Swinger Diaries

We are back from Naughty in N’awlins 2015 and we have got some sexy stories to tell. This event created the first and largest collection of swinging lifestyle podcasters ever assembled in one place and it was awesome fun. In this episode we discuss hotel takeovers and give some specific examples of how the NiN convention was an epic one. One of the unique experiences that we had at the event was the connection made with fantastic new friends, Mr. and Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta Thing Podcast. As charming and sexy as we imagined them to be, they were in person. While our diary story is about a sexy six-some experience that occurred in the playrooms of NiN, we are honored to have a bonus diary story told by our new friends and the announcement of more collaboration soon to follow. http://archive.org/download/sd_18_whats_a_hotel_-swinger_diaries/SD_18_Whats_a_hotel_takeover_like-.mp3

Lets be totally honest, if you are not in a rock solid committed relationship, then swinging is probably not right for you.  Most swingers are so secure in their own relationships that they have no interest in more than just social friendships with anybody but their partner. In the swinging lifestyle, nobody is looking to take anybody else’s spouse. We all love many people in our lives and that love doesn’t diminish our commitment to our life partner. We love our family, our job and even our possessions, so loving our friends is natural and normal. In this episode we talk about friends with benefits, exclusive swinging relationships and swayers. Our diary story is about an intimate and relaxing afternoon spent with a couple that have become very dear to us and how familiarity with great friends allows for exploration into play situations that we never knew we would even want to try. http://archive.org/download/sd_17_arent_you_worr/SD_17_Arent_you_worried_one_of_you_will_fall_in_love-.mp3

Back when we started swinging and everything was new and wild, we were easily intimidated, awed and even freaked out by some of the things we were exposed to and by some of the variety of sexual preferences that people seemed to enjoy. A new friend of ours once gave us some good advice to help encourage us to explore our interests. He told us… “Remember, its only kinky the first time.” As an alternative sexual lifestyle, most people would probably consider swinging to be kinky, and in a way it is. After all, having consensual sex with people other than your spouse is kinky to most people, but what we have found is that the swinging world is only one part of a spectrum of amazing kinky worlds that exist. There are many parallel universes of kink that weave in and out of the swinging lifestyle. If you spend any time with swingers, you are bound to learn a little about some of them and maybe even be enticed to explore and experiment. We have been. Our diary story is about a few of our encounters with some colorful people in the kink scene and how they taught us that sometimes sex is about pushing your boundaries in order to enhance your pleasure. http://archive.org/download/sd_15_arent_all_swin/SD_15_Arent_all_swingers_into_kinky_sex-.mp3

Like so many swingers, we started in this lifestyle by taking a chance and traveling to a distant, exotic location where we could just watch, learn and then eventually participate in the sexy fun. The experience was so amazing that we have returned many times and have had the pleasure of visiting most of the other lifestyle friendly resorts and events too. We travel often for sexy fun. In this episode we answer the most frequently asked question from our email and discuss our recommendation for the best destination for your first swinging vacation. Our journal entry this time is about the experience we had a couple of months ago as we hosted an impromptu birthday orgy in our Passion Suite at Desire. It was a sexy evening and the clean-up afterwards confirmed it! http://archive.org/download/sd_14_where_should_w/SD_14_Where_should_we_go_for_our_first_lifestyle_vacation-.mp3

Inspired by questions from listeners about how we seemingly find so many awesome sexy people in our travels who become entries into our Swinger Diaries, on this episode we expose some of the truths about a few of our dating failures. After all, while we do go on dates with other couples, of all the ways to meet potential play partners, we have found that a two-on-two date is the least probable to end in a connection. Unfortunately, that high pressure situation is fraught with tension, overly eager optimism, nervous anticipation, and all too often, disappointment. We actually have had a few successful dates and in our sexy journal entry, we remember one of our most favorite play experiences which really did begin with a rare situation; a fun, flirty, successful, couples date. http://archive.org/download/sd_13_do_you_really_-swinger_diaries/SD_13_Do_you_really_go_on_dates_with_other_couples-.mp3

We all know that practice makes perfect and since swingers have lots of sex, it would be a reasonable assumption that they are amazing lovers. While this point is true for some swingers, just like any other skill, some are better than others. In this episode we discuss the skills and attitudes that make for a good lover. We also talk about the trickiness of having sex with new partners and the challenges and awkward situations which nervous excitement and distraction sometimes creates in the swinging lifestyle. In our sexy diary journal entry, we remember answering a “Hot Date” online post and meeting an incredibly hot and experienced couple with whom we had such great bedroom communication, that we were able to unexpectedly venture into some wild new territory for us. http://archive.org/download/sd_12_are_swingers_a/SD_12_Are_swingers_amazing_lovers-.mp3

If you are curious about the swinging lifestyle and you do any research, the most common advice found in articles, blogs or podcasts is, “Before you do anything, make sure to discuss your rules.” So, what exactly are these rules? Is there a checklist somewhere? How do you go about discussing your rules if you don’t know where to start? Everybody has rules. The term “rules” is just a synonym for boundaries, limits or even preferences.  In an effort to begin to explore the endless numbers of potential rules a couple could adopt, in this episode we talk about what we see as the 15 most common rules that should be discussed among newbies. Then in the spirit of our format, we give a description of our own personal position on each. While this is in no way an exhaustive list, it should give a good starting point for conversations with your partner and in so doing, help reduce the potential drama that can arise from getting into a situation for which you were not prepared. In our diary story, we remember a time in which we were swept up in the hot steamy excitement of a group play situation without talking clearly with our playmates about our rules. While it was sexy fun, it also resulted in a few unnecessary awkward moments. http://archive.org/download/sd_11_rules-_what_ar/SD_11_Rules-_What_are_your_rules-.mp3

Flattered by messages and questions that we have received from our listeners, in this episode we answer one of the most frequently asked email inquiries. Many people wanted to know about the countless conversations and baby steps that moved us from being a faithful, conservative, monogamous couple who had never even fantasized about inviting others into our sex life, to becoming … that dreaded “S-word”. Like most swingers, there was no pivotal moment or monumental decision that marked our entrance into the lifestyle. It was a slow gradual process and many long probing conversations had with charming new friends that slowly coaxed into this amazing new exciting world. In our sexy diary entry, we remember one of the many steps in our journey. We recall the encounters that transitioned us from soft swap to full swap; the reasoning, conversations, rationale, excitement, intimidation, apprehension, and eventually the affect on our attitudes about sharing our sex life with others. http://archive.org/download/sd_10_isnt_swinging_-swinger_diaries/SD_10_Isnt_swinging_really_just_cheating-.mp3

Paige was not happy when the idea of these topics came up. Neither religion nor STIs are sexy conversation topics, but we know they are high on the list of curiosities and concerns when it comes to swinging. Originally, we had two separate topics, “Isn’t swinging against your religion?” and “Aren’t you worried about STDs?”, but Paige protested having two separate episodes about such unsexy topics so we combined them into one show. As classic swingers, our views on these topics are more mainstream than you might realize. So many swingers are like us, professional churchgoing people, who are active members of their community, have kids and vanilla social lives, volunteer for worthy projects, and work out at the gym in order to take care of themselves and stay physically and emotionally healthy. In this show we talk about how religion fits into our swinging life and also about our observations about the risks and rewards involving STIs . We also spend a few minutes discussing the standard practices of prevention and protection we see in the swinging community. Paige chooses the story for our journal as we remember a very recent hotel takeover where we had a date to meet up with old friends and the excitment of how our foursome turned into a wild and hot six-way connection with the introduction of new friends too. http://archive.org/download/sd_09_arent_you_worr/SD_09_Arent_you_worried_that_God_will_punish_you_with_an_STD-.mp3

Many people imagine that swingers are just indiscriminate sex-crazed maniacs who are only interested in random hookups and wild orgies and while sex is a big part of the swinging lifestyle, the truth is that all swingers are actually very selective about who they wish to share their bodies with. In this episode, we talk about how swinging is like dating for couples and just like in the dating scene, there are things that turn you on and turn you off about other people. Swingers are really looking for that rare and special connection even if its only for one night and sometimes that means that they have to be prepared to decline the invitations of others when it just doesn’t feel right. In our sexy journal entry, we remember an adventurous night at one of our favorite swinger clubs in South Florida called Trapeze and the challenge of politely declining offers of play from aggressive people in the back play area that night. http://archive.org/download/sd_08_so_you_just_h/SD_08_So_you_just_have_sex_with_anybody-.mp3

The fantasy of inviting a third person into your bed for sexy fun is the most common introduction into the swinging lifestyle. Usually this new playmate is a bisexual single woman to whom no commitments are expected other than carnal pleasure. In the swinging lifestyle these rare, desirable, beautiful, women are affectionately called unicorns. We’ve had the pleasure of play with many unicorns over the past few years and while every experience has been fun and sexy, threesomes have a tricky dynamic that should be considered before jumping right into that fantasy. On this show we discuss who unicorns are, what they are looking for and how to find them. We explore the prevalence and preference of bisexual women and the spectrum of bisexuality in the lifestyle. We also spend some time talking about the unicorn’s male counterpart in the lifestyle, the single male, and the challenges that single men face among swingers. Our diary entry is about an erotic afternoon spent with a gorgeous dear girlfriend who was a unicorn for the day. We took advantage of the opportunity to explore some of her kinky fantasies and to share her sexy body between us. While we prefer play with couples, in the right circumstances, riding a unicorn can be amazing! http://archive.org/download/sd_07_whats_a_unicor/SD_07_Whats_a_unicorn-.mp3

Its so sad that we have to hide the fact that we are swingers, but we do. The vanilla world is not ready to see our sexy adventures for what they are, an extension of our fantastic, loving, consensual, adoring, marital sexlife. Instead, most people imagine that all swingers are sexually addicted cheaters, who are easy, kinky and perverted. With that untrue and unfair reputation, we have no choice but to do what the majority of other swingers do and hide our lifestyle from friends, family, and co-workers. In this episode, we talk about the challenges of hiding our secret sexy life and the fear of being discovered. We also suggest ways we’ve used to protect our anonymity and the unspoken agreement among swingers to honor everyone’s privacy. In our journal entry we remember a passionate night of intense, sexy fun with a newly met couple in which the animal attraction was too powerful to resist. http://archive.org/download/sd_06_but_nobody_-swinger_diaries/SD_06_...but_nobody_knows_youre_swingers_right-.mp3

Swingers clubs are a wild combination of bar, nightclub and sex party. They are one of our favorite venues for a lifestyle evening adventure. Throughout our travels we have partied through hundreds of nights of exciting swingers club action and explored dozens of different clubs around the country. In this episode, we give tips and advice about what makes clubs so fun, how to find them, and what to expect when you visit. From what to bring, to what you’ll find in the back rooms of an on-premises club, we describe what goes on at the home base of a real swingers party. This time, in our sexy diary, we recount one of our early experiences in a lifestyle club and how a sexy foursome tuned into an unexpected six-some. It was a thrilling and exciting first for us. http://archive.org/download/sd_05_whats_it_like_-swinger_diaries/SD_05_Whats_it_like_in_a_swinger_club-.mp3

This episode discusses the most problematic issue in the swinging lifestyle for new and experienced swingers alike… Jealousy. We discuss the most common progression of experiences among swingers and the importance of taking each step cautiously and slowly using “baby steps” to help control potential jealousy. We don’t have all the answers, but using our years of swinging experience, we also talk about other techniques and hints that we have found to be especially helpful in limiting and dealing with jealousy. Our diary entry on this episode is about our encounter and steamy playtime with a newbie couple who were very excited to dive right into the full experience of swinging.  http://archive.org/download/sd03_dont_you_get_je/SD03_Dont_you_get_jealous-.mp3

In this episode, we discuss the next of the most common questions that we imagine people would ask if they found out that we are swingers and talk about meeting couples at online dating sites, parties, clubs and lifestyle resorts. Our diary entry this time is about how we met a particularly sexy couple and the fun play session that we all enjoyed on a rooftop bed at Desire. http://archive.org/download/sd_02_where_do_you_m/SD_02_Where_do_you_meet_other_swingers-.mp3

In our first episode we, Penn and Paige, explain our motivation for this podcast and answer the first of our questions. In this show, we explain how the Lifestyle has enriched our lives and enhanced our marriage. As in all of our episodes, we make a story entry in to our diary. This one is about an unexpected anonymous experience in the Swinger’s Cruise playroom. http://archive.org/download/sd_01_why_do_you_do_-swinger_diaries/SD_01_Why_do_you_do_it-.mp3