the end result, then ask yourself if it’s better or worse than living a limited life. Every day that you put energy towards what you love, you win. You become the person you really are, and those old voices start to quiet down. Learn what amazing effects await when you stop listening to other people and start listening to yourself. You may just be tempted to try it.

On 2.6.16: Listen in on my interview with my friend, Maria Saganis. Since birth Maria has been communicating with the after life. Learn how this gift showed up in her life, how it has affected her life and the lives of others! Maria is an amazing healer and takes what she does in stride, learn about her adventures at haunts, with Rudolph Valentino and much more. Click on this link to find out more: www.tracycrossley.com/psychic-medium…ast-interview/

I suck at dating. In other words…I feel totally inept. I love myself I do, but when it comes to online dating it is a difficult thing to convey pictures and the written word…at least for me. I know it works, because I know people who are happy together and met this way….but for most of them it was unconventional. Join me in owning who you are and not losing it while dating. I will go through some of the rules to dating (and how they don't apply) and bring some lightness to a topic, which for many of us singles makes us feel like it's a job or that perhaps we have a fatal flaw. Find how to remain authentic and meet someone without making yourself into a project. You can subscribe to my podcast at Soundcloud, Stitcher and iTunes

Do you kick people to the curb prematurely? Or say/do things quickly to demonstrate your strong resolve? We're all in an emotional rush move on from things, influenced by the expectations of others. Why do we set these timetables around moving quickly in and out of relationships? Every time we do it, we hurt ourselves. If you're thinking about breaking up with someone, but struggling (one day you feel talked into it, the next day you don't), then you’re not approaching it from the inside. We spend way too much time paying attention to what those around us do, and what they tell us to do in our situation. Stop. Breakups are about ourselves… not the other person. Learn how to connect with yourself and move in the direction you authentically want to go—when you’re ready. To help with this process, download “How to Know When You’re Ready to End a Relationship”bit.ly/1q0HNDL  

Compassion is defined as benevolence, charity, empathy, grace, kindness, and good will. It’s different from sympathy. You may think you only deserve compassion once you accomplish something(so you deserve it), but then after you accomplish it, you feel you could have done better. It wasn’t perfect. When you’re in a state of comparing or labeling something as not good enough because it’s not perfect, where can compassion live? It cannot exist. This idea that we must show up in a certain way and be “perfect” for others to accept us is backwards. You must be compassionate with yourself first, and then with the rest of the world. And to do that, you have to take off the mask. Perfection is an illusion, and it doesn’t force others into compassion for you. Perfectionism keeps us from acceptance. This week I look at the push and pull between compassion and perfection. The mind is never satisfied when it is looking for the perfect picture. And compassion is necessary for self-acceptance. Learn how to dig yourself and get past that inner judge!

Angry people—we fear them, unsure of when they might blow. Yet at the same time, we have this idea that anger equals strength. While it can certainly bring us to a place of action, is that really the best motivation? There is no shortage of resources and support groups for anger management. It pervades our culture. But the thing is, to really get a grip on anger, you have to look in the mirror and stop blaming others. Our emotional triggers are clues to how we treat ourselves: we didn’t set boundaries, we accepted poor treatment from others, we didn’t value ourselves. Why do we do this? It just makes us powerless. Learn to improve the quality of your life by getting at the root of your anger and living a more peaceful existence. To help with this, I’ve created a free resource: Controlling Anxiety, Anger and Resentment in 3 Steps. Download it at tracycrossley.com/controlanger.

We do not trust ourselves. Our value is at stake. We’ve failed before—what will be different this time? We beat ourselves up about what didn’t work. Our mind starts second guessing what we want to do and what we’ve done in the past (our successes and failures). As a result, we stay stuck, and for a long time. Perhaps a lifetime. We do this with relationships, work and even something as simple as going out to dinner. The worst part is it keeps us away from our dreams. Learn how to stop second guessing your decisions and trust yourself. And feel free to download this checklist of tips on how to stop after you listen to the show. bit.ly/1WP8BkG

I’ve brought back Psychic Medium Maria Saganis to talk about self-love: what it is and what it isn’t. While it’s a serious topic that deserves awareness and attention, we had some funny, light-hearted moments discussing boundaries (or lack thereof!) and keeping our mouths shut so as not to disappoint someone. Self-esteem is directly linked to how much you love yourself, so it’s time to step up the self-care. To learn about Maria, visit www.tracycrossley.com/psychic-medium…ast-interview/.

Many people live a life of quiet desperation; settle for mediocrity and tell themselves it's OK. I know I've done it. It could be a lifestyle, a relationship, or financial freedom based off someone else's income or your own (but you dislike your life--tremendously); you could feel horrible, because you don't exercise regularly or have 'bad' habits...whatever it is that keeps you in a tug of war with yourself. The little things, are BIG things. Whether its working out or what we do for a living…or the relationship we’re stuck in, fear can make what is mediocre appear to be enough. We fear loss most often. Letting go of the ideas around loss are the hardest mental concepts for us to release. So listen to find out how to not only let go of the small things keeping your life mediocre, but the big things too. Learn how there's timing and small steps involved (so you don't grasp onto what you fear letting go) in the process. If you really want to attract abundance, love, happiness and the life you dreamed, please tune in.

Want to create a happy relationship or prepare yourself for a future partner? We must be what we ask another for first. We must start somewhere and that is within ourselves. Love is universal. We love others, but we allow so much to get in the way. Conditions. Yup, conditions based on our beliefs. If we want happy, healthy, giving, receiving, love, and experiencing ourselves unconditionally, then no one is stopping you but you. So why not listen in and get the ball rolling now. Download my free list of the ten things: http://bit.ly/1T4ABky

Listen in on my interview with my friend, Maria Saganis. Since birth Maria has been communicating with the after life. Learn how this gift showed up in her life, how it has affected her life and the lives of others! Maria is an amazing healer and takes what she does in stride, learn about her adventures at haunts, with Rudolph Valentino and much more. Click on this link to find out more: www.tracycrossley.com/psychic-medium…ast-interview/

We can read all sorts of books and articles; seek out therapists, coaches and gurus, but still not really know if we’re moving toward different territory on our journey. When it comes to relationships, how can we tell if we’re really changing our perception, our feelings or how we approach them and the love we grow inside of ourselves? Join me for a quick list to reference in helping you to recognize the little things you do, which highlight major shifts.

Buying into our stories we have built takes no effort at all. We don't even notice it's a story, we just believe it's the way things are or we are, and nothing is going to change. The problem is how limiting these stories keep us, when they're fear-based. It's how we think only certain things are possible for us, even though we want so much more. It's like living in a fog and the truth is clarity. Playing small leads us to dissatisfaction in dating and relationships, we tend to settle for much less than would feed our souls. Why? Fear. Fear shows up in a variety of ways from ambiguity to anxiety....and making it seem impossible to believe reality could be different. Listen in on this podcast to hear the mysterious (and not so mysterious) ways fear keeps you single or in a relationship you wanted to walk away from a long time ago. Find some valuable tips on allowing help and making space for it to happen that will lead to changing your reality.

Compartmentalizing is an emotional fail in relationships. Many of us thought as we got older that control of our emotions meant to disconnect from them and carry on. The cost of doing this not only adds up in our relationships, but also on the stress and anxiety we carry with us daily.  All the strategizing and inauthentic ways we show up has a way of tearing down the weak foundations we build in this manner. Appearances are always deceiving, none of us really know what someone feels inside, unless they share it and the more transparent you are in your communication the better you feel and the better your relationships work too. Join me on my last live show (get podcast details from me this week) as I discuss being numb emotionally and how you really don't end up winning and how to change it, so you have successful relationships. 

Narcissism & Victimization may be interchangeable in some cases, and does it matter which label you give? I mean they both spell dysfunction and toxicity for most people. How much narcissism is a good thing? Wait, what? The word narcissism does not necessarily mean it's time for a scythe and black hood.....sometimes it is an indication of both people involved in the situation, after all we do reflect one another (whether we like it or not). And if the benefit is to learn love yourself more, so you end up free from victimization, then it can be a good thing....as the bottom line is to a certain degree all human beings are narcissists. So what's the problem? Most of us do not like the lessons we go through in life that are different than the perfect picture in our heads, but most of us have no clue that we don't act in ways that support the 'perfect picture' in our heads. Good times, right? And many of us were brought up in less than stellar environments where our expectations of others were shaped. Many of us do not realize the depth of what our beliefs and patterns do in terms of our choices, so we end up in the 'imperfect' picture with someone who we consider a narcissist (because they won't give us what we want or have no clue to our feelings) and we're the victim. Or vice versa, or both at the same time. Find out what I am talking about and what you can do about it in your own life. 

Listen to the replay on hard relationships, seems all this time with family or being alone can make us wonder how we got here. Ever find yourself sacrificing to get any sign of affection, kindness or love? Feel there's supposed to be some pay off to this hard relationship? After talking to a few clients, and recognizing how my old beliefs of scarcity affected me in past relationships, I decided this would make a great topic for this show.  Why do some of us accept so little in a relationship? Perhaps, we don't even call it a 'real' relationship, because there's no commitment. When we believe there's not enough love or we're not enough, it'll keep showing up as hard work (in our relationships). We may believe we've got to slog hours in the coal mines, before there's a speck of reward, and that's the issue...reward. To be in a relationship is not to win a prize after putting yourself through hell. Being in a relationship is a different kind of commitment, one which many people who have been divorced or through a series of serious relationships can find themselves feeling they deserve less and less, instead of more.  Join me to flip the switch. Learn how to switch from scarcity to real love in this show.

Forget resolutions and being uptight as we roll into 2016, now's the time to let go, let loose and take some risks. Who needs those stinkin' resolutions? I wrote an article on Huffington Post a couple years ago and decided I'd share it plus some other points on making changes for 2016! As many people get caught up in the setting of resolutions, the failure of the resolutions and the guilt, shame and other feelings, which do not inspire anyone to make permanent change. Isn't it time to go into the new year not full of expectations, but actually releasing what really holds you back from committing to fulfilling success rather than a list of 'have to's aka resolutions? I know it is for me, and the year can only positively reflect what authentic risks we're willing to take! So...it's time to get risky and make your mark like never before!  Join me for a fun and extraordinary show!

Most of us look back on our past and see an event that was pretty painful. Perhaps we never resolved it. Now in our present, we can surely find something that gives us pain, right? It may not be to the same degree as the past pain, but it seems like the same lack of control over an outcome. Or maybe a situation continues to disappoint you and you do not know why. It is our perception and re-creating the same thing, different day! Want change? We tend to keep searching for the same emotions and the same energy unless we have awareness. The world is cast as characters in our play. Our desire to feel disappointment, doubt or pain is the driving force underneath us, unless we're very aware of what we're drawn to and why. Learn what the hell I am talking about in this week’s show. You'll understand how to shift your inner dynamics to attract more of what you want and get the hell out of  your relationship with pain, disappointment and doubt. (or any other negative stuck feeling) Change is possible in the next moment!