The Unfilteredd Podcast

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome people-pleasing that narcissistic abuse causes: Enhance your awareness and question your fears (03:23) Slow down and focus on your breath (11:08) Focus on your body posture (17:52) Simplify and go slow (29:00) Get really solid in your "why" (41:02) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Hannah Alderete The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Hannah Alderete is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor from Washington. She compassionately helps adult children of narcissistic parents who struggle with people pleasing, social anxiety, chronic self-doubt, and guilt/shame, find their authentic voice so that they can shed all the ways they’ve had to hide in order to survive. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Fear of Being Alone with Robyn Reeves, Psychotherapist 5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Jessica Hass, LCSW Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the helplessness that narcissistic abuse causes: Validate Your Feelings (00:50) “What Is This Showing Me About Me?” (07:16) Setting Boundaries (13:36) How Are You Holding Onto the Person, Relationship, or the Situation? (20:24) Who Are You? What Do You Like? What Lights You Up? (25:40) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Cindy Guerrero Cindy Guerrero is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, 200hr yoga teacher, Shaman, and Reiki Master Teacher. She is a holistic healer, which means she assesses and works with individuals on the four levels - Emotional, Physical, Mental, and Energetic. Cindy provides individual, couples, family, and group therapy and works with adults and children. She specializes in working with people who experience trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, anger, and chronic health conditions. She also specializes in Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and PTSD. Additionally, she is an EMDRIA-approved EMDR therapist and Licensed Clinical Supervisor for Clinical Interns entering the mental health field. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Fear of Being Alone with Robyn Reeves, Psychotherapist 5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Jessica Hass, LCSW Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the emotional dysregulation that narcissistic abuse causes: Proactive coping skills (01:39) Reactive coping skills (09:05) Top-down approach for regulation (24:32) Bottom-up approach for regulation (34:06) Distinguishing parts to respond more mindfully in the present (45:28) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Dr. Tanya Holthus The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Dr. Tanya Holthus is a licensed psychologist who enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy, coaching, and supervision. She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. Dr. Holthus views things through a trauma lens and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate healthy boundaries, guides healing, and helps people gain clarity to bring peace in their life. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD  Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost, Counselor Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on the complex sibling relationships within a narcissistic family dynamic:  How should I approach/explain to my sibling who thinks that our family is totally healthy, that our parent is narcissistic and that our upbringing wasn't healthy? (01:06)  How can I work through my anger and resentment towards my sibling who was the golden child in our narcissistic family of origin? (15:04) How can I approach my sibling who has been treated differently and unfairly by our narcissistic parent (they were the scapegoat and I was the golden child) and to improve our relationship? We are now adults and do not live at home anymore but we are not that close. (19:49) Can a sibling relationship impacted by a narcissistic parent be repaired, and what are some factors that may influence the potential for healing and growth in this situation? (25:22) What are some factors that may indicate that the relationship with a sibling cannot be repaired? (28:20) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Amanda Bailey The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Amanda is a mental health therapist and coach who helps people heal from the effects of destructive relationships; teaching them to rebuild trust in themselves and handle difficult dynamics with confidence. She is based in Portland, Maine, but works with clients online throughout the US as well as internationally. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Readings 8 Ways That Narcissists Treat Their Siblings How Do Narcissists Treat Their Children? (10 Ways) Suggested Podcast Episodes Exploring Narcissistic Family Dynamics with Alisa Stamps, LCSW  Narcissistic Fathers with Renee Fleming, LCSW Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics: Public sharing (01:23) Crossing boundaries (11:51) Non-consensual recording (21:43) Petty theft (34:21) Fast talking (42:18) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Karina Ramdath The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Never Be Manipulated Again: Rewriting History, Countering, Lying, Social Circle Manipulation, Pseudomutuality with Dr. Taylor Damiani Never Be Manipulated Again: Just Enough, Blaming, Public Humiliation, Should-ing With Dr. Maya Kaye Never Be Manipulated Again: Conversation Domination, Unsolicited and Sneaky Advice, Pity, and Ordering With Psychotherapist Fabian Wander Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? This guided deep breathing exercise helps you combat the self-doubt that narcissistic abuse causes.  Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Guided Imagery Exercise: The Garden of Self-Discovery 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh, Counselor 5 Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety with Anna Graham, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward the narcissist, flying monkeys and enablers: Embrace your anger (02:43) Let go of the identity of being the wronged one or the victim (11:14) Practice radical acceptance (17:49) Stay away from "all or nothing" thinking (38:06) Avoid "winner or loser" distinctions (46:58) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Ellen Biros The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.' Free Resources Join Our Free Community Other Resources Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Workbook by Ellen Biros Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW Using J.A.D.E. to Protect Yourself from Narcissists with Ellen Biros (LCSW) Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward yourself after narcissistic abuse: Check-in with your emotions (03:06) The four square breathing (08:38) Thought-stopping (20:22) Grounding (29:38) Self-compassion pause (35:29) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Ellen Biros The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.' All the strategies Ellen will share in this episode are from her workbook. Despite its title, the book offers detailed strategies for anyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse, whether in a family dynamic or with a romantic partner exhibiting narcissistic traits.  Free Resources Join Our Free Community Other Resources Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Workbook by Ellen Biros Suggested Podcast Episodes Using J.A.D.E. to Protect Yourself from Narcissists with Ellen Biros (LCSW) Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor) Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? This is a guided imagery exercise that helps you improve your self-esteem. This exercise helps you engage your imagination to create calming and empowering mental images. These images can enhance your sense of self-worth, helping you improve your self-esteem. Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor) Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to forgive yourself after narcissistic abuse: Acknowledge and accept what actually happened in the relationship (02:30) Look at your past (05:23) Be patient with yourself (08:17) Release the emotions (11:27) Learn what secure attachment looks like (17:59) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Holly Herzog The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Holly is a licensed professional counselor and she works with individuals and couples and specializes in relationship issues. She loves working with people in life transition (like a divorce or job loss) and she helps her clients cope with grief, come to terms with their new reality, and begin to dream about possibilities. Free Resources Exercises and Tips for More Secure Attachment (Free PDF) Join Our Free Community Other Resources Attachment Style Quiz The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships by Diane Poole Heller Ph.D. and Peter Levine Ph.D. Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT and Harville Hendrix PhD The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships by Annie Chen  Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, et al. Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor) Empathy, Patience, and Gratitude in Self after Narcissistic Abuse with Jane Ajaya (LCSW) Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the powerlessness that narcissistic abuse causes: Maintain rigid boundaries (04:50) Challenge idealization and adoration of the false self that the narcissist presents to you (16:07) Engage in empowering activities (29:49) Focus on your future (35:52) Psycho-analyze yourself (45:28) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Jessica Hass The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Jessica is a therapist who focuses on adults who need education and/or support to understand how emotional neglect, narcissistic abuse, and psychological/emotional abuse have affected their self-image, relationships, choices in partners and friends, and behavioral patterns. She works with clients who have experienced C-PTSD which develops in response to long-term trauma, abuse, and/or emotional neglect. She can also help those trying to figure out if they’re in a relationship with a narcissist or wanting to learn healthier boundaries to better manage their relationship, in any capacity, with loved ones demonstrating narcissistic traits. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW  5 Strategies for Overcoming Helplessness with Chelsey Brooke Cole, Psychotherapist 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh (Counselor) Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the rumination that narcissistic abuse causes. Janiece constructed her strategies around the acronym "RENTER". Recognise when you are ruminating - R (04:08) Evaluate - E (06:12) Negotiate - N (11:44) Trade - T (21:58) Explore - E (31:13) Repeat - R (33:46) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Janiece Anjali The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Janiece Anjali is a licensed psychotherapist, coach, and consultant in private practice. Janiece specializes in recovery, resilience, and post-traumatic growth after narcissistic abuse, misuse, and relational trauma. She is the creator of The Bodhisattva Dilemma, a blog and project to explore what compassionate people need to consider in cultural spaces that are consciously or unconsciously shaped by collusion with narcissistic behavior. She warmly invites you to visit The Bodhisattva Dilemma at www.janieceanjali.com to learn more.  Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety with Anna Graham, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor 5 Strategies for Overcoming Helplessness with Chelsey Brooke Cole, Psychotherapist 5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, Michelle walks us through different strategies and tips we can use to help ourselves grieve after narcissistic abuse. Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Michelle Ivy Oak The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Michelle is a Marriage and Family Therapist who is licensed to practice psychotherapy in Kentucky and Indiana. She believes everyone deserves to be their best self and be happy, with the steps to healing and growth beginning anytime in life, regardless of age or previous circumstance. Michelle’s clinical practice interests include healing and thriving after narcissistic abuse; co-parenting; blending families; childhood trauma; adult children of alcoholics; divorce; self-esteem; career changes; grief; and reconnecting couples.  Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Skills for a Healthier You after Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings Empathy, Patience, and Gratitude in Self after Narcissistic Abuse with Jane Ajaya Steps to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse with Dr. Taylor Damiani Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anxiety that narcissistic abuse causes. Anna constructed her five strategies around the acronym "SIT with Body and Mind," where "SIT" stands for Safety, Intuition, and Trust: Create safety for yourself - Safety (02:44) Learn to listen to your intuition - Intuition (09:56) Gradually learn to trust yourself - Trust (13:00) Body (19:44) Mind (28:39) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Anna Graham The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Anna Graham is a Licensed Clinical Professional Therapist offering trauma informed contemplative counseling and EMDR therapy. She specializes in work with narcissistic abuse recovery, sexual trauma and complex-PTSD. Anna is also trained for work in Transgender health and the LGBTQIA community. She works in solo practice in Illinois at The Middle CC. Ms Graham was certified in Montessori Early Childhood Education in 2001 and holds a 200 hr Hatha yoga certification. Anna works directly with the body when addressing trauma and mindfulness is a central part of her professional and personal work. Needs, Balance, and Boundaries are the tenets of her practice. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost (Counselor) 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh (Counselor) 5 Strategies for Reconnecting with Your Core Values with Jenni McBride McNamara, LMFT Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the fear of being alone that narcissistic abuse causes: Stop and reflect on what being alone means to you (03:22) Pay attention to your inner dialogue and develop your "tagline" (11:48) Start taking steps toward becoming more "self-full" (24:40) Start building your distress tolerance for being alone with small steps (38:40) Reconnect or rebuild your "village" (47:04) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Robyn Reeves The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Robyn Reeves is a Masters’ level Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with experience in private practice and with open/closed support groups, working with adolescents, adults, couples and families. Her areas of focus include divorce, co-parenting, mediation, narcissist survival, schematic and inner child exploration and trauma and PTSD. Her approach to therapy combines person-centered, solution-focused and family systems theories. Robyn is known for her unique brand of analogies and metaphors to help create a ‘visual’ with which clients connect - she finds this method assists both with client’s uniquely individual endeavors as well as to identify common themes/patterns in which clients often don’t realize they are engaging. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Helplessness with Chelsey Brooke Cole, Psychotherapist Understanding and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Dr. Sara Spowart Deep Dive into Your Core Beliefs with Lua Weatherdon, LCSW  Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the helplessness that narcissistic abuse causes: Identify what is happening in your relationship (02:29) Set "silent boundaries" (05:54) Set personally meaningful goals (11:19) Differentiate between you and your triggers and become aware of your parts (15:21) Learn how to communicate with the narcissist (27:38) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Chelsey Brooke Cole The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, certified partner trauma therapist, coach, and speaker specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma. She is the author of If Only I’d Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth. Chelsey’s content provides support to thousands of narcissistic abuse survivors each day through her thriving online community. You can learn more about working with Chelsey or her resources at chelseybrookecole.com Free Resources Join Our Free Community Mentioned Resources If Only I’d Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth by Chelsey Brooke Cole Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Powerlessness with Dr. Alicia Rozycki (Psychologist) Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost (Counselor) 5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on narcissistic fathers:  Common traits of narcissistic fathers (01:51) How having a narcissistic father impact an individual's sense of self-worth and self-esteem (14:14) How children of narcissistic fathers internalize their father's behavior and beliefs, and how this affect their relationships with others (16:46) How growing up with a narcissistic father contribute to an individual's tendency to engage in self-destructive behaviors or negative coping mechanisms (24:15) Effective strategies for healing and recovery for individuals who have grown up with a narcissistic father (27:29) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Renee Fleming The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Renee specializes in supporting CPTSD & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Having grown up in a family system with abuse & addiction, she understands how survivors are set up for additional adult trauma – often targeted later in life by other toxic individuals in friendships, romance, or work. Helping clients thaw from long term coping or shock, reclaim their birth right & connection to themselves, & release burdens & wounds is how she supports survivors. Many of her clients are high achieving women & men (superheroes & cycle breakers) who come to her for help with grief work, skill building, & professional or personal relationship challenges.     Her wish for her clients is to move from surviving & coping to healing & thriving – living a wholehearted, connected, authentic, embodied life is a gift of healing for each person & the collective.  Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Exploring Narcissistic Family Dynamics with Alisa Stamps, LCSW Discussion About Narcissistic Mothers With Lucianne Gerrard 5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, Lua helps us identify the core beliefs that influence our daily lives, interactions, and relationships. She will guide us through a practice that allows us to recognize and soothe our negative core beliefs. Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Lua Weatherdon The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Lua Weatherdon is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with the Oregon Board of Licensed Social Workers. She has over fifteen years of experience working in mental health in a variety of settings such as domestic and sexual violence, residential treatment centers, home-based services, crisis intervention and stabilization, outpatient treatment, and schools.  Lua is passionate about working with adults, children, adolescents and families, to address trauma and abuse, difficulties adjusting to major life changes, depression, anxiety, and also people struggling with a lack of balance or peace in their life. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Developing Positive Core Beliefs with CarrieAnn Cleveland, LMFT Exploring Core Wounds, Fears, Beliefs, Values, and Hopes with Therapist Karina Ramdath Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost (Counselor) Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the guilt that narcissistic abuse causes: Start using positive affirmations to form new neural pathways (05:30) Understand how guilt is part of the grieving process and take time and space to grieve (11:06) Understand how the role of culture affects your feelings of guilt (24:16) Try out imaginary role playing exercises (34:01) Assess if your values are coming from a healthy place or trauma (42:38) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Dr. Tanya Holthus The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Dr. Tanya Holthus is a licensed psychologist who enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy, coaching, and supervision. She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. Dr. Holthus views things through a trauma lens and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate healthy boundaries, guides healing, and helps people gain clarity to bring peace in their life. Free Resources Join Our Free Community Mentioned Resources On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good Suggested Podcast Episodes 5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor) 5 Strategies for Overcoming Shame with Laura Bonk, Counselor  Strategies for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on the most meaningful steps a person can take to improve various aspects in themselves after experiencing narcissistic abuse: How to improve radical acceptance  How to improve emotional regulation  How to improve adaptability  How to improve self-efficacy How to improve problem-solving skills How to improve self-awareness How to improve social skills How to improve communication skills Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast. More Information About the Host & Cynthia Eddings The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours. Cynthia Eddings is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery. She is the author of ‘The Narcissism Recovery Journal: Prompts and Practices for Healing from Emotional Abuse’ and has been featured in publications including The Zoe Report and Woman’s World.  Cynthia’s area of expertise stems from personal experiences. She understands the dynamics of narcissistic abuse from the perspective of having parents with high narcissistic traits and falling into the same patterns in adulthood. She enjoys working with clients who want to heal from narcissistic abuse, and she does so by helping them uncover their authentic selves.  Free Resources Get Cynthia's Free Resource List! Join Unfilteredd's Free Community Suggested Podcast Episodes Strategies for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings An Exploration of Narcissistic Traits: Examples of Superficial Charm, Intense Mood Swings, and More with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings An Exploration of Narcissistic Traits: Examples of Entitlement, Envy, Impulsivity, and More with Psychotherapist Cynthia Eddings Mentioned Resources The Choice: Embrace the Possible by Dr. Edith Eger Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com