The Pool

This week, Patricia sits down with her partner Matt to talk about what it was like to date again after escaping an abusive relationship. How pushing past her residual trauma is an ongoing process and what it's like for Matt, who has never dated a survivor, to make space for the past while building a new future. If you or someone you know would like to escape an abusive situation, please visit www.wao.org.my or call their hotline on 0379563488. If you’d prefer to WhatsApp or SMS you can contact Tina on 0189888058 for help. Please keep in mind that an abusive spouse might be monitoring your online activity, so use private mode or delete your browser history when visiting these sites. Please subscribe where you listen to podcasts and if you'd like to keep up with us, follow us on Instagram our handle is @thepoolpodcast.

How much does it cost to start your life over? This week Patricia sits down with licensed financial planner Kevin Neoh with VKA Wealth Planners to talk about the importance of saving and methods for putting money aside when planning your exit strategy from an abusive spouse. Please remember an abusive spouse might be monitoring your online activity so use private mode or delete your browser history after surfing these sites. As promised in the episode, you can reach Kevin by email on kevinneoh@vka.com.my or make a call to VKA Wealth Planners on +603 8071 1661.

This week, Patricia sits down with an emotional abuse survivor to show that abuse does not always escalate from emotional abuse to physical abuse, but is no less traumatic as a result. It took us nearly six months to find a survivor willing to come on the show to share their story because there is so much pain, shame and fear around speaking out. For that reason our interviewee will remain anonymous and any indication of their identity has been removed. Having said that, we hope that by listening to the interview, you as listeners come to the conclusion that abuse can take many forms, that there is no shame in talking about it, there's no shame in someone admitting these experiences happened, and in fact it can be helpful and provide closure to speak about these topics in a safe space. If you or someone you know would like to escape an abusive situation, please visit www.wao.org.my or call their hotline on 0379563488. If you’d prefer to WhatsApp or SMS you can contact Tina on 0189888058 for help. Please keep in mind that an abusive spouse might be monitoring your online activity, so use private mode or delete your browser history when visiting these sites. Please subscribe where you listen to podcasts and if you'd like to keep up with us, follow us on Instagram our handle is @thepoolpodcast.

So, what are your legal rights when leaving an abusive spouse in Malaysia? What factors play into custody applications? This week Patricia sits down with lawyers Vivek and Jhaimal to learn more about what options are available for survivors and what they need to do to create the strongest legal case in the event that they decide to leave their abusive spouses. As promised, here are Vivek and Jhaimal's contact details, should you like to contact them for help. Vivek Sukumaran of Asyraf, Vivek & Wee, Advocates & Solicitors can be reached on 03-20784888 or by email on avwadvocates@gmail.com. Contact Jhaimal Singh Korotana of Korotana Law Office on 03-20221394 or by email on admin@korotanalawoffice.com.

This week our focus is friendships. Being friends with an abuse survivor is hard, maintaining friendships while living with an abuser is hard. In this episode, Patricia sits down with her long term friend Lone Friis Larsen to talk about what she's learned from helping several friends survive abusive relationships. Hot to spot if your friend is in an abusive situation and what you need to know about boundaries, self care and the realities of a friendship with a survivor.

Time for facts and figures. In this week's episode Patricia sits down with Tan Heang Lee, Advocacy and Communications Officer at Malaysia's Women's Aid Organisation (WAO) who explains the prevalence of domestic abuse and provides concrete steps and advice for leaving an abusive spouse. Listen in if you'd like to learn more about Exit Plans, where to go and what to do in the aftermath of a violent episode and what your rights are. If you or someone you know would like to escape an abusive situation, please visit www.wao.org.my or call their hotline on 0379563488. If you’d prefer to WhatsApp or SMS you can contact Tina on 0189888058 for help. Please keep in mind that an abusive spouse might be monitoring your online activity, so use private mode or delete your browser history when visiting these sites.

In our debut episode, host Patricia K interviews Dr. Anasuya Jegathesan, Programme Director of Psychology at Taylor’s University with a Doctorate in Counselling and over twenty years of experience helping victims of abuse. Together, Patricia and Dr. Jegathesan explore why abusers abuse, if abusers recognise their behaviour and if they target certain people and how. If you'd like to speak with Dr. Jegathesan for counselling purposes, you can reach her by phone (56295000) or email (anasuya.jegathesan(at)taylors.edu.my) Please subscribe where you listen to podcasts and if you'd like to keep up with us, follow us on Instagram our handle is @thepoolpodcast.