WTF Am I Doing With My Life? with Kristy Arnett

There's no shortage of advice on the internet about how to heal depression. Today's podcast is about depression, but instead of advice, you'll hear a story about one person's battle with it. And because this person is a relationship and life coach himself, you'll be able to draw your own conclusions about moving through depression.  ___ In late 2013, I met Aaron Steinberg. He was a relationship counselor and my marriage was at the brink of divorce. Now, my marriage is better than I could have ever imagined, and Aaron is a huge reason why. What I didn't know was that at the exact time Aaron was helping us, he was also going through the toughest time in his life. He was depressed, struggling to get out of bed every day. Today, he shares his story. 

I recently read a statistic that said that less than 50% of couples report being happy with their sex lives. I wanted to know why this happens and what we can do about it, so I called up Alexandra Stockwell, a physician turned Sex & Intimacy expert who has been featured in Cosmopolitan, USA Today, and InStyle.  She is the author of Uncompromising Intimacy, creator of several online programs and The Marriage Podcast, as well as a private mentor. I decided to put my relationship to the test as well, and she walks me through the steps of how to have better sex in a long-term relationship. Find out more about Alexandra at AlexandraStockwell.com  Also, check out the short film I made about our conversation and the process of integrating her intimacy advice into my marriage on my new YouTube channel. 

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Each of us has gifts that we desire to bring to the world. What stops us tends to be our emotions -- the scary ones -- like fear, anger, judgement and shame. Amber Rae, speaker, artist and author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, comes on the podcast about how to create boundaries both with other people and with the scary emotions that visit us. 

If you've ever had a hard (or impossible) time changing something in your life and wondered why, this podcast is for you. Eric Zimmer, entrepreneur, Behavior Coach and host of The One You Feed podcast, comes on the show to talk about the principles of being able to make sustainable behavior/habit change. 

There's a difference between being reckless and taking calculated risks. 

Tune in to this conversation with one of the most prolific online poker players in the world about how he's learned to take risks for incredible amounts of money with acute focus and without letting emotions cloud his judgement. 

Poker pro, YouTuber and entrepreneur Johnnie Vibes comes on the podcast to talk about challenging himself to #EmbracetheGrind where he played poker for 30 days, 150 hours and documented his journey along the way. 

The best risks were taken when you weren't sure you were ready. They were ones where you said, "I could fail, but deep down, I know this is the step I need to take." Remember that the next time you get the chance to go for it.

I took a risk and guess what? I was still scared and insecure. It took a courageous young woman from Louisiana to remind me that it's totally normal. 

When life gets boring, that means you're not growing. The way to kick any slump is to go on adventure. It could be a trip to Bali, or it could be to the gym. Or maybe it’s just eating out at a restaurant you’ve never been. According to professional adventurer, entrepreneur and writer Derek Loudermilk, new experiences is the secret to learning personal resilience, confidence and leadership. 

Monday Morning Message: Eckart Tolle just nailed me between the eyes with a quote from The Power of Now. If you're constantly striving and always feeling behind, this message is for you.

What if we have it all wrong? What if compromising is NOT the answer? What if that is actually what's killing the passion. That's what Alexandra Stockwell MD, a relationship and intimacy expert, believes. Find out why on the show.    http://www.kristyarnett.com Music by Autograf

Whatever it is, turn it into action. 

This is the first of many Monday Morning Messages to start your week. 

When a trusted friend asked my husband and I to sit down and be interviewed about how we healed our marriage after infidelity, we felt afraid, but said, "Absolutely, yes."  Here is the interview.   

If you've ever wanted to learn exactly how to stand in your power, this interview with Kasia Urbaniak, a former dominatrix, is for you.  As women, we've been told that we need to be powerful. In the workplace, we must speak up and hold our own. There have been so many times in my life, where I've felt shy, insecure and afraid in conversations. I've frozen, said nothing, then walked away feeling weak and ashamed. Accordingly to Kasia,who is now CEO of The Academy, a school that teaches women the foundations of power and influence, this is an extremely common occurrence and she explains why and what to do about it.

You read the headline right. Jeremiah Brown went from a beginner rower to a Olympic Silver medalist in four years. He chronicles his journey in the book, The 4 Year Olympian. Today on the podcast, Jeremiah talks about what it was like moving from wondering what he was capable of to taking action to find out. During his pursuit, he faced down self-doubt and mounting adult responsibilities (something we all can relate to). 

"There are just so many things I still want to do." She was 25. Beautiful. Talented. Dying. With those words, my friend Thuy Doan taught me what gives life meaning.     

Ayahuasca. Some people call it spiritual medicine. Others call it a schedule 1 drug. But there are reports from all over the world of people having the most transformative experience of their life after attending an Ayahuasca ceremony. Kat Courtney, a shaman and expert, comes on the podcast to talk about the experience of plant healing.