Soul Grit

TW: This episode contains a story of violence and assault. Our guest will share how she has overcome the trauma that happened to her, but if you are sensitive to stories of violence, please choose another episode for today. Even if your personal story sounds like an episode of Dateline, there is hope, healing, and forgiveness possible. Our guest, Kimberly Haar, has a story that is difficult to believe--especially since she has overcome assault, violence, and even kidnapping to give hope now to other people as a trauma therapist. Her book Healing from Life’s Deepest Hurts: Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss, or Trauma shares her story as well as practical tools on healing with God's help. Even if your hurts are not dramatic like Kim's, you can benefit from the help offered here. Kimberly Haar, LMFT, LPC is a trauma therapist and author based in Oklahoma. Find her online at https://kimberlyhaar.com/. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

Do you change and grow when you have those "Aha!" moments? When you understand why? Or does change actually happen when new habits, consistency, and accountability are in place? Brandon Joffe talks about the "seduction of why" in therapy. (Brandon also offers great wisdom for parents who may be struggling with their teens--including the host!) Brandon Joffe, LCSW, is the host of the "Hope for Parents of Struggling Teens" podcast and the director of Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Southern California. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

How does growing up in an Asian or Asian-American culture shape the way you live out your Christian faith? How do traditional Asian values measure up against biblical values? And how can we understand attachment to a loving God as a basis for our mental health? Gary Quan, LMFT, James Chen, AMFT, and Ari X. return for Part 2 of the conversation about their new book Asian American Chronicles - Tales of Mental Health and Hope. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

What is unique about mental, emotional, and relational health in an AAPI (Asian American Pacific Islander) context? Our guests who are uniquely positioned to respond because of their identities as Christians, as Asian Americans, and as mental health providers are here for our first ever panel conversation with three guests. Gary Quan, LMFT is a return guest on the Soul Grit Podcast. Gary spearheaded the project to create Asian American Chronicles - Tales of Mental Health and Hope, a new book sharing perspectives on several aspects of the Asian American experience of family, church, and culture. Contributing authors Ari X and James Chen, AMFT also join the podcast. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

Why do we seem to repeat the same emotional patterns over our lifetimes? And why do we pair up with partners who activate those same dysfunctional patterns? Counseling veteran Dr. Gary Lawrence is here to share his wisdom from over 50 years of counseling, ministry, and coaching. He'll show us how our addiction to our own early rejection is tearing us apart. Dr. Gary Lawrence served as a pastor, counselor, radio host, and investor before leveraging his hard-won wisdom as an author and coach. You can find out more at https://rejectionjunkies.com/ Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

ADHD is just a diagnosis for hyper little boys, right? Not so! Many more adults are realizing that some of the struggles they face in adulthood--causing problems in work, relationships, and parenting--are actually due to ADHD. Perhaps a social media post has you wondering if this is you. Check out Tiffany's story to see if you relate, and listen to Ann's input from a therapist's perspective. Tiffany Hernandez hasn't always known that she has ADHD. But now that she does, she is learning to communicate, advocate, and find ways of being her best self. She is a homeschool mom and the host of The Ultimate Homeschool Podcast. You can find all her links at https://linktr.ee/ultimatehomeschool. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

More and more kids and adults are being diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other types of neurodivergence. If you love someone on the spectrum, you might wonder how he or she processes concepts like salvation or the church. How can parents help autistic kids come to know and love Jesus? Larah from @raisingautisticdisciples is here to encourage parents on this journey. Larah Roberts has worked in ministry since college, but it was when her son was diagnosed with ASD as a young child that she began to study and create resources for parents in the same situation. You can find her on Facebook or Instagram @raisingautisticdisciples and download a free seven-day devotional for parents of kids with autism. Check out her book How to Advocate & Stay Christian: For Parents of Special Kids. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

Sexual addiction is a cry for intimacy and connection that has gone awry. The betrayal a partner feels is excruciating. So how can couples heal, move beyond addictive behaviors, and find true intimacy? Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are here to share their journey and how they are helping couples heal and discover new levels of intimacy. Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are a Coach-Therapist team with seminary backgrounds who offer coaching, retreats, and more, including small groups and a book--all with the mission of helping couples find true intimacy and connection. Find out more at raabsmithteam.com. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

We never want our children to suffer, but tragedy can strike any family. How do you talk to your kids about death? How do you lead them through grief when you are grieving yourself? Erin Nelson and Colleen Montague are here to talk about Jessica's House, a grief center serving families in Central California, and their new book, When Grief Comes Home: A Gentle Guide for Living Through Loss While Supporting Your Child. Erin Nelson is the founder of Jessica's House and Colleen Montague is a licensed therapist serving as Program Director for Jessica's House. You can find more resources at www.jessicashouse.org and check out their podcast: When Grief Comes Home. Find a grief center near you by searching www.nacg.org. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

When a life-altering tragedy, or even just a big disappointment, threatens to derail your hopes and dreams, you might need a little bit of hope to believe that God plans to get you through it. After her husband's death, Tricia believed that her life was over, but God showed her that she could have "another beautiful life." Today she shares about how you can find peace, gain confidence, and transform your mind. Tricia Zody is a Christian life coach, speaker, and podcaster, and now the author of her first book Another Beautiful Life. Catch up with Tricia at www.triciazody.com. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

After a traumatic divorce, Kathy struggled to find the support she needed as a Christian woman, so she created it! In this episode, Kathy shares her pain, hard-won wisdom, and compassion for those who are navigating being divorced with all the changes to social life, church community, sense of self, and parenting. Kathy Kaspar is a certified coach, writer, speaker, and leader of the Success After the Storm community for Christian women coming through divorce. Find out more at successafterthestorm.com. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

It's a new year and we're being bombarded with messages about goals, resolutions, and transformations. It's high time that we get practical about setting goals in a way that works with our brains and honors God. In this episode, Renee Booe helps us to understand that we first consider who we want to be before we can decide what we should do. Renee Booe is a Biblical Brain-Based Life Coach and host of the Personal Growth for Christians podcast. You can find out more about coaching based in neuro-faith integration at www.reneebooe.com or find her on IG @reneebooe. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

ADHD brains are fascinating, creative, and capable of amazing things, but if you or someone you love struggles with the difficult parts of ADHD, this episode is for you. Chad Potts is back to talk about lifestyle changes, parenting strategies, and how pharmaceuticals can offer support. Chad Potts is a pharmacist, pastor, coach, and host of the RevRx Podcast. Find out more at www.therevrx.com and get his newsletter to be notified when the 40 Grit Challenge returns in 2025. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

If you were a youth group kid in the 90s, you are already familiar with the movement now known as "Purity Culture," a social, political, and religious movement aimed at pushing young people to "save" themselves for marriage. While there were biblical roots to this idea, many young people suffered trauma, shame, and misshapen sexual identities from some of the tactics. Dr. Camden Morgante is a psychologist who writes, speaks, and counsels people who want to recover from damage done by Purity Culture and reconstruct their faith in a healthy way. You can find more about her at www.drcamden.com and be sure to pick up her new book, Recovering from Purity Culture: Dismantle the Myths, Reject Shame-Based Sexuality, and Move Forward in Your Faith . Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

The holiday season is often a mix of stress and joy, but if you've lost someone, you might be dreading it. Bart Blair lost his teen son in 2021 and is using his experience in pastoral ministry to process through the complicated feelings of grief during the Christmas season. Trigger Warning: Teen suicide. Bart Blair is a pastor, author, and podcaster who specializes in church marketing and growth. Check out his new book Grief Makes Christmas Complicated and head over to his website makemoredisciples.com where you can ask Bart to pray for you through the holiday season. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

What does neurodiversity mean in the context of your family? Why does God allow some of us to suffer more than others? How can we think biblically about the the different ways our brains work? Emily Flowers is a blogger and a mom to a neurodivergent child who suffers with a psychiatric diagnosis. Through years of struggling, she is discovering how Jesus makes her radiant as she looks to Him. Find her on IG @neuro.radiant and on her blog at neuroradiant.blog. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

Psychiatrist, psychologist, or therapist? Which one should you see and when? Dr. Uejin Kim is a Texas-based child psychiatrist who started her private practice because she wanted to integrate her faith more authentically in her treatment of patients. In this episode, she discusses how her healing from church hurt and acknowledging her spiritual gifts has made her a better psychiatrist. Dr. Uejin Kim is the host of the Good New Mental Health Podcast and the owner of Restore Psychiatry located in San Antonio, TX. Look this spring for new online courses that combine Dr. Kim's wisdom and efficiency at www.uejinkim.com. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

Have you noticed how divided our country is feeling just weeks away from Election Day? How do you deal with anxiety related to politics? How do therapists keep it together in sessions when clients have different beliefs? How can our Christian identity help us face this political climate with faith and hope? In this solo episode, Ann talks through the reasons for so much political anxiety, how therapists are helping, and how our faith can overcome division and angst. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

How many feelings do you have in an average week? Probably a lot more than you acknowledge, express, or investigate! Depending on the culture and faith tradition that you've grown up in, you might not have learned how to think about your emotions, let alone talk to God about them. That can leave you feeling alone, awkward, and disconnected from God and others. Anjuli Paschall is helping us learn how to identify, describe, and surrender our emotions. Anjuli Paschall is an author, spiritual director, and mom from San Diego, here to talk about her third book, Feel: A Collection of Liturgies Offering Hope for Every Complicated Emotion. You can find out more at anjulipaschall.com or on IG @lovealways.anjuli. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more. 

We all became adults with quirks, hang-ups, and self-protective masks. But what if you could really let your essential self out of hiding, live in an integrated way, and pursue your dreams with new resilience? Dr. Merry Lin is here to share about her new book Rebecoming: Come Out of Hiding to Live as Your God-Given Essential Self, where she shows how personalities are developed--and hopefully re-made more authentically in adulthood. Dr. Merry Lin is a psychologist and author based in Toronto, Canada. You can find out more at www.drmerry.com and on IG @drmerrylin. Follow @soulgritresources on FB and IG and email your questions and comments to info@soulgritresources.com. Sign up at www.soulgritresources.com to be the first to know about new blogs, episodes, and more.