The UN-Offended Wife

Offense? Sex? Forgiveness? How does all of that go together? Well take a listen and you'll find out! David such an inspiring life of forgiveness, and of walking in the spirit. Sometimes even sexual intimacy requires us to walk in the spirit in an effort to not reject our spouse. Nomatter what we it they have done, they deserve our love, attention, forgiveness and to be present. I also talk about what it's like to rely on GOD as a coping action as opposed to desires of the world; it's difficult but important. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Baggage? I didnt think I had any! Masks? I took those off years ago... didn't I? I'm 39 and for the first time, I am discovering who I am. Its messy! But it is going to be worth it! Thanks to supportive women in my life, counselors and coaches, I am learning who I am and healing from who I was. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Search my heart OH GOD! He did. And offense was only the beginning. Had I not walked through freedom from offense, God couldnt have done what He is doing now in my life and my marriage. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

David lost everything. David was defeated. But the bible tells us He was called to fight for his marriage and family. The bible tells us in Lamentation 3:20-23 Dare to hope. My marriage under fire right now but I dare to hope. I will walk through darkness to win back my marriage and all that's been lost and enter into a life of freedom and abundance. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Understanding why overcoming the spirit of offense puts you in a position to accept what you need to do, to move foreward. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Masks. We use them often to protect ourselves. Even with our spouses. And it's a constant practice of taking them off and leaving them off but even we have been tempted to put them back on. How to take them off and why... take a listen. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Quarantined in the same house, yet feeling a million miles apart. We've been there. The last couple of weeks have given us a realize ation that we have been disconnected; like ships in the night, passing by eachother silently, focused on our individual tradjectory as opposed to sailing together. We are back on track. You can be too. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This couple has been going through quite the time of uncertainty and unrest. Just like the rest of the world we are dealing with quarantine and corona virus but then this week we had the added anxiety of earthquakes and aftershocks. Not to mention learning to homeschool our children! These situations have certainly brought opportunity for offense for this wife. But how are we as unoffended wives going to rise to the occasion, and use the time of uncertainty to be resilient and condemn the enemy from taking root in our marriages. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In my last episode I talked about listening and obeying the Lord and I had a question come up from a listener about how to hear God's voice ; how to discern the Holy Spirit speaking to you versus the devil or yourself. So I break that open today and bring to you something that I feel is truly from the Lord. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Listening to God's voice takes recognition and recognition takes practice. Obeying God's voice takes obedience and obedience demands action. Once we become familiar with both, our marriages have the opportunity to thrive in areas we didnt even think were possible. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Jesus is the Way Maker. He is THE Way, THE Truth and THE Light. Nomatter how bad your situation is, there is A WAY and today I want to deliver a message of encouragement, resurrecting your faith and hope out of what may seem like a hopeless, impossible situation.

Expectations in life and in marriage exist. As Valentines Day is approaching, its important to make sure you guard yourself from experiencing unmet expectations, frustration, bitterness and offense. Our husbands dont have ESP. Talk to him about Valentines Day. What are your expectations of eachother? What are the details of the said expectations? You can have an incredible time together, whether planning Valentines Day, date night or even just sex on a sunny or... in our case right now a snowy Sunday afternoon. You just have to talk about the details! Its not enough to say "I want to have sex on Valentines Day," you need to sit and talk about what that means! What are you expecting for the encounter?! And is your spouse on board? What are they desiring from this particular encounter? Or "Lets go Dinner" isnt enough when you are actually expecting or hoping him to plan the babysitter, pick the restaurant and bring you flowers! We missed the boat on this one for many years! We had to learn how to communicate before it came naturally. But one thing is for certain... when we commincate our expectations, offense is much less likely to come knocking or at least you arent as vulnerable to its attack. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Offense and Sex should never be combined into the same sentence, so why would I title a podcast episode of the same? Because in most marriages, offense in the bedroom, offense and rejection over sex is a very common issue plaguing marriages. It was in ours and it nearly killed our marriage. But there is good news! We dont have to live in a marriage where sex and offense exist together. For 7 years now we have been having sex 1 to 3 times every week, enjoying sex challenges and living in such a place of sexual fullfilment. We dont have it perfect but we are FAR from the sexually frustrated, bitter, offended state we lived in for so many years. Listen in, and I will show you how to become un-offended eros wives. our website is here: https://asoldoutmarriage.wixsite.com/website --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

After 19 years of marriage only now am I recognizing the source of my identity. Our spouses were never designed to carry the weight of our warped sense of identity. "Weathering storms proves the strength of our anchor." How strong is YOUR anchor? Our website if you want to chat live is http://asoldoutmarriage.wix.com/wesite or email me at theunoffendedwife@gmail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

If you are not taking action to positively impact your marriage then the fact is you are taking action against it. We take actions every single day the question is what actions are you taking to build your marriage up? For the first 11 years of our marriage we took actions every day that caused us to grow further and further apart until we sat down to discuss divorce. But for the last 8 years we've taken action in every area of intimacy to transform our marriage. Lets be intentional and take actions that will impact our relationships positively. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Prayer was never designed to be a measure of our faithlessness or as a last resort! God gave us the authority and the power to impact our marriages through prayer. He is calling us to be empowered wives, and not to sit on the sidelines and expect someone else to do it for us. We are called to prayer, we are called to pray for our marriages. Prayer delivers hope and a solution to our miracles. Be empowered by prayer wives! As we do this our marriages and our situations will be transformed. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Forgiveness accompanied by grace is a force to be reckoned with. It brings a spritual healing and power transforming componet to forgiveness. It is an extension of mercy. In this episode I unpack this concept and bring to you an example how after a recent fight we had, this wife struggled and wrestled with forgiveness alone; and how forgiveness WITH grace changed everything. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

There is power in grief. But where the power comes from determines the outcome of its impact on your life and in your marriage. Are you walking through your grief with God or the Devil? If you arent walking through grief, if you are ignoring it, then you are walking with the Devil, you just dont know it yet. There is a heavenly power in experiencing grief with your Heavenly Father. Grief is grief. It just is. But grief can take you under or it can be a power, and a testimony of the God of the Universe. If we are to walk as Un-Offended wives then we can not provide opportunity (grief) to be used by the enemy.

The power in our tongues, the miracle working power, we have, in speaking life into our marriages. Check out how a little Magic, a little Abracadabra, can have a miraculous result in offensive, and impossible situations. Rise up wives. Its time to put your words into action. Its time to CREATE.

Each clay masterpiece is not formed at the same time or pace or in perfect harmony as another. As Un-Offended Wives being shaped into a beautiful creation we have to be patient with our husbands as they may not be in the same phase as you are. Today I was impatient with my husband and God called me out on it!