Speaking of Teens

The conversations your teen or tween initiates are an opportunity to connect. But you often you miss that opportunity because of your own agenda to turn everything into a teachable moment. Your need to constantly correct how your teenager thinks, feels, and acts, interferes with your ability to connect with them on a deeper emotional level. You're inadvertently creating arguments and power struggles because you fail to understand the conversation your teen is trying to have with you.  Listen to today's episode and learn to ditch your agenda (and the conflict) and start connecting with your teen.  And be sure to check out today's Substack post (4-22-25) where I give you even more tips on communicating better with your teens and tweens. Supercommunicators (Charles Duhigg) Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

What's the scientific truth about ultra-processed foods? Kids and teens often survive on foods that would easily fall into this category.  Additives such as preservatives, artificial sweeteners, and food dyes can negatively impact a teenager's, a tween's, or a child's mental health and emotional regulation and behavior.  Listen and learn how substances in foods and beverages your child may be consuming every day, may be to blame for their emotional outbursts or may contribute to their anxiety or ADHD.  And be sure to follow up with today's Substack post, Who's Protecting Your Teen From Ultra Processed Foods? where I explain more about the U.S. FDA and how it falls short in protecting our kids and teens.  Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

You know all those emails, texts (or even calls) you receive from your teen or tween's school about their assignments or grades?  How do they make you feel? How do they influence your parenting? Join me today as I advise you on how to avoid the issues these communications can cause between you and your teen. And you'll want to read today's Substack post where I talk about the mistakes you may be making in trying to motivate your teen or tween to do better in school.  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

I have a special mini-episode today based on my time away in the mountains of Virginia this weekend with my stepdaughter and her boyfriend.  My stepchildren are so very similar in intellect and temperament but their personalities and lifestyles couldn't be more different.  This weekend's experience left me pondering (once again) the way we teach our teens the meaning of success or having a successful life.   How do you define success? More importantly, how do you think your teenager would define success, if it was solely left up to them? Have a listen and see if this strikes a chord. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Having talked to Casie Fariello (Other Parents Like Me) on the podcast last week about her son’s mental health struggle and their experience with his inpatient treatment, followed by a Substack post about getting insurance to pay for residential treatment—I realized I still had more to say on this topic. So, on today’s episode, I explain that sending your teen away from home for treatment for their mental health and/or behavior should only be considered as a last resort, with the biggest consideration being their safety or the safety of others. According to the prevailing opinion in the child and adolescent mental health field, kids and teens should be kept at home and all other treatment options should be exhausted before considering residential treatment, wilderness, a therapeutic boarding school, etc.  In this episode, I also argue that parents must take a hard look at their parenting practices and their mental health to insure they are not exacerbating their teen's mental health or behavior problems, before making this big decision. Today's Substack post takes the topic even further as I discuss how to prevent fear (often caused by the "troubled teen industry") from driving your decision to send your teen away from home for treatment.  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

In today's episode I'm speaking with Casie Fariello of the parenting support platform, Other Parents Like Me. All three of Casie's teens struggled with their mental health but it was her middle child that required a residential treatment center and a therapeutic boarding school. Her experience navigating these issues led her to launch her company to help support other parents like her.  Anytime you can hear another parent give an honest account of the challenges they faced with their teens, it helps you feel less alone. And when their story turns out as well as Casie's does, it also gives you hope for the future. Today's Substack post takes the topic even further as I discuss 8 lessons I learned while negotiating our insurance company's payment of benefits for my son's stay at a residential treatment center...if you'd like to check it out.  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Parenting a teenager can be difficult--full stop.  But parenting a teen or tween with ADHD often presents next-level issues that we often don't associate with ADHD. These issues have more to do with an inability to manage their emotions than focus on schoolwork.  Emotional dysregulation is an often overlooked symptom of ADHD that can wreak havoc in adolescents' (and parents') lives. Today I'll explain the negative social and emotional consequences of emotional dysregulation, the role of medication and therapy, and how you can help at home. Today's Substack post takes the topic even further if you'd like to check it out.  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Human behavior is complicated and depends on many factors including our own thoughts and emotions (which are impacted by the behavior of those around us). Adolescent behavior is further complicated by neurobiological changes. Their thoughts and emotions are not at all like ours and they don’t have the self-control that we have.  So, while we’re not necessarily at fault when our teen misbehaves, we do play a critical role in their behavior by virtue of our own behavior. Accepting this truth is a significant step towards seeing the changes you desire.  Listen today as I explain how you can influence your teen’s behavior by changing how you think, feel, and respond to them.  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

If you just knew what to do to avoid all those arguments, power struggles and temper tantrums with your teen, right?! Well, that's what I'm hear to tell you about today. As parents of teens and tweens there are a handful of really big mistakes most of us make that cause us so much grief and we don't even realize it. Listen in and learn how to avoid so much of the conflict, the temper tantrums, the disconnection and chaos.  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

In today's 201st episode of Speaking of Teens, I'm sharing the framework I teach inside Parent Camp, how I developed that framework, and why Parent Camp may just be the answer you've been looking for. If you've been listening to the podcast but you're still trying to figure out how to implement some of the strategies I discuss, you just might need the extra help you'll get in Parent Camp.  Registration for Spring 2025 Parent Camp is now open until Tuesday, February 25th at 7 pm CST.   If you've ever been interested in Parent Camp, this is your chance to learn all about it.   Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

There's no world in which, after punishing, lecturing, or yelling at your teen for their misdeeds, they will say: "Thank you for that. I now understand the error of my ways and I will henceforth endeavor to adhere to your behavioral standards." Not gonna' happen. In this 200th episode of Speaking of Teens, let me help you understand why authoritarian, obedience-first, behavior-focused parenting doesn't work with teens (or with any kid, for that matter). "Putting the fear of God" in your teen, will actually cause more dysregulated, risky, bad behavior than you can handle. Let me tell you why and what works instead. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

If you're at the end of your rope with your teen, feeling lost, anxious, wondering where you've gone wrong--this episode's for you. Maybe your teen's using substances, not listening, angry all the time, getting in trouble, or really struggling with their mental health. It's easy to become overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or to feel completely lost. I know exactly how you feel because I've been there. And in today’s episode I’ll explain why the people and places we often depend on for help in these situations, can’t fully resolve the situation (and how you have much more power to change things than you realize). Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

"Why doesn't my teenager share anything with me? They just won't talk to me." It's a common refrain among many parents of teens and tweens.  Why is it that it often seems like your teen would rather do almost anything than give you any information about themselves or come to you as their confidant? There are two major reasons: adolescent development and your behavior.  Listen today as I explain why this issue is both developmentally appropriate and influenced by their lack of trust in your potential response. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

One of the toughest issues about parenting a teen may just be trying to agree on how to parent said teen, with your spouse. If you're having a hard time agreeing on teen parenting issues with your spouse, this episode's for you. Today, I’ll explain how to have a few key conversations with your spouse that will help you get on the same page and present a united front to your teen and decrease conflict in your home. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

For many generations, parents in Western world have focused on the very short-sighted goal of stopping unacceptable behavior in their kids and teenagers. This has generally been accomplished through harsh parenting tactics such as punishment. Additionally, when parents become afraid or nervous about the behavior their teen or tween is exhibiting, they tend to employ similar harsh parenting tactics.  Listen today as I explain how super-strict, harsh, controlling parenting backfires with your teenager and makes their behavior even worse. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful). As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues. It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior. Join me in this second episode of four, to talk about some of the things we do that make our teens' behavior worse (and what to do about it). Today I'll talk to you about how we make their behavior worse by a) failing to truly listen to them, b) being unable to manage our own emotions, and c) issuing unilateral rules and consequences. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues. It's hard to imagine any of their behavior is actually due to the way we engage with them...the way we respond to their behavior. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior. Join me to learn some of the things we do that makes our teens' behavior worse and what to do about it. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

As parents of a teen or tween we're often frustrated, concerned, or even downright anxious about their behavior. We just want them to listen to us and do what they're supposed to do. Is that really too much to ask?  Well, it turns out, it just might be. A lot our teens' unpleasant behaviors are unfortunately a side effect of the way we respond to their behavior to begin with. In fact, so many of the arguments and struggles we have with our teenagers could be remedied by modifying our own behavior.  Join me to learn some of the things we do that makes our teens' behavior worse and what to do about it. Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Register for FREE Masterclass: How to Manage Your Teen's Attitude and Disrespect Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Teasing is a big part of many parents' communication toolbox. But when it comes to teasing teens and tweens, it's easy to accidentally overstep. Teenagers are notorious for misinterpreting parents. Their brains often don't hear what we think we say.  You may mean to tease them in a playful manner but they may hear it as criticism.  Listen today as I explain the difference between playful teasing and bullying and which topics you should delete from your teasing roster (because they can cause long-term negative effects).  Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Are you stressed out about your teen’s or tween’s online life? Have recent discussions of banning social media until age 16 making you feel like a horrible parent? Are you constantly fighting over screentime with them? Parenting is 1,000 times more stressful today than it was for our parents thanks to smart phones and social media.  And it certainly doesn’t help when there seems to be a new study or new book published weekly talking about how phones and social media are responsible for the decline in adolescent mental health.  What are you supposed to do as a parent? How do you make decisions about these issues for your teen and your family? Join me today as I put things in perspective and give you some advice that will not only calm your nerves but help you manage these issues more realistically (and without the guilt). Show Notes for other resources and sources Transcript Find our FREE Parenting Guides Here "I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener ^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show.  If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star! Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents! I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening! Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.) Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!) See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen