Sovereign Men's Podcast

Hi Gentlemen. Today's show, starting somewhere between 12.30 and 1240 pm in the fb group is all about money blocks and your personality wealth code - the easy, fun way to build wallet filling independence and personal freedom. Protect yourself and your families future with this little known information. Step up and step out of the control matrix. Enjoy, leave questions and comments below. Join The Men's Goal Accountability Fortnightly Challenge! Create and achieve your goals, even stubborn ones that have eluded you in the past. Learn more about yourself than you can anywhere else! Self actualise, develop self mastery. Check it out. Use Perry's superpowers to your benefit. Book a free chat and work with a world-renowned profiler (like when you see a profiler on a show on the FBI/CIA) who will save you heaps of time and money getting to the root cause of challenges. Check it out.

Gentlemen - here is the topic for today's live into the facebook group at 12.30 pm AEST. At this point in history, we are, for the most part seeing a lack of wisdom. The zeitgeist is one of fear or anger. Anger is driven by fear. Fear impacts the brain, triggering the amygdala and decreasing the control of the prefrontal cortex. The loss of blood flow and neuronal activity in the prefrontal cortex makes you become 'dumber', incapable of wisdom and easily controlled by those that promise to alleviate your fear. On the energetic level, this fear disconnects you from your source, your internal guidance system that exists beyond the ego (the carrier of fear). The unboundless reservoir of knowledge is available below ego identity and is a source link to wisdom. It is not without deep meaning and significance the loss of the words 'wise' and 'wisdom' from modern vernacular. It is a direct representation of our times, which is based on materialism, neurotic fear of death and the deep desire for many to escape the adventure of life. Comfort is the catnip of the masses and the food of predators. What happens to societies when wisdom is no longer embodied or strived for. Where are the men, the holders of a potentially better future, dedicated to nobility in thinking and acting who seek wisdom as a guide? I will be exploring this and more in today's Sovereign Men's Academy Show. Join The Men's Goal Accountability Fortnightly Challenge! Create and achieve your goals, even stubborn ones that have eluded you in the past. Learn more about yourself than you can anywhere else! Self actualise, develop self mastery. Check it out. Use Perry's superpowers to your benefit. Book a free chat and work with a world-renowned profiler (like when you see a profiler on a show on the FBI/CIA) who will save you heaps of time and money getting to the root cause of challenges. Check it out.

In today's Sovereign Men's Academy Live Steam I will be taking a deep dive into this statement. Having the courage to choose truth over belonging is the path of a good quality moral man. This is easier said than done as your unconscious prefers belonging and acceptance. A evolving man must find out what is true, right, moral and just and the answers will most likely push you up against the thinking and believing of others. It will be a powerful session. Going live to the group at 12.30 pm. Share with others that are interested. See you soon Perry. Join The Men's Goal Accountability Fortnightly Challenge! Create and achieve your goals, even stubborn ones that have eluded you in the past. Learn more about yourself than you can anywhere else! Self actualise, develop self mastery. Check it out. Use Perry's superpowers to your benefit. Book a free chat and work with a world-renowned profiler (like when you see a profiler on a show on the FBI/CIA) who will save you heaps of time and money getting to the root cause of challenges. Check it out.

Making love is a form of respect and an incredible intimate bonding experience. Many men can't experience it - their bodies are shut down because they are emotionally shut down. It is also a metaphor for where you are at as a man and how emotionally intelligent you are. Check it out, enjoy and let me know what you think.   See you next time. Perry Mardon Join The Men's Goal Accountability Fortnightly Challenge!  Check it out. Use Perry's superpowers to your benefit. . Check it out. SMA FB community. 

A Noble Cause subjugates the sabotaging personas, engages and ennobles the courageous, wise supporting personas, helps create desired results and enables transformation and the cleaning up of one's act.  If you want better results in any area of your life or business, want to transform any behaviours, this episode is a must-watch. Join the SMA Facebook group.  Sign up for the latest information on get-togethers. 

Many men are men in body, but man-child in psychology. The man-child psychology is the state of many men and is harmful to oneself, goals, relationships, community and society, and impedes one's purpose and calling and eats away at a man's soul. We all have areas of man-child psychology to clean up, no matter our status and achievements. This episode will set you on your way. Time 16 Minutes. Full transcript. Hi and welcome to the Sovereign Mans Academy or SMH podcast. Men cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. The abyss of the unknown must be traversed for anything new to be created or discovered. In the 1940s, Marie Louise von Franz, a Swiss psychologist, created the phrase, the eternal child, to explain men in body but who are stuck in adolescent orientation, psychologically stunted in the maturation process. Like Peter Pan, refusing to grow up and embrace manhood, and in reality not knowing what manhood calls for. The man child lives from their adolescent psychology, coupled in nature with greater dependence on the mother. Whether in real life or a psychological habit, a hangover from their own parenting. After all, who else do we learn stages of development from, other than our parents, our elders in the hierarchy and our first primary caregiver - the mother. The bond starts early in the womb. Von Franz predicted that in the coming decades, what she called the problem of the man child would spread across the world and affect more and more individuals and society in general in a negative manner. Today we see men en masse feeling a sense of no meaning, purpose, disconnected spiritually, experiencing hopelessness, despair, or its bedfellow numbness, the addiction to the trivial, the shallows of the mind, going through the motions, slaves in a system, afraid, not standing up, addiction to substance, disconnected from the feminine, no connection to eros…where lust and heart are embraced in worship of the beloved, acting out against those they should protect. Comfort, the familiar, the known, the pursuit of pleasure becomes the trap and the way to ease their suffering. But too much comfort rots. Too much pleasure weakens; playing small, hiding, Going through the motions undermines deep meaning, fulfillment and achievement...but for many men in man child mode, there is no map for traversing the unknown. The purpose of this podcast is to provide a solution to those who suffer from this problem, and in reality, we all do; there is no escaping our need to clean up what is childish, what is adolescent in our psyches as we deepen into our hearts mission and purpose. To help solve this problem, we are going to provide an in-depth psychological analysis of the man child based on insights from Carl Jung. Let's start by looking at how a strong mother complex stops or limits development and the maturation of a man moving from adolescence to psychological adulthood. Throughout the history of evolutionary development, mothers and fathers have played different parental roles. Mothers have interacted with their children more than fathers; they maintain more physical and emotional contact and are more nurturing, comforting and empathetic to the physical, emotional pains and needs of the child. The mother is the emotional protector and nurturer of the child. Obviously, there are outliers to this, and in many cases, but not all, when the mother has not played that role, it is due to psychological wounding from her own family upbringing. This extremely intimate and close relationship with the good mother figure creates in the child the lasting emotional mark or a highly resistant psychological bond psychologists call a mother complex. Think about the womb, its warm embrace, and then years with mom nurturing us and keeping us safe from the perceived dangers of the world. Fathers do not create the same bond of dependency with the child. Instead, their role has traditionally been to provide the developing child with resources and protection, but just as importantly with guidance. The role of the father has been to help the child break free from their childish bond of dependency with the mother, to prepare them for the rigours and challenges of the world, typically starting in adolescence, to help him emerge into the world as an independent, capable and functional adult, capable of killing the dragons that comes his way. In most cultures throughout history, individuals transition from adolescence to adulthood with the help of initiations. Cross-culturally initiation was used to separate the youth from his mother, first physically and then psychologically. These rights were performed shortly after the onset of adolescence and managed by the elders, the respected males of the culture. A typical initiation has the adolescent forced into the unknown, away from the mother, from nurturing, from comfort, support and pleasure. Instead, he experienced real and imagined challenges, hardships and ordeals. This was the last time the youth would see his mother, sometimes for months. The early initiation stage represented the symbolic death of the youth's childhood, the loss of paradise, childish fantasies, the nurturing support of the mother, of pleasure, and the joys of irresponsibility. The second stage of initiation unfolding, a rebirth into self-sufficiency, independence, capacity, capability, skills, self-assuredness and proven completion into a more mature state of being. Imagine what the adolescent gains alone, hunting, fishing, camping to stay alive. Moving from adolescence state to man state. This initiation engages the hero archetype. Note, ancient initiations across cultures understood the need to separate the adolescent from the mother, setting challenges the boy had to overcome before seeing him as a man. The closest we come to these initiations today, for the most part, happens without the wisdom cultivating the initiation. Young lads learn to play rugby as an example, moms worrying about them being hurt, and dad insisting it's good for their male development. Often the hierarchy males in these modern forms of initiation are stuck in the adolescence stage themselves. Today we have no group initiation processes, where the entire tribe of males were a boys role model for a developed man. Instead, young men must turn to their own fathers to provide them with initiation into adulthood, but unfortunately, not all fathers can supply their children with this guidance, for to do so, the father must be strong and independent himself and emotionally present in the child's life. He must be able to show by example that there is something worth seeking, standing for and struggling for in this world. That display successfully encourages a young man to break from the comforts of childhood, he needs to be convinced there is somewhere worth going, with challenging oneself for. The father needs to be a role model of how to be in the world, how to treat people, women and children, How to bounce back from adversity, how to do the right thing. But many boys did not get this support, this modelling. Many young men are expected to leave the comforts of home to overcome their mother complex and to sculpt a life worth living without the psychological support of a father, embodied within their Psyche or in the real world. When I mention embodied in the Psyche, I mean the quality father character that develops within one's own Psyche after modelling the real quality father. Many men are expected to leave the comforts of home to overcome their mother complex and sculpt a life worth living without the psychological support of a father. The father activates the son's instinctive masculinity both by outer modelling and by direct affirmation. On the other hand, when there is a potent mother complex playing out between the son and the mother, it will inhibit the boys' instinctive masculinity. I have observed in my clients that this active inhibition of the son's instinctive masculinity increases when the mother dislikes males. The son learns from the male disliking mother that they need to feel guilty for their maleness. We see this - man shaming - playing out in a modern culture where there is a move from distinct portions of the population against the male. Is it any wonder that the problem of the man child is so prominent in our time with many men-child being fathers? But the effects of a man-child father are worsened by the impact this situation has on the mother. The mother tends to become more authoritative in her parenting to compensate for the lack of a masculine figure in the child's life. Secondly, a failure on the part of the father to provide the mother with the love and support creates in her an emotional hunger, which she attempts to satiate through her relationship with her child. This situation creates the perfect storm whereby the mother becomes what Jung called a devouring mother. She overprotects and smothers her child and becomes involved in every aspect of his life. Despite having the best intentions, the mother unconsciously manipulates her child into remaining dependent on her well into adulthood, and it is often the case that the child willingly complies. In my own family, I saw something similar to this play out where my wife, of Italian heritage, facing losing her role as mother, when my boys were leaving home, and facing the move into the next stage of her life which confronted her, was unconsciously undermining the boy's independence and moment into manhood so she could stay in the safe role, the known and enjoyable role of mother. This is the secret conspiracy between mother and son that Jung wrote about and how each helps the other to betray life. A child brought up in this manner and thus never granted the opportunity to venture out on his own to stand up for himself to fail and fix his own mistakes or to make decisions for himself will develop into an adult crippled in his capacity to endure, evolve and overcome the inevitable challenges and struggles of life in pursuit of noble goals. The healthy approach to overcoming fears, stresses, challenges and pains to create something greater and nobler will be replaced by his desire to bond with his mother, real or Symbolically. Symbolically meaning comfort, solace, peace and nurturing, addiction, pleasure, numbness etc. In other words, when a boy emerges into adulthood with a strong mother complex, he will not seek to develop his independence and evolve his consciousness, but rather will seek the womb of comfort, symbolically speaking.

In the last podcast, we talked about the man who gets stuck at the adolescent stage of development. We explained how absent fathers, fathers in man-child mode, combined with an overreaching mother, and the lack of initiation that separates boyhood from manhood. How these initiations separate the boy from the mother tie, putting the boy into initiations that require self-reliance, where the boy must face his fears, self-doubts, and insecurities about surviving and has no mother present to save him from himself. The lack of all this leads to men in body but with a boy mind. This is what Carl Jung called the mother complex. Those afflicted still desire to go out into the world, gain success, power, and interdependence, stand up for themselves, overcome their fears, self-doubts, and insecurities. But they often show up with several emotional, mental patterns of behaviour that we will now investigate. The first mental, emotional pattern of the man child we will investigate is dreaming and scheming. The man child seeks refuge in their mind, fantasising and dreaming of what they will do. The dreaming and fantasising appear to keep them sensing that they are doing the thing. They may even start the thing they dream of, keeping it in the creative, playful stage. But there will be an avoidance of commitment, of doing the thing deeply, so the person is pushed up against every shred of self-doubt, every fear, every limitation. The ability to persevere in pain, uncomfortable surroundings and uncomfortable feelings is diminished. Remember, mom in the mother complex didn't want you to feel pain; her job, in her mind, was to help you feel comfortable. The next emotional, mental pattern is the shiny light chaser, the person looking for that thing that comes easily, that opportunity that is magical. When one thing gets hard, meaning it is not falling in their lap and is now bringing them up against their deep fears and insecurities, the avoidance desire drives them to abandon what is hard for the pursuit of the next opportunity. The next emotional, mental pattern is the grand sense of time held by the man-child. The man child acts as though there is time and lots of it. As they dream, fantasise and scheme, or chase shiny objects, they feel it will all work out alright. The next emotional, mental pattern is one of the idealists, who now projects their boyhood experience with the loving mother, the easy to get nurturing, the calming of pains into the world, into their ideal world view. They start to see what is wrong with the world based on their ideal motherland projection, which is not perfect according to their ideals. This is akin to the hunter who is angry that winter is destroying their ability to hunt instead of accepting winter and strategically plotting to avoid the downfalls of winter. This mental-emotional pattern leads to idealistic fantasy and is not conducive to gaining the goal for survival. This projection of idealist fantasies is at an all-time high at the moment, 2021 to be precise and can be considered the shadow side of woke culture and post-truth societies. The person in any of these scenarios is driven unconsciously by the memory, in the deeply hidden recesses of his mind, the ease of his success in gaining his mothers love, his nurturing reward just for being alive, his survival met through the glow of his mothers smile and kitchen table. This memory betrays the requirement for grit and perseverance in the sometimes stubborn and challenging world. This memory of having every frustration soothed by his loving mother, a warm bed and cuddle when he was frightened sets up a false fantasy world for the adult man without the initiations required to confront and go past the actual world of the boy with the protective mother. Combined with the mother complex metaphor expressed elsewhere, unemployment benefits, social services, modern-day comforts, work that provides but is not challenging, nor helps you evolve, some form of socialism are all mother complex metaphor examples that provide comfort and undermine the initiation process required for the man child to evolve into a man. What is required for anyone stuck in man-child and, to be honest, we mostly all are, to one degree or other, meaning there are always areas of our lives to clean up, areas of ourselves, personas to take out of boyhood and into manhood; is to consciously take ourselves through our initiation process, where we deeply commit to a goal, persevere, while we face our inner demons, in response to outer challenges. This confrontation with the outer and our inner worlds will transform us one way or another. But it requires one to leave past shores behind. This is one of the reasons we participate in men's groups or why I do my work personally with clients - holding them true to the initiation process. In the next podcast, we will continue to discuss how the man child can overcome his problems and transform himself into a more independent, confident and successful individual.