The Brotherly Gist

From choosing to abstain, fighting loneliness and struggling to find genuine connections, there’s often several challenges a person needs to overcome whilst being single. In this weeks episode, Tayo reflects back to his single days and shares some of the challenges he faced during this life-phase as well as how he overcame them. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

In this episode Tayo talks about the baby mama trend which appears to be more prevalent and glamourised of late. He also shares his views on why he believes this a trend that both me and women should avoid. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

The end of a relationship is hard enough, but when one ends without any closure on your part, it can be horrific. It’s so hard not knowing why someone chose to end things with you and you can torture yourself trying to figure it out. This weeks episode focuses on learning how to cope and deal with a lack of closure if you find yourself in this unfortunate situation. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Financial stability is a big deal. However some men use their financial position as a reason not to commit, is this justifiable or dishonest on the part of men?…Ken & Tayo discuss this in this week’s episode in response to a VN sent in. Men and women view and treat finances very differently and when it comes to settling down and taking things to the next level, it takes on a different meaning to each gender. Ultimately finances do inform a mans decision to get married, but to what extent? You’ll have to tune in to find out. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

In this weeks episode Ken & Tayo answer a listeners question as to whether asking a guy “what are we” will have him running for the hills? (3m:50s) Many women fear that having this talk with a guy is the ultimate damper but Tayo believes there are several benefits to having this conversation and explains why and when to have it to avoid awkwardness (5m:10s) Ken believes the key to a successful DTR lies in the approach and elaborates on this further. (14m:10s) Be sure to tune in for an informative episode and don’t forget to share it with a friend who may wanna hear this & to send in your VN to have your question answered. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Welcome to a new season! What happened? (1m:15s) Tayo explains. We’re answering all your questions this season about men (2m:50s) and we have our first official VN and our caller today wants to know why men are still willing to risk a good thing for something and someone less than what they have? (8m:10s) Promises to be interesting episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Let’s admit it! We’ve all thought we know better than we actually do, we believe our own hype and enter situations only to end up disappointed and with egg on our face? But where does this element of pride come from and where do we get off thinking that we sometimes know better than God? Tune into this weeks episode to have a listen. Don’t forget to subscribe, comment and rate on whichever platform you're listening on. Follow the official Instagram podcast page: @thebrotherlygist Send in a voice note commenting on the episode: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Society has a serious problem with absent men. Many fathers aren't there for their families and it is being reported regularly that men are absent from relationships, social institutions like childcare, schools and other support settings. South Africa for eg has the lowest marriage rate on the African continent and the second highest rate of father absence in Africa after Namibia. Why is this the case and why is the absent father figure so prevalent in black society when compared to other races? The guys attempt to answer this and solve the curious case of the missing father in this weeks episode of @thebrotherlygist. Don’t forget to subscribe, comment and rate on whichever platform you're listening on. Follow the official Instagram podcast page: @thebrotherlygist Send in a voice note commenting on the episode: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Interracial relationships face extra and unique challenges. Whether it’s acceptance from family or scrutiny from friends, interracial relationships are having to demonstrate an extra form of resilience in order to stand the test of time. In this weeks episode, Tayo invites Grace to share her experience of being married to a man outside of her ethnicity. And how they have had to navigate and confront a new set of challenges with the recent outcry’s of racial injustice. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Your partners happiness is paramount. But is it is ultimately your responsibility to ensure they’re always happy? The guys tackle the issue of over-reliance on partners and wrap up their conversation on how to deal with arguments and fights that take a left turn in this weeks episode of TBG. This episode is a continuation of last weeks episode - The Ugly Side Of Love. Follow the official IG podcast page: @thebrotherlygist --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Welcome to a brand new season of TBG. Tayo and the guys are back and kick off this season by discussing lessons on how NOT to love that they picked from the movie “Malcolm and Marie”. They also define what toxicity in relationships actually is, conflict resolution and the concept of “fighting forward”. This is the first of a two-part episode. As usual please be sure to subscribe, comment and give this podcast a good rating. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

In the final episode of the relationship series the guys discuss what the biggest lies are men tell themselves as well as women. They also look at whether honesty is indeed the best policy.

An unforgiving heart will cause us to lose many other important relationships in our life. But the truth is forgiveness is something that is much easier said than done. So how do you forgive the unforgivable or something/someone you can’t seemingly forget? We explore this in this week’s episode.

It’s still women’s month and we’ve got 3 intelligent women on this weeks episode. Akunna, Naz and Tomi join Tayo in discussing what constitutes & triggers mental-health/illness and help us to determine if we’re low-key Kanye. They also offer some solid advice on what to do if you find out your partner or someone close to you suffers from mental health/illness or depression.

It’s still women’s month and we’ve got 3 intelligent women on this weeks episode. Akunna, Naz and Tomi join Tayo in discussing what constitutes & triggers mental-health/illness and help us to determine if we’re low-key Kanye. They also offer some solid advice on what to do if you find out your partner or someone close to you suffers from mental health/illness or depression. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebrotherlygist/message

Happy Woman’s Day! This week the guys converge to discuss the significant role women play in society today and to answer some of your questions on dating, sex and more. They also have a special message to all women but not before apologizing first.

Men and women are equally likely to hide minor purchases from their partners, but men are nearly twice as likely to hide major ones and to lie about their earnings. Tayo invites TJ & Andrew to chat about the causes for and possible solutions to, financial infidelity, in this week’s come back episode.

Submission is a very contentious issue in relationships & marriage. Some men believe it equates to respect & some women believe it equates to timidness. Tayo invites guest Jenielle to draw on her experience in relation to the “S word” and to debunk the myths surrounding it in this weeks episode.

In this week’s episode Tayo invites Andrew, Ken, Gideon and Magnus to have a candid and unfiltered discussion on infidelity, cancel culture and “entanglements”.

In this episode Tayo and guest Ken (@kenonwu) discuss the sacredness of sex and if it still has a place in today’s culture. Whether there is any virtue in remaining pure and how men’s inability to control their sexual appetite has a direct impact on intimacy in the bedroom and some of the social problems affecting our world today.