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BREAK DOWN THE INTERNAL WALLS Our internal walls can be far stronger than any walls that have ever been built in the world. These internal walls are derived from the preconceived ideas and feelings we have towards others based on colour, age, sex, race, religion or any other orientations different from our own. This is called prejudice.  Prejudice is a latin word which means ‘ judgement in advance’. Your unjustified, negative thoughts, beliefs and actions against others are the walls you have built in your mind. When you find yourself discriminating against others, it is your prejudice that is at work. To break this walls of prejudice is to look inward and querry your attitude and behaviours towards others. You will most likely get all you ever want if you look beyond the externalities of skin, materials, gender and belief.  No human being is totally free of some form of prejudice but if we know and decide to downplay our own prejudice, we will be more ready to break new grounds and open our minds to collaborate with others of different colours, race, religion and gender. As Lawrence . J Peter said, “ Two things reduce prejudice: education and laughter.” If we keep on learning about ourselves and our thoughts processes and keep an open mind, we will break the barriers of prejudices in our minds. WHAT HIDDEN PREJUDICES ARE HOLDING YOU BACK?

Maintain integrity in Little Things and soon you will find it in handy in making bigger decision

Maintain integrity in Little Things and soon you will find it in handy in making bigger decision

Failure is the signpost you need on your journey to success.

Failure is the signpost you need on your journey to success.

GO WITH THE FAMILY . “If we have not been born into a family , we would have created one for  ourselves”.... Anonymous. It is in family we first discovered our own identity. Biological or non-biological ,our identity is nothing if we do not have a family.  There is a strong correlation between family success and personal success. If our family has laid a grounded framework for us , we find it so easy to accomplish our missions in life . Yes ,life is tough and we may want to go alone , but the higher or further we go, the more we crave for family warmth and protection. The truly successful people never abandon their family while they chase their goals. And they do not forsake their missions because of their family.They find ways where their lives are in congruent with their family values and needs . For most,it is the family that gives purpose and meaning to daily activities ,loss and gain.Truly without family,most are lost. If you must go all alone, never commit to a family and if you must commit to a family , ensure you never abandon them while you chase success.   YOU ARE A CHAMPION , FIND A WAY TO CARE FOR YOUR FAMILY WHILE YOU PURSUE YOUR MISSION. You will succeed .

GO WITH THE FAMILY . “If we have not been born into a family , we would have created one for  ourselves”.... Anonymous. It is in family we first discovered our own identity. Biological or non-biological ,our identity is nothing if we do not have a family.  There is a strong correlation between family success and personal success. If our family has laid a grounded framework for us , we find it so easy to accomplish our missions in life . Yes ,life is tough and we may want to go alone , but the higher or further we go, the more we crave for family warmth and protection. The truly successful people never abandon their family while they chase their goals. And they do not forsake their missions because of their family.They find ways where their lives are in congruent with their family values and needs . For most,it is the family that gives purpose and meaning to daily activities ,loss and gain.Truly without family,most are lost. If you must go all alone, never commit to a family and if you must commit to a family , ensure you never abandon them while you chase success.   YOU ARE A CHAMPION , FIND A WAY TO CARE FOR YOUR FAMILY WHILE YOU PURSUE YOUR MISSION. You will succeed .

CHANGE IS GRADUAL ; DON'T RUSH IT. Today , I would like to remind you that the only way to change  your life is to change your routine. Except ,you do not deserve a better life ,that is when you resist change . To desire improvement but resist change in your daily routine is to invite insanity .Nothing changes until you change your habits. As Max DePree opined ,” we can not become what we need to be by remaining what we are “. It is one thing to be open to change .It is far better to pursue change.Those who wait for change to happen to them are late .It is those who force change that lead the pack.They are the champions. Change is an active  process .You do not change to run away from your problems , you embrace change to give solutions. And as long you know the price of change ,pay it forward and fast. Change is not hurtful. You do not invite change and still feel hurtful. It is a necessity that must be embraced as soon as you feel the heat to change .Do not wait for the green light to come on before you change ; it might be too late. RIGHT NOW , AS YOU READ THIS ,LET IT PERCOLATES YOUR MIND AND DO SOMETHING TO MAKE THE SMALLEST CHANGE . You will succeed

CHANGE IS GRADUAL ; DON'T RUSH IT. Today , I would like to remind you that the only way to change  your life is to change your routine. Except ,you do not deserve a better life ,that is when you resist change . To desire improvement but resist change in your daily routine is to invite insanity .Nothing changes until you change your habits. As Max DePree opined ,” we can not become what we need to be by remaining what we are “. It is one thing to be open to change .It is far better to pursue change.Those who wait for change to happen to them are late .It is those who force change that lead the pack.They are the champions. Change is an active  process .You do not change to run away from your problems , you embrace change to give solutions. And as long you know the price of change ,pay it forward and fast. Change is not hurtful. You do not invite change and still feel hurtful. It is a necessity that must be embraced as soon as you feel the heat to change .Do not wait for the green light to come on before you change ; it might be too late. RIGHT NOW , AS YOU READ THIS ,LET IT PERCOLATES YOUR MIND AND DO SOMETHING TO MAKE THE SMALLEST CHANGE . You will succeed

Giving is Living “ When we give out a goat, we release the rope “African proverb Giving is living. Humanity can not  survive without the tradition of giving. However, true giving is difficult to do and even more rare to recognise . To give with no strings attached has nothing to do with circumstances. It is a mindset. To truly give without expecting something in return stems from an abundance mentality . A double disappointments await  a miser who gives, out of the mindset to expect a direct reward from whom he gives to. If we operate from scarcity mentality, what will have become smaller ,even when we refrain from giving.But if we give generously from abundance mentality ,what we give away multiply . To give without any iota of reward is the purest form of soul cleansing .It is more than giving to avoid troubles. It is more of giving because it is who we are. What you own ,owns you.The more you give,the more vacuum you create and since nature detests vacuum ,you will always be replenished from nature . That is an abundance mentality . To give freely is a habit that makes you discipline and more meticulous.  IF YOU TRULY GIVE,THE ABUNDANCE MENTALITY COMES WITH A WISDOM THAT ENSURE YOU REMAIN A GIVER .

Giving is Living “ When we give out a goat, we release the rope “African proverb Giving is living. Humanity can not  survive without the tradition of giving. However, true giving is difficult to do and even more rare to recognise . To give with no strings attached has nothing to do with circumstances. It is a mindset. To truly give without expecting something in return stems from an abundance mentality . A double disappointments await  a miser who gives, out of the mindset to expect a direct reward from whom he gives to. If we operate from scarcity mentality, what will have become smaller ,even when we refrain from giving.But if we give generously from abundance mentality ,what we give away multiply . To give without any iota of reward is the purest form of soul cleansing .It is more than giving to avoid troubles. It is more of giving because it is who we are. What you own ,owns you.The more you give,the more vacuum you create and since nature detests vacuum ,you will always be replenished from nature . That is an abundance mentality . To give freely is a habit that makes you discipline and more meticulous.  IF YOU TRULY GIVE,THE ABUNDANCE MENTALITY COMES WITH A WISDOM THAT ENSURE YOU REMAIN A GIVER .

January 7  INVEST IN YOUR TEAM  Walk alone ,you will walk faster but walk together ,you will walk father ... No one is actually self made. Man is first bounded by his own psychology ( thinking ) to function in a community ( sociology) . We are created to be in a group or another . It is in a team that will truly discover our own identity.Without any feedback ,you can not gauge and assess your own efforts and skills. One of the joy of existence is to be accepted in a group . If you find yourself in a team ,you will develop faster if you give to the team before you demand for  rewards. Because you are worthy to be in a group, you will maximise your humanity by going all the way by letting your star shine. Among the politics and intricacies of a team , are the true spirits of life .Yes, you may think being alone gives you peace ,but such isolation is far dangerous path to hollowness and wastefulness. Invest in your team in all the ways you can .Your presence ,speech ,energy ,generosity and support are all your team need .The materials things of money and resources are secondary. If you are genuine and anchor your own contributions to life on the success of your team ,your own success shouldn't be difficult to find . FIND A WAY TO INVEST TODAY AND ALWAYS IN YOUR TEAM.THIS IS HOW TO GO FAR.

January 7  INVEST IN YOUR TEAM  Walk alone ,you will walk faster but walk together ,you will walk father ... No one is actually self made. Man is first bounded by his own psychology ( thinking ) to function in a community ( sociology) . We are created to be in a group or another . It is in a team that will truly discover our own identity.Without any feedback ,you can not gauge and assess your own efforts and skills. One of the joy of existence is to be accepted in a group . If you find yourself in a team ,you will develop faster if you give to the team before you demand for  rewards. Because you are worthy to be in a group, you will maximise your humanity by going all the way by letting your star shine. Among the politics and intricacies of a team , are the true spirits of life .Yes, you may think being alone gives you peace ,but such isolation is far dangerous path to hollowness and wastefulness. Invest in your team in all the ways you can .Your presence ,speech ,energy ,generosity and support are all your team need .The materials things of money and resources are secondary. If you are genuine and anchor your own contributions to life on the success of your team ,your own success shouldn't be difficult to find . FIND A WAY TO INVEST TODAY AND ALWAYS IN YOUR TEAM.THIS IS HOW TO GO FAR.

YOUR ATTITUDE IS A GREAT ASSET  Of all success traits ,personality ranks the highest and your attitude is a large chunk of your personality. Like all other traits ,you can make it an asset or a liability . Our attitude is basically what we see ,hear and how we feel . It is all about perceptions and interpretation of what runs in your mind and how you respond to people and your environments . As written by Dale Carnegie ,in the introduction to the classic book , How To Win Friends And Influence People , “ Dealing with people is probably the greatest problem you face ,especially if you are in business. Yes, and that's is also true if you are housewife , architect, or engineer”.  It has also been proved by many human resources consulting group that 15% of one's  financial success is due to technical knowledge while about 85% is due to skill in human engineering - to personality and ability to relate well with people. Your attitude is your most important asset bacause it determines your motivation and how well you view and see challenges .Someone with right attitude sees people as helpers and see challenges as opportunities. Like apparels, you have the choice to discard the bad attitudes and wear the right one at all time irrespective of how people treat you .You have control over how you feel and not how people treat you . MAKE SURE YOU WEAR THE RIGHT ATTITUDE TODAY.

YOUR ATTITUDE IS A GREAT ASSET  Of all success traits ,personality ranks the highest and your attitude is a large chunk of your personality. Like all other traits ,you can make it an asset or a liability . Our attitude is basically what we see ,hear and how we feel . It is all about perceptions and interpretation of what runs in your mind and how you respond to people and your environments . As written by Dale Carnegie ,in the introduction to the classic book , How To Win Friends And Influence People , “ Dealing with people is probably the greatest problem you face ,especially if you are in business. Yes, and that's is also true if you are housewife , architect, or engineer”.  It has also been proved by many human resources consulting group that 15% of one's  financial success is due to technical knowledge while about 85% is due to skill in human engineering - to personality and ability to relate well with people. Your attitude is your most important asset bacause it determines your motivation and how well you view and see challenges .Someone with right attitude sees people as helpers and see challenges as opportunities. Like apparels, you have the choice to discard the bad attitudes and wear the right one at all time irrespective of how people treat you .You have control over how you feel and not how people treat you . MAKE SURE YOU WEAR THE RIGHT ATTITUDE TODAY.

BECOME THE OASIS OF HELP  “ The greatest secret to success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up “ Albert Schweitzer . The best way to help yourself is to help others . And you can only become resourceful when you are filled with resources . People who are resourceful are enlargers ; they never get used up because they continually improve themselves and learn new ways of doing things. Like an oasis ,you can be a repertoire of help when you decide that personal growth and self improvement do not end after formal  education. Because a day that pass without personal development is a lost opportunity to improve yourself and help others . Do not have the illusion of knowledge. Most of what you learn a year earlier is outdated now. If you find yourself looking backward instead of looking to the future most of the time ,you are regressing . To become an oasis of help and a person of influence ,you must decide to learn a new thing everyday of your life. If you must help yourself ,help others . And the more help and more you can help ,the more happiness wealth and peace you will have . WILL YOU DECIDE TO BECOME AN ENLARGER TODAY ?

BECOME THE OASIS OF HELP  “ The greatest secret to success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up “ Albert Schweitzer . The best way to help yourself is to help others . And you can only become resourceful when you are filled with resources . People who are resourceful are enlargers ; they never get used up because they continually improve themselves and learn new ways of doing things. Like an oasis ,you can be a repertoire of help when you decide that personal growth and self improvement do not end after formal  education. Because a day that pass without personal development is a lost opportunity to improve yourself and help others . Do not have the illusion of knowledge. Most of what you learn a year earlier is outdated now. If you find yourself looking backward instead of looking to the future most of the time ,you are regressing . To become an oasis of help and a person of influence ,you must decide to learn a new thing everyday of your life. If you must help yourself ,help others . And the more help and more you can help ,the more happiness wealth and peace you will have . WILL YOU DECIDE TO BECOME AN ENLARGER TODAY ?

FORWARD EVER . Yesterday ,you made a mistake .Or you failed at something you thought you would have aced .Or you encountered an embarrassment at an unusual place . So what next? Would you cocoon in your denigrated space and sulk for ever? Get up , get over it and get going . Or there is a huge task in front of you and you are afraid to take the first step probably because you think you will fail. Either fail or succeed ,the only path is forward. Whatever tasks lie ahead of you today ,plan to move ahead . And whatever failure you must have suffered , plan to redo it .Don't jump at anything frivolously . Let the  past mistakes be the guiding light and better strategies to move forward . Plan  purposefully. Finalise your goal. Rearrange your plans and risk failure by taking the smallest action you can think of. Be prepared to welcome any mistakes, modify them and advance with the character of a winner. As you ace the small wins ,reevaluate your progress and keep devising new strategies to succeed more.This is the spirit of a champion. Endeavour to have the mindset ,keep it and let it burn forever . You will succeed .

FORWARD EVER . Yesterday ,you made a mistake .Or you failed at something you thought you would have aced .Or you encountered an embarrassment at an unusual place . So what next? Would you cocoon in your denigrated space and sulk for ever? Get up , get over it and get going . Or there is a huge task in front of you and you are afraid to take the first step probably because you think you will fail. Either fail or succeed ,the only path is forward. Whatever tasks lie ahead of you today ,plan to move ahead . And whatever failure you must have suffered , plan to redo it .Don't jump at anything frivolously . Let the  past mistakes be the guiding light and better strategies to move forward . Plan  purposefully. Finalise your goal. Rearrange your plans and risk failure by taking the smallest action you can think of. Be prepared to welcome any mistakes, modify them and advance with the character of a winner. As you ace the small wins ,reevaluate your progress and keep devising new strategies to succeed more.This is the spirit of a champion. Endeavour to have the mindset ,keep it and let it burn forever . You will succeed .

CHOOSE YOUR LEGACY. It was the stoic writer , Ryan Holiday , that penned that ,” we don't get to choose whether we die but we get to choose how we will live.” Every individual will leave a legacy of some sort either positive or negative . But it is very clear that we have a choice in the type of legacy we live and leave behind . It is important you take some time out today to think about your succession . Someone who will carry on your legacy and deeply invest in them . I want to believe that you know that best legacy is the memory and the feelings you live in people . Legacy is not what remains after you have gone .It is the continuation of how you have chosen to lead and live your life . You can not leave that to chance . You Will be proactive and ensure your legacy lives on . Living and leaving a legacy behind are the same .It is the ability to live out what you believe and consciously choose who and how it will be perpetuated because once you're gone ,your legacy will be your life summary .You can not force it . You can not write .You can only lead and live it. No one is too old or young to live and lead a legacy . It is the day to day activities of our life that accumulate to form a good legacy when we are gone . We can start to live and lead a legacy now even before death calls.. GIVE A THOUGHT TO THE LEGACY YOU ARE LIVING AND LEAVING BEHIND ONCE A WHILE .