The Family Captain

It's alarming how many Christians miss this particular element that God designed when it comes to your marriage. We're talking about ATTRACTION. "I love my wife and she loves me and the Bible says she shouldn't deprive me sexually!" Well, OK, my brother, that's true. But you're missing a huge helping of wisdom there. Because what is ALSO true is that the Lord has designed sexual attraction to be a thing. And the more attractive you are to your wife, the more she's going to want you. And not just physically. The more ecstatic your marriage will be overall. More fun, more flirting, more joy, and yes, more intimacy. In this episode, we break down the top 5 most common things that KILL intimacy in a marriage. Listen, decide if you've got some vulnerabilities you can address, then get to work and watch as things change. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 3:07 How to initiate before bed (with example) 9:11 Killer 1: Neediness 14:20 I don't need my wife...I want my wife 19:06 Killer 2: Stagnation 24:30 The Kryptonite of Mastery 28:23 Killer 3: Neglect 36:51 Killer 4: Low Status 50:13 Killer 5: Submitted Out Of Fear 1:00:47 "My better half" --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We talk to a lot of men who are crushing it at work, but drifting at home. On one hand, it makes sense...work and home are different beasts, and there's a lot of focus put on professional success in this culture. On the other hand, it makes no sense...why do these high-performing dudes struggle where it matters most? That's what we're diving into today. We'll cover the root causes of this issue and give you specific things to work on to start building that capital at home so that you start to love leading your family with strength and love instead of shift into autopilot when you walk through the door. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 3:15 Do these 3 questions prove every guy is the same? 10:53 Why you crush at work but drift at home 17:50 Lack of vision 19:46 What you're missing at home 27:36 Why a man tolerates drift at home 31:28 The mindset shift required to win at home 40:38 Order to chaos 50:21 Glory and credit at work 56:12 Audit your capital --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What we've found over the years is that there are basically infinite levels that a man can ascend as a family leader. Every time you think you've reached the top, you discover there's another 10, 100, or 1000 levels to you could get to, by God's grace. In this episode, we're breaking down 4 of the main levels we see guys coming into the Family Captain, and helping to give you some practical ways to get unstuck and to get to that next level. From start to finish, this is about going from zero, not really even paying attention to family leadership or improving your marriage and sex life, to absolute stud, building generational wealth...financially, relationally, and spiritually. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:53 The Dominion Mandate 6:35 Waking Up and Buying Into God's Good Design 10:57 The Big Lie Keeping Most Guys Down 15:54 50/50? 19:28 "Pretty Good" 24:59 The Comfort Kryptonite 35:05 Doing a Lot, But Frustrated 42:45 Do You Ever Get To A Point You Can Stop Doing The Things? 44:17 The High Performer 59:16 Legacy Limits --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

60-some episodes in, you've heard bits and pieces of JM's life and experience, but he's never shared the full story behind what made him the man he is today. It's always fun when you get the inside track on people you listen to regularly, and since there are thousands of people who listen to these episodes, we figured it'd be fun to go deep on John Michael Clark, and figure out why he's wired the way he is. (You'll also get a good sense of whether or not you want to know more about him inside the Family Captain program after listening to this episode.) But, even though he tried not to, JM drops lessons and teaching nuggets that, if you only listened to this episode, could still transform you entire family dynamic, so press play and get ready to become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 1:39 Bio 3:50 Parents divorce 8:40 Coxswain: the chip on the shoulder 19:19 After high school 28:55 Confidence 33:12 Early marriage 36:14 Improving sex life 41:53 Fatherhood 45:48 Family mastery 48:19 Pastor 51:27 Fired...Family Captain 57:34 The first client 1:00:19 Lack of confidence? 1:03:43 North Star for The Family Captain --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain --- Making friends is hard for American men...even Christians. But does it have to be? This is a topic few people are willing to shed light on, so we figured we'd break it down so you can get a really clear idea of the types of friends, the types of friendship behaviour, and perhaps even how to find that ultimate "unicorn" friend we're all secretly hoping for. Learn about the 4 categories of friendship traits, how to find friends at this stage of life, and why the role of "Battle Brother" can change your life. In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 1:53 Losing a best friend 9:45 The Presence Bro 15:20 The Challenge Bro 25:24 The Bearing Bro 35:40 The Battle Bro 42:26 How to find a brother 45:34 The actual role of Battle Brother --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode is for all of the guys out there we hear from all the time who are worn down, overwhelmed, dealing with the thorns of life, and just discouraged. We're going to walk through 5 levels of invisible battles you might be fighting, and how to get through them with wisdom and with help from the Lord. Let this be an encouragement if you're carrying a lot and you're not sure where to turn next, brothers. Our God is a God of hope. He has solutions. He will not forsake you. Try a few of these practical things and get back on the horse...you have a high calling as a Family Captain, time to get moving in the right direction. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:00 Encouragement 4:47 The Ache of Success 17:32 The Thorn of Circumstances 21:43 How to stop falling into discouragement 29:53 The Drift of Boredom 41:29 The Winter of Numbness 47:17 Real life example of brotherhood 51:25 The darkness of discouragement and depression 58:43 The Fast Track Mentioned: Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310361176/ --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode is all about exactly how to talk to your kids about sex and God's good design for the marriage bed. We believe that dads need to be the primary discipler for their kids in every aspect of their lives, but particularly so in their sexuality. The enemy has wounded so many people in their childhood in sexuality, and it's not something you can afford to leave to chance, especially in our hyper-sexualized and perverted world. This one is highly tactical, but more importantly shows you another specific way to use the broad Family Captain principle of being on OFFENSE instead of DEFENSE. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:07 "The Talk" with your kids? 3:44 Will I "steal their innocence"? 7:02 What age to talk about things 10:59 Options for conversations 12:22 Talking about anatomy correctly 18:03 Discomfort 19:52 What's at stake (clip?) 24:59 If you're "late" to the party 28:57 Books and resources 33:31 Go from defense to offense Mentioned: God's Design For Sex (series of 4 books): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00O5DIVTU/ God Made All Of Me: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1942572301/ --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This is the definitive episode - with examples - on how to navigate and respond when your wife becomes hysterical or overly emotional. Stop taking the bait. Start leading. Remember you're her head, not her "life partner" (puke). If your marriage is otherwise decent, but her emotions get the better of her, you, and your entire family...hit the play button ASAP to level up your marriage and your life right now. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:21 A hysterical wife 6:57 Tracking your wife's cycle 10:07 Understanding, not justifying 16:44 How to screw up when your wife's emoting (CLIP) 22:51 Emotional ambush before bed 24:55 How to be the lighthouse 28:51 Silence or matching her? 37:45 Discerning the timing 46:42 Honoring the weaker vessel 52:43 Starting to fix this in your marriage --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Gentlemen. It's a new year. Reflect on 2025, but more importantly, it's time to get your vision dialed in for 2026. This episode will help you do just that, BUT... Our advice probably isn't what you're expecting. We don't keep things surface level like the other videos or resources you might find out there for how to "win" the year. We're going foundational, because it's what we know ACTUALLY changes families, marriages, and lives. So if you're ready for 2026 to be THE year you become the greatest man your wife and your kids have ever known, press play and get ready to take action. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 1:59 Leading your family well into 2026 5:37 Vision vs. Tactics 9:31 Gratitude 11:57 Your REAL "Why" 14:18 Your Standard 21:28 God's word, not mine 23:30 The enemy 27:56 Your actual vision 38:58 Vision with Brotherhood 45:39 Your next step to winning 2026 --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Gentlemen...the future is going to get really weird, really fast. I'm talking like, maybe in the next 2 years. Max, no more than 10. And this isn't me making up numbers with my tinfoil hat on in my conspiracy bunker. These numbers are coming from the top AI experts on the PLANET. They all give 2-5 year timelines before things get really, really weird...and potentially dystopian. 10 for the "ridiculous" conservative estimate. We're talking ALL jobs vanishing. And maybe much, much worse. Depends on how benevolent AI is. We HAVE to talk about this seriously. Family captains are prepared. We don't know how it's going to play out, but I will tell you this much... Family leadership is THE thing. It's always been THE thing, but we're about to find out just how important it really is. Join us in opening this discussion, because it's going to be the most important discussion we as fathers and leaders have. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:33 The potentially terrifying future of AI 7:52 3 Levels of AI 18:12 Where's the seatbelt? 28:06 YES, your job, too 33:06 Family leadership is THE thing 45:34 Psalm 46 47:47 Warring in prayer 53:57 We were created for such a time as this Mentioned: Diary of a CEO Podcast (main channel): https://www.youtube.com/@TheDiaryOfACEO/videos The AI Safety Expert: These Are The Only 5 Jobs That Will Remain In 2030! - Dr. Roman Yampolskiy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UclrVWafRAI Ex-Google Exec (WARNING): The Next 15 Years Will Be Hell Before We Get To Heaven! - Mo Gawdat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9a1nLw70p0&t=59s Godfather of AI: They Keep Silencing Me But I’m Trying to Warn Them! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=giT0ytynSqg Creator of AI: We Have 2 Years Before Everything Changes! These Jobs Won't Exist in 24 Months! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQ1POHiR8m8 An AI Expert Warning: 6 People Are (Quietly) Deciding Humanity’s Future! We Must Act Now! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7Y-fynYsgE&t=166s AI Expert: We Have 2 Years Before Everything Changes! We Need To Start Protesting! - Tristan Harris https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BFU1OCkhBwo --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain --- Are you going to be as uncomfortable as JM during this episode? Honestly we hope you are. Because here's the thing... Most men have no freaking idea how sweet marriage and family life can be. They spend their hard earned money truck accessories, or a vacation. That might have a little, tiny bit of fruit. But guys there is a way to invest in your family that has GENERATIONAL fruit. For your life, for your wife's life, for your kids' lives, for your grandkids' lives... Our goal is to make you aware of that today. And if we have different values, that's cool. But we wouldn't be loving you if we didn't at least give a good, complete overview of what life COULD look like, if you're willing to take the plunge. In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:30 Lead with strength and love 7:40 The incredible vision you can accomplish 18:35 God's plan is so much greater than our plan 29:58 Family Captain Vision 35:31 Decision making and values 54:14 Entitlement 1:01:01 Gratitude 1:07:22 Excuse killer --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain --- You've probably never heard parenting advice like this. Not because it's radical. But because it's Biblical, wise, and proven by it's fruit. The culture hates you, it wants to confuse you, and one of the main ways it does that is by making you think there's no such thing as parenting wisdom...that you're just supposed to 'make it up'...or not even think about it in the first place. We are here to dispel that lie and teach you some basic foundational things about what your expectations should be like to lead a loving, godly home as the father. Discipline, consequences, speaking to your kids, the difference between boys and girls when parenting... This is a must listen for all Christian fathers who want to apply wisdom to their fatherhood. In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:44 Inconsistency in kids 11:40 What to do when kids fight 22:46 Insincerity in apologies 27:32 What if you don't have the bandwidth? 31:03 If your wife feels like she's lost authority in the household 39:00 If your wife is the main disciplinarian 43:39 Training daughters 52:38 Don't exasperate your children 1:04:31 Captaining your ship --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This whole episode is Chris asking JM bite sized questions and containing the answer to just a couple minutes, like you might get with a speaker after he gets off stage. Want to learn how to initiate sex with your wife when she's not in the mood? How to have conversations when you're in crazy season? How to have more fun and be more joyful as a father? What ONE book JM recommends? What he recommends guys stop doing in marriage? This episode is a buffet of solid, practical, biblical answers to everyday marriage and family leadership issues. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:59 How to initiate sex when your wife's not in the mood 6:24 Do the dishes? 15:04 Meaningful conversation when everything is busy 18:03 How to bring fun into fatherhood 24:25 Don't feel attracted to my wife anymore 30:45 How to stop escaping into addictions 38:31 Rapid fire Mentioned: Episode on Masculine Confidence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUuFRxfP2xI Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0739PYQSS/ --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Want to know the nitty gritty of what we do around the holidays? You're in luck. In this episode, JM and Chris share what their Christmas' look like as families, share some extremely actionable insights for leading over the next month, and give some bonus tips along the way for Thanksgiving, navigating travel boundaries, and how to not give terrible gifts. This episode is THE weapon you need to enter into the next month with peace, joy, and leadership that will bless your family. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:37 Santa Claus? 9:33 Christmas Morning 18:44 How to prepare for the holiday season as a leader 26:33 Ungratefulness and discipline 37:20 Pressure to gift 48:57 Unique holiday traditions 54:19 Boundaries --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

The culture and our own sin leads many men these days to accidentally masculinize their wives. In turn, their wives become less feminine, less sweet, less submissive... Husband and wife become more like "life partners". Nobody's happy, everyone's stressed, and no one knows why. Well, this is why. In this episode we'll unpack exactly how you're (accidentally) making your wife act like a man, and what to do about it, because our goal is to help you become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known. When you unlock the levels of leadership we walk you through, you'll find your wife likely responding in more feminine, tender, open, helpful, and submissive ways. Let's dive in. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 1:15 How to know if your wife is being masculine? 6:22 The cost of making your wife your "bro" 9:06 TERRIBLE advice 15:44 What if neither of you have the "soft" skills? 26:31 Soften your wife as the protector 35:07 Capacity for meanness 45:44 Lack of provision creating chaos 53:05 Missing leadership makes your wife masculine 59:04 Loving your wife and kids how they need to be loved --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What started as figuring out how to lead a "type a", go-getter wife, quickly turned into a DEEP dive on the importance of rest, Sabbath, and margin. Too many people don't even THINK about this topic today. We live in a go-go-go society. I've got news for everyone: You can't do it all. You're not God. If you don't have time for everything you've "got" to do, then it's not from the Lord, plain and simple. Time to start developing your life around your actual values, and make some trade offs. But you MUST build rest into your weekly rhythm for you AND your wife. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 3:42 High Performing Wife Outpacing Your Leadership? 9:02 Should Your Wife Run Your Family Calendar? 13:57 Sabbath 19:54 When There's No Margin 35:37 Serving in the Church with a Young Family? 42:58 How to Actually Slow Down Your Family --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Look, things are crazy out there, guys. And seemingly only getting crazier. So what is a man to do? Do we become insular and shy away from the things presented to us? Do we grab the bull by the horn and demand everyone fall in line? Or is there another way forward for men who want to be Family Captains? In this episode, we talk about a lot of timeless things relevant to Christian husbands at this point in history, including how to do a "fruit assessment" in your marriage and life, how to not be paralyzed by what's going on, how to win at home AND work, and more. Let's dive in. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 2:01 What do we do in this chaos? 8:37 If you're paralyzed by worldly situations... 12:32 Action builds sexual attraction 21:19 Not in a playful season? 25:18 Personal "Fruit Assessment" 40:19 Nick Saban (crushing it at work but not home?) 47:29 Alpha in the work place but weak at home? 51:03 What if you crush at work but are too exhausted to care at home? 1:01:22 The next step Mentioned: Nick Saban Clip: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/foBm57NNqS8 No More Christian Nice Guy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0764212680/ No More Mr. Nice Guy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/9391560407/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

There's not a lot more dangerous than being a limp man. It's one thing if you're ignorant and ready for a wake up call... But it's another thing entirely if you're just passive, not making the changes you know need to be made, and letting life slide by. Today is our wake up call to you if you've been slacking on taking ACTION. Don't navigate backwards...make sure to watch this one and take the first little step into becoming a strong, erect, penetrating man of action. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 3:02 Limp men have a false sense of progress 4:57 Employee to Owner 7:26 Being stagnant 11:31 What needs to shift to take action 14:59 Making it impossible to fail 20:25 The greatest objection... 25:37 A typical wife's reaction 30:46 The danger of being a limp man 40:51 Our gift to you --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Do the small things really make a difference? Should you really start by making your bed when your home is in chaos? The answer may surprise you. It doesn't sound sexy, it's not a home run...but if you hit singles and a couple of doubles, you're rounding the bases. When you take care of the little things, that 1%, 3% increase adds up. Turns out the big things are tackled one little thing at a time. We'll explain the broken window theory of family leadership in this episode, and give you some specific ideas on how to start levelling up TODAY, without the overwhelm of having to figure it ALL out. --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 1:05 John Michael Takes The Stage, Doesn't Get Canceled 7:09 Get Fruit FAST 8:59 The Broken Window Theory 14:17 The little things that lead to big things 18:15 Momentum! 34:15 You get what you tolerate 45:08 Reclaiming Dominion 49:05 Next steps Mentioned: VidAngel: https://www.vidangel.com/ Tineco 5: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P2RKRWX/ 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

You think your 7/10 marriage is pretty good. Then you discover what a biblical marriage actually looks like and realize you're closer to 7/100. The problem isn't that you need better communication or more date nights...it's that you've been sold a lie about partnership and mutual submission that's turned you into a family butler instead of a family captain. What if everything you've been taught about loving your wife is backwards? What if the "nice guy" approach that keeps the peace is actually destroying the respect, freedom, and passion your marriage was designed for? --- 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --- In This Episode: 0:00 Intro 8:00 Default Marriage 11:25 Being afraid to lead 23:09 Mutual submission 38:32 What it looks like to move from "co-submission" to leading 45:24 You can't lead with co-submission 51:29 The two ditches 1:03:35 Getting unstuck --- 👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/ --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain --- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.