Speaking of Sex

In this encore episode from our archives, we share a classic Pleasure Mechanics framework that makes it easier to try new things in bed, lowering the stakes and clearing the way to learn new skills, get to know your own desires and develop erotic communication with your partner. Join us as an All Access Member to […]

Here’s how to initiate more intimacy, affection and erotic connection. Initiating can be vulnerable, scary and intimidating – but it doesn’t have to be. The more you practice, the easier it gets and you can create a culture in your relationship where you can fearlessly initiate, respond authentically and together create more of the kinds […]

What Erotic Attitudes do you yearn for? All too often, we focus on acts rather than the attitudes we bring to these acts – and this can leave us deeply unsatisfied or even frustrated. By zooming in on the energies and attitudes that you want to embody and experience, you will be on your way […]

Tune in and discover a game-changing framework that updates outdated, inaccurate and limiting models of arousal. Creating Arcs of Arousal invites you to allow an open-ended, expansive experience of rolling hills of arousal – rather than pursue one peak with an inevitable let-down as suggested by Masters and Johnson’s classic one-peak model of the Sexual […]

Sensation Play opens up a vast world of pleasure, if we dare to explore what our sensory bodies are truly capable of. Here’s how to get started with Sensation Play, starting with the every day sensations and sensory experiences of your life! What sensory experiences bring you comfort? What do you deeply enjoy? From this […]

Hands are the most underrated pleasure tool, and this episode is an irreverent ode to the fine art of Fingerbanging. We share why this is one of personal favorite erotic acts and invite you to explore the wide range of fingerbanging pleasures, from serene meditations to intense full body poundings! Ready To Explore More Pleasure? […]

What pleasure and intimacy could you unlock if you integrated more toys into your partnered play? Many of us have surefire pleasure tools that we use solo and yet don’t bring into the bedroom with our lovers, leaving big parts of our erotic potential behind. In this episode, we invite you to begin integrating toys […]

Join us for a rousing and stimulating conversation about the magic and myths of masturbation! For this episode we are in conversation with psychologist and professor Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons and Danielle Bezalel, host of the podcast SexEdWithDb to talk about The Magic Wand Study. This study confirms what many of us know deep in […]

Many people report having the best sexual experiences while on vacation – but you don’t have to wait for an expensive vacation to enjoy all the benefits of Vacation Sex! In this episode, we unpack the essential elements of VacationSex and propose a plan to bring the pleasures home by planning more sexy staycations! From […]

Primal play is a realm many of us crave, but rarely talk about. What does it mean to “go primal” or “become primal” or “play primal” like so many of us say we want? What do we really crave when we talk about primal play? In this episode, we dive into the wild realm of […]

What is Taboo to You? Where do Taboos come from and how do they function in your erotic imagination? Even the word “taboo” has a fascinating cultural history to explore! Join us on this free podcast episode to explore the thrills of transgressing taboos, discovering what happens when we speak the unspeakable, find connection rather […]

Service Topping is a verb – one we can ALL flex as a way to pleasure and lavish the people we care about! Service Topping is all about giving FOR the pleasure of the recipient, focusing all of the attention and intention on the needs, wants and desires of the recipient. Service Topping can include […]

In this encore episode, we share the Dual Control Model of Arousal, an essential piece of erotic knowledge to understand the complexity of turn-ons, turn-offs, and how to manage your own arousal. Explore more at PleasureMechanics.com/arousal Spotify Playlist of the Best of Speaking Of Sex Episodes Get ready to rethink everything you know about getting […]

Considering having a threesome? Tune in here first! On this episode we share what we’ve learned about how to have a threesome from our recent threesome experiences, and share a classic resource from the Pleasure Mechanics archive – click here to download our book How To Have A Threesome, for free! Thanks To Our Episode Sponsor:  […]

What does it mean to have really good bed chem? Is sexual chemistry something that happens to us, or can we learn to be erotic alchemists? What happens when good bed chem fizzles out? Join us in this episode for a provocative and engaging conversation about Bed Chem – and how we can all get […]

Full Body Oral is an invitation to start exploring more oral play – on EVERY part of the body! Full Body Oral is a reminder that we can create so many different sensations with our mouths, adding depth of stimulation, unlocking emotions and intimacy, and adding new dynamics to the kinds of play you already […]

Let’s bust the myths around the refractory period that self-limit so many of our erotic experiences. Join us for this myth-busting episode where we cover the basics and beyond of the refractory period and all the myths about it that get in our way. Learn how: Ejaculation and Orgasm are NOT the same physiological event, […]

Want to last longer in bed so you can keep the pleasure going longer? Want to satisfy your partner and offer the kind of endurance they crave? You are not alone! We get a ton of emails from people wanting to make sex last longer and experience more satisfying intercourse. This Best Of Episode is […]

Here’s how to last longer, go harder and enjoy MORE of the pleasures you enjoy. Stamina is as much about sustained focus and managing distractions as it is an athletic feat, and the skills of stamina can be built with practice! This episode offers practical strategies for building your stamina for life’s greatest pleasures, in […]

When we cultivate the skillset of being responsive givers of eroticpleasure we are able to offer our lovers more specifically what theywant and enjoy and become able to offer our lovers more sexuallysatisfying experiences. In this podcast episode we cover what we can train ourselves to payattention to in order to become more responsive givers. […]